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i have been dating my bf for 5 months and just recently we were at his friends house walking down the road and he had his arm around me and when his aunt picked him up he told me she was freaking out about there not being a chaperone there (but there was) and about his arm being around me (which is soooo stupid!) his aunt told his mom. and now im getting the hint that his mom and stepdad basically hate me bcuz they wont let us just sit and watch tv in his room anymore we cant even go in his room at all really, also today when he asked if he could go to the beach with all our friends his stepdad asked him if i was going to be there and he said yea and his stepdad told him to make good judgement. what does that mean?? i think they basically dont want me around him. they say they like me but they are probly just being nice. how do i get them to let me be with him?
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ok ignoring the parents would probably be a great way of heading for the road of "screwing up your relationship" you dont want that. they probably dont hate you either, they've got no reason to, there just worried if you and your bf are gunna have sex or something and no parent wants that. so how to get them to see you guys differently? just hang out with the family more, grow your relationship with them to so they can trust you AND your bf. eventually there gunna be more comfortable with you 2. gd luck xx
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i dont think they meant any harm when they told him to make a good judgement.Iam pretty sure they just meant to be carefull with you to being together so long.Well congradulations on your relationship lasting so long.Maybe when you are around his faily dont be so touchy with each other./let kme know what happens
lots of love,lizzie
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I think you should ignore them, who are they to tell you not to see each other? And his stepdad?! Emphasis on the STEPdad.. If its really getting to you then just have it outright with them or if its too intimidating then get your bf to tell them.
If all else fails, see each other in private.
Hope everything works out for you and don't let them get to you,
Good Luck,
~MaYHeM~
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be mature about it. put on a brave face. and talk to his parents when your bf is not about sp they can see you dont need him everywhere with you and ask them if any thing is bothering them about you?
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I know how you feel. Prove to them you can be trusted. Start by trying to talk to them about how upset this is making you. You want to spend time with him without doing anything "innapropriate". Tell them you wouldn't do anything like that, and since you have been with your boyfriend for quite sometime you should have the privilege to be trusted more. So talk it over with them, if that does not work or if it is not enough, try to prove to them you can be reliable. Like tell them you and your boyfriend will be home by curfew, or if you are planning on staying out later, ask if someone can chaperone you two for awhile. I know, sounds really dumb!! But do this for awhile so you can give them the idea you can be trusted, and soon after they will realize you won't need a chaperone, and they'll let you have more privacy. Now however know that it may take awhile. You need to prove to his parents that you two won't do anything bad. Or even prove to your parents the same. Just be careful though. And as another helpful hint, before you go anywhere with your boyfriend, tell your or his parents where you'll be, what time you'll be home, and a number to contact you two. That could be another thing that could increase their trust with you and your boyfriend.
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I have had that problem befor and i was really sad i couldn't be with him. To make his parents welcome you again, mabey suggust to your boyfriend to ask his parents to invite you over for a family dinner or somthing. If you proove you are to their expectations for their son, they will probably do baby steps with you. For example, if you spent more time with him in front of his 'rents and not do anything or say abything stupid, you may be able to gain enough trust so that you guys could go into his room and accually shut the door.
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