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I am about to get a new phone for my birthday and I can't decide what I want. I either want an Iphone 6 or a Samsung Galaxy S7. What should I get? (link)
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There are several YouTube tutorial and reviews from professionals and people like you of both phones that show off the features, apps and what each does that the other can't that you should look up. It really depends on what you yourself need.
If going the Samsung route get the S7 Edge with the big 5.5 inch screen that curves over the S7. You can see news and other feeds discretely come up on the edge of the screen if talking to people or have set it down. The best part of all is that they have come up with a way that all of the parts are waterproof. If you happen to splash a drink or drop it into a puddle or even a pool it won't be ruined.
The downside is that you may not like the Android operating system that comes with Chrome browser and Google Play. It's not compatible with Apple and Itunes. If you have a music collection in Itunes you can't bring it over.
The S7 Edge is designed to be and do what the Apple Iphone's can't and the processor is faster for one thing. They have also noted how it fits into your hands so it's easy to hold with one hand firmly and text or surf. It's also made out of airplane grade material.
The Iphone 6S Plus (don't get the 6 r SE as comes late fall or early quarter 2017 the 7 is out. It would be 3 generations behind) also has a 5.5. inch screen which is nice and big. It is designed to be the phone for people who have difficulty using technology, phones, apps and just want someting easy that works. All of your icons are easily accessible and you have Itunes which you are familiar with no doubt and the app store. The processor though not as fast as Samsung is equally good as an A9.
What would I do? Well YouTube has a ton of videos by professional critics and people like you discussing and showing the differences and all the critical apps, web surfing and features of each. I would have a look at those as it will help you determine what it is you actually need and or want.
The next thing I would do is walk into an Apple Store. They are on commission but if you ask them to compare the Iphone 6S to Samsung S7 Edge you will leave with some information you can use for later. You can also play around with one that is connected to the Internet in store and see how it feels and if you like it without buying.
I don't know who your carrier is but usually their store and Best Buy has the Samsung S7 Edge on display and maybe you could ask a ton of questions of these people and like Apple Store test out the demo in store.
Samsung products in the past have been known to have batteries that do not last long or are sucked dried by apps and don't last full day charge. They have made the battery especially on the Edge much better to rectify that complaint.
Here are the differences between the S7 and the S7 Edge phones. http://www.trustedreviews.com/opinions/samsung-galaxy-s7-vs-s7-edge
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My son is 9 years old. He has been diagnosed with aspergers. We have tried counseling , therapy , medication with no avail. We recently just switched to another therapist this past week after being with our last for two years. He has anger issues. My ex husband was abusive as far as locking the kids in bedrooms pulling down his pants to spank him kicked him with a steal toe boot etc. His best friend was taken by social services recently and we haven't seen them since. Another friend and down syndrome and passed away. I bought him a puppy to try and help with the loss of friends and responsibilities he wants nothing to do with the dog he says he loves him but doesn't want to take care of him
He is constantly yelling and screaming calling us all names. If I ask him to do something it's no no no until I hate to actually yell at him to get him to do anything. I have spanked him before I feel like I spend all day yelling and him and it's not good for either of us. I just don't know what to to anymore. (link)
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He needs a psychiatrist to intervene not a therapist that doesn't have the skills to tackle the situation. Spanking and yelling do nothing but make the issue 10 times worse. A general doctor should not prescribe medication for a psychiatric issue. By all accounts what you think is Asperger's Syndrome may be a bigger illness that needs ruled out eg: borderline personality because many of the symptoms look similar or bipolar. I cannot diagnose and will not but have persnal experiences where I would recommend you get him a psychiatric evaluation. He can look sweet and normal or different to a general practitioner but a shrink who spends considerable time figuring him out can see exactly what truly transpires when he is at home.
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My dream job is to be a "senior sitter," where I just sit with someone's elder when they can't.
I want to volunteer and donate all the time, like at animal shelters, hospitals, soup kitchens, etc.
I want to donate blood, clothes and food.
I want to start now, but I don't have my license. With the depression and anxiety I have, I don't have the motivation to study. Can anyone help, please?
This is literally all I want to do with my life. Please help. (link)
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Let's deal with the elephant in the room. That's the depression and anxiety that is crippling and preventing you from doing damn near anything you really want to accomplish. Let's be blunt about it. It's NOT your fault.
