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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

advice

Do push-up bras make ur boobs look bigger, even if your not showing any cleavage? and also wut r some tips on making ur boobs look bigger without stuffing?

Yes, they make them more "full-looking" and makes your breasts a cup bigger. Some tips would be to use shirts that have push-up features, and another would be to find a bra that's a few sizes bigger (not a cup bigger; size number, like 42 C to 45 C).

Hope I helped.

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I don't know why but I'm nervous about being pregnant. I had sex the day after my period was over, a condom was used, and he pulled out, but its the first time we actually did it the whole way. I probably wouldn't be right? What would be the signs if I was?

Since you had sex the day after you ended your period you're extremely less likely to get pregnant. Because, once you end your period the egg is not available yet to be fertilzed. It's realy rare to become pregnant in that case. But don't ever be too sure. You should get tested for it asap. However, signs are obvious: no period after next ovulation cycle, vomiting, nausea, and major fatigue.

Hope I helped.

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ok.. well me and my bestfriend, f/f, cuddle with each other a lot and lay on each other and on top of each other.. and sometimes lines are dropped like am i making u horny and like sexual things.. like "get me that and ill pay you whatever you want later" and a bunch of just sexual thins with each other. but i think i may have a thing for her.. is this whole thing weird? does she feel the same way? she says she stuff more then me, too. its supposedly a "joke", but is it going too far? what do you think? please help =)

It's actually normal to go through that, because it's normal for teenage/young adult girls to go through that sort of thing, having feelings for one another as more than just best friends. I went through that stage before and it's nothing be ashamed of. If you really, strongly think you have this "thing" for her, you can ask her if she feels the same way. Just saying it's a joke could be a way of just hiding it. Like you or her are feeling insecure, and feeling unsure of whether or not you two are really getting feelings for each other or if it's just a temporary phase -- maybe both. But privately try to talk to her about how she feels towards you. Don't feel bad if you're having trouble deciding your sexual status either - at this time of age it's completely normal.

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Does anyone know what i can download or get to build a free website thats actually good?Thanx.

Yes, there are many websites that offer free website service to people with little or no HTML knowledge, or for advanced HTML knowledge. For example: Tripod, GeoCities, FreeWebs, DotEasy, Bizland, Expage, 0Catch, AngelFire, and ChickPages.

If you know HTML pretty well, go to ones such as Geocities, or Angelifire.

If you are a beginner, I much prefer Expage, or FreeWebs.

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I need help asap.I have a LG1500 phone.. Ive had some small problems with it but yesterday i used my phone at practice and it was fine.. i used it on teh way home and a short while after .. about a half hour later i go in and pick up my phone and my buttons 369 are working as 147 so i have 2 147's!!! && i dont know what to do becuase i need teh 369 buttons.. Somehow i got the buttons working about 10 minutes ago for a few seconds.. long enoguh to finaly type in my secerty code to listen to my voicemail from yesterday around 11... i reset my phoen twice adn i dont knwo waht else to do.. please help!

The main thing that could cause this is water. Did you get water, or any other liquids in your phone? Or is there any possibility water got inside of it? Also, another one could be the keypad is broken, or the circuits under the keypad is broken.

If you think it's water damaged, try air-drying for several hours, by taking the faceplate off, and the keypad, and lay it on a flat surface. Then check it again.

If you are completely sure it's not, go to your service provider for a repair or new phone.

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sorry if this is in the wrong category but i'm kinda worried cuz my period is 8 week late .. i'm 13 && first got it 2 years ago .. i kno it's not normal soo is that like bad or something? Last time i had it was June 17 which was like 2 months ago! && it still hasn't come. Any advice? thanks!

It happens to me all the time. I can be two months late. Once I have been 6 months late. But usually some factors that can delay periods are stress, poor diet, and lack of exercise. If you feel that none of these apply to you, consider taking some vitamins daily and consult your doctor, or gynocologist. In the meantime, wait it off -- it could just be a part of a stage your body is naturally going through. Your hormones control the periods.

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ok well today i was trying to shape my eyebrows before this party. Well i messed up big time and dont know what to do.And school about to start up again and i look like a retarded freak.I have know idea what to do. Even my mom said i looked like a freak. So if you have any advice at all, i could really use it

There is a solution. Have you ever heard of eyebrow pencils? They can help shape it up a bit, but not-so-dramatically. Or you can use oil paint. Yes, it's possible. You can find the pencils at a drug store, and oil paint just about anywhere. make sure they are both soft-pointed so it can look more realistic than hard-pointed ones. And it would be even better if you got just the perfect shade that matches your hair. Like if you have brown hair, try the brown shades.

