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hello everyone.. i can't stop thinking about my girlfriend's past.. she had relationship with other guy for 6 yrs...we have been in relations for 8 months now.. lately i only picture of her being in physical activities wid other guy. i am sorry i might sound somewhat weird but it wasn't my problem when she told me everything at the beginning.. sometime i think i deserve better woman than her... i tend to think nowadays that she was used and dumped so i don't know if i would be able to love her as a wife.. having these things in mind.. we used to talk about getting married soon but now i am confused. can you guys give me some advices..
its not that i have not fool around wid other gals before but still ....double standards i guessss...
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This is probably a great example of why people shouldn't talk too much about their exes in a new relationship!
I believe the whole point of dating to be finding the one you either want to have a serious relationship with or the one you eventually want to marry. Some people have other ideas of dating such as a hook up, friends with benefits, or even short term relationships.
If you're questioning your feelings for this girl you need to really think about it. To go on with a relationship and not tell your partner how you're truly feeling is not fair. You need to decide do you see a future with her or not?
If you do then by means that's great. Don't continue comparing yourself to her ex because you aren't him. Your relationship with her is different from the relationship she had with him. Maybe tell her how you've been feeling or thinking and she waht she says. Have you talked to her about it?
If you don't see her in your future and you don't want to continue the relationship you need to be honest with her. Tell her how you're feeling and what's been bothering you.
To talk about a future or possible marriage is big and girls don't take it lightly. I've talked to my boyfriend about the possibly future and it excites me. If he were to ever question something I would hope he would talk to me and be honest with me. Communication is key in a relationship. So talk to her about it or if you feel like it's not going to work you need to talk to her about it. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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So I just got my report card back and I got two A's, but then I got two B's and a C+. The problem is with the B's and C was that I started a couple weeks late because I switched from another school and they had put me a grade ahead because there was some stuff I had already learned. I was really really upset and I spent about five hours crying. I just wanted to know if my grades count for anything. If they do I will go throw myself off a bridge (I'm twelve and a very distressed eighth grader). (link)
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There's no reason to be upset. As, Bs, and C+ is fine. No one is perfect. Don't beat yourself up over it you did the best you could under the circumstances. If you are really upset than try better next time. Don't beat yourself up over it because that's going to help you. Keep your head up!
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Our 16 girl wants to date a 20 year old man who dropped out of High School, doesn't have a job, lives with his mother and is not very intelligent. Our girl is in middle college and gets straight A's.
This all started 3 weeks ago. She lied about his age and the nature of the relationship. One week in we discovered the truth and decided that we had to intervene. After speaking with both of them about how it was not only an immoral, but possibly illegal relationship, he was quick to point out the legal age of consent in our state is 16. We told them to wait until she's 18. He seemed rather upset, so the next day I went to his social network page where he had posted the following:
"me plus you equals violence, creepin up behind you I'm stalking you silent, dressed in all black I'm the nighttime assailant, grab you by the neck and stab you with my nine inch, knife, quick like, I end lifes, no strife, i mean i need just one swipe, and then I wipe, your existence away, I'm the evil son, so let me in to play." I also found older posts of murdering people and my favorite" My penis is a weapon".
Though her mother was with me on keeping them from dating, she is now thinking supervised visits is a better option to divert a possible Romeo/Juliette scenario after we discovered that there were over 1400 texts between them in 9 days. Her thinking is the more time they spend together, the more likely the girl will be to discover that the price charming is really a toad. I think a forced separation is in order complete with GPS activated on her cell phone so we know where she is at all times (she has a car).
I am very saddened by all of this because I had a close relationship with her. I have spent a long time explaining why dating him is a terrible idea and that we are really looking out for her and trying to protect her. Since I was the person who told them to stop, I am now the worst person in America. I know after a period of time she will someday be able to appreciate what I am doing, but for now she thinks I am mean and stupid. It would be helpful to be able to give her reason's on why dating a 20 year old man is not a great idea since my reasons have not resonated with her.
I am totally stumped on what to do in this situation and welcome some new ideas.
