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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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I've been "played". My bf said he loved him cuz he took pitty on me. He really loved my bestfriends stepsister.(shes one of my friends too) And she loves him back. Sadly since I knew he was lying I said that its okay with me if were just friends. (I didn't really mean it) So now were just friends. The only reason that i'm not just gonna never talk to him again is cuz everytime hes not around I feel like half of me is gone. I know it sounds pathetic but every guy I've ever really clicked before him I felt the same. (it took me about two years to move on from the last guy) maybe i am just pathetic but i really NEED to be around him. What should I do?

Obviously this guy isn't the right guy for you, or he wouldn't have hurt you like he did. This guy sounds like a total asshole and he doesn't deserve to have you loving him. Guys like this shouldn't be wasting your time. I know you think that you NEED him, but hunny, you really don't. You can do so much better than this. There's a guy out there for everyone, even you. This guy wasn't right, so just keep looking. I'm sure you'll find your perfect guy. You need a guy that will love you, will be there for you and will treat you like a queen.. not a guy that played you and didn't love you from day one. I know it's going to take time to get over him, but time heals all. TRY to forget about him and move on to the next guy. With time, you'll heal. I promise you that.

i dyed my hair 2 nights ago and it's a nice color and all... but it's too dark for my pale complexion! is there any way i can fade it a bit? thanks!

Your hair will get lighter, if you wash it everyday. When you wash it, the dye is going to fade away. If you want it to fade faster, just rinse your hair with water twice a day.

ok, well. my boyfriend broke up with me on thursday, because i supposivly hate all of his friends. i only hated one of his friends bythe way. and they weren't even that close. ok well anyways, on saturday he asked my friend lexi out. Lexi said yes. i was so pissed off. i was crying my eyes out and she didn't even care. i called her a whore. so that made my ex hate me cause he cares about her a wicked lot i guess ? but uhm, now me and lexi are friends cause i was like screw it he's a guy you can have him. ya know being the better person and all? but anyways. i still can't get over the fact she did this to me. not to mention that she made out with him the first day they started going out. gosh whorewhorewhore. geh, but i still want to be my ex's friend. i always ask him if he hates me and he says idk cause you made fun of lexi. but if me and lexi can get over this don't you think he should be over it by now ?

i don't know, i need help. :/

First of all, I don't think Lexi is a good friend in the first place. If she was your true friend, she would have said 'no' to your ex when he asked her out. True friends don't go out with their friends' ex's, especially if they just broke up. That isn't a great thing to do. So if you're mad at her, you have all the right in the world to be mad at her. That was a very wrong thing of her to do.

As for your ex, if you really want to be friends with him I suggest talking to him about it. Just explain to him that you know you guys aren't going to get back together, but you didn't want to lose the friendship you guys had. Tell him that you really wish you guys could be friends again. And it's silly to be hating one another just because you called Lexi a name. Of course you were going to be mad. He did dump you and than went out with another girl. Ask him if he can forget you about calling her a name and see if you can be friends again, than go from there.

hey i always hear men and stuff always talking about hott girls they had sex with and stuff and how they were shaven and everything...well do junior high boys and around that age really care if a girl shaves down there? because i know people my age are having sex now.

It really depends on the guy you are with. Every guy is different, so of course they're all going to like different things about the girl they're with. Most boys in junior high aren't really going to care about 'down there' and how it looks. Most of them would like to have it a little trimmed up, though. But it just depends on the guys' preference.

ok i am 14 and a female and i am dating a 16 year old he is very nice and we have been going out for 3 weeks i have known him for like 2 years and he is one of my best friends brothers and all my friends are kool with it and everything but ok i have made a decision that if we are together for a while i am probably gonna give it up to him if u no wat i mean so ya but he said that he doesnt want to do it til im ready

(this isnt really a questions its more like i just want an answer on wat you think about this please right bak

I know a lot of people are going to be telling you that you're too young to have sex or be in love. But that is not the case. Even though you're young, you can still fall in love. Love has no age. You can fall in love at any age. My suggestion to you is to only have sex when you're 100% ready. If you truly feel like this is the guy and you want to lose your virginity to him, than do so. If you're having ANY second thoughs in your mind, you're obviously not ready for the next stuff. Make sure you're 100% ready, you're in love and you're comfortable with him.

everytime i watch the movie thirteen my vagina starts like pounding. its really wierd. whats going on?