And when you do put it on, put it on softly. And try shaping it up more, making your eyebrows look thinner (if possible). So you can simply even it with a pencil.

Another way is going to a professional salon or salon store, where there are eyebrow treatments you can use to get it back-to-normal quickly.

In the meantime, eyebrows do naturally grow back within a few days.

My mom has experienced this before and she used pencils, and in my opinion it looked real, but the disadvantage to them is it can smear or look more messed up if it's the wrong shade.. and sometimes the color will look different on your eyebrows than what it looks like on the pencil, so give it a try before you buy it.

Hope I helped. Good luck =)

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okay so my acne is not very bad but its not good.. so my skin is oily and acne usually appears on my forehead and i have tried many many products, right now i am using the nuetrogena one with the orange bottle and the noxema face pads.. what are some good products for acne that isnt expensive because i dont have a lot of cash

Great ingredients: Salylic Acid, Benzol Peroxide, and Triclosan -- they're cheap and you can get a box of acne wipes for only 2 dollars at a drug store. It is effective from my personal experience. And to be even cheaper, if you have bodywash that won't clog pores and/or contains triclosan you can simply use that.

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Hey,

Im going to camp tomorrow. It's a daycamp and everyone there has already been there before, and have already made groups of friends.
Im really really reaaaaaallly shy, and want some tips on how to make friends there. LIke how to intoduce myself, what kind-of stuff to talk about.
Pleaseee help.
15,female

THANKSS!

Go up to someone and start up a conversation. Just as simple as "hello" or "wow, the weather seems nice today, what do you think?".. something like that. Also try to speak to one person at a time, and then gradually increase the number of people to talk to. Like 1 or 2 at first, and later on maybe a small group of people. Just making simple conversations. You could ask how they are doing, or how is their day, stuff like that. And even common subjects such as school, boys, life in general and so on. Don't be afraid to start up a conversation. I know it's hard at first believe me. I once was so shy I couldn't get myself to talk to somsone. But believe me, you'll get around soon. It just takes time.

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i have been dating my bf for 5 months and just recently we were at his friends house walking down the road and he had his arm around me and when his aunt picked him up he told me she was freaking out about there not being a chaperone there (but there was) and about his arm being around me (which is soooo stupid!) his aunt told his mom. and now im getting the hint that his mom and stepdad basically hate me bcuz they wont let us just sit and watch tv in his room anymore we cant even go in his room at all really, also today when he asked if he could go to the beach with all our friends his stepdad asked him if i was going to be there and he said yea and his stepdad told him to make good judgement. what does that mean?? i think they basically dont want me around him. they say they like me but they are probly just being nice. how do i get them to let me be with him?

I know how you feel. Prove to them you can be trusted. Start by trying to talk to them about how upset this is making you. You want to spend time with him without doing anything "innapropriate". Tell them you wouldn't do anything like that, and since you have been with your boyfriend for quite sometime you should have the privilege to be trusted more. So talk it over with them, if that does not work or if it is not enough, try to prove to them you can be reliable. Like tell them you and your boyfriend will be home by curfew, or if you are planning on staying out later, ask if someone can chaperone you two for awhile. I know, sounds really dumb!! But do this for awhile so you can give them the idea you can be trusted, and soon after they will realize you won't need a chaperone, and they'll let you have more privacy. Now however know that it may take awhile. You need to prove to his parents that you two won't do anything bad. Or even prove to your parents the same. Just be careful though. And as another helpful hint, before you go anywhere with your boyfriend, tell your or his parents where you'll be, what time you'll be home, and a number to contact you two. That could be another thing that could increase their trust with you and your boyfriend.

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How do you apply eyeliner? I don't know where to put it or how to put it on without poking my eye. please help!

You simply apply eyeliner by putting it on the bottom of your eye right on top of your bottom eyelashes, where the crease is. If using an eyeliner pencil, just slowly glide it across, so you won't poke your eye out. And take your time. Go through it again if needed.

If you are using liquid go slower, and more gently, so as you glide it across the crease of your bottom eye, it will dry and it won't irritate the eye.

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I am going to Walmart tomorrow to get my eyebrows waxed for the first time. Is there anything I should know in advance? Will they trim the hair? Will they show me how to keep my eyebrows shaped? What if I don't get the right shape for my face? I feel so clueless. Help!

Usually for the first time it's hard to decide what kind of eyebrows you'll look good with. You obviously don't want to make it bushy or unibrow-looking, so when you go get them waxed, they'll probably wax down the center, and put a curvy, thin shape to them, to make it clean and nice looking. And it will hurt when you get them waxed, but just for a second. It's nothing harmful. So don't worry. And they just might offer you eyebrow shapes in advance for you to choose from. If not, go with my advice and advise them to make it a little thin and curved. And in some cases they will trim the hair, depending how long the hairs are on your eyebrows.