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Well you can't tell her 'no' in this situation because one you look like the bad guy and two you are pushing her more towards his way. You need to let her figure it out on her own. I know it sounds bad but sometimes that's the way to learn. I have a similar experience where I was 19 and there was this guy who was 24. I know the age is different but its similar because the guy I liked was 24 he lived with his parents, didn't go to school, drank heavily, and was pretty rude. I liked him so much and no matter what anyone said I only wanted to be with him. It wasn't until later when I realized myself that he wasn't right for me and he didn't treat me right.
The more and more you tell her 'no' the more and more she will rebel against your wishes. Don't say anything and maybe just maybe she'll realize who this guy really is and why he's not good for her.
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I'm 14 (female) and I like a guy a lot but I've just found out from my friend that he smokes weed along with loads of other guys from my year. The problem is I still like him a bit because I cant really believe it...what should I do about it and should I carry on as if I dont know and that everything is normal?? (link)
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In life you're going to find people who have lifestyles that you might not necessarily agree with. I know weed is illegal but it's not hurting anyone and it's not a health risk (or so I've heard). I don't smoke weed but I have some friends that do and I'm still friends with them. I guess if it makes you uncomfortable than move on. If that's the only thing that is making you uncomfortable but you still like the guy than flirt with him or ask him out. Don't judge him for what he does or how he lives his life. And don't ever try to change him and his lifestyle. Like him for who is as a person and not what he does.
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My parents are strict and I have always been required to answer them with yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am, and no ma'am. I am required to answer all adults this way and some of my friends think it is weird and they have been teasing me about it. I have talked to my dad and he will not let me off the hook when it comes to respect and manners. He will not let me just say yes or no I have to keep using sir and ma'am even though my friends never have to with their parents. Any ideas on what I should do? (link)
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You're well mannered and there's nothing wrong with that. You're a lot more polite than a kid who says 'Yeah dude'. Don't let it bother you and don't let your friends say its weird. Manners are good...there needs to be a lot more people in this world with good manners if you ask me!
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me and a friend had sex and we didnt use a condom and im not on birth control. I knew he cummed in me because it didnt just cum back out in my shorts. I have had little signs but not much to tell im really pregnant. SO how can i know for sure without taking a pregnancy test, becuase if my parents found out im screwed. (link)
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There is no real way to tell whether you're pregnant or not without taking the test. I mean I guess one way is when you get the baby bump other than that there is no way. Either go to a store pick up a test and go to a friend's house to see or go to a clinic. Those are your two options. You won't know whether you're pregnant or not by not getting a test. Maybe even go to your doctor and get a test there they can do it by taking blood or by a urine sample. Whatever you choose, you need to know so you can have options and make some choices.
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I have been talking to a guy for 3 months, we are also going to homecoming together, he says he 'likes me' but hardly shows it. What should I do? (link)
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Guys are tough sometimes.
My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile and sometimes it feels like he doesn't show it. He loves me and I know it. Some guys just aren't always up front with how they feel towards girls. Where as we girls want the romance all the time. Truth is the romance isn't always going to be there. I love my boyfriend to death but there is such thing as reality as well. Life can't always be a fairy tale.
Try talking to him a bit more maybe he is shy and maybe he's scared who knows. Just talk to him and see how it goes! Good luck and have fun at homecoming!
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i love a guy. i am basically indian and also from orthodox family. that guy has a love failure .he loves that girl even now. initially he was my friend.slowly i started getting those kinds of feelings.i proposed him.he never said no to me at the same time never said yes. his health is in worse condition. we have spoken about sex also.these days he does not like talking to anyone .i had a horrible fight with him last night.its my fault completely .i expected more from him.i love him so much.cant live without him and neither can i hide this matter from my parents. i think the easiest way is to commit suicide.i need ur advice. (link)
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Committing suicide is not the answer to your problem. No person is worth killing yourself over. Your life is much more important why would you ever want to hurt yourself because of another person?
Okay first off, it sounds like he either has a girlfriend or he likes this other girl. If he ahs a girlfriend than you need to give him space.
Second off, after proposing to him has he mentioned it ever since? Just because he didn't say no it doesn't mean he is going to say yes. If you had a fight last night give him sometimes and some space think. Maybe he needs to be alone and away from people you don't know. I like my time away from friends and even my boyfriend sometimes.
I'm sure you can live without him and I'm sure you don't mean you're going to kill yourself. you might be upset at the moment but that doesn't mean you need to take your life away.