It sounds to me like you were getting turned on; horny. It's nothing to be worried about, hun. It's completely normal.

How do I get rid of my contact table?
& how do I get the little buttons that you put in your "About Me" section that are for "add" and "message"?

kthx.

You'll find what you're looking for at this website, http://www.myspace.com/xohromancex

hi, well do martial arts help you lose weight, because im pretty overweight, and i want to do martial arts. thanks

Yes they do, they help you lose weight, gain flexibility and gain muscle mass. Also it helps with your coordination, self esteem, and dexterity. Plus they're fun. So I'd say go for it, you have absolutely nothing to lose.

what does it mean when someone says do you get with guys?

It means do you hook up with guys; sex, making out, fooling around, etc.

If a guy only puts the tip of his penis in a girl is she still a virgin?

Why do girls walk kind of weird after having sex for the first time?

Do you really bleed alot your first time having sex?

I wouldn't consider that to loose your virginity. I think to not be a virgin anymore, the penis has to go all the way into a girls vagina.

Some girls may walk weird after having sex for the first time, because they can be a bit sore. It's normal. A lot of girls will feel pain after having sex for the first time.

As for bleeding after having sex for the first time, it different from girl to girl. Some girls bleed a lot, some girls bleed a little and some don't even bleed at all. It's different for every girl, since every girl is different.

Theres this guy at my school. i`ve known him for about 3 years now. he`s always been a good friend of mine throughout . But ever since sophomore year started,. . me and him have been getting closer and i really like him now. He`s extremely popular and like. .the school`s class clown. He`s also smart and cute, whichmakes him even better! but yeah! he`s so funny and i used to think he was exrtemely social. but i guess hes not as social around girls because whenever we like. .talk. .he seems kinna quiet? or something? not annoyed or anything, but like. .extremely shy. he asked me to homecoming. but i dont know if its cuz were friends or if he likes me, because hes really social but he doesnt have any one he really TELLS things to, you know?
so, i`m kind of clueless? what should i do and what do you think?

It seems like he may have a crush on you. Really, look at it this way. He's extreamly popular and the class clown. But when you guys talk, he's kind of shy. He might be shy around you because he has a crush on you and doesn't want to say anything stupid. I think you should say yes to go to homecoming with him. You never know what could happen after that. Just go to homecoming with him, than see what happens with you guys.

Theres this guy at my school. i`ve known him for about 3 years now. he`s always been a good friend of mine throughout . But ever since sophomore year started,. . me and him have been getting closer and i really like him now. He`s extremely popular and like. .the school`s class clown. He`s also smart and cute, whichmakes him even better! but yeah! he`s so funny and i used to think he was exrtemely social. but i guess hes not as social around girls because whenever we like. .talk. .he seems kinna quiet? or something? not annoyed or anything, but like. .extremely shy. he asked me to homecoming. but i dont know if its cuz were friends or if he likes me, because hes really social but he doesnt have any one he really TELLS things to, you know?
so, i`m kind of clueless? what should i do and what do you think?

It seems like he may have a crush on you. Really, look at it this way. He's extreamly popular and the class clown. But when you guys talk, he's kind of shy. He might be shy around you because he has a crush on you and doesn't want to say anything stupid. I think you should say yes to go to homecoming with him. You never know what could happen after that. Just go to homecoming with him, than see what happens with you guys.

Hehe hi everybody, i may be the only guy in this column.

I am wondering... my girlfriend likes it when im neat and tidy... downstairs, but its a major hassle and really quite dangerous if you ask me. Would this Nair shit, the mousse or whatever be able to help me out or would it burn uncontrollably? i mean for everywhere, not just above the waistline.

Thanks everybody

Your best bet would be to get the Nair for bikini lines. I'm sure that would be safe to use, since it is for 'down there.' DO NOT use the regular kind of Nair. That stuff is only supposed to be used from the waste-line up. Plus, I'm sure it'll burn like hell. I think it would be much easier just to shave and keep it trimmed.

