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Q: I've recently noticed a boost of confidence in my boyfriend. This has in turn caused me to be more physically attracted to him than I've ever been. I've always been physically attracted to him but recently, I can't seem to take my hands off him. He has noticed and is quite fond of me acting this way towards him but is also asking questions. I'mnot sure if I should tell him why I've been acting this way. His confidence started whenhe got his hair cut...it was quite drastic. Is it okay to tell him that the confidence boost is the cause? More than just being generally confident, he's found confidence in his...member as well. This of course is a turn on but I'm not sure if it'san appropriate topic to share with men

Yes I think you should definatly tell him. It's normal for you to be more attracted to someone when they have more confidence in themselves, it makes them seem more attractive. Let him know, I bet he will get even more confident and really turn you on.

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Q: 15/f
so there is this guy i am talking to, i really like him. but the problem is he goes to another school, so its not like we see eachother everyday, or ever pretty much, and it really sucks! but when can we find time to see eachother? like we have time but we have like no where to chill. so like what are some good places or like idk how can we spend more time together?

Well long distance relationships can be very difficult to maintain even if your partner is just like a town away. I suggest you make date plans, maybe to go to the movies, bowling, skating rink, even just walking around Wal-Mart. Anywhere can be a good place to hang out. I'm sure as long as you are together you will have fun no matter where you are.

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Q: yeah so for a while i was obssed with my ex and then i came on here and got some advice and i was over him but hes coming back to me but not in a good way why is it that i feel angry when i think of him? and that i feel like im the uglyest girl in the world?
and that at the same time i still like hima lot? i cant get him out of my head!!!! i need serious help..... ):

This is common for people after a break up. First you can't get over them, then once you do you get so pissed at them for everything. You shouldn't feel you are the ugliest girl in the world though, you should never let a guy bring your self confidence down like that. As for getting him out of your head the best thing to do is to keep busy. Go out with friends, get a hobby, maybe even go out on some dates. It's going to be difficult at first but things will get easier with time.

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Q: I was just wandering.. but if you have sex with a guy, but he doesn't cum inside you, can you get pregnant? I have a friend that had sex, but she said he didn't cum inside her, that he held it back.. so is there a chance where she could be pregnant?

This is a big yes. Precum can also get you pregnant so the best thing to do is to always use a condomn. Make sure you let her know that there is a chance she could get pregnant. It is smaller than if he had actually came in her but a chance still yet.

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Q: I was having sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke while he was inside me. I got my period about a week later but only for three days and it was really light. I told him i was pregnant cause I thought I was but i feel bad cause now im not sure. Do you think i could be? this all happend in the past three weeks so im not sure if it would show up yet.

The best thing to do in this situation is to buy an at home pregnancy test. If you got your period then it is very unlikey that you are pregnant but just to be safe do the at home test.

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Q: ok so im a 15 year old girl and for two years idk
why but i think girls are hot i can't help but look at there bodies and stuff and i actually have and internet girlfriend but i know i like guys to but they don't really you know make me happy sexually i mean i can see myself doing it with a girl and a boy together but i can't with just a boy and idk why i need total help . i know for years ive been tryin to hide that i think girls are hotter than guys but know that im about to be 16 i want to figure out my sexuality and have it out in the open so i can start looking for that special someone so any advice will be greatly appreciated thanks in advance .

These feelings could simply be curiosity, you may know that you like guys but would like to explore the sex life with girls. This is perfectly normal, it happens to most people around your age. But you may find out as you get older that you really do like girls and thats okay too. You may be bisexual. Just follow your heart and be true to yourself.

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Q: Im going to post this again cause I havent gotten much replys on the other and I really need help.

So i'll fill you in on what has happend..

I dont know if this has to do with my problem but about two weeks ago i had sex and the condom broke. so i got my period but it only lasted three days and wasnt heavy as usualy. I usualy last for 5-7 and bleed heavily which is my NORMAL period. well I took pregnancy tests about a week after and it came out negative. I dont think im pregnant tho.

but before my period and still now I have had SEVERE stomach pains. I have gone to the hospital twice and to the doctors once. the doctors did a cat scan and there was nothing wrong. They also did urine tests and still nothing wrong. when they feel around inside my stomach it doesnt hurt but when they push on it it does.. it also doesnt hurt me to pee so it cant be something with my urine. PLEASE HELP

WHAT COULD BE WRONG WITH ME?

