Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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14/f
So pretty much, for a long time I've had the same dreams, and I was just wondering if anyone knew how to interpret them. I usually have dreams about:
-Either being naked/half naked at school and it doesn't bother me.
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-Going somewhere feeling like I'm missing something important.
These dreams are usually, like totally out of the blue and really random.
I'm almost always with my friends OR my cousin in these dreams... and what I really don't like about them is that they seem really, really realistic, but something will be, like, off. Something weird, like the sky will be green, or my best friend won't know me, or even that I can't speak.
Also, I seem to have the same dreams for a few days, then I will have a different dream for the next few days.
It's really weird! Is something wrong with me? I'm sorry if I confused you, but they confuse me a lot! Thanks! (link)
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nothing is wrong with you. its just dreaming. :)
what i think the first one means, being comfortable naked in public, means your either worried you're not conservative enough, or you're just too comfortable around people.
maybe you did something that hinted you're not protecting your body enough, and you're subconcious is telling you that you need to be more careful.
the second one seems pretty straightforward, to me: you ARE missing something important, or you're searching for something that you cant find, or you're just not content with what you have/where you're at.
dreams are subconcious fears, or inner thoughts that you try to hide.
think about this for a while, and maybe things may become clearer. :)
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how can i deal with my strict mom?
*she wont let me talk on phone in my room (i have to be with her)and usually after I've talked for 10-20 minutes she has me hang up...and she doesn't even use the phone afterward!
*she wont let me buy earrings (she just says "oh well you just got some") yeah like 6 or more months ago (EVEN WITH MY OWN MONEY)
*she wont let me wear my hair how i want to (only in braids) AND she wont even let me do it myself
*when my friends are over she doesn't let us listen to music (on speakers ipod is fine though) even when u can barely hear it
what can i do?
*im female
*i cant say my age online so lets just say i'm a pre-teen (link)
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A) when you post a question, it doesnt say who posted it. so on here, you can say your age. its fine.
B) your mom sounds unbearable. sorry.
C) sit down with her and tell her that you're getting at a certain age when she needs to let the rope loose a little. you're a good kid and you wont get into any trouble, but you need some sense of freedom.
D) sometimes, in an attempt to protect their daughters, moms are strict so the daughters wont be like them when they were young; drinking, smoking, sex, etc. my friends mom is like that so she can protect her, but even so, she lets her wear what she wants and have a phone and such.
just talk to her. you may actually learn something. :)
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(I am a female) I know that different guys prefer different things, but in general would it be the safest bet to shave/remove the hair "down there" or to leave the hair?
and also, what's the best way to get rid of hair in the bikini area? (link)
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i shave mine, all of it, just to be safe. sometimes, they like the smoothness. but they also dont mind the hair.
ask your guy whichever he prefers. thats what i did. :)
and i get rid of mine by shaving. it takes a while, but it leaves me feeling smooth for a couple of days. but if you're going to shave, you'll need to be sitting down in the tub, and you might have to shave in different angles, as the hair grows in about 4 or 5 different directions.
i hope i helped. :)
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21/f
I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, 3 times. He didn't pull out any of the times, what are the chances I'm pregnant?
I wanted to get pregnant by the way, and I'm just wondering what the chances are. Excited!
Thank you :-) (link)
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its VERY possible you would be pregnant. but id wait for a while until i had unprotected sex again. you may want to find out if you are pregnant, first. and if not, keep trying. if you are, having repeated sex may harm the fetus.
see a doctor in a few weeks, and take care of yourself as if you were pregnant until you know for sure.
i wish the best of luck to you! :)
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I have a 17-year old daughter who is currently a senior in high school. All her life, she has never had a boyfriend or even a friend that is a boy. This specifically is not why I am writing, because she is free to be friends with whom she wants. However, she has confided in me that she is afraid of men and boys and has been her whole life. I am not sure if it is getting worse as she gets older or is just manifesting itself in different ways. I was never like this so I am not sure what would be considered 'normal' feelings for her to have. I have talked to a few close friends about this and they say that I should look into her past to see if anyone could have hurt her in any way. I can think of nothing, except for things that I don't think would still have much of an effect on her now, although maybe you think different (if so, please tell me). What I am thinking of happened during preschool. There was a group of boys that used to chase her and scare her all the time at recess. She was very afraid and for this reason she spent time hiding from boys and staying physically very close to her female friends. When she got older she always feared them. Although she is a shy person, it isn't a fear of rejection. She is afraid that they will do something to her to harm her. She can't even watch the news because of all the rapes and things of that nature.
