I want to no how to kill myself
You're not mature enough to spell proporly, so you're certaintly not old enough to make desisions such as this.
Why not talk to samaritons, because without any other information from you beyond this blunt statement know one can help you as we don't know the circumstances-but no one on here would tell you how anyway.
Go talk to your docotr.
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At school theres this girl and she always talkes to him and she dated him too before me and she always walks with him I don't wanna tell him that I don't like it or her because they will say there just best friends but this girl is a hoe she dates everyone what should I do
It sounds like your jealous of this girl-because she appears to be trying to attract your boyfriends attention?
If she is indeed a 'hoe'-this is very strong to label someone as by the way, then most guy wont like it.
THink about it-if she was any good a girlfriend she wouldn't have dated 'everyone' and instead would've been able to commit to one person.
You need to chill out, because you've not got anything to worry about. You're boyfriend likes you and not her-which is why you're with him and she's not.
Whatever you do, don't let your obvious jealousy shine through to your boyfriend-jealousy can wreck a relationship. If you act mature about it, brush it off and just be a nice, accepting person, then it'll be much more appealing to your boyfriend.
The only time you should talk to your boyfriend is if you are sure he has got close to her off his own accord. It seems as though this girl is naturally like this-its in her predisposition, and so any comment made to her will feed back to everyone.
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My 3 yr old cat does not like children or their voices. My husband had a video of a child on the laptop, cat went into attack mode. Week later, video of a female singer, cat went after my husband, did it again the next day, unprovoked. Cat has been downstairs for 2 days, he is loving and affectionate with me. My husband goes to the door and talks to him, opens door a little and gives him a treat. My husband is scared of him attacking again for no reason. And I think the cat is afraid of my husband. Please help. Thank you.
It sounds like your cat has alot of anxiety to do with being around children-perhaps from a bad experience?
SO obviously he needs to calm down. There are several ways to help him calm down.
One way is for your husband to regain his trust again. Perhaps you could look at the way your husband talks to him. Is it like he talks to humans, or is it more child-like. I'd suggest the latter is better, because it's demonstrating a clear emotional attatchment to the cat, which will form a trusting relationship in the future.
Also, why not consider his diet-in human years don't forget he'd be a teenager, so just like in human teenagers, their mood is known to change as they transform into adult cats-my inclin is this is why your cat is responding this way. So if you go to a pet store, their really knowledgable about food and theres some that make the cat more hyper as they contain lots of additives. A simple diet is best if you want the cat to be calmer.
A vet advised me to give my cat at this age plain busicuits mainly and some wet food-so long as additives were minimal.
It's probably just a phase and your cat should grow out of it-if not, then talk to your vet.
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Hey guys, I am a freshman in college without a license. Before you give me grief, I did try for it twice, it's not like I'm not trying at all. The thing is; I can parallel park anywhere, there is a place at my local mall that is perfect practice that I can nail, I can do it in front of my house in between two cones.. but when I get in the car with the man, I fail the parallel parking. I can never get inside the barrels far enough. I think I get too nervous and I don't know how to stop that because I NEED my license. Long story short, the college I go to is pushing all returning students to live in off campus apartments or suites on campus which is so much more money that the traditional hall I am living in now. So, I want to get my license and commute.
So, this question is, I guess, asking how I can calm my nerves and pass next time? You'd think I would know what to expect and wouldn't get nervous again but I still have. How can I just get in the car with the man, do everything up to par and pass so I can have my license? Because this is just getting ridiculous now. Thanks.
The advice below kinda lives up to it's name: 'silly'.
Practice does make perfect but if you're particulary anxious then no amount of practice will help-you need to calm your nerves.
Their's things like chamomile tea you can take on the day of the exam-thats good for claming nerves, and try to avioud stimulants like coffee and chocolate.
Also, try not to blow it out of proportion. It's a bit like exams to get into uni, their soooo crucial, but you can't think about that at the time!
Do a kind of mini-CBT therapy on yourself-like write down the thoughts you have, such as:
I'm not going to pass again
And then write the rational equivalent, such as:
I know what to do, so theres no reason why I shouldn't pass the test this time.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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Well I'm 12 turning 13 in a few months anyway my boobs are quit big for my age its not huge its a nice size but anyway my mom had breastcancer and so did her mom or they had a lump or something well my boobs are really sore if I touch it and its very sore!! Please help! Is this cancer?
