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if you have butt sex are you still a virgin? (link)
you are still a virgin physically so if you went to the doctor to check if your hyem is broken it will still b intact so physically you car from the front


A couple weeks ago, I experienced a very strange period. It wasnt dark cherry red at all, it was brownish. And even stranger, the flow was not heavy. I didnt have to change pads. Usually my flow gets very heavy for a couple days and lasts 4 or 5 days in total.
For the second month in a row, I used the Plan B pill. Could this have something to do with it? This past month I used the pill as a precaution. My bf didnt actually fully cum in me. And in Feb. I had a normal period.
Has anyone who has taken Plan B experienced abnormal periods? Or am I most likely pregnant?
I know I need to take a pregnancy test, I would just like to know if anyone has had weird periods after taking Plan B. Or weird periods in general and wound up not pregnant...Im so scared :/ (link)
yeah it does make your periods irregular and messes up the flow and stuff dont worry but if you have other symptoms like change in nipple colours and morning sickness then take a test


My prom is coming up soon and i don't know what to do.

I have medium-long blonde hair. it's very thick. I'll do anything up down half up.. but i want something loose.. that doesnt look so "put together" i guess... i've searched the internet and just haven't found anything.. please help! (link)
how about a fench plate or...let me look..ooo i got an idea you no if you have your hair to the side(striahgt) like if you have a side fringe the side where you dont have a fringe you can corn dread three plates itll look real cool i hope you get what i mean..its simple but unique kinda like this pik but only have one side draided nto thee whole head. i dont think itd work well if you dont have a side fringe.
http://www.africanbraidz.com.au/images/pages/24.jpg
or soemthing like this how you can twist both sides of your hair and tie it from the back and twist ribbons with it..this is kind of an example
http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/42797000/jpg/_42797839_coleen_pa300.jpg
i really think you can take ideas from different places and work with it be creative!


What are some companies that hire at age 15? (link)
rest homes or fast food stores


Lets say my BFs name is Blake.Well blake ....i dont think hes into me no more.He always talks about other girls,he always treats my like crap when his friends are around and, he just doesnt seem to care about me when im sad. I DONT want to break up with him ..I love him half to death but what should I tell him. (link)
best saying i have ever herd is "be with the one that loves you not the one that you love" if hes treating you badly then you should stand up to him. if he doesnt even care about your emotions and uses you as a way to look cool infront of his friends then thats mean!you should tell him off for that and tell him to put his 100% into this relationship because if he doesnt then tell him to walk away. if he walks away then ur better off without him i no you can find someone that will appreciate you if he does act like a dick and walks away or he may realise what hes done to you could loose you forever and start acting like a real bf


For a long time now I have suspected that my father has been cheating on my mother. It's not necessarily that he's suspiciously left the house or anything, just that I'd noticed a lack of love between my parents. The, one day, I went to ask him something, and I saw a "sexsearch" website on the computer screen. I chose to ignore it and pretended I hadn't seen it. A few months past, and I was looking for the iPod my mother had taken away from me when I stumbled upon an unused condom in a draw next to my dad's side of the bed. Once again, ignoring it, although I was emotionally scarred just by the fact that it was there. Anyway, just a few hours ago, my mother, whom is technologically illiterate, asked me to pull something up from her history. She had been searching for a puppy, but got misdirected and did not want to have to perform the search again. I promptly did so, and stupid me couldn't help but look at the history from two weeks prior. Sex, sex, sex, and I know it wasn't my mom. I can understand viewing porn, but there was a site that was something to the tune of "search for sex in your city." I was mortified, but I couldn't let my mother see that. I very well know it is not place to say anything about it, but I can't help but feel bad. My mother is very ditzy and most likely hasn't the slightest clue as to what's going on. That makes me feel even worse. The only thing I don't understand is when he's doing these activities. He doesn't leave the house or anything...although a few nights ago he did leave without saying anything. So I ran upstairs to check where the condom had been before, and it was still there. Sooo, I'm confused. I had also seen something in 7th grade where we was doing a sexual RP with some angel67675 or something like that. I would like to believe that that is all he is doing, sense that would make the most sense. However, his recent disappearance worries me. Whether he's cheating or not, I won't mention it until my brother is out of college (he's 9 now and I'm 16) because I don't want him to have such a traumatizing experience at his age, or at any point in his childhood. And unfortunately, my mother is ditzy enough that she'll probably never notice either. Anyway, any sort of advice you can give would be much appreciated. (link)
wow your a good girl!good on you for taking right action.the thing is some men do like to watch porn and can even be addicted.do not be to quick to judge because without any prooof your going no where just ignore it he may just be watching porn and may have clicked on a pop up when he was on the net which brought him the the sit"searching for sex in your area" just forget about it until you have evidence because it could be nothing.but good on you for taking the right approach with your little brother and everything


I know this isnt some interesting question to answer but i really need some advice.

so heres the deal..


