I told my guy friend from school that i liked him about a month ago and things got awkward but things have still been kindof awkward but we're still friends. He never really clearly responded to it, meaning either he's assumed that I took it as he only saw me as a friend or he's still not really sure (i know, i know, i shouldn't get my hopes up too high and the first thing is probably right but being the optimist that i am, in the back of my mind i keep thinking maybe he isn't sure because he's kinda like that and he seems kinda nervous around me and when my friend has talked to him about it, all he could say was "i don't know" to the whole situation. but don't worry, i'm aware that he probably just sees me as a friend). But no one tells me anything, so I just found out from another friend that he's told pretty much all his friends about how I like him (his friends are both guys and girls) and it's not like it's a load of people but it's not a small amount of people either. I mean I'm a little surprised because he clearly has seemed like he wanted to avoid the whole situation completely. And I'm not sure if he told them a while ago or recently, but i wouldn't be surprised if it was sometime the past two weeks or so but I could be wrong. If it was an ego thing, it was probably only slightly, but he probably sortof has been assuming that everyone knew since I had my friend (one of his close friends) confront him about it two weeks ago (he didn't know i asked her to haha). I mean, should I be mad that he told all these people? Should I be suspicious of it? In the past two weeks his behavior has been different and he's kindof been looking at me weirder and been telling one of our friends something about me and then our other friend (who confronted him) nothing about me (meaning like he's been trying to avoid the conversation with that particular girl). What should I think of this?
It's hard to say unless you know how he told them. "Was he like yeah, (yourname) totally likes me. blahblah, bragging crap." Or was it like, "(Yourname) told me that she liked me. I don't know what to do."
The only way you can really find that out is by talking to some of the people he told.
If I were you, I would really just leave it alone at this point. If he likes you, he will let you know.
Darby(:
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My ex and I broke up a few months ago and in the time we were apart she hooked up with another guy. Because she felt guilty about it, she confessed to me that she had sex with him several times. But she said it was only after she had been having sex with him that she found out he has Herpes. Now she's very scared that she might have contracted it even though they used protection. She also stopped having sex with him as soon as she found out.
She wants to get tested for Herpes, but she has no Health Insurance to cover the costs. Is there an organization that would give a free STD test to someone in her financial position? Also, does it take a while before the STD can be detected or can she be tested immediately for it?
Thank you for your time!
There are free clinics everywhere.
Go to this website:
http://www.hivtest.org/
Put your zip code into the box.
She could also go to Planned Parenthood and they would take it from there.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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so im 16 and a virgin and yesterday my boyfriend and i were playing around and he fingered me for a longgg time. Even though it felt good it really hurt and about an hour later i noticed that i was bleeding. it wasn't really like period or anything, just a little in my underwear. i thought that means that my hymen was broken, because he was that deep. is that most likely it? and if not, what else could it be?
That is most likely the cause of the blood, yes. Since it was for such a long time and it was deep, it probably broke your hymen. It shouldn't bleed next time.
Darby(:
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Ok i'm 17/f never had a relationship, but I wanted to change that. So I asked this guy I've been crushing on for years for his cell number, but however I got up to him and became the BIGGEST BOOB ON THE PLANET! I was nervous and stuttering, and I don't know what happened. I had it all planned out and then ~phst~ nothing. Well I got the number regardless but the "boob" residue is probably still on him so what do I do? Did I just really screw this up?
Sincerely,
MayorofGooberTown
No, you still got the number. That's a good sign. The next time you talk to him will be over the phone. You won't have the anxiety of actually having to see him. Send him a quick text just saying, "hey, its (insert your name here). what's up?" Just be casual and try to be yourself. The more you talk to him, the more relaxed you will be. Once you've been friends for a while, you'll laugh at how nervous you were to talk to him. Remember, no matter how great he seems, he's only human. Just try to take a deep breath and slow your thoughts the next time you see him. He will like you much more if he sees that you're confident in yourself.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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15/f
Well, like every night now I'll have a sex dream with my crush... I can't stop thinking about it... That dream worried me to because I had gotten pregnant... How should I deal with this? Is it normal? Is there a meaning to it?