You need to go back to the psychiarist and tell them this so you can go around feeling normal and doing what you enjoy. Until you get a better treatment happening you will be hindered. Tell them nothing has helped you function right until now. It's key to deal with that first.
You may not be able to drive but public transit passes or fares will take you anywhere you need to be. Don't be afraid to talk to people at the organizations or nursing homes about what you would like to do. Explain you don't drive.I'm sure they'll find something for you and won't turn away someone young and enthusiastic.
As for donating blood you must be 18 and they screen you for obvious reasons. You can look into Red Cross or whaever outlet des it in the U.S.and see what you need to do.
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I am 12 . There is this boy I like but I don't know if he like me 2! Please give me some advice. (link)
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Introduce yourself and talk to him like you would anyone else and over time get to know him. You have to do that before anything else. You could invite him out in a group to a movie, bowling, party etc with friends. If he has any interest in you he will go. If he has an excuse or turns it down than you know he's notwrth yur efforts.
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I'm a new college student who's tuition was paid in full this semester, but I don't know if my tuition will be paid next semester. I also have two bills I have to pay every month (car payment and insurance) which amount to about $420.
After two months of searching for a job that would work with my class schedule, I finally found a retail management position (which I've worked in management prior) that sounded perfect to me. The job is pretty easy and I love the mall that it's in and I don't dislike any of my coworkers.
The cons are that it barely pays above minimum wage and I wind up going through four tolls there and back every day which are probably going to take another $60 out of every pay check. Annually I'd only make around 8k which is definitely not a lot and I wouldn't be able to pay my tuition on it if I needed to. :(
I feel like it's been really hard to find a job though and I rather like this one.
Should I look for jobs elsewhere or stick it out?
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Sick with the job for now as it may lead somewhere and you enjoy it. It's better to have this job than no job and 8K a year than 0. Put your resume forth to other employers. It is hard for young people to land a decent job. Sme employers help young people with a program where money is given towards tuition. You might ask if one exists.
As far as toll roads go even though it might be a pain in the ass try looking for another route to get there on Google etc. that may ake longer that doesn't take anything out of your wallet. Surely, there must be a way.
I would also talk to the coordinator of your college program and let them know you love it but that your job isn't paying enough to allow you to pay for classes. They might know of bursaries, scholarships and financial aid programs that could help whole or in part wih money. Be sure to ask.
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Hey I'm 18 years old and in 3 months I'll be going to Spain with a few hundred people I know to celebrate exams ending. It's a beach and pool holiday where everyone spends time shirtless. I'm about 5'11,74kg and about 17% body fat. Shirtless I feel very uncomfortable and even sitting down with a t shirt on I suck in my stomach. I'm up every night thinking of how I'll avoid going to the pool or beach and how I'll get an excuse to keep my top on. There'll be girls everywhere so it concerns me to reveal to them that there's quite a belly down there. When fully relaxed I look pregnant. I changed my diet a few months ago and eat eggs every morning,less white carbs,more fruit and veg but haven't seen any results. I don't have a particular question but was wondering if anyone can give me advice on what to do? Considering I have a lot of study to do,is it too late to trim the fat in 80 days? Thanks in advance (link)
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You know those skinny girls at the beach or pool all of them are self conscious about everyone looking at them and how they look. Almost everyone there feels like that.
The other half don't give a shit and are going to have fun no matter what. If someone doesn't like their body than there's nothing they can do and screw whoever views them in a bad light. They like their body for who they are and what it is. You have to get to that place and just enjoy your vacation.
The right people including girls will gravitate to you because you're a decent person and nice to be around and not for the size of your stomach or physical stature.
It's healthy to want to weigh what you should for your height but you are going about this wrong. You should consult your doctor and a nutritionist and draft up the correct diet and exercise plan to lose weight. You will succeed then but even if you haven't lost a lot of weight by vacation time just be you and forget about how you look because even the skinniest person there is worried about people looking at them and judging.
