Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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i turned eighteen three months ago. the guy is about sixteen and a half. i didnt realize he was this young when i first started talking to him. is that too much of a difference? (link)
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for me, three years is just too much. seeing as your only 1 and a half years apart, i wouldnt call that a big deal at all. :) besides, age is only a number. doesnt matter, as long as you two are comfortable.
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Okay so i really don't like lables,
but i'm just curious...
Would you consider yourself Bi,if you like to mess around with another girl and stuff, but you wouldn't neccesarily want to have a serious relationship with one?
because that's exactly how i feel :l.
So does this mean i am,or i'm not?
Or what do you guys think this means?
Thanks (link)
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"bisexual" means that you are attracted to girls and boys. if you are willing to "mess around" with girls, then you are attracted to them. and in that case, i would call you a bisexual.
but its only how you feel about it youself. do YOU think you're bi? answer this question, and breathe easy. its no big deal. :)
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i just wanted to know, whether because of excercise or sex, if it hurts when your "cherry pops" should i be worried about it while exersizing or something?? (link)
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some girls are born without "cherries". but they can be popped in numerous ways: fingering, sex, excersizing, tampons, or just werent there to begin with.
you shouldnt be worried about it. the pain isnt that bad, and sometimes there isnt any pain at all, so dont be so paranoid. :)
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ok, so last thursday i walked out of a 2 hour lecture after only half an hour, i've had a cold / sickness since then and i'm still suffering now. I've missed 3 lectures this week and walked out of another.
The main problem is that i'm actually scared of going to lectures... i sat through one on monday and i thought i was going to be sick throughout the entire thing. I just don't know what to do as i'm sure its not the cold. it's a fear of some sort :/
so i just wanted your opinions and stuff really... should i wimp out of the 2hour lecture or should i try and suffer through it?! (link)
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what your saying makes no sense at all. talk to you doctor, or tell your parents whats happening. but besides that, you shouldnt skip every lecture just because you feel sick. try to take notes and pay attention. if you must, turn on some music on your iPod every few minutes to calm your nerves.
use your hair to cover the wires that are coming out of your ears.
besides that, i have no idea. :)
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15/f
so I like this kid and he's the same age as me, he altar serves just like me. we have been talking for about 4 weeks and he is a really cool guy and stuff but he has a gf and I knew it from the start because when we first started to talk he said I would be a cool girl to hangout with. so things have been going great and be is like perfect. just like two weeks ago he told me that he liked me and that he really wanted to hang out. so we've been talking since then and I don't have a cell so I talk on aim and through my friends phone. I really don't know like how to talk to him other than that becz sooner or later my friends aren't gonna let me use there phones. and I don't think it would be a good idea if we talked on the phone becz he has a gf. and I just would like to know if like idk I guess a guys opinion would be nice on this or whatever.
I don't get what he's trying to do with me. he's dating some1 bbut he likes me too and I just don't think he's ever been in this sittuation so he doesn't know what he's doing but like why hasn't he broken up
with her. when he told me he liked me he also said when we hang out Im going to kiss you. I just font know if I should wait because I'm really not that girl to wait around.
so I know that's all confusing but I don't know what to do so any info and advice with help. I need lots of help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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you shouldnt do anything with him. not hang out, not talk "lovey dovey" or anything. he has a girlfriend!! and by what you said, he likes you, too. hes basically cheating on his girlfriend and its not fair to her. either its you or her. thats all there is to it. and besides, how do you know that he wont do the same thing to you when you two start going out? what if he meets ANOTHER girl he likes, and asks her to hang out and kisses her and tells her he likes her and such while hes also dating you?
i just dont think this is something you need to put yourself in the middle of. and if his gf ever found out, she'd be mad at him, but pissed at you, since you already knew and you were still going to hang out with him and let him kiss you.
if he breaks up with her for you, then its fine. but be cautious about him. he sounds like a douchebag to me. and when you two get to talking more, there really is no other means of communication besides cellphone, AIM, myspace, facebook, home phone...thats basically it.
make the right choice. and dont do anything you might regret. :) good luck!