You're not crazy at all. They're just dreams you're having because you're a hormonal fifteen year old and you like this guy! As long as you're not having unprotected sex and getting pregnant in real life, don't worry about it. It's totally normal.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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My best friend Lyndsey committed suicide back in Novemeber, and it still feels as though it was just yesterday I was hanging out with her laughing and smiling. I can't get over it. Every day the memory that she's gone hurts the same, it never gets any less. She kept me going when I wanted to give up, and then she gave up.. I want to follow her too but I can't put my family thro that. But I need her. I've tried everything to ease the pain of her death, but nothing seems to work. I feel as though I lost my soulmate.. I was truly in love with her. If she hadn't been with someone at the time, we would've been together. And that's alot to say because I am straight.. but with her it was totally different. I don't know what I can do to stop the pain from coming upon me full force every single day. Anyone have any ideas? Please let me know! Thanks
First of all, I'm very sorry about your friend.
Suicide is an extremely hard thing to deal with. Probably the hardest, because the person took their own life. It just happened 6 months ago. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to get over it so quickly. If you try to move on without really dealing with the emotions, they're only going to come up later and it will be much harder then.
You need to reassure yourself that it's not your fault. There's nothing more you could have done. The next step would be to seek therapy. I don't know if you have done this yet, but therapists are great to talk to about something like this. They know the way the mind works and what can be done to get over the loss of a loved one.
Give yourself time to be upset about it. It's completely reasonable to still be sad. But you need to seek counseling, especially if you're to the point that you want to give up. I know you say that you won't because of your family (which is great), but you need to learn how to live for yourself too. Lyndsey would want you to be happy. Therapy is the only way to get your emotions fully out and learn the steps to stop the pain.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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i want my make up like this girl... :/
anyway you can help me have any idea
to look similar to that?
http://i246.photobucket.com/albums/gg86/Peace_and_Lovex3/l_e6bb57041ea34bad9373048ba63d5d95.png
I answered a question about this yesterday. The makeup in the other post was almost exactly like this.
Check out the link to it, and the tutorial I have in my response.
Basically, a lot of black eyeliner and black mascara.
Here's the post:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=562866
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So I'm 19 and have been very happily married for nearly a year. My husband and I are both in college and living on our own. I desperately want a baby. I know how hard it is, I raised my younger brother on my own for two years while in highschool. I know that it is terribly expensive, I know it is taxing emotionally and physically and in more ways than imaginable. I know it would mess with school and our plans and everything but the non logical half of me is completely going nuts over it.
Many people are just telling us to go for it and that things will work themselves out as we go along. A few people think I'm completely insane for even considering it.
I just don't know what to do, I've tried adopting far too many hobbies to get rid of this obsession. I can't get a pet because of our landlord.
I just need to know if I should go for it, or if I should keep trying to fight it. And if I should fight it, how?
If you can't afford it, definitely don't do it. If you don't have enough money, the financial strain alone will pull you and your husband apart. I honestly think that you should wait until you go through school. You know how hard it would be. Once you have degrees, you will be able to get better jobs. With better jobs, you'll be able to give your baby so much more.
I'm not saying you couldn't do it, you definitely probably could have a baby and still go through school. But I think it would be a lot better if you waiting a couple years. At least until you get your associative degree. You'll be able to get a better job then at least and you'll only be 21 when you get it.
You need to just keep telling yourself, two more years, two more years. You'll still be young, plus you'll have a degree and a better job. Way too many people get pregnant because they want a baby when they're really not ready for it. Financially, mentally and physically. That's just not fair for your baby.
Wait a couple years so that you're sure to provide the baby everything it needs.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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ok, so heres the rundown.. me and my girlfriend of almost a year, ill go ahead give names and ages.. (as bad as that sounds.) shelby-14 and daniel-16 (me) i konw you want to quickly judge us based on age, but we love eachother.. we do. as much as i do love "getting some" that is not why im with her. im with her because i love her, we laugh, cry, joke, and we sometimes argue a bit. anyways, we had sex, in a public bathroom, and well... her mom found out. she knows we used pretection.. but.. she wants to not let us see eachother.. i mean.. i went to cozumels for cinco de mayo (cozumels is a mexican resturant) and her family was there... they saw me and they immidiately left... (they didnt order yet).. because of me... i mean.. i have to see her. i will wait the full 4 years if i have to.. but i cannot allow that to happen.. we will both spend 4 years of misery.. and i wound like to intervene... somehow.. i sent her mom a long txt.. nothing too personal, just telling her about me loving her, and that i want a long realationship with her... didnt work. needless to say i only sent 1 txt.. i mean, i dont wanna harrass anyone.. anyways.. help plz?.. just any suggestions im up for..
There really isn't much you can do in a situation like that. Sadly, she is only fourteen, so what her parents say goes. I would make one more attempt. Call her mother, don't text her. Call her and try to talk to her. Don't tell her, "Ah, I love your daughter so much and I'll never get over her and I'll wait four years if I have to." That just sounds immature and over-dramatic to a fourteen year old girl's parents.