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I wouldnt say that I'm frightened of death, but I am very frightened by the process of dying, particularly thru illness. As with most people, I have unfortunately known people in my life to have developed cancer or something similar, and died from it.The thought that this can happen terrifies me, and I cant understand why no one else seems to feel the same way. Can anyone tell me; generally, do you know if you have a cancer early enough for it to be treated? Is it common for a cancer to develop inside you and for you to have no idea until it's too late? Thank you, I rate fives.

I feel the same way as you. Sometimes I feel frightened of death. Just the idea of it. It is a horrible picture to imagine. But if you do catch the cancer early enough, you still got to go through radiation therapy and/or chemothereapy. with months of cancer battles, you can whipe the cancer out of you, however, you can possibly get life-threatening changes, like a major decrease of years to live, losing limbs, or organs. It happens, And if too late you may only have weeks or months to live, and other cases some years, as well. With some cases, an option to go through chemo.

In most cases cancer isn't obvious to notice, but can be suspicious. For example, just like breast cancer, you may not see it, but if you feel bumps in the breasts getting larger then that's something to worry about. Reproductive-related cancers can be not-so-obvious to spot either but getting pains in the abdomen or lower can be some signs.

Don't feel so negative about death though. Getting years to live is better than dying tomorrow of illness.

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what are other ways i can get rid of body hair other than shaving and waxing that won't cost much?

thanks in advice.

Simple ways are using Nair products. They work really well!!

And If you want to shave, get rich moisturizers, and aloe vera gel with you, so you can get a smooth after-feeling.

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how do you get stys? you know those scab things on your eyes or bumps on ur eyes that hurt! please and thanks!

You can get styes from rubbing/scratching your eye several times, it can be caused from allergies, makeup, and foreign bacteria that gets into your eye. If you do get them or if you already do, use a warm rag and place it over your eye. Drops are available, and your pharmacist can give you medications for it as well. But if you have to scratch the area, watch your hands before and after doing so. That way the stye won't spread or worsen.

(p.s. - i answered a similiar question like this before in case that was you or someone else, but either way, you can look on that one for more reference)

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you know what stys are right? well i think i have them. they are like all over my eyes! i have like 3 on one side and 1 on the other and one or two are going away but theres still some you know? well i was wondering how do u get rid of them?

Well since most styes are caused from infection and getting something in your eyes, simply use a warm/hot rag and lay it over your eyes. Keep it on there until the rag gets cold and put it on again with new warm water. Try your best not to itch it since that can make it worse. There are also drops, and otc medicines for it, as well, in case if simpy using warm water isn't enough.

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umm this may be a stupid question, but how do you kiss? i mean do you just go for it? what do guys expect out of a 13 year old? closed mouth open-mouthed? please help!

For a simple kiss, just do it closed mouth, but giving him a quick and gentle kiss. Guys like that. To take it up a notch, if you want to do it open-mouthed, you put your tongue in the guy's mouth and just follow his lead. yet don't think about it when you kiss. Just do what he does, and you'll be fine.

Guys usually don't expect much out of you at first, at least a good guy. But start with closed mouth kisses, and then soon start experimenting around with doing open mouthed kissing.

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16/f

okay i don't know what is happening. for the past week or 2 weeks i have been tired all the time. i can never feel awake for some reason and im always yawning. i sleep for about 10-11 hours each night and it doesnt help at all so maybe i'm oversleeping or something im not sure. i dont even usually do much during the day. any ideas for why im so tired all the time?

You probably have low metabolism. Some common causes could be being overweight or obesity, not eating right, or exercising. If any of these apply to you try fixing your diet and exercise more, or if they don't, then contact your Doctor. In some, yet rare cases, it could be something serious.

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how do i get rid of ants in my bathroom? i dunno where they originate. must be a hole somewhere

Ants are attracted to sweet things, or strong odors, just like knats or flies, like candy, soda, potato chips, or other foods. So first try to get rid of any possible things like that, that could get rid of the huge ant problem. Next, try using simple ant traps, and bug spray. Those work efficiently.

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i gave head on july 11th. and now i have 3 canker sores in my mouthhh...do i have herpes? or is that a sign...should i get it checked oout....

Yes, you could get this checked out as soon as you possibly can. This can just be a simple infection of the mouth, or it can be something more severe like STDs. But in the meantime try canker sore medications or oral over-the-counter antibiotic medicines/liquids like listerine (common one) or hydrogen peroxide. If no improvment within a few days, contact a Doctor immediately -- since it could potentially be something serious.

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