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so im girl , 3rd in high school and i really like one guy from my school ...he´s in 4th year..so he´s a year older than me....we dont know each other...i only see him during breaks in hallways sometimes...i dont know how to get his attention bc he´s always surronded by his friends..2 days before V-day i wrote him valentine message, saying that i like him but he probably doesnt know it was me who wrote it....i also send him friend request on fb and texted him but he hasnt accepted it nor responded to my text on fb..maybe he doesnt go on facebook anymore or accpet friend reuest from people he doesnt know :/....i dont know what to do ? :/...how should i get him know that i like him ?? i cant talk to him in person bc he is from higher grade so we pass each other only during breaks at school,he probably doesnt go on facebook...please help me what to do ??
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There is a chance that he got the text and request but isn't interested in you or knows nothing about who you are. He may not have logged in either. Both are probable. It was not a good idea to just come out with liking him either.
That can put people aback not expecting it when you haven't introduced yourself even. You need to be mature about this and stop with notes, texts or anything not face to face. How can you expect to date someone if you can't even introduce yourself?
The fact he is a grade level higher doesn't matter at all. He's just a person like you and must be viewed by you as such. Just walk up to him and say "I'm so and so." Then say "I was wondering if you would like to join me and my friends for whatever group activity on whichever night. If he declines than you know he has no interest. If he doesn't talk to you after that so be it. You have a 50/50 shot but NONE if you don't talk to him and treat him like talking to anyone else.
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Sometimes I'll go to sleep at 10 then wake up at 3 totally awake and filled with energy. Sometimes I hear these voices in my head. I know it's not my own thought sometimes I can't make out what they're saying and they tell me bad things every now and then but I can't sound them out! Why? (link)
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I don't want to scare you but any time you hear voices other than your normal inner-voice soundtrack it's a warning sign. If they are telling you bad things or to act out dangerously that's a serious red flag. You need to tell an adult and see a doctor who may refer you to a psychiatrist. This could be a mental-health issue that could trigger something big if left unseen and ruled out.
I'm not sure what you mean exactly about sounding them out. Do you mean you hear a freight train of noise and voices without words that doesn't cease. If so, it is cause for medical intervention. The good thing at this stage is that you know it isn't your thought for it often will pass itself off and take over in a mental-health episode. Get checked.
When it comes to energy it's a good thing but if it's manic energy that doesn't cease at all and causes you inability to sleep or always has you awake that's also a sign something is going on that you have to check and rule out. This constant energy at all times is a symptom in a few mental health conditions notably bipolar. In fact all o the symptoms you listed off can and are present with those illness just when it starts. You may not have that but when you have all of these issues lining up at the same instance you might.I would get it seen too before it has any chance to develop worse. Tell your parents and ask to see a doctor.
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I'm 16 this is my first baby I have my doctors appointment in a couple of days. Ever since yesterday while I was sitting up I got this pain on my lower back on the left side. It feels like a stabbing pain and I lied down and it went away. Then many hours later when I had finished eating I was sitting up as well and I felt the same pain and I went to the restroom and pooped and felt much better. Again in the night I pooped and it went away. Today in the morning I felt it again and had to poop but I'm wondering if it's normal? I do have my doctors appointment but I was just curious to know if it happened to anyone else (link)
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We aren't doctors and cannot hazard a guess on medical issues. It could be harmful if anyone did and we got it wrong. I would call the doctor and tell them that you are having this issue and even though the appointment is soon want to know if it is okay.
They may even bump your appointment up. If it's pain that isn't going away at all and consistent an ER visit is acceptable to get checked out.
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Hello. I'm so stressed out about google chrome. I uninstalled it 3 times from the control panel then installed it 3 times. However the problem is still there. There are a lot of pop out ads like reimageplus.com, flirchy and other sites I never heard of. Also, my home page is constantly changing from my stable google before to ask.com, mysites, and other useless bullshit. Please please help me. I feel like crying. I have so many unfinished stuff. I tried changing the google settings like over 20 times but the problem still persists. I have an antivirus though and I've read something on omnibox or an article that sounds like it, but the problem is still there. What should I do please do help me. (link)
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You have a virus even with the anti-viral software you have that is putting spyware etc. on your machine. It's nothing to do actually with Google Chrome except that it affects all online activity and browsers. I'm not an expert on how to get rid of it or the reimageplus.com bug. However, this place has people with said no how.
