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For a long time now I have suspected that my father has been cheating on my mother. It's not necessarily that he's suspiciously left the house or anything, just that I'd noticed a lack of love between my parents. The, one day, I went to ask him something, and I saw a "sexsearch" website on the computer screen. I chose to ignore it and pretended I hadn't seen it. A few months past, and I was looking for the iPod my mother had taken away from me when I stumbled upon an unused condom in a draw next to my dad's side of the bed. Once again, ignoring it, although I was emotionally scarred just by the fact that it was there. Anyway, just a few hours ago, my mother, whom is technologically illiterate, asked me to pull something up from her history. She had been searching for a puppy, but got misdirected and did not want to have to perform the search again. I promptly did so, and stupid me couldn't help but look at the history from two weeks prior. Sex, sex, sex, and I know it wasn't my mom. I can understand viewing porn, but there was a site that was something to the tune of "search for sex in your city." I was mortified, but I couldn't let my mother see that. I very well know it is not place to say anything about it, but I can't help but feel bad. My mother is very ditzy and most likely hasn't the slightest clue as to what's going on. That makes me feel even worse. The only thing I don't understand is when he's doing these activities. He doesn't leave the house or anything...although a few nights ago he did leave without saying anything. So I ran upstairs to check where the condom had been before, and it was still there. Sooo, I'm confused. I had also seen something in 7th grade where we was doing a sexual RP with some angel67675 or something like that. I would like to believe that that is all he is doing, sense that would make the most sense. However, his recent disappearance worries me. Whether he's cheating or not, I won't mention it until my brother is out of college (he's 9 now and I'm 16) because I don't want him to have such a traumatizing experience at his age, or at any point in his childhood. And unfortunately, my mother is ditzy enough that she'll probably never notice either. Anyway, any sort of advice you can give would be much appreciated. (link)
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iv been in this situation just about, except it was my mother, and she told me straight up she was cheating on my dad..it really effected me, yeah. Basically you should question your father and see what's going on, if he has nerve to lie to you, he has no sense of needing to be there.
but not to be rude or anything, might you be french? or something, I noticed you used the terminology of "College". And for Americans or others the term College is a Age 18+ University School type, and i learned College in France is the term for Elementary school? if that makes sense. Sorry if this is found offensive.
Anywho back to your problem.
You should confront your father and ask him to be honest with you and see if he still have love for your mother, if he says yes and you ask him about the sites and he doesn't have a logical excuse then something is def. up. this should be spotted right off the bad. It hurts your brother more if this happens at your age or 2yrs younger. It seriously screwed my perspective on a lot of things when my mom told me she was cheating. im of the age of 16 now, but she was cheating on my dad for a bit longer than that. at your brothers age it shouldn't affect him very much. but still be couscous.
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why is it that during masturbation porn turns you on so much but as soon as you orgasm its almost like you cant shut it off fast enough...? (link)
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well, in person opinion its natural... depending on how your state of mind operates.. Basically your mind shuts off from all thoughts of sexual activity and beings you have cummed, it will just lose all feelings for sexual thoughts for the time beings.
idk if this helps XD
but i tried > >
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So i met this guy and he is really sweet.... I didnt think I was gonna fall too hard for him but i think did. He's really nice to me and we have good conversations. I sometimes picture him as like a best friend that i can go shopping with and he can help me pick out an outfit or maybe we could go to the movies and just have fun.... he is leaving soon for a few months and its kinda got me down in the dumps... Im really confused about this... do i have feelings for him or do i not and what do i do or say.... I dont know really just let me know what you think (link)
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Well the sound of it, makes it out like you Do indeed have feelings for this boy. In all due respect maybe you should talk to him and find out what he thinks about you. if he likes you, then date him and see where that takes you. You said he's leaving for a couple of months, well tell him before he leaves "if he likes you back" and that way he looks forward to coming home :)
I say you should give him a chance,
Life and Love are two different games.
though they are both games of chance.
Just, if you want- give him a chance.
bt if you don't know still just
wait it out and see how things
work out.
I hope this helped i tried my best X)
Seriously though, Think about it
and follow your heart :) Sometimes the "BestFriend" is the best boyfriend/girlfriend.
Hope this helped!
~BehindBlindEyes (;
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I liked this guy for over 8 months. And he liked me, but i turned him down. I never wanted to go out with him. He then found a girlfriend because he wanted to get over me, and he still kept trying to cheat on his girlfriend with me. Now after 8 months they broke up and he's really trying to get with me again. Now that i have him, i really don't want him. He just annoys me when I'm with him. But when im away from him or he ignores me i start to like him. I don't know what to do! (link)
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sounds to me unstable feelings.
Maybe try talking to him about this, because
he probably annoys you without knowing it.. and
stating to him that he annoys you when together
could fix the problem.
Whenever he ignores you, it's somewhat of a sign
of maturity to you, which draws you closer to him
and makes you want him. He may be trying "Tooo" hard to be with you, or make you happy, which could lead to you getting annoyed with him. clingy-ness as well. State the problem to him, talk it over, and maybe you will get a solution. If your happy with him, stay with him it will all workout over time. If you DONT want to be with him, it's best to end it early and not hurt him worse in the future, if he were to ever find out you didn't want to be with him, it could hurt him.
idk if this helps, sorry if not. new at this..
but Good luck :)
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18 female.
so i have some trust issues. never had a boyfriend. but i seriously love my best friend nick. we've had SO much chemistry between each other but the thing is he recently broke things off with his girlfriend of two and a half years. he treats me different than he treats other girls. we've only kissed once and it was just a quick little peck. we're really attracted to each other but i'm still skeptical of his "ex" girlfriend because he says their still good friends and still talk since they did go out for so long and they were each others first loves. i just don't know when he tries to get with me, is he doing it because he likes me or because he just wants to be friends with benefits? is there a way to tell? we're both busy people so it's not like i get to see him very much but when i do he always asks whats new with me, he wants to know ANYTHING thats going on with me, and gets upset and says "you never tell me anything anymore!" i just don't know. i'm not a good communicator either, so asking him if he just wants to use me or really likes me would be awkward. we've been good friends for about four years now, maybe even longer. (link)
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from the information given here, it seems as if he is trying to get with you and not with a friends with benefits manor. If you are truly in love with the boy then you would be able to trust him with all force. i know how things are in these situations. Iv been there, iv done that.. iv been used, and so forth. but from what it sounds like the way he asks you how things are going, he's curious on what's going on, he wants to keep up to date on her. maybe so he can think about things, and if something is ever wrong, he would probably try to fix it. to me he seems to be someone trying to be with you; though his ex girlfriend, been together for 2 1/2 years; well that's nothing, a lot of people can end a long relationship and still be friends, it simply means they just lose interest in each other nothing bad happens or something along those lines... Basically, what im saying is, Go with your heart... because thats always the best way to go. he seems to be a nice guy, maybe give him a chance? if the worse seems to happen you still have the rest f your life to look forward too. We learn from our mistakes, but i don't think this will be a mistake in your case :)
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