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I messed up sooo bad PLEASE HELP
Alright so I have been dating this guy Adam for like a year and a half and we're engaged and have been for a little over 4 months. I love him with all of my heart and I would never hurt him. I also have this other friend Oryan who I don't get see that often. Friday night Adam was busy so I went out to hang out with Oryan. We were sitting in his car having this really intense heart to heart and I was tlaking about all this hard stuff I've been going through and he was talking about his grandfather that just died and then next thing I know he came over and kissed me. I kissed him back, not thinking at all, it ws just a reflex and then I pushed him away. He knew of Adam and said sorry and that was that. Well, my guilt built up and I ended up telling Adam this very story last night and he clearly freaked out. He told me he still loves me and wants to be with me but he has no trust and me and no respect for me. I told Oryan not to talk to me anymore and I need to get Adam's trust back. I don't know how and I don't know how to tell him that it really was nothing. He thinks I have feelings for Oryan and says he doesn't know how many other guys I've done this with. How can I get his trust back and make him see that I love him? Please help, my heart is so broken.
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This is a very difficult situation but if you really care about this guy then things will work out. Getting is trust back is going to be the most difficult part, besides showing him that you don't care for this Oryan guy. I think it was very good of you to stop being friends with him that shows how much you really care for Adam. I think you are taking the necessary steps, but getting his trust back will take a while. You just need to show him that you care, be there for him and don't ever do anything like this again. Keep your chin up things will work out.
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Well think about it if your guy went and kissed a girl then told you. Wouldn't you feel a little upset? So I think you should give it a little time and show him that he can trust you again. You told him truthfully and hopefully he will respect that. So tell him that you do love him and he is gonna need some time to think about it. So I hope everything works out for you.
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Stay calm, and stick to the truth. You told him what happened. You told him everything you feel about it. There is nothing else to tell except to keep answering his questions honestly when he asks them.
There is nothing else you can do. Adam will simply need to decide if he can let this go and trust you agian or if he can't. The only thing you can do to help him is be honest.
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