Hey! Ok does anyone know how to find out how to see the people that viewed your myspace? I know that the Number of veiws shows but cant you see who is looking at it?

No, sorry. There's no MySpace trackers out there.

who sings the theme song(the song that plays when the show begins and when it ends) for the tyra banks show...it goes liek this:
just for today, i will not worry what tommorow will bring, noo
im gonna try something new,.......
i am gonna shine, shine shine, i am gonna shine, shine shine
plz somebody give me the title of the song and the artist ...it sounds like india arie but i dont noe.

the song really sounds inspirational and i need some inspiration
thanx in advance

I love the Tyra show! :] The song is called 'Just For Today' and it is by India Arie.

this is about tampons.

i should be ending my period in like 2 days,

for school can i still wear a tampon is my flow is light?

will anything happen if there isn't much blood for the tampon

i need to know qwuickly!!

tahnks soooo much

Nothing will happen if you wear a tampon while your flow is light. You'll be fine.

This isn't exactly a "help me" kind of question, but, it is a valed question. I was just wondering, if anyone decides to answer me..."What is happening here?" I have been going through the questions and I am lucky if I see every 4th question have one answer! It used to be every question had at least 5 or 6 answers. Anything happening I should know about? Isn't anyone here anymore? Well, thank you for those of you who do answer.

I've noticed that, too. But a lot of people on here are either busy with work or school. That is why not a lot of questions are getting a lot of answers lately. Usually durning the summertime, you see a lot of questions with more than 1 or 2 answers. Also, some of the people that are giving advice can't relate to the question being asked. That could also be a reason why the question doesn't get a lot of advice.

f/14
Well, there is this guy I really like. He is uber sweet and stuff and I know he at least used to like me but I went out with this other guy so he might have moved on. He was IN LOVE with one of my friends the last time I checked. I know nothing can happen if I don't tell him but everytime I say I will and I have so much confidence the second I see him all of my self esteem dies. Everyone tells me that I should have more self esteem and shouldn't be so afraid of rejection because I've been rejected like...a few times but they were always with people I REALLY liked never just little crushes so I'm scared to. How should I tell him?

Well, you're going to have to tell him one way or another. Do you guys ever hangout, like one on one? Maybe if you do you'll get more comfortable with him and will be able to ask him out. If not, you could just write him a letter explaining your feelings for him and slip it in his locker or give it to him in person. You could also write him an e-mail or talk to him over the internet. If you have his phone number, call him and tell him. Either way, you're going to have to tell him. Because you'll never know how he feels about you.

f/14
Well, there is this guy I really like. He is uber sweet and stuff and I know he at least used to like me but I went out with this other guy so he might have moved on. He was IN LOVE with one of my friends the last time I checked. I know nothing can happen if I don't tell him but everytime I say I will and I have so much confidence the second I see him all of my self esteem dies. Everyone tells me that I should have more self esteem and shouldn't be so afraid of rejection because I've been rejected like...a few times but they were always with people I REALLY liked never just little crushes so I'm scared to. How should I tell him?

Well, you're going to have to tell him one way or another. Do you guys ever hangout, like one on one? Maybe if you do you'll get more comfortable with him and will be able to ask him out. If not, you could just write him a letter explaining your feelings for him and slip it in his locker or give it to him in person. You could also write him an e-mail or talk to him over the internet. If you have his phone number, call him and tell him. Either way, you're going to have to tell him. Because you'll never know how he feels about you.

heyy okay so i really need someones opinion on this .. i really want to get bangs but i'm not sure if they would look bad on me or not .. here's a picture of me: http://good-times.webshots.com/photo/2414912860097533098dVGkQd
i'm the one of the left. what do you think?

I think they would look very cute on you. But, don't get big thick bangs. Just get thin choppy bangs. Those are really cute. I just got bangs about 2 weeks ago and I adore them. Mine are really thin and choppy. So when I am not in the mood for bangs I can just brush them to the side, which is great.

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