During the pubecent years (which you by the way are in) the breast tissue grows and changes itself, to prepare for breatfeeding when motherhood occurs. That's why their sore :)
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14/f
So I posted a question awhile back asking if what my uncle was doing was weird or not normal. Here's a link to the question so I don't have to repeat stuff:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=606498
Anyways, since then, I've visited them 2 more times for thanksgiving and for new years. My uncle has been bugging me if I have a boyfriend too. He takes me phone and looks at all my contacts and the people I text. Personally, I think he's just trying to bug me, but I don't want to leave anything out.
2 more things happened during those trips besides what I talked about in my previous question. First, I was at a different cousin's birthday party and he stuck some trash in my back pocket. And so I was in this mind set that he was just being a normal uncle messing around, so I put it back in his pocket. He chased me around to try to give it back to me and shoved it down the front of my shirt. Of course, both times he touched my butt and my boobs, but I tried to ignore it. The last night I was there, I went down to the basement of the house I was staying in so I could spend some time with my cousins. They were down there with all my uncles watching a movie and the only open spot was by that uncle. I sat down and tried to relax. Later, most of my cousins left and eventually it ended up being that uncle's sons and my brother playing and my uncle on the couch by me. He slipped his arm around my waist while we were sitting there. and as I tried to move away a little, his hand ended up in the back of my sweatshirt. He just left it there, as my aunt came down and sat on his other side and kissed him. And he even told her that he hadn't been drinking. And the next thing I know, his hand was in my underwear. He didn't touch any where near down there, but he kind of just left his hand on my butt cheek. I felt really weird, and he tried asking me something about being curious (I don't really remember). I felt so violated that I got up and left. He followed me upstairs but I ran and hid in a bedroom for the rest of the night and avoided him.
I've been trying to rationalize how this isn't weird, but I know it was enough to make me feel uncomfortable. I was shaking for the rest of the night and I get these moments where I remember it and I feel like crap. It just made me feel so low and disgusting. I just don't know what's going on. I hope I'm not making something out of nothing, but this really bothered me and it still does. I'm not a very emotionally stable person. I used to have problems with depression and an eating disorder and I got over it by myself. But now I'm starting to slip back into a depressive state when I remember that night. I want to talk to somebody about it, but I can't bring myself to tell my parents what happened. It's just not fair to anybody. I'm just torn.
Well without knowing your uncle personally it's very hard for people on here to know how to help. All I can advice is you talk to a parent about it? Personally that would've been my first step.
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hi, you answered my question before about going into a relationship with someone with depression.
i like this guy so much it hurts me that he doesnt want to go into a relationship because of his depression. as some one with depression - how do you think i should approach it? any tips for me? - things i should be weary of? anything will help :)
So I think you need to firstly respect how he feels. Unless you've had depression, it's very hard to explain what it's like.
The things I guess you need to be aware of is that depression is like an illness, it wasn't wanted or caused in anyway by the person who has it.
Perhaps he wants to get better before he can commit to a relationship?
Either way, depression can be really serious, and just like any other physical illness sometimes you gotta put that and it's recovery before anything else. If I were you and you wanted to be a true friend, you'd respect his desion and leave it alone for now-as part of the recovery process he just needs friendship for the time being.
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Hi, I'm a 14/male in high school (UK). Now, I don't think I really fit in, I have friends but they aren't good friends at ALL. To be honest, I wouldn't even class them as my friends. I want to get home schooled and really don't want to go back. My parents have finally (kind of) come round to the idea but they want me to go back on Tuesday and I really don't want to so I said I'm not going. I don't want to cause trouble for him but I just can't cope at school I don't know why. Don't fit in and stuff I guess, I want time to sort my appearance out and try to boost my confidence which is really low right now. Should I go ahead? The way I think of it is:
Option A) Go to school, stay with no confidence, stay with bad friends, no social life but get a few more GCSEs.
Option B) Home educated, try build confidence, away from 'friends' but a few less GCSEs and no social life.
I really am willing to try and sort my life out, but I just can't go on there. What would you do?