I just don't know what to do or how to make it better. I would just like to find out what happened to make her this way and how to help her get past her fears. I appreciate any input you can provide. (link)
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this may be over the top, but maybe you should ask her if she'll like to talk to a theropist about it. maybe something actually DID happen that would have scarred her for life, but she wouldnt want to tell her mother that, no offense.
our greatest fears sometimes occur in our earliest stages of life, because they are one of the first experiences we feel. for instance, if a two year old is in the park, and for one minute the mother turns her head and the toddler gets attacked by a dog (like my mom was) she'll most likely be a cat person when shes older. :)
its not very unlikely for her to be concerned about getting hurt, with the way the world is these days.
i recommend theropy. otherwise, i dont really know what else to say. :\
i hope i helped :)
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Hey Advicenators! I'm Katie, I'm 15 years old and I'm having my Junior prom this year. My mom booked an up and coming celebrity to be my date (he's not famous yet). I heard he's good looking and he's about 17 to 19 years old. No one's certain about how old he is. So anyways, we're scheduled to meet sometime this month. Any advice on how I should act or what we should talk about or anything? Please help. I'd appreciate it. (link)
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blind dates are never fun. -.-''
talk about your interests for a while. but not just yours, ask about his and what he does and stuff. listen intently. and dont talk to much. that might come off as annoying. ^.^
but like i said, blind dates are a little awkward. even if its a first date with someone from school, its way awkward. i wish you the best of luck. :)
(PS) i know its cliche`, but be yourself. ^.^ again, good luck!
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my boyfriend and i have been fighting alot in the last month. its always about him not being in high school anymore and that he thinks that i should be with someone in high school. but i dont want to be with anyone but him. i love him and i cant imagine myself with anyone else. well just the other day he was being really mean all day. he had to go to work so i thought he would be fine when he got off (11:30. i even asked my dad if i could stay out later (my curfew is midnight but he said 1).
he picked me up after work and he was still being mean and everything. so when 1 rolled around he basically ran out to his car and right when i got in he pulled out and drove to my house. well we talked and i told him that i didnt know what his deal was and that i wasnt going to put up with it and that i wasnt going over there tomorrow. so he told me that i was being childish and maybe we shouldnt be together. i told him that he had been saying that alot lately and he said that hes saying it alot cuz he doesnt feel a spark anymore. so we just fought all night and finally he was like im going to bed.
ive never had anyone like him. he really is a great guy but for some reason hes acting like this and he never has before. everytime we fight i feel like i come closer to losing him and i dont want that. ive never been good with guys to begin with and he makes me feel special and i really do love him with all my heart. i just feel like i screwed up somewhere and i cant fix it. ive never been able to please anyone or do anything right. and this time ive finally found someone that i thought i could please and i cant even do that.
i just want to know what i should do. btw we have been together for a year and 4 months. 16/f (link)
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:\ i know how you feel. and i know it probably really hurt you when he said that there isnt a spark anymore.
the thing is, though. sometimes, when boys think they arent good enough for the girls, they act like total dicks so its "easier" for the girls to get over them. doesnt work most of the time. what you need to do is ask him if you two can have a MATURE talk, face to face. (mature meaning no screaming, no yelling, no arguing, period.) tell him what you just wrote up there. about how much you care about him.
just tell him your true feelings, and hopefully, everything will fall into place if he hears it.
i hope everything works out!
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So i have a question for the guys. girls can answer too, if they know but prefarably id like to know how the guy feels about it. Okay, so when a girl hooks up with a guy 90% of the time, she devolps some sort of feelings or crush for that guy. My question is, how do guys feel about it. And what if they hook up more than once, like timeseperated by monthes. That must mean that something keeps bringing them back. Or do they just come back for an easy, unnattached hookup? Can guys just hook up with girls and have no feelings at all? I dont get it! (link)
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im a girl, and ive never hooked up with anyone before. but i have a few friends who have. one friend has hooked up with one guy about 3 times. he didnt develope any feelings for her, but she really liked him.
my other friend had a relationship with two of the guys for a while, (at different times, of course) and then it went down the drain both times.
it really depends on the guy, i guess. if he hooks up with one girl and then goes to see another girl 2 nights later, hes not gonna develope feelings for any of them, since there are so many.
girls are different. we're more sensitive and loving. thats why we're always hurt when we find out something is just "friends with benefits" or "just a quick hookup"
my advice to you is DO NOT hook up. whether you like him or not, it'll end up in tears. id choose a movie night with the girls over hooking up any time ;)
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Hey, im 16f and in grade 11.