I think you need to talk to someone maybe a guidance counselor or even a therapist.
You need to relax and think things through!
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My girlfriend talks to nortenos and I used to back up south but I don't want problems anymore and I guess they wanna jump me . What should I do? (link)
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Have you told them you don't want problems? If so have you tried ignoring them. Involve an adult, parents, or you maybe evn have to involve the police. Especially if they are threatening to jump you or harm you in anyway you need to make the authorities aware of this. Be careful!
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Right now some Norte gang members are annoying me what should I do to stop before it gets uglier? (link)
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I would walk away from them or even ignore them. Are they threatening you? Is it getting physical? If so you need to involve your parents or possibly even the police.
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I like this guy a lot. He's a schoolmate of mine. We never had a real conversation or even introduction to each other. However, he knows my name even though im not really popular at school. Usually each day, in the morning, when i go to our room, i usually pass by in the corridor where their room is located since its the only way to go to our room, i seem to notice that he and his friend always stands near the door just chatting and when i pass by he's friend constantly saying "(his name) said hi" and he just smiled shyly or sometimes hide at his back. It usually happens every morning. Then in lunch break, when i pass by at them they keep calling my name and he waived at me. I'm just confused of what he's doing. And one time, he was the only one standing outside their room, his friend is not with him, he just said " hi (my name) and smiled, so to be polite i also greeted back. I seemed to notice that he followed me with his eyes as I walked along. He also danced with me at the PROM and sit beside me as my classmate took a picture. After we entered our fourth year, he still do that but after few months i suddenly found out he has already a girlfriend. WHY is that so? I mean, does he like me or just playing at me. Why did he do the things he did even we never introduce ourselves yet? (link)
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It's hard to tell, guys are very weird sometimes.
Maybe he liked you but didn't think you liked him so he moved on. Maybe he was playing with you. No one really knows the answer to that question except for him. I've had many guys do that.
I had a guy in college who I thought was a nice guy. He sat right next to me in class and we did homework together. He would always want to hang out but would always leave me hanging at times. We actually hung out mayue only a couple of times after school. I finally had the guts to ask him to semi and he said he would be my date. I was so excited and sadly he stood me up on the night of the semi. It broke me.
He continued flirting with me and I eventually told him how I felt and he ignored me. It ended up making fun of me in front of his friends and he ended up being a jerk. I foudn the guy to be very immature and my feelings changed VERY quickly.
Whatever it was this guy is with another girl and you should be respectful of that. If he says 'hi' you should still aknowledge him but keep it on a friend level.
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First off I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22, we have been together for 5 years. Me and my boyfriend usually do the webcam chat websites just because its fun. We both do it seperatly and together. Last night I was talking to a guy and that's fine with my boyfriend. My only problem is that I gave the guy my number and we face chatted. That was ok to but apparently my boyfriend was awake and saw everything. He then asked me what I was doing and I stupidly said I wasn't talking to anyone. I don't know why I lied because he is fine with me talking to guys online. Now he's hurt because I lied and I don't know what to do to make it better. I feel horrible for lying and is not like me to lie to him. I never do, I am one of those people that have to tell their boyfriend everything because I have really bad guilt...what can I do to try and make it up to him? (link)
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'Honesty is the BEST policy.'
Well it's good that you're recognizing your mistake. It's better to tell someone up front what's going on rather than not telling them anything at all. I had a situation with my boyfriend that happened and I was thinking of not telling him but then I knew that if I hadn't we probably wouldn't have talked to me ever again. I'm like you with the guilt if I have it, it tears me up inside until I actually tell someone about it. I told him and he was a bit upset but he was glad I told him to his face. For the future just tell him up front and don't lie especially if he knows.
My advice is talk to him seriously and tell him hwo you feel and tell him you won't lie to him again. He might be suspious of you for a little bit but you have to prove to him you won't lie again. Think about what you're going to say to your boyfriend and then finally sit down and talk to him. Apologize and tell him how you really feel.
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So im going to be 21 in t wo days and i still have no clue what to do. Some of my friends are under 21 so i already know im limited. My bday happens to fall on a thursday so i like the idea of bowling but i know they close at 12am and that is way to earlie for me. So anyway please help!!
