I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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Where do we go when we are dead? what happens? do we come back as something or someone else? if we are dead there is no point of living. Think about it for a long moment (it makes me feel wierd.) don't say no one knows... unless NO ONE does know. It doesn't matter what religion you are (im christian) but i don't go to church... i'm like no religion lol. (link)
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aww thxs for the comment and sure i will but maybe you can detail your questions a little more please because i dont understand what you want to know about obssession or knowledge power or acting so ya if you tell me a little more about your questions i will for sure answer you :)
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Alright, so I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. By the way..i'm fifteen. But yeah I go over to his house and like I'm really starting to like him because he's hilarious and fun to talk to and stuff. So anyways, whenever I go over to his house he always starts taking off my pants and I have to go "I don't want to have sex yet.." and he like groans and says okay...thats okay. But then the next time we hang he does the same exact thing! And it's like this EVERY FREAKING TIME. And it's just like cool your jets, man. I'll let you know when I'm ready. But I still tell him this and he's still trying all the time. That little horndog him. But I keeping thinking...does this give off that he's only trying to get sex? Like common, honestly if I were a guy and I was dating a girl, I wouldn't try having sex with her all the time, every single time, when we're fifteen? Like I know people want to get out of that "virgin" category but commmmon. Most guys atleast ASK! But this just gives off that he only wants sex, should I break up with him?
thanksss guyss. (link)
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I think you should break up with him if he truly liked and cared about you he wouldnt be acting like such a horndog and would respect your feelings and decision not to have sex yet this guy just wants sex so dump him he doesnt deserve you because your too good for him im sure there are thousands of guys out there who would like you for who you are and wont pressure you into things like sex and besides if you stay with this guy he mite pressure you and you mite just give in even if you dont want to and then you could get pregnant so plz think before you act and dump him he obviously isnt interested in simple no sex relationship.
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When I broke up from a long distant relationship - I was at my friends house, ellie. Ellie had a mate called eric round (WELL they werent just friends..they were a fling) :) So we broke up and I crying hysterically on the pair of them - I didn't really know eric. They really comforted me.
The next morning, ellie had to work so me and eric were on our own. We strangley got on really well...like freakishly. We just layed in bed for 2 hours talking and then went out and got something to eat...he gave me advice, just was a pretty decent guy :)..he went with me and just hang round with me and my group of friends.
A stupid friend, who I actually dont like, cos he is a total bitch, bitchier than a girl went back and told Ellie me and eric liked eachother, which was NOT true. We just got on well, what is wrong with that? Seriously, a piss take.
Anyway that was like a month ago those accusations happened (Ellie knows there is nothing going on, her and eric are over now anyway...it wasnt anything serious..she even said to me if i liked him she wouldnt care) But the weird thing is NOW I think I might like him? I don't even know. I've only had 1 relationship which was long distant and didnt even last a month :(
The thing is I dont know if Eric likes me or not? I mean, he was there when I was crying and shouting about how it was over between me and my ex, and he saw how sad I was - he saw my mascara running and yeahh..I was comfortable with him seeing me like that & when we woke up in the morning, i looked terrible but i didnt care... we have a lot of things in common, and he is amazed i like stuff that he likes that is kind of "Boyish" :)he knows i have some insecurities and he is always trying to make me feel better about them and gives me compliments :)
He's told me he thinks I'm pretty, and that I look cute LOL? But I mean when we were being accused of liking eachother (I didnt like him then) I turnt around to him and said i've just broken up with so and so, so I dont like you & he was like yeah your pretty but I dont like you in that way - But I mean...could that have changed? I think he was just saying that because he didnt want ellie to get mad. We're going out on wednesday just as friends :) But I don't know, I think I like him - but the bad thing is he is a PLAYER. And he knows I havnt had any experiences with guys, and he saw how badly I got hurt. He isn't serious - so maybe it would never work because he knows he wouldnt take ti seriously and i would. And I mean..yeah..that isn't fair to ellie either..even if she doesnt care - it's still a bit unfair for me to like him right? So what should I do? Should I just stay good mates with him and just see how things go, or admit my feelings or what? I'm not used to this sort of thing :) I jst want some persepective...? (link)
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well i think the only way your going to find out his true feelings for him is if you tell him your feelings for him first so maybe you should start out just being friends for a little while so you can get to know him more and he can get to know you that way there wont be any suprises if you two decided to hook up then after you feel like you know enough about him then tell him how you feel and maybe he will feel the same way but ya if hes seen you at your worst times and still thinks your cute and pretty im sure he likes you because no many guys like girls for who they really are and as for the player thing people can change once there with someone they truly like so give it a chance he cant be that bad. good luck :)
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I apologize if this is long or confusing.