Hi,
I think the first thing to remember is that you're not enjoying school, and you have a lack of confidence (possibly due to bullying?)
Anyway, most fourteen years olds, yself included, suffered from a severe lack of confidence at high school. I'm 17 now, and trust me it gets better.
In my mind, everyone gets bullied/or has low self esteem, so you needn't think it's just you. It's how you deal with it that counts.
Honestly, without knowing you I do think it's best to stay in school, because if you get homeschooled then you'll be on your own, so you're not putting you'reself out there at all, which could turn you into a recluse, which is harder to get away from.
No matter how much you don't like it, just by turning up you're giving yourself opportunities-the opportunity to talk to people, to socialise, to jsut experience a normal schooling career.
I know someone who was homeschooled, and with no disrespect to the advice giver below, they're miserable. They say the only people in their lives was their family, and now they're in maintream college, they still've got no one.
I'm the most shy person, and yeh I'm the same as you. But you have to consider this, Would you rather sacrifice being totally unhappy and slightly lonely during your teenage years, just for a few weeks of freedom from incondfidence?
And also, you need to work on socialising outside school, because once you've left school you'll realise it isn't just about education, it's the skills you develop outide, such as joining an interest group and achieving goals, that will secure you're happiness in the future I think.
Obviously we can only give you advice on here, and what you do is down to your final desision, so its important that it is that and you let no one-parents, friends, teachers choose for you.
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My parents say I'm too young to have a Facebook while all kids my age already have one? Should I be embarrassed?
Yeh, as the user below said, 13 is the limit, so your parents have a point and you need to listen to them-if you're under 13.
My parents didn't ever want me to get it, so I didn't tell them for a year, untill it came out in an argument-when I was 16.
I actually prepared a list of arguments to have it, one was that I'd be leaving school soon and would miss everyone so it's a good way to keep in touch. Another was that when everyone else has it, you can't really join in with conversations because you havn't got it, so you feel left out.
Also, that the security settings on facebook are really high, and that if people had problems why would everyone still have it?
About the embarrased thing-theres nothing to be embarrassed about! If you really arn't allowed an account yet then that's not down to you, so don't feel embarrassed.
Incidently, the age limit for this website is 13 as well, so if you're under 13 you kinda shouldn't be using this side either.
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I am 16 and i want to start exercising to build muscles. I am a twig and want a more in shape body. Plus I want to be healthier. Is there a way to exercise and not loose weight and gain muscle for a younger person. I am not super athletic so a little bit easier stuff please. thanks in advance!
Hi,
I'm 17 and am in the same position as you.
There are lots of really good videos on youtube to help you, with workouts designed for particular parts of the body.
If you're anything like me, you'll hate being told 'oh but you don't need to gain wait' and 'you're so lucky you're thin'.
But in my opinion I think it's harder to put weight on than it is for people to take it off!
So I guess you need to do what I did. I started with the part of my body which I felt I could improve the most quickly-so then that'd spur me on to do the rest of the body! I did simple lunges, squats and step ups to music, which focuses weight gain on my bum and thigh area.
They key is though to continue to eat healthily, and eat 'high calorie' and 'good fats', such as nuts, dairy products, eggs etc.
If you want to put the weight on it doesn't matter if you've got a high metabolism (athletic) or not-we all have to try as hard as each other. But once you start seeing improvements, you'll want to continue.
Good luck
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Over the past year I have developed some unusual ways of thinking and behavior that I have no idea how to handle. I have become more and more socially withdrawn. I never leave my house, and rarely get out of bed. My fiancé has been trying to get me to be more active socially and physically, but I somehow always end up staying home. This has gone on for over a year and has become worse and worse as each day passes. It's not that I'm scared to leave my house, I just don't want to deal with people, and I am paranoid that everywhere I go people are watching me, talking about me, and judging me. Next, I have become very unorganized. I used to be a complete control freak and now I have piles and piles of clothes everywhere, dirty dishes, food wrappers etc, and I have no interest in cleaning because I know where everything is. Next (This scares my fiancé the most) I have become very paranoid and scared about demons. I think they are out to get me. I somehow convince myself that when I open the door to my room, or the shower curtain, or when I look in the mirror a demon will appear and try to hurt me. I constantly think about this and it keeps me from getting out of bed, getting out of the shower, and looking in the mirror. When I lie in bed at night and close my eyes, I always feel like a demon is hovering over me. Or when I am home alone, I feel like they follow me around and end up running everywhere I go. The fear is paralyzing. Next, I have trouble concentrating and communicating with my fiancé and family because my head is so cluttered with thoughts. There's always a million different thoughts going on at once, some I can make out, some I cannot. Some are whispered thoughts, and some are screaming thoughts that won't go away. They all have different tones of voices, some more aggressive than others. I don't know if I am making any sense. This is my most recent symptom, and it's keeping me from falling asleep. These symptoms are starting to ruin my life and I don't know what to think of them. I know they are not normal. What do you think it is, and what are some steps I can take in dealing with this?