I had these two friends. They were my best friends in the entire world and some of the best kinds of people i know. They were sisters, so it was easy to see them both together, and not to mention our parents are best friends. When i say best friends, i also mean buisness partners.

One of the friends and myself are currently in 8th grade, her sister is in 9th. Anyways, where to begin?

I guess i could start out telling you that they were the most friendly people on the planet. they were kind, charming and polite. This past year has been bumpy. We have fought non- stop and its all because of them changing. There becoming typical materialistic, extremely fake girls. Thats the only way to put it. Last year they met a girl my age, that we used to be mutual friends with. Now they are obsessed with her. And vise versa.

i could deal with that. i have a ton of friends and another best friend i met in 3rd grade to hang out with. But everything started to get out of hand when they met.. of course a guy.

They started doing things behind there moms back that noone would ever expect them to do. This guy is a horrible drug addict. hes in 11th grade and is way to crazy for them. One of the girls claimed to be in love with him and got so upset she started cutting herself. They started sending pictures of themselves half dressed to him. Their mom found out and they were forbidden to see him.

i guess im pretty mature for my age and see things differently than them, because what happened next, changed everything.

Everything had been going fine. They had their problems but i stayed out of it. Until one day i found out they snuck out to the movies with this boy. Not only was i upset because they could get hurt, but they had acted like they hated him. they lied to me. so, when i heard about this they happened to still be inside the theater. i did the thing that made sense to me and told my mom, who then told their mom. i got them into a lot of trouble.

they found out it was me and we had it out at lunch the next day. i told them they need to grow up and theres more to life than makeup and mirrors. That was about a month ago and we still havent said a word to eachother. i dont know if you all agree with what i did, but i honestly thought i was doing the right thing and still stick to that. i want the old people i know back. not these boy obsessed monsters.

so i guess what i want to know is what do i do? i dont know if i really want to be friends with them again, or anything like that but keep in mind our parents are buisness partners and i will have to keep seeing them until i go to college.

i guess im asking for help on this whole situation. i dont know what to do anymore. im sick of the drama.

oh and i dont plan on apoligizing, frankly i didnt do anything wrong.

if you have gotten this far and havent quit on me THANK YOU! and im so sorry this is so long.

thanks again. (link)
hehe your most welcome..firstly you sound like such a sweet girl and you are mature for your age.what i think the problem is that i think theyr growing up faster than you and the girl in grade 9 is influencing the younger sister.these girls will oventually grow out of this rebellious stage but probibly not until theyr 19 they probibly do this because theyr parents dont trust them or give them enough freedom to do anything they dont have an open relationship with their parents.you on the other hand do and i think you did the right thing because these girls dont no what theyr getting themselves into its dangerous and could end up being hurt or rapped while this guy is on drugs(you never know) i think that you shouldnt hang out with them because they may influence you or you may find out worse stuff about them and not no what to do.i dont think your that type of girl and everyone changes.you should just be the better person even if you didnt do anything wrong jusst apologise and do your part then after that keep your distance so that when you do have to see them with your family you are in good terms.But i support you completely and im sorry to say it but this is just part of growing up. The girl cutting herslef sounds like shes doing it for attention very stupid to do such a thing over a guy..just step back seriously theyr bad news.the old girls you loved could be long gone..im sorry you have to deal with this


what are some secret turn-on zones for guys? I want to surprise my man with something new. (link)
put ur tonge in his ear or lick his nipple( play around with his nipple with your tonge)


ok the boy i had been datin dumped me so i guess he really didnt like me and he wouldnt give me a reason he jus said "i wanna just be friends" and now hes datin one of my best friends and I'm kinda mad at both of them but im not sure if i should be mad at her, because I dont think she knew I was dating him. But Im still kinda ticked at her. Should I be mad at her? (link)
if she did no that you were dating him then i rekon you should b angry as hell but if you wanna b the better person you can forgive her but then again she may do it again..it depends how much she means to you and if your friendship is worth been thrown away cuz of this ass..talk to her about it because she could be innocent and not know a thing and if you really dont like it ask her to drump him


