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my friends dad died
hey everyone. i asked a question awhile ago about my best friend who's dad had lung cancer. well his dad died. and im just wondering like what are appropriate things to say. not just "i'll be there for you" can someone actually help me with what to say? also me and my friends want to do something for him. big or small no matter what it is. does anyone anyone anyone have any suggestions? im begging you, because this kid is so devastated. thank you.
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I lost my mom at the first of September that just recently passed. It's a very hard thing to go through and it's not easy to hear people say: OH I'M SO SORRY FOR YOU.
PITY, is not what you want to give. Nor sympathey. You want to actually feel for your friend. Tell him you couldn't imagine going through something like that and you don't really know how he's feeling but you're there if he needs to talk or if he needs to cry. Just be a shoulder to lean on, hug him if he needs a hug, you know? Just be caring, not sympathetic or pitiful, because thats what bothers ME the most, anyways.
I hope he feels better. After 9 months of my mom being gone, it still hurts everyday. Don't expect him to get over this right away. :(♥
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I`ve been there loosing my dad. I hated when people would say sorry about your loss or i`ll be there for you. Hearing those words, won`t help - his dad won`t come back and never will. It will take him a really long time to get used to his new life. The most you should say, is if you ever need anyone to talk to, I`ll be here for you. Invite him to the movies, theme park, or something fun. You can also make a collage of his dad or get a really cute picture frame for him, with a picture of him and his dad. ♥
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You cant really do anything for someone who has lost someone important to them.
Theres nothing that can be given, said, or anything to cheer them completley up.
The thing that will mean the most to them is just being there for them.
You dont need to do anything, but be there.
Its what people need, because you there arent anywords, and dont keep sayingyour sorry, because imagine how many people have already said that.
Sometimes sitting with them and crying is the best you can do.
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When my Dad died one thing that someone said to me was "If we knew when we'd were going to die, we'd never live" which is true.
If you can get a picture of his Dad, make a home made sympathy card. Not on the computer but by hand. You can buy supplies to do this at the craft store, such as ribbon, rubber stamps or scrapbooking supplies. Write a nice little poem inside the card and have all the friends sign it. Granted the card will evoke some sad feelings, but as time goes on, it will be much appreciated.
Another nice thing to do is put flowers on his Dad's grave, that way when the family goes to visit they will see that someone else cares.
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There's no easy way out of this. Your friend is hurt and only time will heal his heart. Help him realise that whether or not he believes in heaven, his Dad has no more pain. Tell him that everyone loves him. He won't be able to get over his grief until he decides to, so don't rush him. but encourage him to get out and do things he enjoys. Set up a date for a surprise and don't let him talk his way out of having fun! (LOL) Hope I helped.
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