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I went to the doctor about 2 weeks ago and the results came back that I did, for sure, have genital warts. I've had them for about a year now. I have another doctor's appointment coming up to discuss treatment possibilities for the warts. I have a question NOW though. How contagious are genital warts? My boyfriend and I have been having sex a lot and, to be honest, I don't want to stop. He wasn't weirded out by the bumps but I haven't told him they are warts even. Is it safe to keep having sex or is he going to get the warts too??? (link)
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Extremely, EXTREMELY contagious! Your bf needs to see a doctor ASAP! If you have sex during a break-out, you WILL eventually transfer it. Stop now and when you talk to the doctor ask about sex and protection and all of that. Wow! Very dangerous! I sure hope your boyfriend is a super forgiving guy because chances are high that he has warts now too. How selfish and cruel of you for not being honest with him about this. Did YOU knowingly contract the warts? Didn't you wish someone would have told you about it BEFORE you were with the person you got them from? So sad....good luck to you, and especially your boyfriend.
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Please read this before replying, thanks. I'm a fan of semi-retired actor and comedian Bill Daily. I heard from some other fans of his that he likes to talk to his fans but I don't know if I should call him or not. I wrote to him and included my contact information.A friend and I found his number online and others have said he calls them when they wrote to him and included their info. But I'm wondering if I can call him first? A friend and I wrote to him and asked if that's okay but we haven't heard back yet. I'm wondering what others think about this. (link)
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Isn't this the 4th time you've posted this question? Are you just going to keep posting until you get the response you're looking for? Leave it alone. If he calls, fine. If not, he doesn't want to hear from you. End of story.
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I want to marry my girlfriend but i dont have any where close enough of money to do it what do i do? and what is the different between engagment rings and wedding rings? (link)
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M (now) husband and I were young and in love and broke (he was a teacher and I was an actress). We bought cheap silver bands for $40 and had a small ceremony in the lobby of a local hotel before we headed to the restaurant for dinner (everyone paid for their own dinner, they were happy to, knowing our situation). We still wear those rings 12 years later, even though our finances are a lot better. Its not the ring, its the comittment that it represents. Don't stress over it, and if you have a girlfriend who makes a big deal about it, you may need to re-think things. Once you marry, you'll realize the rings and the wedding are the LEAST important things in a marriage. I hardly even remember my wedding day. It was a blur. But each day with my honey is a sweet blessing. I'm glad I didn't let money get in the way of choosing to marry him. If you don't have enough money, do some looking around and find something that would be special to her, something meaningful. Maybe she likes pearls and you just get her a pearl or maybe she loves hearts and you get her a heart shaped ring. Be creative. She'll love you for the thought you put into it.
P.S.- LOL! As you pointed out, I didn't really answer the question. Sorry! Got carried away. So to answer you, an engagement ring is a ring you give when you ask for her hand in marriage. It symbolizes your intent to marry and is usually a diamond or a jewel of some sort. The wedding ring is just a band that you exchange at the time of your vows, usually gold but not necessarily and is usually just a simple plain band. It symbolizes the circle of love, never ending and eternal. Women wear both after marriage. Well not me, I just wear the wedding band since I didn't have an engagement ring. They are both important but the wedding band is the most important. Hope that's better!