It sounds like your expereincing some positive symptoms of schizophrenia.
I'm not a doctor, but I know that you need to speak to one.
There are 5 different types of schizophrenia, you're clearly demonstrating symptoms of the disorganised and/or paranoid type.
Schizophrenia affects about 1% of the population, and it's onset can be accute (develops quickly) or chronic.
Like I said, I AM NOT making any diagnosis here, I'm just saying my opinion, and my advice is to speak to a doctor who can get you referred to the right person.
Good luck
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So I am a junior in high school but I feel really unprepared for senior year, when college apps start. My dream school is any Ivy League school in the East because I wanna be away from home, but I think I have a less likely chance of getting admitted because I have bad grades and I'm below the GPA average (I have a 3.0). I failed my SAT, which makes me frustrated and I hate the Critical Reading section, but I'm retaking again in February (hoping I get at least a 2100).
Any suggestions to help so I can make my college apps look "better" when it is my turn to apply? And I need leadership, so any suggestions on that?
Hi,
I'm form England, but I'm guessing you're talking about university?
If not ignore this!
So I have just applied to uni as well, and here are my top tips to make your application stand out:
1) For the course you want to do, try to volunteer in that field of work, if you arn't doing already.
2) Try to show an interest in your course, by doing extra curricular work like blogging about it or reading about it.
3) Centaintly in Britain, it was announced that the two things uni's think students lack is cultural awareness and independance. Why not do some charity work? That's what I did and it worked. Also, it'll make you stand out, because not many kids do charity work as it doesn't pay. But that's what you need to do if it means you stand out!
As for your leadership question, try Girl Guides. You don't HAVE to be a guide to lead, but then again you can't just swan in and ask to lead.
If you ask to volunteer at your local centre, even if it's just making tea for a few weeks untill you fit in, eventually you'll be running meetings and this will make you stand out. It's also a great way to gain new frineds.
The key for all these courses to be honest is experience, plus abit of effort. If you want the amazing CV or application, then your gonna have to really put some effort it!
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Hi,
Im a 28 year old female. I dont have any friends & I've never had a boyfriend.
I have been looking for work for the last year, always go to interviews but never get the position.
When I do go out I can never hold a conversation & normally just sit there & listen to everyone else.
I am so lonely & just want to find a husband who love me & respect me.
People who I went to school with are all married and have kids while I live at home.
All I have is my family who I love dearly but just need a man or a friend.
Im a really nice person, Im just really lonely & dont know what to do.
I really think you want to do things the wrong way around.
Put bluntly, I doubt you'll attract guys if you yourself don't feel theres much in your life.
I volunteer about 10 hours a week, and sure thats one way to get friends, but crucuially to make you more interesting and have something to chat about with people.
Aim for getting friends first and following your career goals, then the man normally follows naturally with that.
You need to assess why you're lonely. Commonly with nice people like yourself, they're lonely because they don't get respect from others. Being nice is good, but sometimes can seem fake, as not everyone is top notch 100% of the time. SO you need to win peoples respect-sometimes it's ok to be a bit hacked off with people publicly, at least it shows your just like them!
If you try to forget about the man part, and find other areas in your life that make you happy, a guy will turn up when least expected.
Remember, there are always charities out there who help lonely people-your not as alone as it may seem.
