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I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.
And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.
What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her.
ok, tell her seriously, i don't like you stealing my jokes and treating me like im invisible. tell her straight up and if two days later she starts doing it again, then tell her u can't be friends with someone who doesn't complete her promises. good luk...
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im 14/female. i used to have this really good friend. we could talk about anything. he was like my big brother. well lately (in the past few months) we've grown apart so much. we can't talk to each other about anything and i get mad at him over little things. i don't know why our relationship is changing so much. i miss how things used to be. any ideas why things are happening like this? any advice on what i should do?
well, sometimes you grow out of things. like my friend who used to be my best friend. we were so close but when i moved and made new friends ( five times), i just didn't feel comfotable around her. it's normal. happens to everyone. so don't worry...
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hi im elle. im 13. Heres where i need advice...my mom doesnt know how to control my brothers. at all. so they are insane. all the time. she constantly blames it on me. "well its because youre not the perfect sister!" im a good student. im know im not perfect. but she could at least treat me with more respect. she grounds me all the time. and my brothers run wild. they are constantly fighting and everytime she hears them fight she goes "elle what did you do?" wtf? thats not right. and my dad has the worst temper ever and always fights with her. we're poor and i can never do anything. they dont trust me. its like i dont even exist to them. and they do some really bad stuff. i mean like drugs. i just want to know what i should do. i have a hard time talking to them just because everytime they ever talk to me in private its bad news. always. so what should i do to make my life better?
thanks.
dear elle,
it's important that u don't blame urself cuz my family is messed up too. but the only reason ur mom blames everything on you is because she thinks that u r the only 1 she can control. try not to come in contact with them. but if u think it's best to talk to them, then try to get them 2gether and talk about what's going on. sometimes that's what i do. hope i helped...
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-does he like me or does he like herr???
---is it me or is it her...or am i really her?
(sry i know this is long n confusing)
ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx
P.S. also...i asked him the other night on-line what this girls name is and he said "marissa" and i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..and when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again
im soo sorry to ask u dis but what ws ur question? i mean, if the quest. was hot to tell him how to ask out a grl, then tell him to describe her. personality, dislikes/likes, etc. and if he doesnt know those things about her, then he needs to get to know her a little more. just tell him to go up to her and talk about n e thing, and then say, what do u think of guyz like me? if that wsnbt da quest. then send me an email at crazyflirty@yahoo.com and ill answer u sap. thanx for askin...
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should I be proud of what i am?
dont pay attention to erinsugar-- look, i think u should definate;ly be proud. ur not the only one in this world dat is gay.
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Ok well I like this guy, whose name is Frankie. Frankie is a total skater dude, and I’m well... kinda preppy. The only reason I’ve really talked to him is cause he sat by me in a couple of my classes. When I talked to him he was really nice.. and sweet. I finally realized I liked him. I really don’t know if he likes me because he's so different from guys I normally like.. And so different from me. Anyway we had this little inside joke thing where we always like wave to each other outside of this one class we have 2gether... and yea.. He always smiles and waves when he sees me and he is so nice. I mean from what I can tell I barely know him though... it really stinks. Yesterday he switched some classes and now I have no classes with him... I’m really upset. It ruint my whole day yesterday anyway.. I really want to talk to him and just get to know him better. But there are some problems... I’m pretty outgoing but I can be really shy around guys and stuff.... Frankie is totally different from me, and a skater dude... most of his friends totally hate me.... And most of my friends don’t really know him (and I wont tell them who he is)... and I have no classes with him. He still waves to me though. I need advice on how to like talk to Frankie and like really have a conversation with him or just play around. I’m pretty creative, but with all the problems I dunno what 2 do.... And I’m just not very bold when it comes to guys... please help me find a way to talk to Frankie! (PS. in case it helps, I'm 13)
dear preppy grl(no offense),
wow. at least you had the guts to talk to 'frankie'.u said u were creative, which is a total plus. use that creativity to talk to him. if he's a total sk8er, then think of sumtin. go online and research tricks that sk8ers do. the next day, go up to him and ask him, have u ever done this trick before. just try to make conversation with him. or simply when u see him waving at u, tell him to go over there where u are and talk to him. at least to hang out. good luk and im here for u.