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15/f okay so i was going out w/ matt for 4 months and during those 4 months we never hung out. only twice... we only hooked up once.. sad i know but he was never allowed out because of his grades. so around like new years my bffs \"bf\" like would have all these parties and so matt was never there because he wasnt allowed to go. so i started to get close to this kid tyler.. like really close.. like we never did anything but we would always be all over eachother and i know its so wrong but i guess i was just like doing that because i could never have that feeling w/ matt. i dont know then i started questioning my relationship w/ matt but then i came to the conclusion thatllike it was just a stupid mistake and that i wasnt thinking clearly about the whole tyler thing. so idk like a week or two later i was starting to get like fed up w/ matt so i broke up w/ him because it was starting to become such a dissappointment to be w/ him because he could never hang out and we basically only saw eachother in school and every weekend hed be like oh yeah i can deff hang out and then he wouldnt be able to so i told him that nd i broke up w/ him. now ever since new years tylers been telling me he loves me and stuff and hes never felt this way about anyone before. and i talked things out w/ matt and i told him i might give him another chance if we could actually have like a steady relationship like a couple should and then he stole this note from my friend and it said all this shit about how matt could be really immature sometimes and that tyler would probably be the better guy. and idk i told matt everything that happened w/ tyler. but at the end of the note i said that i think tyler would be the better guy and stuff like more comfortable to be around? i guess? i dont know but i feel like i didnt give matt the chance because we never hung out. now the weekends coming and im suppsoed to be hanging out w/ both of thme and this is basically going to decide which one id rather be w/ ... if any of them that is. and i have no idea what im going to do. i tried talking to my friends about it but they just keep telling me the same things and i just need someone elses opinion.. thanks.
sry this is so long. (link)
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id say go for tyler.
picture it: you're alone at your house one night, and the power goes out. you're feeling alone and scared, so you pick up your cell phone to see if matt could come over. oh, but his parents took away his phone. dammit. oh well. the power will come back on in a few hours, right???
but with tyler, he'd always be there when you need him. you guys can really talk, and you like the feeling of being loved. matt cant give you that nice, secure feeling that tyler can give you.
as humans, we all need love. but like i said, matt wont always be there. either tell him he needs to pick up his grades, or go to tyler. id say right now, give matt ONE MORE CHANCE. date him for 3 days. tell tyler you need to figure a few things out, so you guys should stay friends. if nothing gets better with matt, then go to tyler and tell him your ready for a relationship. :)
i hope you get it all figured out.
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14-F
It doesnt actually hurt TO pee
Like. I'll pee. Everything will be fine. Then the last few seconds when Im about done peeing, it hurts really bad
The the part where the pee comes from?
I always flinch when it happened
This just started happening around monday/sunday night
Can anyone tell my what's wrong? (link)
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i had that about 2 or 3 weeks ago. are you bleeding sometimes??
you may have a urinary tract infection, or a bladder infection. tell your parents you need to be checked out, because if you let this go too long, it could pass to your kidneys, and then you could get a kidney stone. and that REALLY hurts.
go get checked out! quickly! :) i wish you the best of luck getting through this. i know your pain. :(
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Ok so...I have read a lot of other women's stories about crazy exs and such, and I have to admit that mine is not nearly as intense. Nonetheless, I need advice as to what to do. Here is the story: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. We are both twenty. He is wonderful and very kind. After we had been dating for about a month some girl tried to friend me on myspace. I friended her seeing that she was his friend and I was trying to meet most of them. She sent me a message saying that he and his ex were "doing things" about a week after I had been down to visit him (we're in a long distance relationship). I didn't confront him about it as i have never had a reason to distrust him. A few weeks after that another 'friend' of his said something. He found out about it and told me there was noting to worry about. needless to say, many different girls (or maybe the same one under different accounts) have told me that he has cheated on me with his ex and other girls (his ex even contacted me and told me this). I don't ask much about his previous relationships but i know that the ex that seems to be the center of this was his girlfriend for about a year in highschool and they broke up 'mutually'. I have never been givin a reason to distrust my boyfriend. He is always telling me where he is going and is always available when I call. I know I should just trust him, but I don't want to be the girl who is so in love she is blind. I know this was long, but I would appriciate any help. Thank you so much. (link)
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have you ever given any thought to the fact that maybe this ex of his is the one messaging you all along? maybe shes just jealous...UBER jealous, and needs you to think hes cheating, so then you'll dump him, and he'll be free again. that way, she can make a pass at him.