Good luck
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I don't know what's happening to me... It takes me forever to go to sleep nowadays. I'll just lie in bed at night for hours, thinking about him, his smile, thinking back on great memories we've shared, picturing him and I napping in the shade with my head on his chest, imagine us slow dancing, imagining him kissing me, etc. I keep listening to love songs, daydreaming, grinning. There's this constant swelling feeling in my chest, it's kinda weird, but I don't really mind it. When I daydream about him, the swelling feeling is almost overwhelming. He's the first thing that pops into my head when I wake up in the morning, and the thing depriving me of sleep at night. It's driving me insane! Are these things common? More importantly, am I crazy? I don't wanna be a crazy-stalker-lady. Please halp! ;A;
Well, did you know that if you have a crush on someone that lasts for 4 months or longer they reckon your in love with that person?
It sounds like an intense crush, and perhaps you are in love with the person-but you just don't love them yet (they are different after all)
I experience this too, and I guess it's fun fantasising. The trouble is, if you guys are actually going to be an item, you need to stop fantasising for fear of dissapointment.
As long as it doesn't take over your life and any rational thought you have, then I suppose theres not harm with a bit of fantasising.
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hello internet im 13f and i have cut myself almost everyday scince i turned 11.i am coated in scars head to toe littereally and tommorow i start gym class we have to wear shorts and a tee shirt.I am not excited and am very worried about it and sad i have to do it in face i just cut pretty deep on my calf and 3 0r 4 cuts on my wrist i ussually cut in 3 bouts a day before school sometimes during if its a hard day as soon as i get home and ussually before bed.they are deep and take a ery long time to heal.i ahve depression and anxiety and im going to a phyciatrist.i am ery worried about school and gym and have terrible anxiety dreams every night.in the dreams i drop a razor blade from my pockeet in class and it is found.these scare me really badly and they rule my life.i get depressed easily too and do get suicidal.last year in gym class one of my fresher cuts showed and people mad efun of me untill i tried to kill myself and i am bullied in school.i start to not enjoy anything for fear and i do sometimes wish i could end it would it be easier?idek please help me
Yeh, firstly you need to tell your psychiatrist about this.
Secondly, you need to understand you're not alone. Many teenagers have anxiety (myself included) and many recover.
What you need to do is say 'yes i've got this, but it's not going to control me and I'll never let it define me'.
At the moment, you're letting these illnesses control your life.
Before you can continue you need to speak to someone about this now, because there are ppl out there to help and to listen.
As a lady on the anxiety hotline number told me, nothing lasts for ever, and believe me with abit of motivation this stage of your life will be a long lost memory.
What you're experiecning is a horrible feelings, but these feelings are harmless-anxiety in particular is just there to protect you. You're 13, and have got a whole life ahead of you, and ppl with anxiety are very high achievers.
Good luck & I'm sure this horrible period will pass
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^ exactly that -
need to revise - So deathly boring i can't.
Need good tips guys... Cheers :D
Hiya,
Aww I was you two years ago, and needed a B to get into college so had to pull myself up.
Here are my little tips:
1) Make revision cards. Write questions on them with number (1) (2) etc on it as well, and write the corresponding answer on a seperate piece of paper. That way not only can anyone test you despite not knowing the subject, but also you can mix it up and test yourself on a bit about photosynthesis here and abit about idk...graphs there, by pulling question out fo a hat, if you get me?
2) Also, don't revise for too long!
3) Check out websites like Bitesize as well as Youtube, they usually have videos to watch and then jsut like make notes form the videos
4) Don't learn all the revision guide. It's scary then because it makes it seem like theres loads to learn and you get stressed. Learn every tpoic but try to make it as minimal as possible, using the reviosn guide as a kind of checklist.
5)You could check out revision quizzes online
6) Spend the mot time on the one you don't like the most. For example, if you've gotta learn about air resistance in Physics and it's all complicated, force yourself to do that first. Like make a checklist of the stuff you hate. And work your way through it. Once you've learnt the boring/tricky stuff, you'll have proven to yourself that it wasn't so bad and that'll spur you on to do the rest.