Me and my ex met at the worst time of my life. He was with my sister and her boyfriend when i called my sister for help. He saw me balling my eyes out and still thought i was cute. When i was hanging out with my sister one time we ran into him and he then told my sisters boyfriend that he thought i was hot and wanted to date me. We hung out with my sister and her boyfriend once and we flirted alot and held hands and stuff. The next time we hung out my sisters boyfried pushed him to ask me out so he did and i said yes even though we didnt really know eachother. We were together for like three weeks then he dumped me he had alot of reasons but only one made sense and that was that we didnt really know eachother i felt the same. He said we would probly date again but its been months and we still havent. Hes hardly ever the one to start talking to me. He did come to my graduation party and he flirted with me alot but nothing sinse then.
Does he still like me? What do I do? I really really like him? I want him back. (link)
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honestly i think hes not that interested anymore it seems like he just wants you there on the side until he can get some other girl so i wouldnt waste my time with him i know you probably like him a lot at this point and really want him back but think about if a guy dumps you and then tells you that you mite get bak together after a few months and then just gives you mixed signals doesnt that seem shady and more like hes using you then anything else. Would your really want somne like that in your life? i dont think so my suggestion is that you get out there and find a better guy who likes you and wont treat you like this guy did and who wont be just giving you mixed signals or giving you the hope of getting bak together anyways i hope i helped good luck :)
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sorry for the longness.
okay so theres this guy in my school, and hes a grade higher than me. i've liked him since i met him last year. he's pretty popular but doesnt show it, (isnt cocky) , and i REALLY like him but i feel like im way out of his league ?! or hes way out of my league? which ever way it goes. hes a really good friend, and i cant tell if he likes me or not. and since hes in a grade higher i dont get to see all the time now, and we dont get to talk to much anymore since hes busy, but i have a hugeeeee crush on him, well its more than a crush,
but i dont want to tell him i like him, cause its kind of embarrassing, and i feel like it would wreck our friendship . what should i do ?!
thanks in advance.!
btw im almost 16 but very mature for my age. (link)
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Well since you two are atleast friends ask him to hangout sometime and have a fun convo with him and just keep hanging out with him eventually he will understand your feelings towards him and will either like you back or tell you hes not interested in a nice way now if you cant hang out with him much then talk to him online and start up a convo there and talk about things he likes and then ask if he wants to catch a movie or something and then slowly as you being to be good friends tell him how you feel make sure your alone so even if he does say he doesnt feel the same way you wont be embarassed and if hes a good guy he wont tell anyone bascially what im saying is your going to hang out with him or talk to him and be really good friends with him before you can put your feelings forward
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so i have this friend, who is kinda wierd at times, but i luv her anyways, and she always texts me, and invites me place, sometimes a lil too much. Then she became friends with this other girl , who im sorta friends with, and is OBSESSED with her, and wont leave her alone, and is being all cliquie and annoying with her. And having all these plans and stuff without me. And then when i try and be a little rude to her shes like "why r u in such a bad mood?" which is not at all what i want her to think. SO how do i either break them up or join in?
and please dont say "if she was really your friend she wouldnt do this." (link)
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Well shes you best friend you dont want to break things up unless she starts being rude and mean and just well a bitch but i dont think shes at that point so just try to fit in make plans so all three of you can hang out stay closer to ur bestfriend and be the first one to start the convo and have them join in and when they make plans first ask if you can join in or just tell your friend how you feel leftout and how you feel its kinda unfair because you two were always hanging out and now your kinda being thrown to the side im sure she will understand :)
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When does the Real Housewives premiere? And is it orange county that is up next??
