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First time
18/f, planning on having sex soon with my boyfriend of a long time. I'm really nervous about it hurting, though...I have a really low pain tolerance and cry like nothing and I would die if that happened. He's been fingering me for a couple of months and I've been using tampons for a year or so (super, if it matters). How badly is it gonna hurt?
Also, is there a birth control pill that won't make me gain weight?
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i have no idea about the BC...but even if he fingers you, and you use tampons, the most that would do is break your hymen. but that doesnt mean your stretched out.
if a guy has a big penis, its going to hurt. its different for some girls. one of my friends said it didnt hurt her first time, and my other friend said it hurt her the first 15 times! it only hurt me the first 4 times...
if you're paranoid about the pain, like i was, tell him to go slow and ask him to be gentle. once you have sex a few times, you should be stretched out enough to where you either A) are numb to the pain, or B) getting pleasure.
if he is hurting you, ASK HIM TO STOP IMMEDIATELY. and dont apologize for it either. he should be sensitive to your body, and if he gets mad, he wasnt worth it in the first place.
it will hurt, especially if you're nervous, try to relax and take elongated, deep breaths. try to pretend your not there. but if the pain is too much to ignore, ask him to stop, or go slower. :)
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it won't hurt if you are lubed up. and don't plan it out with him. just let it happen. it will be better than planning it. you could plan it yourself. maybe surprise him or something. i'm not sure what pills would do that, but i'm using Yaz and i think i only gained weight because i'm not being very healthy. i think if you work out and eat right you'll be fine.
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