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Kinda 2 questions in this any help would be great..I have 3 kids with an exhusband in which i was married to for 10 yrs. and inherrited 3 more kids when I got remarried. My kids go back and forth from my house to their dad's. Their dad also remarried. So I have an issue where I have to be notified on EVERYTHING when it comes to my childrens school. Even if it is not my day to have them I still expect their dad to call me and let me know what is going on with school such as were there notes in folders and if so what they say, did my 5 yr old have a good day or was he in trouble, If they have homework did they do it and did you help. It was my choice to leave ex and I realize I chose to not see my kids 24/7 when I left but am I a total biatch for asking him to do this for me. My kids are 9,7,5. am I being over protected of them? Second I feel like I am distant from my 3 step kids when my kids are not around. I feel guilty that they see me more and gets to do alot more with me then my own bio kids. My stepkids mother is no longer apart of their lives (mothers choice.) So I am their only mother. I have no clue why I feel this way I really wish I didnt I love them all very much, I hate feeling guilty that my hubbys kids get hugs and kisses from me every night and my own children only get them half the week. confused, sad,and hurt any help would be nice. Thanks (link)
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You are being a bit of both. Of course you feel guilty, but that was the price you paid for leaving your husband. It was not an easy choice, but surely you new it would have consequence. You just didn't think the consequences would feel like this. There's nothing you can do now about the amount of time you have with your kids. You've made your choice, and this is where it has lead. However, you DO have a choice as to the QUALITY of time you have. Do you feel you are a good, active and engaged mother to your kids when they are with you? Do you discipline and love too? Do you play games, provide structure and nurture? If yes, you should forgive yourself for the choices you've made in the past that you CAN'T change and give yourself a pat on the back for being the best mother you can be when you can be. And yes, you're coming off as a biatch about the school thing. I understand you need to communicate with your ex about this stuff so you know what's going on when the kids come back, but calling every day and DEMANDING all the details makes it seem like you don't trust him with your kids, and that's wrong, because they're his kids too and I know he loves them every bit as much as you do. Try talking to him and coming up with some sort of system - a checklist, email system or even notes back and forth with the kids (like a notebook that travels with them that has notes from you to him and vice versa)- but make a system that allows each of you to be kept up to date on the happenings at school without having to breath down each others necks and ratcheting up the tension. And while it must be hard to know your own kids are somewhere else while your being a mom to the step-kids, you should think of it more like a special time you get to have with some very special kids who were horribly abandoned by their mom. Loving them doesn't take away any of the love you have for your own kids - you don't STOP loving your kids just because they're at Dad's! So stop feeling guilty. Like I said, the choices have been made and it is what it is. Short of leaving your current husband and going back to the ex, there's nothing you can do. But try not to concentrate too much on what's missing and start counting all of your blessings. Sounds like you have a lot!
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My wife and I have had 2 miscarriages in the past 18 months. She informed me yesterday that she does not ever want to have sex again and would rather be partners than lovers. we have had sex 3 times since the last miscarriage, which was well over 3 months ago. For some reason neither of us feel that spark that we used to. What should I do? (link)
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You should go get counseling right away. If your wife won't go with you, go alone. The miscarriages and the "missing spark" are most DEFINITELY related, even if you think they aren't. A professional can help you sort through all the trauma and emotions of the past 18 months and help the two of you make an informed and honest decision about where to go next. Good luck.
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19/f. I am in the University and I still live at home. I stayed at home, and didn't go away, as most people, because my family BEGGED me to stay. At the time of graduation, I had an eating disorder. I was struggling with anorexia and bullemia and eventually with trying to get back to a healthy weight. The day after graduation, my family told me I was adopted. All of this was confirmed true, and I met my birth parents as well. So, it's been a lot. I really didn't have much of a choice as far as whether I could leave or not. They really begged me to stay. I have a scholarship at my school. Not only do I not pay a penny for my University education, I get money back! This is also a really nice University. I would consider myself very fortunate to be able to come here. But, I have a couple of issues that need to be addressed and I don't even know where to start.
First of all, my home life is a really big issue. I have "a room," I guess you could say. But, it's not MY room. Everyone goes in there and uses the computer. No one knocks when they want to come in. There is very little privacy and absolutely no respect for my private and personal space. My mom doesn't allow me to sleep in my room, basically. Now, when I say she doesn't allow me, she doesn't straight out tell me i can't. But, she will come to room crying and making a scene if I decide I want to sleep there. My mom hasn't let me sleep in my own bed since I was 9 months old. This has been a problem for that long. If I stay up late in my room doing whatever, she will come in and tell me it's time to go to sleep... in her room... in her bed.
My mother and I have been sharing the car. But, she doesn't let me drive it when I want to go out with friends or to school at night for an event. SHE has to drive me. It's really frustrating because I think I am perfectly capable of driving myself to school and back. She won't let me drive the car to school because she says she's afraid I won't find parking. BS. I know it's convenient and everything, but I feel almost incapacitated. I am frustrated because I've been working since I was 16, and I still don't have enough money to buy myself my own car. My mom has used my money sometimes, during emergencies and I've used minimal money for food, gas, necessities. When I do drive somewhere, it's a REALLY big deal. Like, my mom starts to cry and take out her rosary and slam the doors.