So, I have this friend in grade 12 that works in a town 15 minutes away from I live. She had given me her cell number a while back and so I decided I would text her to see what she was up to. Long story short, she didn't know who I was because she forgot my number,and gave the guy she works with my number to find out who I was. My friend did realize who I was eventually, but this guy is still texting me :)
He has been texting me for the last five days straight and i've been texting him back of course. He is the same age as me,and told me all about himself.Things like where he lives,what his favorite music is,where his favorite place to eat is,that he has had a few girlfriends,that he flirts when he texts me,he described what he looked like,told me he was a shy guy,and excetera excetera. I have told him lots about myself as well.
My friend knows him really well and said he is safe to date. She also said he is totally hitting on me,has a huge crush on me,and wouldn't stop asking her if I was cute :)
One day I told him it seemed strange to be texting someone that i've never seen before so often. So the next day,when I was at work he texted me and told me he was coming.I was like oh my gosh because he is the nicest guy ever and it seemed unreal.
Since he is a shy guy, i noticed him right away when he came in. he was wearing a hat and was sort of trying to hide his face, but he was really cute ;) I was busy at the till so I didn't have time to talk to him right then, and he left with a grin.
He is still texting me, and says he wants to hang out with me, but he has already cancelled a day we had planned to hang out.I told him I think he cancelled because he was too shy to come,and he said it was true. Now he says we can hang out together this Friday, but only if he can use his parents vehicle to pick me up. We are planning to watch a movie.
I am hoping he doesn't cancel out..I really want to hang out with him.I'm not worried if he doesn't want to date me,I just want to be friends (at least)
So,what are some signs that would tell me he really does like me? and how can I help him to have courage to not be shy if we get together? I don't want it to be awkward, you know? ... ;) (link)
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obviously, he thinks your cool. and would reaaally like to give it shot. but he cant, because of this shyness. make him know that you're harmless and that he shouldnt be worried around you. let him know that if he really wants to hang out with you, he needs to stick through with his plans. because its simply rediculous to even get your hopes up if not.
maybe after he spends some time with you, he'll feel a little more comfortable. maybe one day, you should surprise him at work. that way, there was nothing to plan, so theres nothing to cancel. just stop by and say hey. and that will make him all the more comfortable around you.
i hope it all works out great!
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Did ellen page and michael cera ever date or get close or anything? They seem like such a good couple.. did one of them like each other or ANYTHING? (link)
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i dont think they ever got "couple" close. ellen thought michael was really cool, and visa versa. i think they were just good friends while the movie was being made. thats how it is with most on-screen-couples. :)
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ok heres the 411 I am a 19 year old girl working her way through what should be the best year of her life my last year at college but I am working with a 40 year old guy who I cant stand he creeps me out which is making me miserable !! He NEVER listens to me and he just creeps me out what do I do?
HELP!
LXXXXXXXX (link)
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tell your boss hes bugging you and making everything difficult. or just completely shut him out, which may be hard, but if you get an iPod or something, it may be easier.
or, you could threaten him. tell him you'll call the cops if he doesnt leave you alone. and if he doesnt, you have a right to call the police and they'll handle it. :)
if you dont feel that the police need to be involved, then dont call them. but i cant tell you what to do otherwise. :\
i hope i helped.
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How do you make-out? (link)
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theres one really easy way that i call a "movie kiss"
you know in the movies where they kiss someone, they start out normal at first and then break away and start again, and keep breaking away. here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFjEYUQZr0I
but when they break away, they usually only do it about 3 millimeters apart, and then hook back up again. sometimes use a little tongue.
theres not right or wrong way to make out, just whatevers comfortable to you.
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okay so im 17/f and my bf is 18/m and we tried to have sex but we didn't actually fully do it. we used a condom and he only put it in alittle and then took it out and he didnt cum or anything and it was over, but before that he was fingering me, so what are the chances of being pregant? cause im freaking out helpp (link)
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there is a small amount of a clear liquid called "pre-cum" that comes out during sex or foreplay. you could be, but the possibility is very low. i dont think you have anything to worry about. :)
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Hello this may be a little bit of a weird question.
But during sex when a girl is on top is she meant to move her whole body or just her pelvis area?