my dad always said that females are the most evil and manipulative creatures on the face of the earth. but this is just my guess, here.
first of all, ask him if any of those girls that are messaging you are really his friends; send him a link to all of their myspaces. ask him if his ex was upset when they broke up, if she was clingy...etc etc. tell him you want this to work, but all of this is confusing you. i can understand why it would. :(
i hope these bitches leave you alone, and i wish the best of luck to you and your lover. :)
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I recently just started giving my boyfriend head. I know what im doing for the most part, but what are some things that will really spice it up? I don't want to bore him but i'm not so sure what to do besides the normal sucking and that stuff. HELP! (link)
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thats really all there is to it. you can switch from blowjob to a handjob every now and again to keep him erect, but other than that, there isnt much to it. :\
take care.
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So there's this girl that does makeup videos on youtube. She has lots of them and she has lots of viewers. And I used to watch her.. and I thought I was subscribed to her.. and I dont remember commenting her but I might have. So today I found her again, and I tried to subscribe but it said 'you may not subscribe to someone who has blocked you' and I was wondering about Youtube and Blocking. Could she have maybe blocked a group? Or would she had to have specifically blocked ME for this to happen? Or what else could it be? (link)
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i dont know what you mean by "blocking a group" but on everyones youtube page, they have a contact box, like on myspace and facebook. there is a "block" icon that people click when they just dont want to be bothered by a person.
i guess you offended her or annoyed her or something? because i only block people when they are rude or obnoxious. :\ but yeah. thats how blocking works.
some people just suck. :(
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18/f, planning on having sex soon with my boyfriend of a long time. I'm really nervous about it hurting, though...I have a really low pain tolerance and cry like nothing and I would die if that happened. He's been fingering me for a couple of months and I've been using tampons for a year or so (super, if it matters). How badly is it gonna hurt?
Also, is there a birth control pill that won't make me gain weight? (link)
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i have no idea about the BC...but even if he fingers you, and you use tampons, the most that would do is break your hymen. but that doesnt mean your stretched out.
if a guy has a big penis, its going to hurt. its different for some girls. one of my friends said it didnt hurt her first time, and my other friend said it hurt her the first 15 times! it only hurt me the first 4 times...
if you're paranoid about the pain, like i was, tell him to go slow and ask him to be gentle. once you have sex a few times, you should be stretched out enough to where you either A) are numb to the pain, or B) getting pleasure.
if he is hurting you, ASK HIM TO STOP IMMEDIATELY. and dont apologize for it either. he should be sensitive to your body, and if he gets mad, he wasnt worth it in the first place.
it will hurt, especially if you're nervous, try to relax and take elongated, deep breaths. try to pretend your not there. but if the pain is too much to ignore, ask him to stop, or go slower. :)
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This guy really wants me to moan when we do stuff togethor soon, he keeps on telling me to moan litterally with everything im going to do. why does he want me to moan so badly..whats so great about moaning. also i dont really see myself as a moaner..haha what if he gets mad that i dont moan..i dont want to make it too fake sounding? eh. i dont even know how to moan haha. i just dont see why he wants me to so badly. (link)
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sometimes, just the thought of someone moaning turns people on. and especially if they know they caused the moaning. but next time he tells you to, just say you're not there yet and you dont want to fake it. if he gets mad, forget it. he wasnt worth it in the first place to get pissed over something that stupid.
if you want to know HOW to moan, just go to youtube and look up "moaning" or something, and you'll see/hear what it sounds like. you'll recognize it. its usually what girls do when they are being pleasured. or are reaching orgasm. :)
i hope i helped. :)
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Male AND Female opinions wanted.
How long do you think [if the people are comfortable in doing so] if your dating someone is a good enough time to wait before giving them a HandJob ? A blowjob? Fingering? Sex?
And the people dating are 16. (link)
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when you feel you are ready, thats the time.
take care. :)
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does anyone know where I could go to school online for free by the way i'm in 8th grade please help me (link)
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you mean homeschool? other than that, i wouldnt know what your talking about.
but what i do is this thing i got on eBay. its called "SOS, or, switched on schoolhouse." you need to get the lessons you want to take, order them on ebay, load them to your computer, and just do the work every day.
talk to your parents about it, and they can read up on it.
good luck!