Thanks! (link)
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I dont know if on your tv it will be different but on my tv the new episodes should be coming on Sept,21,09 and yes it will be the orange county but i have a wierd satellite dish so mine might be diff you should go to google and chek or go to the website of the channel it comes onto like the channel name i think its slicetv or something im not sure hope i helped :)
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16 - Female
Basically, the issue is that I am extremely depressed and unhappy every day because of the school I go to. My parents thought it would be a good idea to pull me away from public school and send me to a Catholic, college prep, all girls high school. It is my third year and I am still unhappy. I miss my friends, and I want to look back at my high school years and not have to say that they were the worst years of my life. I'm not a loser at school. Really. And I do have friends. But the problem is, is that I don't fit in anywhere. All of the girls have been friends since they were very young and are in separate groups according to what middle school they attended. I have tried to have a positive attitude but at the end of the day, I just find myself miserable and lonely. I'm not trying to complain. I just am sick of everything. It might not sound like that big of a deal, but it is strongly affecting who I am as a person and how I am growing up. I think everyone deserves to be happy. I put three good years into this school, and I think for my senior year, I should be allowed to have some fun and graduate with my friends. I don't want to be the one crying on graduation day not because of leaving her friends, but because she was never happy in the first place. My parents don't understand this, and my father is very stubborn about switching schools. He is positive that this school is the right decision for my future. I feel differently. I feel like this is a huge mistake and I believe that life should not be all about education, even though it is very important. I think how I feel matters more than that. I believe that I can excel in life without this school. It's not like I'm going to end up on the streets because I graduate from a public school. I don't think it is fair and I think that my parents are forgetting that I have a lot of potential. I know that they are only trying to do what is best for me, but I don't agree with their decision. Is it so bad to want to be happy my last year of high school? These are supposed to be the best years of my life. I just don't want to end up regretting staying at this school. I need help with trying to convince my dad to let me go to this public school for my senior year. Please help! ): (link)
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Well i totally understand what your going through because its my senior year and im in a diff country then i was in a year ago and i left all my childhood friends bak so i totally get what your going through maybe your parents and you can compromise tell them that your willing to spend one semester at the school your going to but want to spend the last semester at a public school with your friends and tell them that your still doing want they want you to which is attending the school of their choice but also doing what you want to and that on your last year of highschool you want to be with your real friends who make you a more outgoing person and who you can act like youself around and that if they dont let you do this that your going to be depressed your whole life because you didnt get to spend this one in a life time chance with your best friends. Im sure they will understand good luck :) let me know how it goes :)
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hi im 18/f my armpits sweat like crazy, even when im not hot. I've tried everything from regular deodorant to clinical strength and nothing seems to work. I cant wear like gray shirts or anything cuz after about an hour it looks like i went for a jog. Should i see a doctor about this? Does anybody have any tips that they've used? thanks! (link)
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I would go see a doctor im sure that he/she will have something to help you i have seen deodorants that are suppose to stop the sweat marks but i dont wanna recommend it and then have it not work so i think its better to just see a doctor but before you do go just go onto google and research some special deodorants so that if the one your doctor gives you doesnt work you have a backup.
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Okay so i'm going to print out a bunch of my pictures this weekend and i want to put them on my wall in a cool way..not just in like a big square. Last year i spelt out 'life' with them, but i want to do something new. Any ideas for words, shapes, or designs? thanks (link)
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Make a collage its a good way to express your creativity and it would look soo cool having your whole dorm covered with pics and having like this whole collage theme in it or you could have pics of things you like or create a heart shape or a dove shape and make it kind of seem like world peace or something i have some good ideas but i dont know what kind of things you like so its kinda hard to help you out so if you want some more ideas just let me know a little more about you and things you like and im sure i can help you because i love decorating my room and i always change the way it looks and i always get compliments so ya let me know if you need help :)
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I play a sport all year around. I need money though, Im basically broke; so I really need a job. Does anyone know of any ways to make money (not by mowing lawns and such because its starting to be fall and cold) Or any jobs that you can have flexible hours? Thanks! Please help I really need it :-( (link)
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fast food resturants always have decent hours and also you could tutor younger kids and help them with there homework and get paid for that i think the best thing to do would be going on craigslist and looking for jobs in your area or looking in the newspaper theres always want ads in there for jobs so ya just check out places in your area im sure someone will hire you and almost every place has decent hours.