Instead say, "I understand why you're upset. You have every right to be angry with Shelby and I. I understand that, even if we use protection, having sex in a public bathroom is not a good decision. Shelby is not only my girlfriend, but one of my best friends and I would be really grateful if you would let me continue to see her."
Say it calmly. Don't scream, don't cry, don't whine.
If she agrees to it, there will probably be a lot of stipulations. You may not be able to go anywhere alone together. You might not be able to take her to your house. You might have to stay in their living room with her when you go to her house. Don't expect too much at first. Just be happy that you can see her at all.
If she says no, don't try again. Just leave her alone. If you keep bothering you, she might do something drastic, like get a restraining order against you. I would also give her a few days before you do try this. Let her cool off and think about things.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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I love my girlfriend but she can be down right stubborn and strongly opinionated. There's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes we'll be talking about something and our viewpoints will be polar opposites and she's so strong in her opinions that it kind of gets me frustrated. I think it's probably because I try to be passionate myself with my reasons during these conversations, but sometimes I feel like she doesn't look from where I'm coming from or saying.I don't like, nor do I want to get bothered over such small things. I mean it's usually during convos about movies or music or something like that. It's lead to some minor tifts and I really want to prevent that.
I don't even have much of a temper, but sometimes the topic gets so heated where I don't want to "lose" per se. I know I have to let it go. How can I constructively handle these situations and control myself from being bothered and keep a cool head? Thanks.
I tend to have the same problem in relationships. I'm so headstrong that it's just hard to accept when someone is trying to tell me something different than what I believe. Usually it would be about things more serious than movies or music though. I only tend to be very stubborn when it comes to my philosophy and things of that sort.
The next time you get into an argument with your girlfriend about a movie or music, tell her, "This is really silly. We just both have different view points and there's no reason for us to try to change each other's opinions about it."
In order to keep a cool head during these times, take a deep breath first. You sound like you already understand that it's unacceptable for either of you to get so worked up over each other's opinions. You both need to learn to respect your different tastes in music and movies. It would be very irritating if you both liked the exact same music, movies, books, and whatever else.
You should embrace the differences. If you don't like the same genre of music or movies, that's just the way it is. It's nothing to fight about. It's nothing to get worked up over. It's just a different taste. You shouldn't be expected to change your taste in art, and neither should she. I would tell her these things when you guys AREN'T fighting about it already.
When you're already arguing about it, saying these things will be pointless because you'll both be speaking out of anger. You won't listen to each other's points and you won't answer with what you truly feel.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. We're totally crazy about each other...we spend everyday together if we can. He lives in another state thats an hour from me. He has been saying "I love you" an awful lot and how much he cares for me. I have been getting this feeling that he maybe the "one"...but i'm scared to tell him because it might scare him.
He is scared of marriage but its weird he says it would be "awesome" to have my kids someday. We are best friends but i feel this is one thing i can't tell him.
What should I do? Do I tell him or no?
I think you should mention it, but don't go all the way with it. You know what I mean? Don't say, "Hey. I think you are the one I want to spend the rest of my life with." That's really scary to hear. He may be feeling it too, but you don't want to get too serious. It's okay to talk about your future, but do it lightly for now. He said, "having kids with you would be awesome". He didn't say, "Hey, I would really like to settle down with you someday and have children."
Right now it's just something to flirt around with. What I'm saying is that it's okay to bring it up, but don't be too serious about it. Just passively mention it and see how he feels about it.
It sounds like you have a great relationship so far. I'm sure he would like you to mention how much he means to you.
Darby(:
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I get some really intense mood swings sometimes and they've become more frequent lately. One minute I'll be really happy and the next I'll just be seriously annoyed or depressed. I've noticed that most of it happens when I'm at home and I don't really understand it. I mean sure I get into fights with my parents every now and then but lately I've been fighting with my mom about the smallest things and everyday! I could have had the best day at school but it's usually ruined within an hour of my coming home. I don't understand why I've been getting so annoyed with my parents lately. I mean maybe it's just because I'm a teenager and it's that phase the I'm going through but I'm not sure.