Well you know you aren't pregnant which is always good, but you could have an STD which isn't. The next time you go to the doctor be sure and tell them that you are sexually active so they can do a test to check for STD's. If it's not that then you may just be stressed and getting stomache pains because of it, its uncommon but happens.

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Q: Okay im in a situation ware i've liked this boy for a couple years now, and i know he's liked me off and on last year and we've hooked up a couple times, but thats nothing. Today me and him were talking and he admitted that he liked me again and i told him i liked him. The thing is, he has a girlfriend right now, they only been together about a week, he told me he was gonna dump her and be with me. Im scared, i really think im going to give him a chance because i like him and have, but i just want an opion to see if i shoundlt. He like's sex a lot, and i've only done it once so i'll be scared and he likes sexual intercorse often, so im just nervous, so help!! i just need some easy advice if i should or what do i do.. i'll give feedback .

It is only natural to be frightened about having sex with anyone, especially someone who has done it more than you. If you really like this guy and feel like you want to have sex with him then I'm sure you will be fine. There really is no set way to get over the fear the only was is to do it. That way you get over it, yes it will be scary at first but you will get comfortable and it will become easier.

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Q: Hey i have a frend named Mark, and his best frend told him some girl likes him. So on face book they were talking about him.
So i said "yeah i heard she likes mark" and the insults started flying. Turns out she doesnt/never liked him. I sent him the conversation, and he flipped out. He said i shouldnt have opened my big mouth and he was saying i hate you im done with you and kept telling me to F-off. I just didnt want them to be talking crap about him behind his back without him knowing. cuz were real tight. I tried explaining this to him. But he just doesnt care. what do you think?

Your friend is just really hurt right now. He will probably most likely come around sooner or later. I think it was perfectly okay for you to say something about it, afterall he is your friend and thats what friends do. Just give him his space and I'm sure he will be alright in a while.

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Q: why is it o.k. for guys to have sex with as many partners as they want to but if girls do the same they are considered "ho's" or "sluts"?

Because that is the way society is theses days. Women are always judged when they have multiple partners but when men do it simply builds their name up. Life isn't fair for women still yet these days, but thats just the way it is.

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Q: so earlier this year these girls were really mean to me. they practically ruined the 1st half of the school year. i know not to trust them not because they both arent nice and they've done mean things to other people. now one of my good friends is friends with them. i dont want her to get hurt but if i tell her to be careful around them she will tell them thinking they are friends and they well tell others (school counslor and parents because they love to get me in trouble ) how can i make sure my friend isnt going to behurt by these girls?

There is really not much you can do about it. Girls will be girls especially in highschool. All you can really do is be there for her if they do hurt her. Don't tell her anything, maybe just hint that they aren't that nice. You really just need to kinda keep your nose out so you don't get dragged into the drama. Highschool is full of backstabbing girlfriends, drama, and tears, so just keep your chin up and be there for her when she gets hurt.

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Q: Hi, I'm 15 and a girl. I want to try and get on the contracptive pill but I'd rather not tell my parents it is cos I am sexually active. Is there any medical reasons that can help me get on it? My periods are irregular and I get bad period pains, Could I get put on it to help that? thanks x

Yes that can help you get on it, but you really don't need specific reasons to get on the pill. If you simply go to your local health clinic they will put you on the pill, give you condomns, and information about sex without you having to tell your parents anything. Quite a few of my friends have gone that route, and if you sign up as a student then you won't even have to pay for it.

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Q: Okk, so dont judge me for this please i am having enough trouble....(not saying that you would) but there is this boy, and something kind of happened...well we flirted a lot and then he finally kissed me and it was great...but i began to freak out after he went back home..and he got my number and like a month later he began calling me and i didnt want to deal with him so i told him to stop that i didnt want to talk to him....i think i really hurt him,,,,but why did i freak you ask?? ha ha well this is what is holding me back...you see he was kind of...adopted...into my family....I know right?? and that is freaking me out because i feel like crap now and i dont know why. And i had a dream that we was getting married. But that made me freak out more. And my friend is all like.."what if you are like in love with him" and i was telling her that i refused to be because of that reason....but she thinks that i might be so now i am stressing out even more...so what is your input and what should i do??

Okay first of all just breath okay haha. If you love someone there is really nothin you can do about it. When you love someone you just do, you have no control over it. If this boy is adpoted into your family then you really have no blood relation to him and though it may feel awkward there is really no incest going on. You really just have to go with your gut on this one. Try talking to the boy, tell him your worries about it and apologize for freaking and telling him not to call. After that if you still feel as though you can't have that sort of relationship with him at least you still have your friendship =].