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18/f
okay, so i've been talking to this guy for a while like since I was 15. He's an amazing guy, he has a great family, my family adores him, and I really honestly love him. Well, he had a girlfriend that he had been dating since before we even met, but he didn't love her & didnt want to be with her but he didnt know how to tell her. He just didnt want to break her heart. Anyway, while he wsa with his ex he spent every day with me, we talked all the time, we even kissed/held hands/etc... a lot. So techinically he cheated on her. They broke up about two weeks ago, and he told me he wanted to be with me but that he was scared to jump into things too soon after breaking up with his ex. Then when he finally did ask me to be his girlfriend he confessed that he was just scared to date me because he knows how college guys can be and he hangs out with girls a lot and didnt want to date me til he knew for sure he wasnt going to be tempted by them.
But now that we're together, the fact that he cheated on his ex is really starting to bother me even though it was my fault too. Now I'm constantly worried that he'll do the same thing to me. He's away at college but he stays with me on the weekends but i'm constantly worried he'll do something to hurt me... Like last night was the beginning of rush week, and he got really drunk and stopped texting me so I have no idea what he was doing... he usually texts me constantly, its not normal for him to just stop. And I know he wasnt sleeping because when I woke up this morning there was a text from about 3 hours after my last text to him. I don't think he'd do anything to hurt me, but it still bothers me because I've been hurt a lot, and he means the world to me. He hangs out with a couple of girls who are party animals & do drugs and stuff and they like to make out in front of my boyfriend and his roommates... thats pretty tempting, dont you think? It just worries me. I fell for him when I was 16 and now I finally have my opportunity to be his girl, I just don't want to screw it up with being the jealous type... its just really hard.
I havent said anything to him because I dont want to come off like that so soon in our relationship, but I also dont want him to think i'm naive or that he can just walk all over me... Any advice for me? (link)
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If he truly likes you he wont do it i think the reason he cheated on his ex was because he liked you more and i know college guys change gfs like every week but just think if he was gonna cheat wouldnt things between you two be done already and would he really bother to text or come up to see you every weekend i dont think so i know its hard to make urself understand but your going to have to try just dont think about it because again he wouldnt still be with you if he was cheating and honeslty if this fear/jelousy of yours gets worse then things between you two could get bad fast so just dont think about it and if you still feel like you cant let the thought out of your head then maybe hes just not right for you maybe you need somone else who is always gonna be with you but i think you can get through this and im sure he isnt cheating on you. good luck :) with watever you choose to do :)
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What are antioxidants good for exactly? Are antioxidants good for your skin? Will this help my acne clear up? If I drink green tea (which I heard is a good source of antioxidants) around 3 times a day will it help make my face smoother and have a natural glow? (link)
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Definition of what it is :
•antioxidant - a nutrient or chemical that reacts with and neutralizes free radicals or chemicals that release free radicals. Antioxidants are also called free radical scavengers. Vitamins A, C, E and some of the B vitamins, beta-carotene, selenium and some key enzymes in your body are all antioxidants
what they do it:
antioxidants can repair damage already done to cells, which can potentially cause heart disease, cancer and diabetes.
Antioxidants work by significantly slowing or preventing the oxidative or damage from oxygen process caused by substances called free radicals that can lead to cell dysfunction and the onset of problems like heart disease and diabetes. Antioxidants may also improve the immune function and perhaps lower your risk of infection and cancer.
and yes they can be good for your skin as well the reason green tea is doing that to your skin because besides having antioxidants it has a lot of other things in it to make your skin glow
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I have a problem...with my future!?
I am a senior in high school this year and need to start thinking about what I want to do in life. The problem is that I have no interest in anything really. The only thing I really care about is...well...I love HOT boys. I love to go out. I love to shop. I love fashion. I like art but I'm not very creative myself and I SUCK at drawing and stuff like that!
I want to go to a good University and have a good pay check when I start working, but I simply don't picture myself sitting in a office and having working hours every single day. I am not skinny or unique enough to be a model. Like I said, I suck at being creative and stuff. I just can't figure my life out. I don't want to spend the rest of my life hating my job and life. I know the clock is ticking though and I have a feeling I won't figure it out. I DON'T WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE AND JUST TAKE RANDOM COURSES BECAUSE I CAN'T DECIDE WHAT I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!!!
PS: I am bad at math I don't like it and I don't enjoy it. I am also completely bored by geography and history. I mean, I REALLY don't care about what country is where and who did what centuries ago.
