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I Think My Dad is Cheating
For a long time now I have suspected that my father has been cheating on my mother. It's not necessarily that he's suspiciously left the house or anything, just that I'd noticed a lack of love between my parents. The, one day, I went to ask him something, and I saw a "sexsearch" website on the computer screen. I chose to ignore it and pretended I hadn't seen it. A few months past, and I was looking for the iPod my mother had taken away from me when I stumbled upon an unused condom in a draw next to my dad's side of the bed. Once again, ignoring it, although I was emotionally scarred just by the fact that it was there. Anyway, just a few hours ago, my mother, whom is technologically illiterate, asked me to pull something up from her history. She had been searching for a puppy, but got misdirected and did not want to have to perform the search again. I promptly did so, and stupid me couldn't help but look at the history from two weeks prior. Sex, sex, sex, and I know it wasn't my mom. I can understand viewing porn, but there was a site that was something to the tune of "search for sex in your city." I was mortified, but I couldn't let my mother see that. I very well know it is not place to say anything about it, but I can't help but feel bad. My mother is very ditzy and most likely hasn't the slightest clue as to what's going on. That makes me feel even worse. The only thing I don't understand is when he's doing these activities. He doesn't leave the house or anything...although a few nights ago he did leave without saying anything. So I ran upstairs to check where the condom had been before, and it was still there. Sooo, I'm confused. I had also seen something in 7th grade where we was doing a sexual RP with some angel67675 or something like that. I would like to believe that that is all he is doing, sense that would make the most sense. However, his recent disappearance worries me. Whether he's cheating or not, I won't mention it until my brother is out of college (he's 9 now and I'm 16) because I don't want him to have such a traumatizing experience at his age, or at any point in his childhood. And unfortunately, my mother is ditzy enough that she'll probably never notice either. Anyway, any sort of advice you can give would be much appreciated.
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My mother and my step-father were married for 16 years. When I was 7 years of age, my mother started to discuss her marital issues with me... At 16, she told me that she suspected that he was cheating on her and asked me to hack into his email account. I did. We didn't find anything... But that isn't the point.
The point is... That when two people are experiencing marital difficulties, including infidelity, those issues are their business and should remain their business only. I know that you're concerned... And I applaud your sensitivety to the situation. But this is not your problem. If you try to make it your problem you're just going to hurt yourself. It will also negatively impact the relationship you have with both your parents.
So... Whether or not your dad is cheating... Whether or not your mother is clueless... Let the so-called adults take care of themselves. This simply isn't your responsibility. I know how difficult it can be to step away from a situation like this... And really, I totally sympathize with you. But... Step away, dear.
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iv been in this situation just about, except it was my mother, and she told me straight up she was cheating on my dad..it really effected me, yeah. Basically you should question your father and see what's going on, if he has nerve to lie to you, he has no sense of needing to be there.
but not to be rude or anything, might you be french? or something, I noticed you used the terminology of "College". And for Americans or others the term College is a Age 18+ University School type, and i learned College in France is the term for Elementary school? if that makes sense. Sorry if this is found offensive.
Anywho back to your problem.
You should confront your father and ask him to be honest with you and see if he still have love for your mother, if he says yes and you ask him about the sites and he doesn't have a logical excuse then something is def. up. this should be spotted right off the bad. It hurts your brother more if this happens at your age or 2yrs younger. It seriously screwed my perspective on a lot of things when my mom told me she was cheating. im of the age of 16 now, but she was cheating on my dad for a bit longer than that. at your brothers age it shouldn't affect him very much. but still be couscous.
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wow your a good girl!good on you for taking right action.the thing is some men do like to watch porn and can even be addicted.do not be to quick to judge because without any prooof your going no where just ignore it he may just be watching porn and may have clicked on a pop up when he was on the net which brought him the the sit"searching for sex in your area" just forget about it until you have evidence because it could be nothing.but good on you for taking the right approach with your little brother and everything
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