I would reach out to Dangernerd who controls this site. A bigger expert online I haven't found in computers and or consult the columnists that regularly answer tech questions. Your issue is solvable.
I do know one thing if Google Chrome came pre-installed as THE browser and not an icon that trying to erase it over and over can cause instability. This is why it still shows on your machine as being there as a critical app most likely.
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I are 21 years old, he loves going on vacations/holidays and travelling to new places. I, however, cannot stand going on vacation/holiday. I live in a small town in the country in the UK and all my family live in the area. My family are the most important thing to me and I'm perfectly happy where I live. Travelling and going away really stresses me out, I do not find it relaxing, it's often expensive and I do not have a lot of money, I'm saving up for a place of my own. My boyfriend knows this but he's always really pushy about going on holiday.
I've compromised, a few months ago I went to the other end of the UK for a week's holiday but I was so stressed the whole time, all I wanted to do was to come back home. I get really anxious about having a car accident, cities getting bombed and people getting stabbed for example. What if I went away and something happened to us? Or what if something happened to my family back home and I wasn't there? My boyfriend's demanding that we're going on 3 more holidays in the next few months. He gets angry with me when I say I don't want to go and he just keeps saying that I HAVE to go. I compromised by going on that holiday to the other side of the UK and I don't mind going on day trips (but not to huge cities). I've told him that in a few years, when we're older and have more life experience (we're both still living with our parents) that I would consider going away more. But he keeps going on at me to go on holiday now, further and further away each time. Has anybody got any advice on what to do? (link)
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Maybe he shuld go on a permanent vacation especially if he can't flex and is ramming this down your throat so to speak. Go on vacation now and then but not 3-4 times a year. Secondly, you don't HAVE to do a damn thing you don't want to do. Nobody can make you.
Next, he's got a point that you have too much irrational fears in relation to vacationing. The odds of a city ever being bombed or attacked by terrorists is really high millions to 1. The likelihood it is to your city and while in it are also in the millions to 1. You have more likelihood of being struck by a car in a parking lot than you do this.
Don't let 9/11 or other incidents influence how you live or where you go. That's absurd and by doing so continously you miss out on experiences and they win. Talk to a therapist about the fears preventing you from vacationing and being able to relax. That's not normal behavior.
As far as your family goes nobody is going to die, get divorced, married or in an accident without you being there. It's also an abnormal and irrational behavior and thought that has no relevancy to real life. They'll be fine and so will you. On these two issues alone I can see your boyfriend's point of view. However, he needs to be tolerant and work with you on the crippling fears and build up to you going anywhere at any time.
You need to confront the fears by going away on weekend trips to different plaes you have never been be it into a big city or into a smaller area and relax and see things are safe and then build up to bigger places farther apart. Let him know about these fears and that you don't know how to become comfortable or silence them yet and that it's an anxiety or psychological issue not an I don't want to go period issue.
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Hi I did use meth like 2 months ago while I was so depressed. I used it twice already. I'm 18. This April will be my interview for a university I'm applying and then I'll have a drug testing after it. I'm worried i might get detected in using meth. How to prevent this? I mean, what to do or what to tke? Thank you.
P.s: I also smoke weed once a week and applying to medschool
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Detectible from what I have read 3-5 days after use depending on how your body breaks it down. If you used a drug 2 months ago and don't use from now t April there's no shot it can be detected. It just doesn't stay in the system unless you are a current user and always doing it.
Instead of trying to find something to mask it with that usually doesn't work why not get help? Overcome the problem with meth and weed rather than allowing it to affect your life. It can screw up a lot of things for you including your future and schooling. Why not stop s you don't have problems into the future that can wreck your life and opportunities? If you are serious about university and life that's what I would do rather than trying to find ways around a urine test. Why risk it?
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My fiance's grandpa is dying and I'm not there in person to help comfort him or his family, what are some things I can say to comfort them? (link)
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Send a card not a text or e-mail and indicate "I am sorry I cannot be there in person but I wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with each one of you." Leave it at that. They will reach out to you in time. That's the best thing you could say along with "If you ever need anything please dn't hesitate to reach me." It doesn't have to be something drawn ut further than that. Sweet, sincere and to the point.