Like I said, all I enjoy in life is shopping hot boys a hanging out with friends and reading magazines (but I am a bad writer because I suck at being creative) and I can't study literature because I can't write and long stories make me really bored and stuff. Help! Any advice please
please help me! (link)
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Well since you really like clothes and shopping you could be a stylist or open your own store or design clothes you can get someone else to draw the models in the clothes but you can come up with your own ideas also you could be a interior decorator its almost like fashion but just involves decorating homes and its not that hard or be an elementary school teacher i mean little kids are cute and adorable or you could even try getting a job with a magazine since you like fashion and magazines you could be like in charge or fashion shows or something or even maybe get your own fashion article in it i hope you liked my ideas good luck im sure whatever you choose your going to be great at it :D
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Can probation officers break into your home and do a random search without a warrant when you're not there?
My boyfriend is on probation but I have a clean record. He has been going to classes, paying restitution, and working really hard. I've REALLY kept an eye on him and I KNOW he isn't doing bad things. He did miss one appointment with the Probation Officer and called right away to reschedule. I was really proud of him for taking responsiblity.
We were both at work the other day and they (the probation officers) came to our jobs and arrested us saying they searched our house and found something illegal. They claimed that they did not need a warrant to search our empty house. They never did tell me what they claimed to have found!
When they finally released me and I got home I found that they had broken in through the window (or so it looked like) and tore apart the whole house. I mean, it's a wreck...
Was this legal? I'm really confused (link)
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From what i know they too need a warrant because nobody can just come into someones house and destroy it completly like that i would contact the police and have them deal with this first and im not sure if they need a warrant but from the websites ive checked they cant but you should probably ask a police officer or contact a lawyer or someone with more sources and information.
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any tips on how i can? i want to go to a modeling agency on october 18 and so that gives me about a month and a week to lose 20 pounds. any tips will be appreciated-especially on food or diet plans or pills. and please dont give me crap for asking i want real tips!
xoxox (link)
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K well first of all you cant lose weight fast it takes time and in a month you could probably lose 20pounds or maybe less depending on how well you do so for diet take out all carbs and sugars out of you diet drink a lot of water and eat a lot of fruits and if you decide to have a salad no dressing next go jogging early in the morning if you can or at some point in the day keep yourself occupied throughout the day so you arent sitting for too long because you could be doing more active things to help lose a few more pounds and also keeping busy will help you be less tempted to eat fatty foods this will help you lose weight trust me ive done it but of course its taken me longer then a month to lose my weight but im sure you could lose atleast 10-15 pounds for sure by the time you want if not 20 good luck :)
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How much weight will i lose if i jog for 1 hour a day for a week? (link)
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probably 7-10 pounds because according to doctors a person loses only 1 pound a day if they are trying to.
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what are some good chatrooms? (link)
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321 teen chat
chitchatting.com
teenspot.com
kewlchat.com
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well i went on vacations and i met really cute people.. but i fell inlove with 2 of them.. we were friends and we would always talk and hang out at night or the day.. and 1 of them lets call him (a) attmited to me he had feelings for me and i admited i had feelings for him too so we dated but wen i had to come back we broke up.. and i found out back here now that th other one had feelings for me to and i like them both im always talknig to th eother one online cause (a) doesnt go online that much.. and hes always tellling me oo i love u and i say me too.. am i doing the wrong thing even thoe i still have feelings for (a)?? (link)
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No your not doing anything wrong because you and A broke up it would only be unfair if you were still going out with A and having feelings for the other one but now that you and A are done its k and plus A doesnt come online much for you to talk to anyways so if you have feelings for the other one and he comes online and talks to you and tells you he loves you then he obviously really likes you so i would just go with the one who you have a stronger connecting which one be the other guy instead of A.
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hi im male. im about to enter my junior year in high school. but im going into a new school. i only know like one person there, but hes not really like, normal.. like he doesnt really care about me.
the problem is, i dont wanna be sitting by myself! making friends isnt the problem, it just takes time. i need help, because i dont want to be sitting by myself on the first day. its not that im shy or weird or anything, im a pretty social person. its just that other people already have their own friends and wont care much about new people.
HELP! i start school on tuesday (link)
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I move all the time and i change schools and from my experience in class if you talk to the people around you and have a fun convo they will ask you to hang out with them and if not then you can always ask them if they wanna hang out but most times for guys ive noticed that once they start having a cool convo with other guys they end up becoming friends so dw you will make lots of friends just talk to guys around you in your classes ans u'll be fine.
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