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Q: Alright so I have been dating this guy Adam for like a year and a half and we're engaged and have been for a little over 4 months. I love him with all of my heart and I would never hurt him. I also have this other friend Oryan who I don't get see that often. Friday night Adam was busy so I went out to hang out with Oryan. We were sitting in his car having this really intense heart to heart and I was tlaking about all this hard stuff I've been going through and he was talking about his grandfather that just died and then next thing I know he came over and kissed me. I kissed him back, not thinking at all, it ws just a reflex and then I pushed him away. He knew of Adam and said sorry and that was that. Well, my guilt built up and I ended up telling Adam this very story last night and he clearly freaked out. He told me he still loves me and wants to be with me but he has no trust and me and no respect for me. I told Oryan not to talk to me anymore and I need to get Adam's trust back. I don't know how and I don't know how to tell him that it really was nothing. He thinks I have feelings for Oryan and says he doesn't know how many other guys I've done this with. How can I get his trust back and make him see that I love him? Please help, my heart is so broken.

This is a very difficult situation but if you really care about this guy then things will work out. Getting is trust back is going to be the most difficult part, besides showing him that you don't care for this Oryan guy. I think it was very good of you to stop being friends with him that shows how much you really care for Adam. I think you are taking the necessary steps, but getting his trust back will take a while. You just need to show him that you care, be there for him and don't ever do anything like this again. Keep your chin up things will work out.

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Q: k, well i know fingering is not sex but i didnt know what catergory to put it under.

but anyways, i heard that the first time you get fingered you bleed. is this true? also if it is, is there anything i can do to "it" so i don't bleed the first time i get fingered, because i know i'm ready for it but i just don't want the akwardness of him having blood all over his hands or whatever.

thanks.

You may not bleed the first time you get fingered, because your hymen and cherry could already be broken. Mine was because of sports and even if you do bleed it won't be alot. It won't cover his hands or anything.

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Q: I'm a girl, but I don't think I've ever orgasmed. Like, me and my boyfriend have sex a lot but I just... can't. What's a real orgasm like and how do I get one? haha.

A orgasm for a girl is a very difficult thing to explain, but it is a great feeling.
Things you could try to achieve one is to engage in more foreplay before you have intercourse. This will get you more worked up and closer before you actually start.
Also trying different positions can help. Being on top is a great position for a girl to achieve and orgasm. She is in control and knows how to make herself happy.

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Q: So I have been dating this girl for six months now, and she is really nice. She is the first girl i kissed and I'm the first guy she kissed. We kissed three months ago. I want to get second base now so my question is how to get there?

First of all you need to talk to her about it and make sure that you are both ready for the level. Once you find that out it will be alot easier for you to decide when to make your move on her. While your making out just let your hands wander. She will give you signals as to what you can do and what she likes. Be sure you also let her know what you want and like. Don't be too pushy or foward with her and if she stops you then stop. Don't make her go farther than she wants to.

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Q: iam a 66 year old female was married for 46 years have been a widow for 5 years but now have found a new love but when we make love i can not seem to have a orgasm. does that mean there is something wrong with me ? this man is very good and sweet and tender so know it is not him . we just really have fun and a great time.could it be some of the medications i am on or am i just to old? Thank you

It could be a number of things including those you named above. You should probably just continue what you are doing or maybe try new things to try and get you closer to reaching your peak. You could also try talking to your doctor to see if it is the medications you are on. If so maybe he can change the medications. Hope things work out for you =] It sounds lik eyou really like this man.

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Q: i was just in the washroom and found some sticky white discharge in my underwear.. i'm worried cuz i've never had them likethat before. its like a really sticky clump that feels funny on your fingers and is almost completely clear. it reminds me of like.. flubber.. what is it?? i just got my period.

This is perfectly normal for girls' having their period. It is just your bodies way of clearing itself and getting rid of harmful chemicals. Don't begin to worry about it unless it becomes very smelly and a weird color.

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Q: omg. i feeel like im ugly.... i like the guy named keith... but he doesnt like me.....i dont knw what to do. he likes this girl named mindie.... but this girls sister had a baby and gettinf married to keiths brother..... i feel like im not good enough.... what do i do0o0o0o....

i feel like im ugly........

Sweetie you should never let a guy make you feel like you aren't good enough for him. If he can't see how great you are then he probably isn't worth it in the first place?
Maybe he just likes this girl because her sister is marrying his brother so he is always around her anyways who knows?
You really just need to keep your head and confidence up. Don't let him crush your spirit okay?

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