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That one thing.
F/15
Is it true that guys are only after that one thing--sex?
My older brother, 21, doesn't want me dating my current boyfriend. He's about a year older than me. He says, "I'm a guy and I hang out with guys. I know how they think, what they want, blah blah blah." My brother claims that fifteen is too early to be looking for a spouse, which is true. So, teens must be dating for only one reason these days--sex.
Well now that I think about it...why ARE we dating so young? It's not like we're going to get married at this age.
My brother won't stop making fun of the way my boyfriend dresses, he's a scene kid, I guess. I'm afraid that my brother will say something to his face. Even still, it hurts my feelings anyway.
Can someone help me be reasonable with him??
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Ok you fall in love atleast 5 times before you find the one person and no all relationships aint about sex i know because ive ben in alot of them just trust him and he will trust you.
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Well you're brother is wrong and he's done that many mistakes that he is scared someone is going to do the same to his sister.
Why teens date? Maybe sex but who cares?
Because relationships are made to make a person happy, so if you aren't happy in a relationship (even if you love the guy) you should end it.
It doesn't matter how long a relationship lastes, what matters that if you had fun or satisfied your own needs.
Good Luck=]
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He's your brother. Take that into account. No one is ever going to be good for his little sister. Ever.
That being said... most boys are into only one thing, but they are so socially awkward and stupid they don't know how to go about it. (Then they ask me questions haha)
You date young so you can learn. You learn about people. You learn how boys "are". You learn what you are looking for in a person. You learn how to get your heart broken and fixed.
Trust me, you should date now and figure out how to date than wait until you are a socially awkward young adult.
Ever see "Never Been Kissed"? Not what you want to be.
So keep a cool head, date guys for the sake of it, and if he ever gets too pushy, remind him of how mean your older brother can be.
And cut your bro some slack, he's just looking out for you and doesn't know how to express it. Take that into account if you feel your feelings hurt
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Why do kids do adult things?
Because they want to pretend they are adults. Theres no value in being a child because being grown up is a way to try to elevate yourself among your peers. Its a natural reaction kids have to the fact that parents are adults and adults are more capable than children.
Is your brother right? Hes halfway there.
Guys are horny. Well, people are horny. We're designed that way. However, because of hormones present during puberty everyone's alot hornier with alot less reason behind it.
As guys get older, they learn to appropriately manage their sex drive and sexual behavior (hopefully, at least) and become more datable, but at 15 most guys are too inexperienced and too horny to know what to do with themselves. They will take sex however they can get it, even when they DO like you for more than just that.
Why should you be dating? So you can know what its like. You should be enjoying being liked, and liking someone in return. You should be learning how to trust a significant other and learning about guys and what the things they do mean.
When people are young, they have learning loves. A child cannot wrap their head around the scope of a mature relationship, but as you date and spend time with one person for longer and longer you grow up with them and learn about them, and you learn to increase your capacity for love.
I'm sure you've heard that teens can't really be in love, or the line "you're too young to fall in love"
Imagine that your love is a bucket. When you start out dating, all it takes is enough love and care to fill a bucket to qualify as "I love them".
As you get older, you move up to a swimming pool, then a lake, the gulf of mexico, the Pacific Ocean. At each point your capacity for love of a person increases. This can happen over many years with one person or over several relationships, different people come to it different ways.
But basically, your capacity for love, and your ability to know a person and understand them forms a depth of relationship unlike anything you could probably imagine now.
My girlfriend can finish my sentences. Things we've never discussed before sometimes, she knows me so well that she knows how I think, and can imagine a situation from my perspective and figure out how I will react to, with a slightly unnerving degree of accuracy.
The love that accompanies knowing someone that well is amazing.
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well in away your brother is right because at a young age if your having sex then sex can result in pregnancy and pregnancy can result in problems like a bash from the old parentsshehe but no seriously speaking usually that is why teens date it is to do things with a person they like and just release some sexual tension while doing it with someone you want to get physical with. if you want to avoid this then talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you dont want to happen.lay some ground rules and if he doesnt like it then i no for a fact that there are guys out there that would want to be with you even if they were only able to hold your hand. your brother is just protecting you but ask him to stop your when he gets a gf you can tease him about that but im sorry its most likely he wont stop untill he finds soemthing better to tease you about. just show that you dont care and dont let it get to you..dont worry he wont tell your boyfriend hes only trying to bug you because he enjoys seeying you get emotional about it:)
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