I have almost daily knee and hip pains from sports. Whenever I have sex my hips start to hurt, especially when I'm on top, thats when its the worst. It gets so bad that I'll have to stop..and I don't want to because I love being on top but I can't physically bear it. Is there anything I can do to reduce the weight thats put on my hips? I'm not even heavy, I'm about 115lbs and 17 and I feel like an old woman. (link)
you may have briltal bone syndrome.. you shouldnt ignore it i really think you should go to the doctor or a physio therapist because it can be serious the sex may make it worse.but mayb while your having sex lean on a side where you can feel the pain instead of just sitting straight lean your back to the right or left side or lean forward while having your bottom half of your body as it is?it may help but just go to the doctor and he/she may recomend some pain killers


Theres this guy I know,
He's really cute.
I would be supprissed if girls didnt go after him.
When I first saw him, I figgered he was one of those cocky
guys (Most cocky guys are good looking.. lol. ive noticed)
And I didnt Pay much attention to him at all.
Then he always looked at me and When I caught him starring he would look away. He would always try and talk to me and tap my shouler and try to make me laugh.
At first I thought he only acted this way beacuse I was paying no attention to him at all and he didnt like that.
But then he asked for my number and texted me right away.
We even began talking on the phone.. alot.
But Ive notcied, When we hang out with everyone else together he always gives the other girls hugs and things I dont know if he's "flirting" or jokeing around, but he told me he likes me, and I asked about those other girls and he said he likes them only as ffriends..
But how do i know he doesnt say the same thing to them?
Do guys do this to alot of girls or do you think he's telling the truth?
P.s- He one day really wanted to see me, came to my house,
and Held me in his arms while we played video games.. LOL XD
But how do I know he's not just a flirt? (link)
he does like you dont worry about that..hes just friendly with his other friends that are girls..alot of guys tend to hug the friends that are girls when they see them it's the gf's job to try not be jealous or controlling telling him to stop because then that may scare him away. just go with the flow and take it slow once you two are both really into eachother you can tell him to maybe not hug so many girls because it makes you feel awckward.. trust me he likes you.if he travelled all the way to your house and hugged u in his arms while playing games then he likes you for sure...just think of this check list..does he spend time with you more than he does with other girls?do you always see him constantly text while being with you?does he notice you first other than anyone else when walkign towards you and your friends?if it all makes sense to you then srisk it and go with the flow.sounds like he likes you


K so my life sucks i go to school i do everything im asked and even though im too young to work and cant find work i still do things for some of the neighbors just so i can make some money and buy my own stuff but my parents still dont like me they only like my older brother who does a lot of bad things but never gets caught like he stole my moms debit and used it like crazy and then put it in my room so i would get in trouble basically i feel like running away my parents yell at me all the time my brother hits me and because i get sick a lot im home most of the time and i get yelled at even more so my school asked if i wanted to do school online so i could be healthy and not have to worry about missing school and work. when the school suggested i said yes and my mom did too but then because my brother twisted there minds and said it was bad and stuff they now said no and latley ive been feeling worse but nobody will take me to the doctor and i dont know how to get around in busses and its to far to walk and i dont have money for a cab so is there like a shelter or anything in Surrey BC for me to go to so i can get away from these abusive peoepl (link)
1stly id like to start by saying you have my support. Oneday the world will turn a full circle and your brother will get what he deserves.Secondly i dont think you should run away from home because trust me speaking from experiences and friends experiences itll just make them more angry and track you down and beat you.Your borhter sounds like a total asswipe but oventually hell gorw older and mature(hopefully0 and wont be so rough on you because he will realise what hes doing is stupid and pointless.Talk to you school councellor and tell her what happening she will be able to give you some advice or numbers you can contact. where i live there is a youthline for children that need advise coming from abusive famillies or troubled families try to find out if you have soemthing like that in your region. I agree with the other girl you should seek a friends mother to take you to the doctor because staying sick is really bad for your physical and mental health. in the mean time try to keep out of your parents way like stay in your room and do the things that will make you feel good example read a book listen to music...it wont always be like this i promise i went through it and at some point things do improve..you have my support and i hope everything goes well for you