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Happy Birthday!!
21 is exciting!! My boyfriend at the time actually rented out a room and it was actually at a bowling alley fun as that may seem. It was a great time...at least some of the parts that I remember anyway.
Another idea is maybe going to a place where you can get dinner and drinks. Maybe do something with your friends that are 21 already like going out to a bar or going clubbing for the night. And with your friends who are under 21 do something like going out to dinner and a movie. It's hard to do something with your friends who are under 21 but bowling sounds like a great idea. You can always make your birthday a 2 day celebration.
I hope you have a great birthday and be careful! Have fun!
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see here's the problem i try e-mailing my best friend of 6 years and talking to her but she never replies and downright ignores me, what can i do.
i mean her phone is disconnected but she never told me that, and i never did anything wrong.
is it because i've been so busy trying to find a job that she thinks i'm neglecting her, pls help i don't know what to do.
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I've been trhough this with my friend of about 10 years now. We'll go back and forth and we at one point use to be attached to the hip. We would do everything together; go to concerts, movies, dinner, shopping, etc. Things happen.
I'm sure she doesn't hate you. She might be mad but its hard to tell because only person that knows that answer is her.
If I were you I would maybe write her an email and let her know how you truly feel. Maybe call her house? Or do you go to school together or have mutual friends? Try and get contact with her somehow. I would definitely do the email and see what happens.
If she is going to ignore you and stop being friends with you without giving you a reason or even trying to talk to you is she really a person that you should be calling a friend? A friend is suppose to tell you the truth and be honest with you. See what happens and if she continues to ignore you move on and remember this has nothing to do with you.
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okay so theres this guy i like whos kind of popular.. an(im not popular but im in the middle?)d i did not want to like him but i guess i couldnt help it because hes smart and freaking hot! well anyway yeah last year in 8th grade we sat next to each other in class and he would act super weird around me (only me!) i didnt really like him then (i was more in denial) so i didnt really pay attention to how he was acting. like when he would talk to me he would seem like really nervous(like he was having trouble looking into my eyes which are big and brown ) and if i helped him with something he would be like \"oh\" and look down an not say thanks. i just thought \"rude\" & moved on. but this year we are in high school and i dont have classes with him but all of a sudden i like him now!we stare at each other during passing period.. i dont think he likes me because when im what you would call an \'oreo\'(i love fashion trends,makeup & im girly but not pink all over the place girly) black girl and hes white! im not ugly or anything its just that i dont think teens guys are that open to dating outside their race ya know? anyway how do i know if he likes me or not? would he ever? why would he act nervous around me anyway, do i intimidate him or something(probably..)?help me if possible thanks in advance:) (link)
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Okay first off, its not about race. Someone will like you for who you are not what you look like. Too many relationships are about looks and should be about the personality. The only way to know if he likes you or not is to ask him. Talk to him and just ask him thats the only way you're going to know. Take a risk and just ask the kid or maybe try flirting with him and see what he does. Maybe have some of your friends talk to him or something. The only person who knows if he likes you or not is HIM. Good luck!
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So there's this guy. Let's call him Daniel. We're both in band and we started talking alot and we've gotten really close. These past few days, we been texting for hours. Daniel's really sweet and it seems like he flirts with me. On the bus ride home, we sat together (for the 3rd time) and he was basically on my lap the whole time. We joke around about how we are each others pillows for the bus rides. The only problem is I'm a freshman and he's a senior but i really like him. what should i do? (link)
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Are you looking for a relationship? What's more important to you the friendship or a relationship? You said he's a senior, is he going to college next year? If so where? Is it far?
You need to ask yourself these questions. And if you really like him then talk to him and ask him. There's no other way of telling you if he likes you or not because I'm not him. So think about it and think about what means more to you the friendship or the relationship.