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okay i have a problem.... i cut myself... and i dont know how to stop.. its just that i get all jittery and the room spins but as soon as i cut myself i feel normal again and i get a major high off of it.... i want to stop because i know that someone is going to find out and than my life wil be over... so i guess my question is how do i stop without my friends or family ever finding out???
ok, i dont want to sound all crappy and cheesy, but u should go to a program. i mean it. if u dont do it, sum1 would probably do it 4 u. they wont laugh at you or make fun of u because they had or have the same problem u do. good luk.
there is this boy in my class and he is like the most popular in the grade/skool....i like him alot cuz hes a gentleman,nice and funny. i am the tallest one in my grade and im like a couple of inches taller than him. i want to go out wiht him...but i dunno kno how its gonna work. He like trys to make me laugh andstuff but im shy when i like someone and i am around them. I think to mayself mayb i have a chance with him then i c all the other popular girls hanging around with me. How can i get him to ask me out and like me w/ my height?(plz give me ur TRUE & BEST opinion)(i hate when u say "he has to accpet u the way u are")(ps..i am not the most popular person but i am wellknown and nice to evryone therefore im not unpopluar but im not really really popluar)
THanKz...sry its long
wow. well, the best and honest opinion, go up to him, make eye contact and flirt. yea, i know it's hard but that way, if he flirts back, u can try to make ur move. im shy too so i know how u feel. catch him when he's alone, or try talking to him whenever u can. good luk...
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Ok well so far in school im failing ALL my classes except 1. Im in 10th grade and I just switched school. You have to turn in a PERFECT PAPER. And if you get 1 thing wrong you have a F. And if you miss 3 things you get a F. Its hard. So I feel like im going to fail this year. I miss school on the days I have tests on accident. Like i know im going to have tests but I get sick. I like taking tests because it keeps my grade up. And my friends arnt helpng they keep saying Im going to fail. Like im missing 14 assignments in math. So of course I have a F! I just cant handle all of this stuff. Its too hard and It gets me thinking of how I passed 9th grade at my old school. What should I do? How can I keep up my grades and do all my work?
i know EXACTLY how u feel. i hav been missing all my tests too cuz ive been getting sick. well, go up to ur teachers and tell them if u can either make all the stuff up, or if u can do sum extra credit.good luk...
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IS there a healthy way to gain weight? If way can anybody give me advice. Im not looking for any diet drinks or anything just somthing I can do! Please Help! Thnkx in Advance
well, eat more than what u usually eat. for example, if u eat cereal for breakfats, then eat cereal and maybe an egg, or a bagel. eating more but in a healthy way is a good way to gain weight.hope i helped...
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May 17, 2004, ((st. patricks day)) one of my best friends committed suicide. She was 13 years old. She was born on September 11, 1990. Her name was Alyssa, and she was walking to school late and she was walking on the tracks. She heard the train coming and she turned around, put her hood up, and gave the thumbs up sign to the conductor. He couldn't stop the train. Alyssa got hit and died. A month later the investigators claimed it to be suicide, which everyone already knew. She had tried committing suicide a couple weeks before that, but I had to drag her off the tracks by her hair. I had made her go see the school counselor before that and I guess she still wanted to committ suicide. The night before she was hit, she wrote R.I.P Alyssa on her and her boyfriend's bedroom wall. She killed herself for many reasons, but I only know of how her boyfriend was cheating on her and she was in a gang and family problems. She told me there was more though. I tried so hard to convince her that death wasn't the soulution, but she didn't listen. I did everything I could to help her. Anyway, I know it's long but I thought you needed to know the whole story.
So my problem is, I still haven't been able to cope with it. I cry all the time and nobody seems to understand me. I miss her so much. I've already seen numerous counselors but they haven't helped me much. I just want to know if there's any way that I could start the "healing process" or if it'll just take time. I would appreciate all the help. Thank you so much!
Love, RacheL
((xoRachel))
R.I.P Alyssa Gonzalez.. I miss you so much.
9/11/90 - 3/17/04
well, u have alot of courage for saying all of this and i hope u can get over this. well, instead of remembering the bad painful memories, look bak at the good happy things u guyz did 2 gether. i no that sounds useless, but use my advice. if that doesnt help, well then do the thing that makes u take out stress. music,excersise,etc. n e thing to take that off of ur mind. i hope u can get over this and good luk,
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Well my friend ~B~ was acting really weird today! I mean something is wrong with him!! He didn't give me a hug didn't say hay or nething! I tried to talk to him about what was wrong but he just drove off! My other friend ~K~ said it might be bcuz his stepmom and his dad are gitting back together. But I don't know. Well My Q is how can I figure this out and help him cope w/whatever it is? I tried calling him and everything! Please help!
u have to go 4 it. if he's in the car, get in sum how. if he's at skool, hold him back and talk to him. dont stalk him, but dont make him feel like he cant trust u. ask him whats goin on and be the friend u can be. good luk.