F/15
Is it true that guys are only after that one thing--sex?
My older brother, 21, doesn't want me dating my current boyfriend. He's about a year older than me. He says, "I'm a guy and I hang out with guys. I know how they think, what they want, blah blah blah." My brother claims that fifteen is too early to be looking for a spouse, which is true. So, teens must be dating for only one reason these days--sex.
Well now that I think about it...why ARE we dating so young? It's not like we're going to get married at this age.
My brother won't stop making fun of the way my boyfriend dresses, he's a scene kid, I guess. I'm afraid that my brother will say something to his face. Even still, it hurts my feelings anyway.
Can someone help me be reasonable with him?? (link)
well in away your brother is right because at a young age if your having sex then sex can result in pregnancy and pregnancy can result in problems like a bash from the old parentsshehe but no seriously speaking usually that is why teens date it is to do things with a person they like and just release some sexual tension while doing it with someone you want to get physical with. if you want to avoid this then talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you dont want to happen.lay some ground rules and if he doesnt like it then i no for a fact that there are guys out there that would want to be with you even if they were only able to hold your hand. your brother is just protecting you but ask him to stop your when he gets a gf you can tease him about that but im sorry its most likely he wont stop untill he finds soemthing better to tease you about. just show that you dont care and dont let it get to you..dont worry he wont tell your boyfriend hes only trying to bug you because he enjoys seeying you get emotional about it:)


So here's the problem. I'm really conscious of my body and all. But I'm 120 pounds and I'm 4'11! So can anyone give me tips on how to lose weight. Especially in the thighs, hips, waist and abs. Thanks in advance! (link)
welll yep its going to be hard but if your determined you can do it!!ok well the only way to loose weight on the bottom half of your body is by sprinting..i dont mean walking or power walking or running..i mean sprinting because in our body we have to good types of hormones that get excreted in the body one is went the muscle is moving slowly and the other is when the muscle moves really fast and usually when we sprint this hormone will excrete into our body which will help deslove the hard fats that we can never loose like fats in ur bum thighs and waist.drink lots of water and change your diet to healthy eating.i know you wont be able to run fast on the first go because even i find it deadly but gradually you will be able to do it and you will see the weight drop with in 12 weeks its what my trainner has got me doing hope it helped xox


hey,
kso.
there is this dance friday.
and i'm not really into anyone at the moment,
and like i want to be and this is the right place so i wanna look hot so they might
feel the same way. so any idea's of what to wear it is sorta cold were i live so yeah.
and i wear hollister, abercrombie, tna stuff like that if that helps.
thanks to all the people who help me
(link)
what i think you should do is...take the things that you most like about your body and improvise with it. wear something that will show alittle skin like youre back or soemthing dont look slutty or the girls wont be impressed. itll b chilly but once you start dancing youll get hot and sweaty so maybe wear a cardi and when you get hot you can take it off. mmm wear a short dress or a skirt with a nice dressy top. wear colours that you think suit you.If you think its too cold for that then wear some jeans maybe skinny legs and wear some makeup but dont over do urself or youll look like a drag queen soo wear some foundation and maybe have smokey eyes or use eyeliner to shape your eyes. definitly wear some sexy heels that will make your legs look sexy and slim( not implying your not):D


I was in a wonderful relationship 2 years ago. I ended up in the hospital for 2 months in a coma. When i woke up in the hospital i found out i was pregnant, but my boyfriend changed his number and moved. I think he thought I didnt want to be with him anymore, he didnt know I was in the hospital. I tried for a long time to find him, but could'nt until recently. I got his phone number, but he has a girlfriend. I want to tell him we had a little boy who died 4 days after birth. I am nervous to call him, but I'm not sure what to do. (link)
im soo sorry to hear about your little boy..thats soo sad.well to me i think you should tell him what happened because right now he doesnt know the truth he prolly thinks you stood him up or ran away with another guy he must of hurt soo much and you should tell him the truth i would and plus id want to know..you went through all of this on your own and he should atleast no about it.you should also talk to him and find out why he moved and changed his number or what happened in the 2 months time period.i think even though he has a girlfriend you should still tell him but dont spring it on to strongly.if it was me id ask him to go out for dinner with you because you want to explain to him what happened and that its important he hears it so that he can know you looked for him and tried your best to find him. did this help?


my names Emma, Im 13, And I need advice?