And also, there are times when I'm perfectly fine and I start thinking about some stuff and I just get really depressed. I just get a sinking feeling inside me where I just have to cry and I don't know where it comes from! I have a serious problem with pain, I'm pretty much a baby, and I hate seeing blood and I never understood why some people cut themselves but this one time a few weeks ago I just couldn't help it. I just had the urge to do it and I did. Like I said I'm kind of a baby so I didn't cut very deeply and it was only a couple of times but it kinda makes me worried. I don't know whats wrong with me and it's starting to scare me! I don't really know who to talk to about it because I just know my parents won't understand and my friends are great but I really don't think this is just something they'll really be able to help me on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Your friends would understand if you talked to them about it. Just talk to a couple of your closest friends. Ask them if they've ever felt like that. I think any teenager, or anyone who has been a teenager, would be able to relate. Most people get frustrated with their parents often when they're in their teen years.
Your mood swings are likely caused partially by hormones. The next time you and your parents start to get into a fight, think about whether or not it's really worth it. You said you and your mother have been getting into fights about really small things everyday. Next time, really stop and ask yourself, is this worth getting everyone upset over? Should I just do whatever she's asking and move on? If it's something really small, you might as well comply in whatever way you can.
You also need to retrain your thought processes. You've gotten to the point now where you see home as being a bad place. You say that you have a great day at school but within an hour of getting home, your day is ruined. If you think that, your day is going to start getting "ruined" the second you leave school. Don't convince yourself that your day is going to be bad just because you're going home. This is likely adding to your frustration and all the small fights you're getting into with your mother.
Also, cutting isn't the answer. I can tell by what you said that you're smart enough to know that cutting isn't going to help. It won't make any problems go away. It will actually only further any frustration or sadness you have in you. If you start cutting now, you'll be sitting on your bed three years from now, in the exact same position you are now. Except your arms will be covered in scars.
There are other ways to deal with things. Try talking to your friends. You also need to talk to your mother. Say, "I don't know why we've been fighting so much lately about such small things. I don't want to fight you on everything. It's really starting to get to me."
Your mother probably thinks that you're just being a bratty teenager and that you actually WANT to fight about everything. Once she hears that you don't like this and what is happening because of it, she'll likely ease up. It will also make your relationship stronger. Start going to her for advice about things. She was once a teenager too, and by going to her for advice, she'll feel as though you want her help. This will make you guys closer and less likely to fight also.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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sooo how do i get my eye makeup like this?
http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scenehair107.jpg
detailed and some good products to use would be fantastic
It's all about eyeliner and mascara. Line your eyes with black eyeliner, on top and bottom. And put a lot of black mascara on your eyelashes. M.A.C. is a great brand.
Here is a tutorial:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWp-Bralgtk&feature=related
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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im 17/female.
i am sexually active.
my period should start this weekend or next week/weekend sometime. (between may 8th- 17th)
my boobs are hurting, a sure sign of either two things, 1. im pregnant, or 2. im about to start my period.
my concern is that unlike my normal pre-period week, my right nipple seems to be very itchy but my left nipple is fine. thats how i have figured out that its not my bra (or detergent) also, my right nipple seems to be harder then my left and once in a while i will get a "shock" kind of sensation throughout my right breast which makes me stop everything and grab ahold of my breast in aggony.
before anyone asks, there are no lumps or any signs of breast cancer. my other symptoms include tiredness no matter how long i sleep, random hunger (usually commen 24/7 for my whole life), and concerns about things i usually am pretty calm about (being tanner, and getting skinnier.)
id just like to see what everyone thinks this could be.
thank you
Well, you said you're sexually active. Do you use protection every time? If not, you could potentially be pregnant. I don't think it would make your nipple itch, but it could cause your breasts to hurt and all of the things you listed in the last paragraph.
If you think you could be pregnant, take a pregnancy test to eliminate that from being the cause. If you're not pregnant and the pain/itching doesn't subside, make an appointment with your gynecologist. He/She will be able to rule out anything major and tell you what may be the issue.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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Does anybody out there know where a person can buy a Kazoo?? I'm not sure if walmart carries them...but just a normal department store??....a Canadian department store??
You mean the instrument?
Here are a couple sites:
http://www.quincyshop.com/kazoos.html
http://www.quincyshop.com/kazoos.html
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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Okay, so my prom is in a week and a half, and I have pretty much everything I need but jewelry.
This is the dress im wearing;
http://www.prettypromgown.com/images/Sherri_Hill/S01015.jpg
Its more silver than it looks like, and its a mix of beads and sequins.
I plan on putting my hair up like this;
http://www.hrhairstyles.com/eva-longoria-updo-hair-styles.jpg
I have medium skin tones, usually on the fair side, but I've been tanning lately. My hair is mainly also fair.
Now here's my dilemma, I'm wanting to wear jewelry that is subtle, but still noticeable. Im thinking a necklace would be too flashy considering the material of the dress, so I was just going to settle on earrings and maybe a bracelet. I just have no idea at all what Im looking for. Help?