My dad has 2 other kids and they live somewhere else. They live in the same city, but in another house. He doesn't really meddle in my home life too much. He's just there for moral and financial support when I need it and basically to be "daddy." He seems like he's the good one I can always run to, but the reality is that's not a fair judgement because he doesn't really live with me. He just buys me whatever I want when I want it, brings me money, etc. That's our relationship. But, I feel bad asking him to buy me a car, you know? Even though he can afford it, and my mom and I can't.
My mom doesn't let me wash my own hair. She goes into the bathroom with me and washes it for me. She makes appointments at the beauty salon and makes them do my hair "her way." I'm allergic to acrylic/gel nails. They make me itchy, and I have them on right now. Why? Because she made me get them and I don't want problems with her. Sometimes, it's better to do things her way than to argue with her. My mom picks out the clothes I wear in the morning and there's really no arguing with her. She makes me wear big heels to school and claims she "has" to brush my hair because I don't know what I'm doing. She has to "check" my makeup is on right and that I have enough on. She pays for spray tans every week and if I don't go, she has a fit. She screams at me and it ends up in a huge fight.
I've really been trying to handle this to the best of my ability, but I kind of want to leave now. School seems more like my safe haven than home. Please don't get a wrong impression. My mom is a great lady and she just does all those things because she wishes someone would have done them for her. But, she has taken it out of proportion, and it's affecting me. I don't want to leave the school I'm in because this is my home. I'm also getting scholarships here. This school is a home to me and I can't leave. I'm already a sophomore here. I'm going to be 20 very soon and I can't fathom the idea that my mother doesn't let me wash my own hair pick out my own clothes. I want to go "home" and I don't know where that is, because I can't stay at school all night. I want my won place.
This is where the problem comes in: money and finances. I don't have the money to do it. I live in an expensive city and a part time job won't cut it. None of my friends want to get an apartment, since most of them live in the dorms. I don't want to live in the dorms and let me explain why. It's MUCH more expensive than living in an apartment. It's very expensive. With an apartment, I have selection. I would just need someone to move in with me and be willing to split the costs.I would have to save up for a down payment, but I think it's possible, at least. In the meantime, while I'm looking for a steady job and roomates, I need to find a way to deal with my mom. I really need help here. Please don't say talk to her because... you think in 19 years, I haven't tried talking to my mom about this? You think I would be asking the world wide internet for help if I haven't even gone through step 1? So please give me as much help as possible. I think I have done my part in explaining as much as I possibly could
Thank you for reading it all and I hope you can offer me some valuable advice. Thank you (link)
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wow! You do understand that the way your mother treats you is COMPLETELY unhealthy, right? For the both of you. Anyway, since you've said you've already tried talking to her and it doesn't help then just continue looking for work and saving money, and keep searching for roommates or sometimes people who live close to campus will rent rooms in their homes for very cheap rates. So that might be an option worth looking into as well. In the meantime, try making little changes in your routines. NOthing crazy, but maybe try getting dressed yourself one morning while your mom is in the bathroom or something. Try showering and washing up when your mom is out at work or at the store or something. Just little things that assert your independence without upsetting the whole apple cart, so to speak. And please remember that when you do leave, your mother IS going to freak out. YOu've got to make it up in your mind right now that you will not change your mind, no matter what she says or does. And I'm sure you know by now the kinds of things she is willing to resort to to get her way. This behaviour may have all started out because she wanted you to feel special, but its turned into something far more selfish. I'd say at this point its more about her than it is about you. Keep that in mind, and be strong! Independence is a wonderful feeling and a precious gift. Once you've had some you'll wonder how you went all this time without it. Look forward to that. Good luck to you.