Good luck :)
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So my best friend and I are talking she says she thinks I come over too much which i barely do anymore. she wont answer me at all. and her mom and dad hate me and say i maniupulate her. my other bff is her sister and bff 1 says oh you cant come over anymore, so i tell bff 2 sorry we cant see eachother again. i said im going to be homeschooled anyways so we cant see eachother at school and then she starts saying "oh youre so stupid, stupid reason for being homeschooled blah blah bllah. I say you dont even know why u are so ignorant then she flips out because she doesnt realise what the word ignorant means...Then shes says...its unfair because your life isnt bad and blah blah complain complain. he sister bff 2 gets involved of course and says crap like stop being so dramatic everyone hates you. It really makes me upset and i have anxiety and depression problems and start panicking and all that. they are so mean to me but its so hard to let go, I just cant! they are like my only friends!Help Please!!!!!
In all honesty this sounds like a typical row that friends experience from time to time.
Just like a relationship, true friends will never get on 100% of the time, so my solution is to stay apart from these for a while.
I understand it's hard to let go, but recently I became astranged from my group of friends, because I realised we didn't have much in common anymore. It's hard to do, and you do feel alone. But it's all about confidence.
If you stick with people because otherwise you'll be lonely, then you're in it for the wrong reasons, and as soon as they've found someone else to hang out with they will. The danger then is that they become closer to that person, and you kind of get edged out.
What I'm saying is make a fresh start. You need to establish what she meant by 'everyone hates you'. Was it something you did? Can it be changed? Obviously this girl can't speak for everyone, and I'm sure this comment is out of proportion.
I struggle with anxiety issues to, but a good place to begin is to realise that sometimes it's okay to be alone. Too many people huddle together, and put them alone and they panick. But if you can prove that your actually okay on your own and your not dependant on others, people will respect you more, as you'll seem confident, which it sounds to me you lack.
You don't have to stand for this, and just think if this was a bf-gf relationship and this was happening, most people would be telling you to break it up. So you should with this, before people try to control you.
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Would like to know how tell if a girl is attracted to you or interested in you.
It depends on the type of girl.
Confident, and she'll always talk to you, make jokes, tease you and touch you slightly (on the shoulder etc)
Shy, and she'll totally try not to make it obvious. So when she sees you, she'll make a point of looking away, and maybe smile at the floor.As soon as eye contact is made she'll break it all of a sudden, and then you'll know.
Of course there are unconsious signs to, such as a girl will play with her hair in your presence, touch her face alot, have her feet pointing in your direction when you're there and if her legs are crossed, if say you're sat on the left, and the right leg is on top, this shows she's open to you.
Also, pupils may dilate, and finally she may play with any jewelry, like rings/ necklaces.
Hope this helps :)
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okay so this isnt really a sex question but when I had a bf, I got REALLY wet just making out! I want it to stop. I know some people say its a good thing andgys like it but I dont. I have tried pantyliner's and It doesnt work to provent it. This is really embarrassing but I get wet through my pants and I want it to stop. Please help if there is anyway! Thanks in advance. Oh and I am only 16 and have only made out and it was that bad just doing that. thanks again
I totally know how it feels, and also I get how
embarrasing it actually is!
Unfortunatly, because it's natural there's not much you can do about it.
Perhaps drinking less water could help.
Also, be sure to wear pantyliners when you'll be sitting down on hard chairs for a while (eg: exams) so the wet doesn't show through.
Yeh it can be hard, but there are alot more ladies out there than you think that alsohave the same problem, and from what I understand it's much worse to be the other way round.
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I'd like to be alone most of the time because I find hard dealing with people at first. I always feel awkwardness and feel bad for being not "into" people. But whenever I am alone, I feel I am a loner and a pity to everyone. Wth teh thoughts of they might think that I have no friends or whatsoever.. What to doooo :( Ive been reading my astrology reading and believes that those are real because I relate to them. It is the only thing I can rely on that I am still doing fine with this attitude. I am an aquarian/february/female/20yo.
You need to answer for yourself this question:
Are you an introvert or are you an extravert?
If you answer introvert, then you need to remember that we live in a society where it's not ok to be introverted, so many people pretend to be extraverted just to fit in.
What I'm saying is, some people are content being alone, and thats just their predisposition-it can not be changed.
If you want to change and get help 'dealing with people', there are plenty of websites out their to help you.
But you need to be true to who you are. I've met many people who are not people people! And the crucial thing is, they're happy. Also, don't pre-cognate what people may be thinking.
Untill you have hard facts you can't act on their thoughts, so it's a waste of time.
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