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Okay so heres the deal, im 17, female, and my boyfriend of 5 months is 18. I'm a virgin and he's not. I get so happy when we're togeher, and I mean happy, like I have mini orgasms and I get very wet. He makes my stomach lurch so much, like butterflies. He said that he would wait for me until I was 18 but he doesn't know if he can wait much longer then that. We don't see eachother much, it's a long distance relationship, and I actually haven't seen him since November. We talk about sex all the time, mostly teasing eachother. I wanna do it so bad, but I'm so self-concious, he doesn't know that though. Like I said, we don't see eachother much and when we do, its like heaven. Last time I saw him, we made out for 7 hours straight and I let him finger me and he always feels me up and he love to suck on my boobs. I've felt him up(down & inside) and he's so big! My bestfriend keeps telling me I should do it and I want to do it.
I guess the question is, after all that, why should I be embarassed about my body and should I just do it? (link)
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you're right, you shouldnt be embarrassed about your body. if he likes your body, you should too. but you're young, and its really unlikely for a teenage girl to be comfortable with her body. :) but just remind yourself that you need to love you as much as he does.
and if you refer to sex as "doing it" then maybe you shouldnt "do it" until your comfortable with the expression "having sex", "making love", etc etc. and having sex because you want to is not a good reason. you guys may have talked about it, but have you given thoughts to anything else besides losing your virginity?
for instance, pain? pleasure? protection? condoms cut down on the pleasure a lot, but they protect against STDs and unplanned pregnancy. and if hes about to ejaculate, dont even let him do it in he condom. make him pull out. you can ask him what that means.
and since you're still a virgin, it might hurt. A LOT. i know my first time, i couldnt even walk, it hurt so bad. i know one girl who said it hurt her first 15 times. it only hurt me the first 3 or 4 times.
but, its your choice, its your life, and its your body. do whats comfortable, but just be sure to use protection. you can find condoms at any store, almost. id try your nearest pharmacy or walmart or something. :)
take care!
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so i met this guy through a friend at a party and i didnt think much of him at first but then he got my number from my friend and was texting me and was like for lack of a better word obsessed with me like texting me all the time telling me how bad he wanted me and the next night i hung out with him, hooked up with him, and everything was fine then hung out with him 2 days later and hooked up with him again and again everything was fine he still texted me all the time and whatever. yesturday i hung out with him again for a few hours and hooked up with him again and went home and he didnt text me that night and i didnt think much of it but then all day today didnt talk to him so i texted him and was talking to him and asked if he wanted hang out tonight and he didnt respond so i dont no what to do if i should say something to him like ask what i did wrong bc its just random that all of a sudden now just stop talking to me. thanks for an advice =] (link)
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you're blowing this way out of proportion. its probably no big deal at all.
but you shouldnt think anything of it because A) you hooked up, right? and by that, it means either making out, oral sex, or sex without the commitment, right? (ive never hooked up before, so i dont know) or do you mean hooked up as in you just hung out?
since you guys arent committed to eachother and arent dating, you shouldnt be worried at all. if he never replies, just ask him if something is wrong, and if he doesnt answer, then i dont know. i guess its over. but like i said, there was nothing to be over in the first place,...
so just breathe easy, ok? you're obviously really cool and will find someone again soon. :)
hope i helped!
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I met this guy and we've only hung out twice. he totally came off as interested in me and acted like he definitely wanted to see me again. after we hung out, which was such an amazing night, he hasn't really been talking to me? i mean, we dont go to the same school and we've texted a little bit, and hes been really nice and friendly in the texts, but so far ive been the one who has started the texting and we barely text anyway. the last time i saw him was a week ago. what should i do now!?!? my friend knows him and she said that he is a huge compliment to me that he even wanted to hang out with me let alone kiss me because he is really really hard to get and apparently every girl wants him. i really want to see him again and know if he is still interested.
1. how long should i wait to contact him?
2. how should i get in touch with him? should i text, call, facebook message?