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i have a friend name leon and he is gay he ueses guy for there money and i want him to stop doing it, its not him i know he will not do that, what can i do to stop him.
tell him y he uses the guyz for money. it also depends how old he is. well, good luk with dis situation. i no it wasnt a lot of advice, but thats all i can give 4 now
Ok so here it goes... well I used to go to school at this one school, and then i moved away.....well it has been almost 3 yrs since i moved....and this one guy i used to go to school with just found out my sn from sombody else like 6 days ago and we have been talkin a ton! i mean we are in the whole stage that he loves me a lot and all that stuff like we are going out....were not even going out!.....and well i think he's going to fast, but i dont know how to tell him how i feel...I mean ya i love him a lot too but i still wanna love him in the long run. Things are just going way too fast...well pleaz give me sum tips! I hope i made sence! I love this guy a lot but you know.....thanx in advanced!
well tell him, how are we goin out if we dont liv near eachother. it's not a long distance relationsip f u dont want it to be. tell him over the comp. and if he gets mad, tell him u love him, but he's goin way to fast. if he really luvs u, he'll go slow. good luk...
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when do girls normmaly start puburty? wat grade
usually around the end of elementary skool(4-5th grade. hope i helped.
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I have pretty dark arm hair, and my arms are kinda hairy. How can I make it look a lot less obvious(without completely shaving it off). help! thanks! i rate!
never shve it cuz i tried once and it looked horrible yet clean. just bleach it. but ppl are definately gonna notice
okay well i usually get my period around every 21 days.
i was supposed to get it like 5 days ago but it never came
i know its normal for periods to be irregular at this age but i've had my period for 4 YEARS now.
so why did it skip? what are some possible reasons? help im scared!
and im not pregnant because i never had sex before.
i got the same problem. sumtimes it comes earlier and sumtimes it cums later. sumtimes its even gonna skip a few months. good luk and hope u ive feedbak.lol.
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my friend has an attitude problem. she'll come to school sometimes and be all pissed off and in a bad mood, and the rest of us have to deal with it. but if we give him just a tiny bit of an attitude, she'll get all mad and say we're all ridiculous and have problems. lately it's really been making me mad, and i'm sick of it. anything i can say to make her realize she doing this, and make her stop??
just ask her politely what's been goin on these past few dayz. amybe sumtin is goin on and she wants to talk. or maybe she's just having mood swings. just dont piss her off, ask her the nicest way possible if u want her to listen to u.good luk
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ok see i knew that i would be seeing my boyfriend on friday (last friday) so i didnt eat rly anything all week maybe 3 things..seriously! and i only drank water and see when i saw my boyfriend he said i looked thinner!!...i was happy and i was wondering what are other bad things that'll happen if i keep up what ive been doin?? plz dont say..you'll die or get sick!! it made me feel better about my self cz my stomach wasent as big almost flat
ok, truthfully, u should'nt be starvinn urself 4 ur bf. he should love or like u the way u are. if u want to get skinnier, then eat smaller portions of what u regularly eat and dance to music or sumtin. just don't starve ur self. good luk, and remember what i said about ur bf likeing u the way u r.
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ok whenever i ask a chica if she will go out with me she always says no well not no but we are really good friends the uasual thing, and i havn't asked out a girl in a while and i am afraid to get hurt again, my life seems pretty good so far, but there is this one chica that i like but i am afraid to get hurt, so here it is
how do i get her to like me and for once in my life be able to feel the love that most people feel and get a yes from her.
thnx to all
wow, thats hard. well, u cant really make a girl like u, so sorry. what u can do is show her the real side of u. if she sees the side thats a jerk or the side of u that hangs out wit da boyz, she' is prob. gonna think that dats da way ur gonna act with her.if she likes romantics, then show her a peep of the romantic side of u. whatever she likes, just try to add that to ur flavor and if she still doesnt like u, then she's not worth it. or maybe she's playin hard to get. good luk...
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