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Just got married not to long ago (3 months ago) anyway my family and I went to our city's local fair and husband ran into his co-worker not a big deal she was at my wedding but when she practically jumped in his arms and he gave her a huge hug I got concerned. Why??? Well because he went out of town for 3 days for work and when he got back I got a "hello babe" and a peck on the lips. okay I didnt think much of it til he gave this woman that kind of hug. Then I started thinking "IM your WIFE" and I get a peck this woman gets a bear hug that I love to get from you.. When she first seen him I thought it was someone he hasnt seen in awhile the way she screamed and ran up and hugged him, when I seen who it was I thought dang you just seen him at work.. He knew it bothered me he could tell by my face.. couple days later he brought it up and I told him yeah I was concerned I even told him it wasnt about the hug it was about the way it was. He told me not to worry and went on his way. Should I be worried and should I persue this more to him. Or just leave well enough alone?? (link)
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Your gut is telling you something is wrong. Its not just based on what happened with the woman and the hug, but also what's happening (or not happening) at home. Do some more investigating before you bring it up again. If you find more things that make you suspicious, talk to him about it. If he denies it, suggest you both go get counseling together so you can get to the bottom of why you don't trust him. And trust your instincts! You're not a bitch for being a little weirded out by this, you're just a concerned wife.
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what is the best way to commite sucide (link)
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call a suicide prevention hotline and ask them.
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okay going to brief and blunt. Just got married in 2010 and I have 3 kids my newly husband also has 3 kids, It seems like we are always fighting over my kids and his kids I hate the fact it comes down to his and mine. I am always saying it shouldnt be that way. His kids call me mom but my kids dont call him dad, they have a dad close by, although his kids are not that blessed their mother left them 4 yrs ago and has no contact with them. I was gonna leave my husband before we got married but when I told him I was planning on leaving he changed his ways towards me. I wanted love and attention when all kids went to bed he wanted his tv and video games. For awhile he seemed different but now its like he went back to the same person. I love this man so much I just dont think he loves me like a husband should I feel like I am here to cook for him clean his house and take care of his kids. Last fight we had was my kids have been going to the same school since they were in kindergarten now the oldest is in 4th grade his kids go to the school distr. we live in. My husband feels like I need to transfer my kids to his kids' school so I dont have to drive them every morning. Note their school is only 3 minutes away. I tried to explain to him that I cant just pick up and transfer my kids it will do them no good. Oldest child has seriously disable needs and the teachers their no him like the back of their hands. I dont feel like its the best answer but he doesnt want to hear it he just thinks his say dont count in our marriage and doesnt want to hear the reason why I want to keep my kids in their school. Any advise would be helpful im lost and confused. (oh and we have been together for a total of 3 yrs) Thanks (link)
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You guys need help. Badly. the first year of marriage is always the toughest. Now, add to that 6 kids (wow!), one being disabled, and you've got a recipe for stress! I don't care what the financial situation is, you've GOT to make a way to go find counseling, either through your religious organization or a professional. I promise, there are very deep issues at play here that require a 3rd party for the two of you to work together. Marriages that happen between adults who already have children have a much higher rate of failure than normal, so you've go a lot working against you already. A 3rd party can help you see what is working, what needs to be changed, and what problems you face together that are actually quite common and have very common answers. And before you worry about the money, ask yourself how much it would cost to pick up everything and leave and go through a divorce. Its worth it. Trust me. do it and do it soon. If hubby won't go, go without him until you feel confident about where you're going in life. The bad news is, you will both have to work HARD to make this work, the good news is, it CAN be done, and you can have the happy and healthy home you always dreamed of. Good luck.