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I am 23 years old and I have $120,000 sitting in my bank account just building interest at around $1-$2 a month. I have no idea how or where to invest, currently I m just working a part time job at Best Buy while looking for something Full Time, but in the mean time I want this money to grow.
I have been visiting with my local Citizens Bank because I feel like I should be investing this money and so far one of their experts that they got gave me this proposal called a Vanguard S&P 60% Equity/ 40% Fixed Income Portfolio to think about. They suggested that I put $75,000 into a Managed Money account and that they will help do most of the work and help make my investment grow. The Asset Allocation in the proposal says:
28.7% Large-cap core Vanguard 500 ETF
6.6% Mid-cap core Vanguard Extended Market ETF
19.3% Int l Developed Mkts Vanguard FTSE Developed Markets ETF
4.2% Int l Emerging Mkts Vanguard FTSE Emerging Markets ETF
4.4% Long Bond Vanguard Long Term Bond
11.7% Intermediate Bond
11.3% Short Bond
11.8% International Bond
2% Cash Core Money Market
So far I follow a lil bit of what they are saying, but when I talked about the idea with my close friends, they all say I shouldn t do it because of risk of losing so much and they say those experts just say all that stuff and make you feel comfortable because they want to make money too and commission. So I m wondering if anyone one here has any advice or think I should do it? Because I feel a bit hesitant of the risk (link)
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If I were you I would approach multiple financial institutions about the money you want to invest and see what their experts say and see if it aligns with Citizens Bank of which I never heard of before by the way.
Then again, I'm not American. See f they're telling you the same things Citizen's did. Wait and see what they say and then present them with Citizen's proposal and get a reaction. You should know from that where to put your money. Also before investing try to find a friend, relative,prof, teacher or someone who knows finance very well to look at any and all advice these banks give before leaping. The banks are ut for themselves and not your interests the majority of the time. If something doesn't feel right walk away.
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I'm interested in a work at home job. Ive worked a few telemarketing jobs from home before but now I have a small child and I'm not able to talk on the phone for 8 hours a day. I want something that gives me more freedom than that. I'm looking for something REAL that costs very little or nothing to start. I would prefer to be able to sell something through my own website or maybe be a virtual assistant. Anything that allows me to keep my 18 month old son in the same room. If anyone knows any REAL jobs please let me know. Thanks (link)
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Perhaps you may be able to start a licensed daycare in your home to parents of yung children during the day and after school for an income. This way your son could always be present and exposed to other children. Consider looking in to that.
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I have an issue which I have never revealed to my friends at work, mostly because I have gotten rather self conscious about it. Basically I have an abnormally fast metabolism which causes me to eat an abnormal amount. I was born with this. People talked about it all the time I was growing up. In high school and college I was a serious athlete which definitely added to my appetite. It could be embarrassing and even my understanding friends who didn't mind me cleaning out their fridge would constantly remark on my appetite, tell me I was SO lucky, and generally make me feel like a freak when I felt like a snack at odd times. I have seen several doctors about this and had many tests with no results. I am not fat. I am 5'10" and about 150 pounds. I am 25 years old and I do a lot less athletics now but I still eat 6000-7000 calories a day.
In college I got tired of all the comments and questions so when I got a job I decided to keep my diet to myself. I work in marketing running booths at trade shows which does give me time escape and have a snack. I carry a couple of sandwiches in my purse to satisfy afternoon hunger pangs and I usually go out for a late night second dinner after everyone else is asleep. No one really has any idea about it.
Now there is going to be a 3 day retreat for training at a camp near Santa Cruz. They asked us if we have any special dietary needs, by which they mean allergies or religious needs. They don't want us to take food because it is not allowed in the cabins, but if we have to, they will store it in the kitchen for us.
This whole thing really has me worried. I really don't want to tell them I need to eat 2 or 3 times what anyone else does. That will bring questions, comments, expressions of amazement, and all the attention I don't like. I don't know what the food situation will be but my body is used to a snack around 3:30 to 4:00 in the afternoon. If I don't get it, I get extremely hungry. I also need my late night meal or I will wake up hungry in the middle of the night.
I really don't know what I should do - well I should probably just tell people about it, but I don't want to. I have half a mind to skip the thing be claiming sickness or something.