And also does she move up and down towards the ceiling and floor or slide up and down his body??
I'm not a virgin but I've never really been good on top because i dont know what im doing.
Can anyone please help me. (link)
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even when im on top, my boyfriend does most of the work. he says its easier for him to go in and out when hes on bottom.
you may wanna stay with bottom. its a lot more comfortable and easier. ;)
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I am a 26 year old male with a bit of a quandary over a girl. As it stands now, she and I are just friends, and have been for a few months. About a month ago she said that she wanted to be just friends, but since then I still have been getting mixed signals from her. I would love to be able to pursue a relationship with her, but I'm not sure bringing up the topic again would be a good idea. I do enjoy the friendship and don't want to screw that up, but I am torturing myself over the issue. What should I do? (link)
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you're right. bringing it up could ruin the friendship, and that would suck. just enjoy the friendship for a while. you two sound like really close friends, and girls tend to act flirtatious even when they dont mean it. just means their having fun.
just give it some time. if she does like you, and she knows you like her, then she'll come to you. just be happy. :)
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my hair looks nice in the morning, but gets frizzy and gross as the day goes on? any suggestions or products?? (link)
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you should try a pantene conditioner. they're really good. also, theres this stuff called "chi"...its not the straightener, its this lotion in a red bottle thingy. you press it down like soap, but rub and then put it in your hair. it keeps my hair sane for a while. but brush your hair out at night when your done using it. its a real bitch when it makes your hair tangly.
i hope i helped!
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this guytold me he liked me and i told him i did too. then over winter break he didn't talk to me at all, then IMed me saying ... "im bored" and i told him i was mad at him and he asked me why, but before i could answer he said, actualy don't. and then said something like, "do i still like you. yes." and then signed off. now i check facebook and hes in a relationship with his ex grildfriend. and her status is ... [his name] (link)
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i dont blame you for being pissed. ive been there many times. what you need to do is see if one of your friends has a ps2 game called "grand theft auto" and play it for a while. you'll feel better. :)
no but seriously. since you and this dude werent going out, you really cant be mad. and he probably got back with his ex thinking that you didnt like him anymore cuz you were mad at him. ask him whats up. ask him if he really does like you or if he still likes his ex or if he wants any of you guys to go anywhere (meaning in a relationship type thing..) but dont kill him. ^.^ i tore up my ex's room once and it really messed things up between us, soooo. yeah. play GTA, buy a stress ball, have a milkshake, CALM THE HECK DOWN and then talk to him. :) but ALSO dont act too desperate.
i hope i helped.
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I am from South Africa and I am 32 years of age. 14 years ago I met the man of my dreams. There was a misunderstanding, we broke up. Suddenly he is back in my life and I can't help but have a yearing for him.i can't sleep and i lay awake recalling our memories and conservations. I am now married with no kids. He is married with 2 kids. we phone each other all the time and I want to be with him. My hubby is wonderful and I don't want to hurt him either. He on the other hand says he wants to keep in contact with me but I am not sure what to do. I want to do the right thing but I don't want anyone to get hurt. Should I forget about him - which I can't as we sometimes bump into each other at friends/family functions. I know he wants to be with me - but he has commitments too. What must I do... I need help. I feel as if I should have a relationship with him in secret. (link)
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no. having an affair will make everything worse. no matter how secret you are, you and this other guy will have regrets and you'll feel bad. what i would do is have a talk with this other man. tell him you want to be with him, but for now, you're weak and cant take into any temptations that could ruin your marriage. tell him you two can be friends, but no more than that. anything more will get you into trouble. :)
i hope i helped, and good luck.
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I'm a 15 year old boy and my girlfriend broke up with me awhile back, but i'ms till fighting to get her back no matter what and i know i love her. A friend of mine that i once kinda not really liked a few years ago has been supporting and sympathizing with me ever since it happened. I know i love my ex no matter and i would never want to be with anyone else but last night i had a dream that my ex convinced my friend to kiss me and she kissed me in class got on top of me and we had sex. I don't have any feelings for my friend except appreciation for her understanding attitude. So thn why would i have this dream? What could it mean? (link)
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maybe its your subconcious wanting to be content in a love, no matter where you get that love from. sometimes people have dreams about other people cuz we actually DO like them, but think we dont.
the human brain is strange. im sorry. :\
take care!
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What's the word that means like you're about to do something but you get caught up in talking to someone or something? Not procrastinating, I think it might start with an H? I don't remember. (link)
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stalling?
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