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Dad died in 1998, Mom died last year. The eldest brother in our family of 6 siblings had been named executor of the will. 20 years prior my Father allowed one of my brothers to defer his payment for his purchase of a seashore vacation home ($25000.00) that he owned in partnership with his brother until his estate was settled. Dad's brother was paid in full for his half. Dad did not specify this in the will but took my brother at his word with the understanding of other family members. Now that the estate is being distributed, the seashore house-owning brother is currently claiming the property was a gift and that he owes nothing to his siblings. He is threatening to sue for an equal share of the residual amount of the estate, and he is casting insults about the executor brother and implying he is a conniving thief by withholding the money for the property. Since the sale of this home it has appreciated by at least $100,000. A partial distribution has been made but the disputed debt amount is being held in an escrow account. It is causing a breakdown within segments of our large family. The brother who denies the debt now has a daughter about to give birth. In what should be a happy time, the issue is causing havoc with family members emotions. I believe any other of us would have taken the deduction without question but this brother, who is very well off financially with a six figure pension, is refusing to acknowledge the debt now that both parents are gone. He is trying to gain support from one of the sisters, who wants nothing to do with the issue. The lawyer for the estate says there is a decent chance to collect the debt but the opposing lawyer sent a message to all that he would pay $1000 to each sibling as a "courtesy" but now has withdrawn the offer after an ultimatum date has passed. As it stands the only people that are going to get any money are the lawyers. What should we do??? (link)
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This is a shame, and every parent's nightmare, that after they are gone the children they loved so much and worked so hard for will turn on each other in the name of money once they are gone. Your brother sounds like a jerk. It also sounds like this is a very draining situation for all concerned. Your parents are gone. All you have is each other. As hard as it may sound, you may have to sit down with the rest of your siblings and try to agree to leave this issue alone. Try to forgive him, and then suggest, since you can't come to an agreement, to leave the disputed debt in escrow indefinitely and all move on with your lives. Maybe, when your brother realizes he can't cause all this drama and get all this attention, he'll give up his ridiculous claims. Until that time, I suggest finding a way to put it behind you and love each other. You are family, not enemies, and when you're each dead, you'll never have the chance again to reconcile and show love for each other, so do it now. Even if it means giving up a fight that is just. Concentrate on the new life that is being welcomed into the family. Ever hear the saying "Kill em with kindness"? Be kind to your brother. How stupid and petty will he look if the family he is treating so disrespectfully decided to treat him with love and acceptance (without having to accept his opinions). good luck. This is a terrible situation. I hope you can all work it out and get back to being a family.
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i am a scorpio girl. And i tend to be very sensitive. This guy in my group of friends at school has been making so much fun of me. I almost cried today :(....last friday afterschool he was being kinda nice but playful like hitting me with my bag, and a chasey type thing...and then he asked me if i'm going to home coming, and i said yeah and he asked with who? and I said with my girls. then today he was just making fun of me up and down...we were eating breakfast and he told me he doesnt like me, my face, my hair, the way i look..and my two friends and he too was laughing becaus it was supposed to be funny....but deep down it hurt me....and then he asked me if I would go to homecoming with him, and then i was like wow, i'm not listening to anything you say...and he was like psych!...and then he tells me i'm fat..but i'm pretty skinny actually so that didn't hurt me at all..i actually took it as a compliment becaue i'm trying to gain weight...and then later on he gives me some of his food and tells me i'm too skinny that i need to eat...and then i told him to stop staring at my body then, and then he said, but he just cant help it though.....i don't really know what to do...i just want him to stop because i almost cried today even though I know he was joking....please tell me what you guys think i should do..any advice would help. thank you! :D (link)
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I can't say for sure, because I don't know your ages, but it sounds to me like he LIKES you! I know, hard to imagine, but school-age boys are VERY immature. They don't know how to really talk to girls they like, so they do whatever they think will earn them some attention. He sees it bothers you, and as twisted as it may sound, he'll take ANY kind of attention from you, rather than none at all. Since teasing you gets a reaction from you, that's what he does. Like I said, I can't be sure, but I'm pretty sure I'm right. So, next time he starts bugging you like that, politely tell him that you don't like being made fun of, even if he's just kidding. Tell him if he doesn't have anything nice to say to you then don't say anything at all, and that you'll speak to him when he starts talking to you like a friend instead of a jerk. Then ignore him! Seriously, ignore him, like look right through him when he starts teasing you and don't give in. Eventually he will get the message and I'm willing to bet you'll start hearing a lot nicer things from him. This is a boy problem, not a YOU problem, so try your best not to take it personally. In a way, its kind of flattering. He's just so nervous around you he doesn't even know how to act! Good luck.
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My wife and I are the youngest siblings on both sides of our family. We are also the most flamboyant, outspoken, aggressive, open to share our feelings, laid back, happy go lucky, non-opioninated, loving, careing and trusting members of our entire family.