I'm sorry this is so long but if anyone has a suggestion I would be glad to hear it. (link)
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You need the training as it is a requirement of your job. You should go and not let it hold you back. I can definitely see why you feel this is your business and not something to share.
Other people have let you down when you disclosed so being open to telling co-workers isn't going to happen easily.
I think what you should do is find the one person in charge or you can confide in and ask them to keep things confidential and tell them you have eat differently because of your metabolism and ask them to accomodate you. Let them know how embarassed and freaked out you are if others knew.
At this stage in your life things are different. This is a professional work environment where immaturity isn't tolerated. They need employees to be happy and productive. I doubt anyone would treat you like friends have for they all are adults and may have their own things to hide.
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I'm a 12 year old female.
I am in 7th grade, and I'm friends with this group of girls, we text, invite each other to stuff, eat lunch together, do all the squad stuff. I'll call them by the first letter of their names (A, T, M, M2, H, E, L) and their are people I hang out with and consider friends, but they're the main group. Anyway, there are these two girls I hung out with in elementary school, I never really fit in during elementary, but in my middle school I've found my own group. I'll call them E2 and C. E2 left and found some other girls. I was ok with that, I was getting bored of her immaturity, and I went to sit with the squad I mentioned earlier. I started to hang out with them regularly and stopped hanging out with C. C is very immature, not like E2's immaturity which is being very young girly, but she cries over everything. She also is a total downer, I auditioned for the play and I was super excited to get my role, and she's all "oh, you shouldn't get your hopes up" "we're just 7th graders. And she is young girly too, she still plays with dolls. With my new friends we listen to music, watch movies and YouTube videos and gossip, you know? Pre teen stuff (H is almost 13, but whatever). And physically, she hasn't even started puberty. Me and my squad have all had our periods (I had my first he 15th) and wear bras and stuff. The problem is she keeps following me and even took T's spot so we had to move to a different table. How do I get C off my back without hurting her feelings? (link)
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If she is that eager to be your friend and hang around you than there must be something about you to emulate or like. Maybe she wishes she were you. Did you ever think about that?
Perhaps everyone rejects her and she thinks you are nice. You don't have to like everyone you meet or always be around them but you should see things from her perspective and how it's like to try to get on with peers when socially you aren't at the same skill set.
As far as your new friends go is that on solid ground? It sounds very cliqueky and catty. Just be aware they can reject you too and as fast as they met you. If they exclude people on a regular basis are you sure they're worth being around. You need to be fair to her and everyone around you rather han buy into what is "popular" with others.
So what if this girl is young for her age or likes dolls still. Who are you to pass judgment on her for anything? A lot of people who are 12-years-old are immature and still teetering between being a kid and being older both physically and mentally. It's something she can't control nor her DNA when it comes to periods etc or wearing bras etc.
Cut her some slack. There may be hidden developmental issues there that you have no idea are. If this person is a downer talk to her about it impeding her progress socially. If she is made aware of it perhaps she can fix it. Let her know that some people think she acts to young for her age too but don't bash her over the head here. Be kind.
You need to forget your squad and how they view people for a moment and see the world through her eyes and how it sucks to have people reject you. She probably would be one of the best people to be friends with for that reason and the fact she looks up to you for whatever reason.
Like the people belw me said perhaps you can introduce her to non-judgmental classmates or potential friends to make her life easier. As far as crying goes people can be etremely sensitive. Shes one of them and perhaps has had a lot to cry about aside from what you are seeing.
I honestly don't think she's on your back but is gravitating to you because she thinks you are or could be a friend. You could tell her that there is nothing personal but you don't see how you and your friends really have much in common with her and have tried to relate but that you think she's a good person and will watch out for her. That's kind.