You should wear hoop earrings like the ones Eva is wearing. It looks cute with an updo like that and it will look cute with your dress.
This page has a few cute hoop earrings:
http://www.target.com/b/ref=in_se_pagelist/185-7295438-0694543?ie=UTF8&node=505012011&search-alias=&pricerange=&index=tgt-mf-mv&field-browse=505012011&rank=-product_site_launch_date&viewID=leaf&field-pricebin=&store=&rh=&page=2&fromBrowse=1
And as far as a bracelet, I would keep it simple.
The first one in the second row or the first one in the third row:
http://www.target.com/b/ref=in_se_pagelist/185-7295438-0694543?ie=UTF8&node=505013011&search-alias=&pricerange=&index=tgt-mf-mv&field-browse=505013011&rank=-product_site_launch_date&viewID=leaf&field-pricebin=&store=&rh=&page=1&fromBrowse=1
And I agree, a necklace would be too much. You can probably find cheaper earrings and bracelets. Those are just examples of what would look good with your dress.
Have fun at prom(:
Darby
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How do you know what kind of "skin tone" you have, or what "undertones" your skin has? I've never been quite sure. I think I have pink undertones, but how can I be sure? I always read advice on makeup and hair colors with reference to what kind of undertones your skin has, but it's useless to me if I don't know what mine has. I am pale and tend to freckle AND tan if I stay out in the sun. I have medium brown hair.
You sound like you have a fair skin tone.
Here is a chart. Hover you mouse over the pictures on the right side of the screen to see the different skin tones:
http://www.smmcosmetics.com/skintones.html
Hope this helps
Darby(:
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I am fatigued very often. Sometimes I am just absolutely exhausted. I can't seem to get enough done in a day, because I just get too tired. I do about 30 minutes of cardio five times a week. I sleep at least 8 hours a night, usually. My diet is pretty healthy, and I take a women's multivitamin every day. I don't take any medication regularly except for birth control. I've been to my doctor about it, had all kinds of tests, but there is nothing wrong with me. Still, that doesn't change the fact that I'm exhausted and just want to sleep every chance I get. What else could I try?
Your iron might be low. Has your doctor tested for iron deficiency? It might be a hormonal imbalance. You might be too stressed out. You could be depressed. Do you drink a lot of caffeine? Do you drink enough fluids?
I'm going to give you an article to check out.
Look at all the different things it could be. There is a list of links, starting with anemia and ending with chronic fatigue. Check them all out and see if any of them sound like a possible cause to your problem:
http://www.prevention.com/cda/article/tired-all-the-time/a8fe72e50d803110VgnVCM10000013281eac____/health/emotional.health/energy.fatigue
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So for the past few months I've started liking this guy who's in one of my classes. We're no really friends but we know each other but we rarely talk. I'm really shy around people I don't know and especially guys I like so every time I'm around him I just get really self conscious and shy. I'm not really close friends with anyone in that class so I can't really just be myself like I am when I'm with my best friends. I really want to become friends with him because we only have a few weeks of school left and I don't want to just miss my chance with him.
I can't really talk to him much because I'm only an aide in that class so I'm usually doing stuff for the teacher instead of doing what the class is doing so I have no reason to talk to him. Lately though I've been noticing some stuff he's been doing that kinda makes me believe there could be a chance he likes me too but I don't know what I can do to pursue that! I'm running out of time and I want someway to be able to just talk to him and actually become friends with him. Maybe more later on but I'd really rather become friends first. Any advice would be appreciated!
Try to find his MySpace or Facebook page and add him. Send him a comment or message saying, "Hey, I think you're in (teacher's name here) class. How's it going?" That way you won't have to do it in person at first since you're shy and don't really get a chance to talk to him at school anyway.
In the meantime, try to catch his eye during class. When he notices you're looking at him. Make eye contact for a split second, smile, and go back to what you were doing. Make it casual. Don't completely stare at him, just act like you both happened to look at each other at the same time. He might try to talk to you if he thinks you're friendly and open to his friendship.
Hope this helps, Darby(:
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i have 6, 2 month old plants. 24 hours light and they have recently been infected by spidermites. i sprayed the soil with scented dishsoap and water to kill the flies, the flies have been disapearing any tips ?
how do i tell the sex ?
How do you tell the sex of your marijuana plants?
Marijuana plants have no gender.
EDIT:
Okay, I looked this up and apparently...
Here's a site:
http://www.marijuana-seeds.net/malefemale.htm
Hope this helps,
Darby
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