At one time or another we have gone well beyond the call of duty, both financially and emotionally, to provide for or nurture our parents and our siblings. We have invested in their lives in their time of need and we did it willingly and gladly and from the bottom of our heart.
In the last few years my wife and I have been going through some difficult times with our business and have suffered financially. We turned to our family for help and they did for a while. However, they now seem to be using our current situation as a reason to vent alot of pinned up negative emotions they have obviously been harboring for quite some time.
The loving family that we took care of when we could and they could not, is not interested in taking care of us in our time need. In fact they are now going out of their way to hurt us !!!
How could they forget what we did for them and even think about being dceitful and mean spirited. (link)
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You describe yourselves as outspoken and aggresive yet laid back and non-opinionated. Those things conflict. I'm wondering if your lack of awareness (or honesty) about how others perceive you might also be coloring your view of how your family is treating you now. Maybe you THINK you were being supportive but it really came off as "high and mighty" and arrogant. If it really bothers you, ask someone you can talk to in your family (mom, dad, a close sister or uncle). Ask them to be honest with you and tell them that you feel hurt and don't really understand why help is being denied to you when you feel you've been so helpful. The answers might not be what you want to hear, but they may be just what you need to hear. and don't forget, you helped them because you loved them (right?), not for a reward or anything in return, so try not to resent them. They don't "owe" you, that's not why you did it.
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In October, I will have known this guy for four years. We were always really good friends, I thought. It seemed like we were always spending time with each other and able to talk about things. He would have girlfriends and I would date other people as well. I've only had sex with one guy my whole 20 years of living, this guy knew that. We finally decided to try to date this year. At first things were a little rocky. Neither one of us knew how to act, I think. Eventually things started getting better. After a few months, and being friends for basically four years, we started messing around (everything except sex). He was a completely different person; he was calling me every night. He was telling me how lucky he was to have me, and how happy he was. He said when we did stuff it was amazing. We were even hanging out and wouldn’t do anything physical, we'd just watch a movie or play video games or something together. Then, I decided to sleep with him. Two days after we did, he was still the sweet caring guy that called every night. He even brought me soup because I had a little cold. After the two days though, he just sort of disappeared. I was so hurt and didn't know what went wrong. Then I told him I wasn't happy. He text me back and asked me to go over to his place. We talked and I told him how hurt I was. He said he was really sorry and didn't mean to make me feel like that. He said his Mom lost her job and is really struggling and his grandma was in the hospital. We talked for hours and I thought everything was worked out. When I sounded like I wanted to stop dating he even got watery eyes. We slept together twice that night. I finally had to leave but he was extremely distant before I even started getting dressed. He's text me once a day since it happened all he has told me is "it wasn't bad" and “how was your meet?” (I’m a swimmer) but nothing more than that after I’d answer him. Unfortunately or fortunately, I'm not an idiot, and I realize a user when I come across one, this time I was a little too late, but I know he will probably never talked to me again. I'm aware he pretty much just got what he wanted and said those nice things to get in my pants. I realized the using part a little too late, but I'm not in denial. My question is how does one deal with this? He was the second guy I've ever slept with, and I'm really disappointed because I thought after knowing each other for so many years he wouldn't do this to me. I'm heartbroken. How do adults get through things like this? How do I deal when I run into him at school? I mean it's a big university, but I know we're going to have run ins just with the way our schedules are this semester. Can anyone please give me advice to cope with this? I'd really appreciate it. (link)
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Awww.. that really sucks. Well, I think the best thing you can do is chalk it up to a lesson learned and try not feel embarrassed. Whenever you see him and you start to feel ashamed, remind yourself that HE is the one who should be embarrassed. You're the good one in all of this. Unfortunately, the only thing that cures heartache is time, but I promise you the time WILL come where this won't hurt so much. In the meantime, try to keep yourself busy with other things, friends, activities, and when you do have to see him, be polite and friendly but don't engage him in any meaningful conversation. He used you. Don't let him do it again. Just treat him like you would any classmate and then go on living your life. The best revenge is living a good life. You can do this! And I promise, in the end, you will be fine, and even a better person for having gone through this.