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So basically I'm 18, almost 19, years old and I've already pretty much completely fucked up my life. I had a very good paying part time job for about 3 months but I just stopped showing up because my anxiety was so bad. And I got suspended from my college for 6 months because my GPA wasn't high enough and Ive managed to keep this all from everyone in my life up until today when school started and my dad found out i wasn't registered. He basically told me I either register for school, get a full time job, or move out. I've also been dealing with depression and anxiety for my whole life along with an eating disorder. And just at the beginning of my first year of college my grandfather passed away, whom i was very close with. Dealing with my grandfather dying along with starting my first year of college with depression and anxiety was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I know this is very confusing but I feel so helpless. My family hates me for what happened with school and I've managed to distance myself from all my friends because of my severe depression and anxiety. And now all I have left is my boyfriend who is amazing but I've been lying to him about school because Im too embarrassed to tell him the truth because he's so smart and it makes me feel like an idiot. I just need a lot of help because I'm starting to have suicidal thoughts. How do I make all of this right? Where do I start? I don't even know how to ask for help (link)
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You haven't fucked up your life and all isn't over. You are 19-years-old whether you can see it or not your life is just beginning. College right now may not be the right place but in the future no doubt you can go back if you are honest with the program coordinator that mental health problems torpedoed you and you didn't feel safe admitting it. They may reverse the suspension and reinstate you when well.
Your family doesn't hate you. They just don't understand what is going on or that you have a severe mental illness and need help. Once they see or learn this truth you will see that they'll understand about college and want to help you.
Reconnect with those friends and tell them that you have had to push a lot of people and things aside because of a medical issue involving depression and severe anxiety.
If you feel suicidal that's no laughing matter you have to get help. You may not like this idea very much but visit an emergency room and tell the truth about your depression and anxiety and thoughts of death.
What they will do is give you a room and a chance to rest in a safe place where you can have visitors while they figure out your depression, anxiety and how to treat it correctly. If you follow that and treatment your life can turn around for the better on a dime.
Don't give up on yourself you will likely have a great future once you deal with the elephant in the room. Have the psychiatrist deal with your parents for you and your living situation and how this pressure on you is doing you no good at all health wise. If they see the error things will get better. I would go to a hospital and get it sorted out.
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So I'm a 20 year old, female. Recently I've met a guy who is 22. I've only been on one date with him and we seem to really hit it off. He says he can see us being in a relationship eventually, but I am also afraid he's like the rest of the guys. Most guys throw me to the side, or ignore me. He hasn't done that yet, and he said he wouldn't but I just can't seem to believe him. The thing is though, he lives an hour from me and comes to visit me at college. He works a lot so he never has time to text me... So I feel like sometimes he's losing interest in me because when we text he takes forever to respond or its only one word answers. I'm just trying not to get too attached to him and I feel like I am. Or maybe I'm just over thinking things? I mean I really like him and I want him to know that, I'm just afraid to tell him and I don't want to scare him off or push him away... (link)
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Stop thinking he will be like other guys. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Learn to live in the now and let things unfold over time rather than forcing it or wondering what if. You will drive both him and yourself nuts. If it is meant to be it will unfold that way.
Sometimes people are indeed very busy or working and may not get the time to respond at length. An emoji or one word answer is acknowledgement. If he went out of his way to see you at your college than that means something. I would sit back, relax and wait and see for a few weeks. Above all unless he e-mails or tweets you first don't to him. That way he has no excuse for seeing you negatively.
You have to show him that you like him have priorities outside of texting him or waiting n his next move if he makes one and get your mind off of this and enjoy life. If he's interested he will come through.
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I have been apart of student government for three years. I have always wanted to run for student body president and now i have the chance to! However, one of my good friends in student government said she is running against me. Current members running against each other is a big NO NO. However she has only been in for one year and I have been in for three so I know more about the loyalty than she does. She is going against the traditions and doing what she wants. She said she would rather be the President or nothing at all. But I don't necessarily feel that way. I love student government more than I can describe and I'm not sure I'm willing to lose it. I know that I can beat her in the election, but there is a chance I could lose, and it will tear apart our friend group and possible risk some of my friendships. I want it but I don't know if I want it bad enough. Should I run for Student Body President and risk losing something I love so much, or should I run for a different position and always think what if? (link)
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Run for president and campaign fairly. Don't play dirty. A true frienship should survive. Obviously she doesn't have the right motives and you need to pint it out by highlighting what you can bring to the table without bashing her.
Ask the teacher who oversees student council how to run against her and mention that she's doing it for popularity and not for the benefit of the school. See what advice they give you about the campaign. Run or else you will regret it. If you are meant to win you will. Nobody can deprive you of your rightful place. As long as you campaign honestly, fairly and treat her right even if she gets nasty yu have won. If she ditches you that's on her and it means the friendship was never on solid ground.
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