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I want to check my friends AIM because I want to see if she's friends with someone I don't like. [ she won't tell me if she is or not ] and I know her password, and I just want to log on really quick, and then sign off and not go on it anymore. And I know her password and everything, I'm just afraid that if I go on it, someone'll IM me and I'll have to talk to them and they'll mention it to her and she'll find out and get mad. Is there anyway I can do it without her knowing? Like, is there a way I can sign onto her name while she's online? Or will AIM like, send her a notice or something that's she on at 2 places at once. Help? (link)

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i understand why she hasnt told you its none of your business she can be friends with who ever she wants my friends are friends with people i dont like get over it.and thats a violation of privacy right there in fact if i knew your friends email id tell her to change her password because she obviously cant trust you


my boyfreind recently told me he still kindof liked his ex..
and i asked him but do you like her like that?
and he said kindof
what do i do?
im balling.


i seriously think we could get married.
and hes like my soulmate..
PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
if its truly meant to be as you say then it will maybe just further down the line if hes likeing someone else let him go off and be with her because he doesnt want to be with you and more then likely doesnt feel the same way about you which isnt fair.


I have been with my partner for over 4 years and have known deep down he has a problem. He is a compulsive liar. It is scary to think about he has lied to me about but I still stick with him through thick and thin. He has lied about having a twin brother, he has lied about his brother having HIV, he has lied about his grandparents dying, he has stolen thousands of pounds from me and tried to lie to get his way out of that too. He has lied about so many things I dont know what is true anymore. I want to help him but feel I dont know how much longer I can take being like this. I do love him and want to help him but dont know how. Every time I try to talk to him about things he looses it and end up beating me up or trashing our flat. He has said he has seen councellors but they haven't helped. Being in the UK, I don't know who to turn to for help? Or should I just get the hell out of here? But how if I live with him? It's just so complicated! (link)
if counselers havnt helped. maybe hes not truly willing to change in that case say good bye


I can't trust people. I have had a weird experience growing up, and I find it very difficult to trust people. It seems like everyone I get close to and trust hurts me very badly in the end. But lately it has been catching up to me and actually preventing friendships, because it hurts people's feelings when I don't trust them. My boyfriend tells me how much he cares about me and how he loves me, but I just don't believe it. I don't think he is lying, but I just can't trust him. What can I do to work on this? (link)
its good to be critical. just dont be open about if you dont have to be. in order to avoid hurt feelings.


ya i really want a ipod soo bad and my parents said that if i want one i have to buy it myself.. and my friends are sayin that they got their ipods free online with no scams and every site i go to where it says free ipod its always a scam i either have to buy and offer or take a long ass survay and its soo annoying but i want one so bad soo please does anyone know a real non scam site where i just put in my address and name and get a free nano ipod?? (link)
whats wrong with the survey why dont your friends show you how they did it if they really got one free


hey . like i just got my period june 23ish and ive only had it like once. is that normal or weird?
and my friend kimmy said she only had it once.
do i really have it . (link)
if your bleeding you have it its normal to have irregular periods when you first begin


theres this one guy i like
he tells me he loves me and that wont ever change and that he's so happy he talks to me and he wants to hold me and kiss me
so obviously he likes me too
but when i go to his myspace all these girls comment him
saying i love you
and like text me later
and he says i love you back and comments there pictures saying cute and everything
i text him all the time too and i wasted all my 500 texts in like a week on him!!!!
and also my best firned started talking to him before i did and like he tells her he loves her too and i know its not a friend kind of love
and i dont know what to do!!!!
cause i really like the him but hes suck a little player/manwhore
i wanna talk to him
but i dont know that to say
someone help me!!!
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he doesnt love you. lose him before he uses you. your just another little puppet hanging on his string so cut it and be free


i think im fat.
i got my phisical like a week ago
and im 62 inches and i weighed 104 .
i think i gained like a pound or maybe lost idk.
but is that fat for me
tell the truth ♥ (link)
your not fat. thats a normal weight to be at.dead serious would not lie to you for anything


I love to fight, I love the adreniline rush and the pain thrills me, so heres the deal, Onn my hockey team we do these things called cage boxing matches which is basicly just boxing. The thing is, everyone on my team is pretty much afraid to face me. I even agreed to one where the kid could use a knife but he wussed out. so any ideas on how i can convince people to face me? (link)
become a pro wrestler


Hi there. This is the first time asking advice like this. First let me start by saying. I am a 31 years old man.

now for my problem.

I have been with the same woman for 12-13 years. we have had 2 children together, one of whom passed away last year and the other that was just born this year. Lately we've been going throughsome rough times. She has been playing with my emotions. A virtual rollercoaster ride. One day i try to cuddle get intimate, and she'll say "We shouldn't do this" the next she's kissing me pationately. The problem i have, is that i have feelings for her how ever dwindled that they are, while exhibiting feelings for another woman. One who has captivated me over the last few weeks.

My issue is i don't feel that the relationship i am in is going anywhere. but with my new born baby i am kind of in a bind. thus my title. I am torn between 2 loves. Or three if you add in my newborn.

please help me figure out what i should do.