3. what should i say to him when we talk??? (link)
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ok first off, you shoudlnt want to see him just because everyone else likes him. and the way your friend said that sounds rude to me, for some reason. im sure a lot of guys like you.
ok moving on. what i would do is not contact him at all. let him know that you're not desperate to talk to him. i had an ex who cheated on me and dumped me twice, and i never contacted him once, no matter how much i wanted to. now we're going out again and i only call or text when its an emergency. my policy is, i just dont call guys or text them at all. i let them text me first. that way, if they text, i know they arent just talking because they feel obligated, you know?
i know it sounds old fashioned and such, but if he knows that "all these girls are after him" and that "hes such a huge compliment" and hes not getting any attention from you, he'll text you soon. especially if he likes you. just be patient. :)
when he does contact you, mention that you're REALLY bored. if he wants to hang out, he'll take that as a sign that it'd be ok if he asks you to hang out.
but if he doesnt talk to you for a while, (as in, you havent contacted him once, and he hasnt contacted you, in say..a week.) then just send him a quick text saying "hey stranger, what have you been up to?" or something like that. if all his responses are short, sweet, and to the point, then hes probably lost interest, in which case, im sorry :(
im way hyper cuz i just took caffiene pills so im typing a lot here, so ill shut up now. and sorry if i scared you. :) he probably still likes you. and he'll contact you if he doesnt feel appreciated. in which case he'd be self absorbed and shallow. -.-''
....ok well good luck!! :)))))
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15/f
okay, so today my friend jon (who is my ex-boyfriend also; we broke up about a month ago) told me that he is basically addicted to internet porn and that he masturbates all the time. and that he actually did it so hard that he hurt himself to the point where he couldnt walk, and that's why he missed school yesterday. when we were going out he seemed to rush things alot and now im so relieved that i didnt really do anything with him (we only kissed).
now im really, really grossed out and i dont really know how to act around him. part of me is extremely grossed out that i even went out with him, and the other part of me wants to try to be friends, even though i sort of know it will always be weird. what do i do? (link)
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all boys masterbate. thats one thing i can start out with right now. they ALL do it. most of them arent as open about it, though. my boyfriend does it, all my guyfriends do it, my dad used to, they all do. its actually healthy for them.
did you know that 78% of teenage girls masterbate, also? and 88% of teenage boys do? true fact.
about the porn thing, that doesnt weird me out that hes "addicted". again, most guys do. even most married men have magazines under their bed that they dont want their wives or children to see.
i dont know how to tell you to not be grossed out, but you just have to remember that you two went out a month ago, and you guys probably have no interest in eachother now. being friends is no big issue. at least you're not holding hands. ;) you just have to keep reminding yourself that its normal, thats all i can say. :)
i hope i helped.
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'Kay, so I got asked the other day on what kind of guys I like. And I thought of the question again afterwards, and came up with "I like guys who haven't been with other girls".
Is that normal? Like, I would see a nice guy, but if I know that he's had girlfriends before it's a complete turn off.
For example, the guy I'm kind of with right now, who's completely amazing and attractive only had an "internet girlfriend" before, and every time I think about it I get insanely jealous. It makes the time that we spend together unmeaningful and awkward. I really don't want to lose my chances with such, incredible guys like him so I want to try to overcome this "only guys who haven't dated" trait. Any ideas is welcome. (link)
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the reason you want guys who havent had girlfriends before is because just the thought of them loving some other girl makes you mad. it makes you think "what was so awesome about HER?!" doesnt it??
you're right. this is jealousy. and its completely normal. i dont like guys who have had really long relationships. one of my exes dated a girl for two years and it always made me mad. that was because my longest relationship was only two months. it made me think "why cant i keep a guy for that long? what does she have that i dont?" but im over it, now. because i found someone really special.
you have got to realize that some completely awesome guys out there have had girlfriends before. its really unlikely that a cute, funny, and nice guy wouldnt have had a girlfriend before, dont you think?? you never know. you're soulmate may have been the biggest player ever. but people CHANGE. and also, if they show any interest in you, feel special. not jealous about some past love that they are probably WAY OVER by now. :)
i hope i helped! and good luck.
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uhm sucking and/or just in and out motion? (link)
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both, at the same time. :)
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