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i really need advice on my family
hi im elle. im 13. Heres where i need advice...my mom doesnt know how to control my brothers. at all. so they are insane. all the time. she constantly blames it on me. "well its because youre not the perfect sister!" im a good student. im know im not perfect. but she could at least treat me with more respect. she grounds me all the time. and my brothers run wild. they are constantly fighting and everytime she hears them fight she goes "elle what did you do?" wtf? thats not right. and my dad has the worst temper ever and always fights with her. we're poor and i can never do anything. they dont trust me. its like i dont even exist to them. and they do some really bad stuff. i mean like drugs. i just want to know what i should do. i have a hard time talking to them just because everytime they ever talk to me in private its bad news. always. so what should i do to make my life better?
thanks.
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well dont worry love im in the same boat as you always getting balmed for everything and grounded all the time. it crap itsnt it but trust me talk to your mum and dad tell them what you think of them and tell how you feel when they treat you like shit. but make sure that you are the one in control telling them what you thing of them. tell them exactly what you have written to me. the worse part is if you the oldest and 'you have to set the example' that annoys me but just try keep out of there way. but please do tell them how you feel.
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Maybe you should go talk to your counslor if this is really that bad. If you could just try to sit them both down and talk to them and tell them how you feel about everything. If your brothers are annoying you when your around try to go out with friends and have fun. Hope I helped!
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oh man. i honestly cannot believe she says that its because your a bad sister. thast horrible! i think you and your brotehrs need to join some sort of after school program...they can learn discipline and you can get away from them and your parents. as far as talking to them i suggest doing somthing with them one on one somthing that they like that you will be able to bond over. as far as teh control thing lay down the law with your brothers as hard as it may be to get them under control.once you get them to listen to you through bribery or punishment liek taking away thier favorite toys whichever it takes that way at least someone willave some control and your arents wont stress as much. about the drugs...try and get your parents to see a counselor or at least tell someone..the sooner they can get into rehab trhe sooner things can turn aroudn and get better for you and your family.
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Aww that's terrible. That's a tough situation. I know it's hard, but try to talk to your mom. None of this is your fault. If your mom doesn't listen talk to anyone you are close to. Like an aunt or even some adult at school. You should also let ppl know what's going on. I'm really sorry Elle. ~Calie~
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Hey im truly sry about your situatuion. Thats a lot to handle for someone are age. Have you told ne 1. A teacher a cop someone? I seems like you should move in to a foster home or something like it if not do you have ne nice realitves who don't do drugs? Hope i helped.
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dear elle,
it's important that u don't blame urself cuz my family is messed up too. but the only reason ur mom blames everything on you is because she thinks that u r the only 1 she can control. try not to come in contact with them. but if u think it's best to talk to them, then try to get them 2gether and talk about what's going on. sometimes that's what i do. hope i helped...
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