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doesnt it seem odd that after 12 years youve realized its not going any where.your not torn between two loves. youve only known the other woman for a few weeks. the real problem is the death of your child. why dont you consider how its affecting your wife.do your self a favor seek family counseling. this other woman is more then likely just something you see as an escape out of a problem your not sure how to resolve. show alittle respect for yourself and family


Uhm,ok this is random advice, what do you guys think about it?

Even though It is normal for guys [and girls :s] to like porn, it doesn't necessaraly mean that it's right. Think of it this way, in Gods eyes does he think it would be correct to do something sinful, even though you have the total conscience and controle over your hormones.

Think. (link)
everyones not a christian. not that theres anything wrong with being one and this following answer is not meant to offend anyone.
its wrong to hide behind the bible and use god as if he/she/it was some form of panic button to prove your point.


Might be stupid, but I need help.
I'm 14 years old, going into 8th grade and there's this really cute boy.
I've told my mom, because it kinda slipped out...somethimg like that.
First of all, I thought this guy likes me because he once talked to me and more things in the past when I didn't notice him even!
Now I do, and I majorly like him. He's the perfect guy. I call him, and he's annoyed...is this a sign he doesn't really like me? Should I just forget it and find someone else?

-Any info helps...thanks (link)

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you might really like him but if you come on to strong it might send him running. its not worth it if he doesnt feeel the same way






i think you should lay low dont pay attention to him if he likes you it will come out later. forget about him for now. dont appear desperate


Hi,

I recently bought some clothes from the Hollister at my mall. I am a 17 year old boy and think the clothes are nice.

When I got home and showed my 13 year old brother the clothes I got (a polo and a sweatshirt) he started screaming at me and said that only posers and gays were Hollister.

I know quite a few people don't like Hollister and quite a few people do.

I am wondering what people think of boys who wear Hollister? (link)
there just clothes and you can wear what ever you want and if someone has a problem with it tuff you know who you are and who you arent. if you like the clothes wear them.


Back when I was a senior in highschool I was really unpopular and I had a crush on one of the most popular guys. He knew I liked him but because of his popularity he never asked me out (but I suspect he DID like me). This is because I caught him checking me out at the prom when I was all dressed up and he used to sneak looks at me in our english class. At the time he was dating a very popular girl in the class. Well I just had my ten year highschool reunion and hadnt seen him since higschool. He is married now. Although he never talked to me I kept catching him staring at me. Do you think he may still like me? (link)
hes married back off


well my "friends" Audrey and Emily got involved with a teacher harrasing them and he only said he wants to have sex with me. Well this guy Nelson told everyone about the harasing thing and some a couple of people came up to me and asked me if I got harrased and i said "He just said some things to me but it was mostly Audrey and Emily" but the people are telling my friends that i spread the thing about the teacher and they are saying i said I was the one mostly involved but i didnt say that. so now all my friends think i am a liar and stuff but i didnt lie. and they wont believe me, and they dont want to talk to me..
How can i make them believe me? i basically have no one to hang out with at lunch now because theyre accusing me of something i didnt do. i even told them that if they were my true friends they would believe me and theyre like "We just dont believe you"
please help me... (link)
ok your not the problem the teacher is and he needs to be repremanded so turn this punk in. your friends are probably just freaked out and feel uncomfortable.they'll come around just stick to the truth.


i have to go to the doctors tomorrow, and they always make me pee in a cup, what do they find out from your pee? (link)
drugs alot of times.


I'm obsessed whith a boy who doesn't even like me anymore. He and i used to like eachother and we hung out everyday, talked on tha phone and stuff. But now we hang out like once every 3 days, & rairly talk on the phone. I try calling him but he always says "oh i have to do this i'll call you later" but he doesn't call. So then i'll start to think maybe i'm annoying him i should just give him some space, so i won't call him but then he calls me and asks me to hang out but i'm busy with someone else. and so the other day i was like wow we never talk anymore and he said oh it's cause your too busy for me..& so now all i want to do is sit at home and wait for him to call because i really really like him.but now i'm wasteing my summer waiting for him to call. please someone help me not be so obsessed because i know he doesnt like me as much as i like him and i just want to know what i should do? (link)
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i think hes just playing a game because he likes the attention. ok, forget about him.if he wants to talk to you that bad let him make time and call you if he doesnt oh well. dont be the female dog. he likes seeing you pathetic because he gets an ego boost. you seem like a caring person and should find people who are equally caring.face it hes not worthy.


If yoou aint in that many of ya good friends' classes in high school does that mean you wont be friends? (link)
no. during highschool i was hardly ever in my friends classes and ive graduatd and still have the same friends and then some. you can still talk on the phone and hang out.


I need to lose weight. I need a pratical diet that I can go on that doesn't include special diet pills or insanely expesnive food.
I'm already working out 3 hours every other day, I just need to correct my diet.

Help out please? Thanks (link)
ill tell you something. you really shouldnt work out until you lostt the weight because youll build muscle and it will beharder to drop the weight. try smart ones tv dinner (weight watchers). or just eat when your hungry or eat healthier food like salad or smaller portions of what your already eating. celery helps burn fat so does lettuce. im not saying only eat lettuce and celery but work it in to your diet


What exactly is OCD, and how do you know if you have it? (link)
obbsessive compulsive disorder.
there are diffrent forms.
consult a physician or just look it up in search engine to find out more about it




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