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this is going to be blunt. sorry if it upsets anyone.
my vagina usually has a really bad odor. it's not just when i'm about to start my period, or am on my period( which i think is normal?) but it's alll the time. except for when i wash it, but then it starts up again maybe an hour and a half to 3 hours later. i dont really eat all that right, so could it maybe be because of things i'm eating? should i drink more water to flush out my system? (link)
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Well food definitely plays a role, but I'm wondering if the odor is as bad as you think. Some girls think their vaginas smell awful when really it is the normal smell. Guys don't share our disgust about our natural smells. But its hard to say. Eating more veggies and drinking more water will help. But, if its not too weird, ask a friend or family member you really trust. Tell them you are worried about your personal smell (you don't even have to tell them where its coming from) and ask them to give you a smell test. Let them sniff around you while you're standing still and then walk past them. If they say they smell something then you know its not just your imagination and you can take some steps to help, but if they don't notice, it might just be that you are not really familiar with how a vagina SHOULD smell, and the natural odor is bothering you. Good luck!
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For my birthday i was looking forward to seeing my loved one and spending time with him and of course wondering what kind of gift he would buy me. However unfortunately we couldnt meet up on the day of my birthday because in the afternoon he had people from the town coming in to follow up on the taxes for his business. And in the night i was busy and went out of state. So the next day he calls me up and says he wants to meet up saying he felt bad for not being able to see each other yesterday. So we agreed on 3:30 pm it was around 1 pm at the time, he usually arrives in an hour and a half, but he said he had to stop by somewhere first. I'm thinking maybe he has to get a present so i didnt ask where. So its 3:30 and he calls me up and tells me that he's only 1 exit from where he started. So i tell him you were supposed to be here now but you only went 1 exit in 2 hours thats crazy. He told me yeah there was contruction they blocked the road. ok I'm sorry but thats bs no amount of traffic can make you go only 1 exit in 2 hours, anyway so i ask him why are you so late is it because of where you had to stop off. He says yeah i had to pick up something but i'm on my way i'll be there- which i know will be another 2 hrs and i was upset anyway at everything so i told him to just forget it and we'll try another day. Because after 6:30 i had to get going i had to be somewhere and i told him that. Then he starts argueing with me and we proabably kept calling each other back.. me telling him to turn back and that he would be coming for such a short time and him telling me that he is coming anyway. So finally at 6 he calls me and says i'm here and jokes and says are you going to beat me up. I went in the car, still trying to act nice to him. And he says im sorry im so late and that i couldnt be here yesterday, and he says happy birthday and says i got you something and reaches to the back of the car to get the present. And he pulls out half a dozen roses. I'm still waiting there when i finally realized that that was it. And i just said its very nice thank you. But in my head im thinking flowers, thats it just flowers? they were a bit wilted too, ok wheres the rest, even a card, after all he that he did. I'm thinking someone else would have just taken those flowers and smashed it on his head for not showing up yesterday, being late 3 hrs not telling me why, argueing with me on the phone, and after all that.. 6 wilted roses. I really feel bad for thinking like this but it would have been nice to get some real heartfelt gifts after that. And after about half an hour the date had to come to an end since we ran out of time, now im thinking maybe he planned it like that to meet for just a short time. I just dont know, questions keep popping up in my head. My friends tell me their boyfriend brought them jewelery and other high end quality gifts, which i find hard to believe since they've only been seeing each other for not that long of a time, but now im wondering what kind of presents do guys really buy their girlfriends for their birthdays and why have i alwayss received such small shabby gifts. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for 8/9 months now, it was my first birthday with him. Also he owns a business dont you think he can do better, he can definately afford better. He's 33, im thinking he would have some experience on buying birthday gifts and making a partner feel happy. I dont know like i said i feel bad for thinking like this but i also feel bad about what happened, not just the flowers. What do you think, how would you feel and what would you do if you were in my situation? Im sorry i wrote so much. Thank you so much in advance. (link)
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Well let's start with the most obvious thing - yes, its sounds extremely shallow to begrudge your bf's gift as "cheap". Yes, he owns a business, but business owners are usually the last to be paid. It costs a LOT to run ANY type of business, plus taxes and the bad economy...perhaps he can't really afford nice things for you and is too embarrassed to tell you. However, I really don't think you are that shallow and I don't think that's what you're really mad about. The point is, he made it sound like he was late because he had something "special" to get for you, then shows up with roses that looked like they'd been sitting for a while. And the whole thing with him leaving late... it does sound weird. Listen, don't compare what he does to other guys, that's never a productive thing. Everyone is different. But DO look at what he's been like recently. Do you have cause to be suspicious? Has he "disappeared" like that before? Has he made up excuses not to see you? In other words, do you have good reason to think he did all that on purpose? If yes, perhaps its time for a heart to heart with him to see where you both stand. If not, you're being too sensitive and you should let this one go. But I have a feeling there's a bit more to this story than you were able to say. Don't hold this in. Talk to him openly (and CALMLY, no TEARS! Guys hate that) and ask him just what the heck all that was about! You can base your next move on what you do or don't hear from him. Good luck! Hope this helped a bit.