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Im 15 in 10th grade and ive gone to a private school my whole life but I will be going to a public school in 2 weeks. Im scared but i really want to go to a public school (the main reason im leaving is cuz of bullying.)Is there anything that I should know about changing schools mid year? How different is private from public? All my friends that have switched to public school have all said that they loved it but idk. Im mexican and not a lot of mexicans go to the school im going to and they are all mormon but im catholic so I dont know if I will be treated very differently? please help (link)
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I've experienced private and public school so I might be a bit of help. I went to private school from 2nd to 8th grade and it was a very disciplined school. Homework ahd to be done and there was no nonsense tolerated or you would be punished. My school use to giv eout discipline slips, so if you were to misbehave you got one and if you got either two or three you got a detention. Homework was the same thing if you were missing homework you got a homework slip. If you got three you go a detention. Private school, there were bullies and it was tough. There was that group of girls that always liked to pick at everyone. I felt private school was a lot about the catholic religion and also disciplined very well.
After graduating 8th grade I went on to high school which was a public high school. Public school was entirely different from private. Public school I found that there were really no rules, it was rather up to you to get the work done and no one was going to chase you. There was no such thing as detention and there wasn't much discipline. My first class I had at the public school a student told the teacher to shut up and the teacher didn't do anything. I found there was much more free speech in the public school than there was in a private school.
The thing is, is you're always going to find a bully anywhere you go unfortunately. Unfortunately I've had many throughout my life even at places I've worked. Keep your head up and don't let people push you aroudndand if they do ignore them. Good luck at your new school and I hope you ahev a great semester!
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Im 13 and female. I know what your going to say, youre gonna say its just a teenage phase im going through. Id believe that if i hadnt been thinking this since i waz 4. So lemme start my story. Im scene, just saying, most ppl call it emo. But my parentz dont get scene so they just think imma freak. How can i get them to understand im not emo anymore? (link)
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You shouldn't have to explain who you are to them. Your parents will accept you for who you are and what your about. So you're a scene kid who cares you want to be a scene kid go ahead. Whether its a phase or not you have the right to express yourself which ever way you want. I'm sure your parents don't think you're a freak. I still butt heads with my mother on the way I dress. I sometimes like to dress in a tank or halter top and she doesn't like it. Guess what? It's who I am and my style is the way I express myself. No one is going to tell me how to dress, what kind of make up to wear, or even how I do my hair. Be YOU! Be PROUD!
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I've posted tons of times on here before about wanting my ex back-despite him getting back with his ex as soon as we split up and then dumping her after 3 months.
Okay, so i've ssen sense now and feel its time to move on. Any suggestions how to move on? :) (link)
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Moving on is a process in which sometimes you can ask your ex for closure or you have to give it to yourself. With my last ex I had to give myself the closure and it wasn't easy. What helped was the things that he couldn't do or the thigns that bothered. Such as my ex being immature...I didn't want a baby I wanted a boyfriend who would support not someone who wanted me to be his mother. Second he wasn't well mannered and didn't act appropriate in front of my friends or family.
I knew that I could do better and I knew there was someone out there that would appreciate me more. Empower yourself and know that those things that bothered you about him or even the things that made you question him all the time are the reasons why you shouldn't be with him. You'll miss him and you'll think of the good times but in the end you have to ask yourself am I making the right decision? You have to be happy. Another thing people say is they think of the person as having died (not literally) but the person who they were when they were with you as gone. Good luck and hang in there!
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Well basically its a long story but ima make it short , my ex wanted me back and such but i said no to him each time he kept insisting but just the thing is I like someone else and well yesterday he goes to me 'you got till 12pm to tell me if you wanna be with me' i find that stupid because i wanted to be friends with him but he didnt , so then today I sent him a text saying that I choose No.. so then he replies 'dont ever try get through to me , you are no longer part of my life I HATE you..' like i thought that was dumb because he thought i was going to reply back like IM SO CONFUSEDDDDD!!! ;( its upsetting really cause i didnt wanna lose him as a friend but im not gonna run after him he can do what he is pleased. by the way im 17 pls help ! :( xxx (link)
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Sadly there isn't much you can do. You can't change his mind and clearly he can't be your friend. Sometimes its hard to be just friends with someone you've been with. It's hard to have a friendship with an ex after everything thats happened. I'm only on good terms with 2 of my exes and thats it. It took a long time for me to get on good terms with both of them but it ended up happening. Maybe give him sometime to think. Maybe right now he needs time to move on from you and move on from what you both were. It's his loss for not wanting to be your friend and clearly he can't handle just being friends. Give him his space and I think eventually he'll realize the mistake he made.
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