Well,
I like this lad, and when I meen like, I meen basically Love..
Because well, sometiimes when I thiink, I just seem to think of him, and when I see him I feel different around him, and I always wanna be with him, and when he comes on msn I proper wanna say hi straiight away ?! Do I love him?
And what do I do ?

Please help
xx (link)
i think that you just really really like him..your excited to see him and hes good to talk to but only you know for urself that you love him..can you live without him?can you spen a day without talking to him?does he make you smile at everything he says?do you tingle when you see him? fo you think that you want to spend your whole life with him?do you still like him no matter what he does no matter how he looks or dresses?if you can answer those wisely then you probibly do love him


its going to be our 6th month anniversery on tuesday.
what should i get for him?!

for his birthday, i got him a 60 dollar gift card and i got him the borat movie.
for christmas, i got him a cursing parrot. becuase it said something we used to say to eachother haha.
valentines day i didnt get him anything.. but i made him an amazing card!
now its our 6th month. and i need to get him something, but i dont have any money but i feel bad not getting him anything -- i am not expecting anything from him.

he was on the football team, he loves jeeps (he loves to fix them and race and stuff haha), he is going to college next year (so he is 18, im 16), he loves to watch movies, but i cant get him another movie... :/ he likes food. and he likes to sleep alot... ugh.

any ideas? (link)
i think you should make him a box like a shoe box and cover it up with nice wrapping paper then in that box put things that u think are special to both of you like photos of you to and you can make him cards wich he can use one like fee hug card free kiss card and write at the back only valid once or something and im sure you no other things that hes into go to the 2 dollar shop and buy some funny little things from there and put it in the box that will remind him of u or soemthing does that sound alright?wat ya think?well ull no what to put in the box


theres this guy i've been hooking up with for a while now. we met last september, and we've hooked up a few times. i've become really close to one of his friends recently, and he told me that this guy has a girlfriend. i believe him, for various reasons that i don't really want to get into right now. anyways. i just hooked up with him last tuesday, and i don't know if they were going out at that time. i don't want to ask because i don't want to make it obvious that me and this guy have something going on. we used to talk a lot, but we stopped talking. he acts like he cares, but i don't feel like we've gotten to that kind of "relationship" place yet, if you know what i mean. should i confront him about it? or just drop it and drop him? (link)
in my opinion i think you just ask the boy yourself but not by txt or on the phone just ask him inperson and just say u herd it from people and was just woundering if it was true.make it sound really casual and like smile about it and then see what he says because you never no his friend could be lying for farious of reasons his friend could like you and have a hint you like that guy so he wants to make you not like him or the boy may have had a gf a while back and dumped her before hooking up with you but just never told the friend that told you about the whole thing..just go for ti and see what he says dont just drop him without having a true valid reason because what you hear may not always be ture.


I'm seventeen year old girl.
Here we go, there is this boy Mike who is friends with my friends. I met him a while ago, but never really got to know him. That is until last Saturday. That night he and I were hanging out with my sister, and her bf another girl and two other guys. He and I talked most of the night. We did a little flirting. Every time he'd look over at he he'd smile, and I'd smile back. We sat in the car together we went places, he put his arm around me. We played a little game where we flicked a bottle cap back and forth to each other. When I was about to go home, I mentioned I wasn't tired so he suggested I text him, so he gave me his number we talked the rest of the night till I fell asleep. We hung out the next day too, more of the same. A few days later I added him to MySpace,and he denyed it. AH idk why. And there was a rumor going around that we made out, his crazy ex either started it or her friend did.

Then last night I hung out with the same people again. And he was very nice, and more little flirting. He opened my door when we were getting out of the car, and when we were all finding seats at our friends house he got me one next to him. We exchanged a few text messages in the car and after I got out of the car then he said good night. He said a specific goodbye to me as I got out of the car.

So the problem is I'm confused. What do you think is going on. Where do I go from here? Please, I need opinionss :) (link)
oooooo this boy sounds like he likes u!!like hes trying hard to impress you and be good to you so oviously he likes you.but i dont understand why he denied hanging out with you on myspace maybe it was his ex on his profile but ask him about it..and so what if she made a rumour about you two hooking up dont let them get to you. if you like him then take the risk and make it ovious or ask him if he likes anyone whatr you ganna loose?if he doesnt like you then you move on and dont worry but in the end he could like you alot and want youreal bad hehe hope he likes you alot!!




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