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How do i deal with a sister in law that has been copying everything i do for the past 25 years? She some how just know how irritate me. Yet again she has managed to do something that made my blood boil! (link)
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Imitation is the highest form of flattery. Instead of letting it get under your skin, consider yourself a trend-setter and a trail blazer. So she copies you? So what? If you did it first, then it makes HER look silly, not you. In fact, it makes you look smart, because you thought of it first.
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i need advice on what to say to my roommates about me moving out in december/january.
heres background info.
me and 2 people have an apartment together for college because the school doesnt have dorms. we were supposed to get a 4th roommate cause its hard to pay rent with just 3, but it never happened. i've hated it here from day 1. they both ditch me all the time, they are inconsiderate and selfish, and its almost impossible to make other friends because we are off campus. i'm 110% positive i want to leave, i just dont know how to tell them. they will hate me because theyre gonna have to find another roommate or pay extra money each month. please help!! im nervous and idk how to confront them about it :/ (link)
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You have no obligation to stay. If you're not happy, you have every right to leave and find a more tolerable living situation. But the fair thing to do would be to give them a time table so they can work to find another roommate. I think 2 months is a fair enough amount of time. Not only will it give them ample opportunity to find a replacement for you, it will give you time to get your affairs in order and decide what to do next. You've done it this long, a couple more months won't hurt. And however you decide to tell them, be sure to be calm, respectful, and mature, no matter how weird they get. Take the high road. You've done nothing wrong.
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so within three weeks i have put on 10 pounds, now have acne on the side of my face, i never had acne, my ovaries are hurting occasionly, but i have had alot of stress and very little sleep, pls help thanks :) btw im a female, 17 (link)
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Honey, welcome to teenage-hood! That's just your body changing. Everything is all out of wack right now, and you're going to notice more and more things like this happening. Also, stress will add to those things also. The best thing you can do is try to seek out activities that help ease your stress, like hanging out with good friends, reading or working out. Drink lots of water and try not to worry too much. Eventually everything will even out and your body will settle in to something more regular. For now, don't be alarmed, this is perfectly normal. Just do your best to ease stress and get rest. Good luck!
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After being chased for almost a year I finally allowed him to come over. Being both spontaneous Aquarians we have had sex both times that he visited. I know he likes me but I told him I thought he was too young for me (12 years younger) but over 35. How do I get the relationship to take a turn away from sex to more serious dating? (link)
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You pretty much blew it by having sex and THEN deciding you want to date. That's the backwards way, and its that way for a reason. I guess the best thing to do now would be to have a heart to heart discussion and admit that perhaps you both jumped the gun too quickly by getting intimate right away, and that you would like to have the chance to get to know him better and for him to know you better, as friends and romantic interests, not as sex partners.
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If a guy invites you to his party and the two of you aren't good friends, more like barely acquaintances, would you assume that he likes you if the guest list is only 20 people? (link)
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The only thing I would assume is that he thinks I'd have a good time there and wants to be around fun people at his party. Make your assumptions about how he feels about you after you've gone to the party and see how he acts.
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