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Q: tuesday last week, i dressed up.
im usually the girl that wears hoodies and jeans and im fine.
so i thought it would be cute to dress up..
so i did..
my boyfriend LOVED it..
he said i looked really cute..
now hes the kind that calls me beautiful everyday..
and he said no matter what i wear i look cute..
but just the way he looked at me, i knew he liked the dress up samantha better..
so i was wondering, what are some ways to be more girly looking, without wearing high heels..
like a website or something, that has pictures, but more word advice then anything..

also about make-up..
i wear cover-up(i have acne)
& eyeliner..

maybe another website that gives it step by step to having more natural make up..
thanks a ton!!!

heyy samantha! you should be girly for yoursself and not for a boy. but girly girls do get attention..
lol. mkay firstly, wear mini sskirta with leggings and knee high boots. very girly. with a cute long sleeve shirt, some leyered neclaces, and pigtails, two braids in your hair, or curl it. make up......hmmm
okay. go for soft pinks. powder blush. yeah a a light pink powder blush would look good with clearish lipgloss.
wear earrings. headbands. belts.
layer t shirts
wear boots, flip flops, flats, etc
if you need outfits like ideas from stores or anything just let me know!!
xo

Q: Well, I always do boring hairstyles like wearing it down, or putting a clip in it. I'm getting really tired of those hairstyles! So I was wondering if anyone has some hairstyles that you use that you think are unique, or hairstyles that you seen on a website would be great too. I have a curling iron, straightener, and a waver, so I'm pretty much up for anything cute!
THANKS!

you could try makeing it wild. when its wetm french braid your hair and then sleep with it in. when you wake up, let it out, and shake out your hair. flip your head upside down and spray the bottomm of your hair with hairspray. brush the roots from upside down, but only in the back. then flip your hair back up. Tah-Dah!! yourr new look!!
!

Q:
I have short hair, it goes to about my chin, and it's layered, angled, and I have side bangs.

I just recently got this haircut and I wondered if anyone knew any cute ways to style it? All I can think of is down, and wearing headbands. I know theres not much, but if anyone has any ideas, or even pictures, I'd really appreciate it, thanks.

wow, sounds adorable!! you could try, from Conair there is this little machine thing that streaks your hair different colors, and i think it would look adorable if you did the tips red or somthing. or you could try pinning up the bangs with bobby pins, just to get a different look. headbands work. or glitter hairspray.........
make it cute! you have great hair now show it off!
ox

Q: ok so i really really want to get my belly button pierced but i'm kinda worried that it might hurt..a lot. i don't do well with pain. also does it matter if your stomach is flat or has a little flab?

thanks in advance :]

it will hurt, but not to bad. i think youll be okay. nah, a little flub is okay. it will still look great!! and it dosent make a difference how flat your stomach is (about pain, infections, any of that has nothing to do with how flat you are)
i would try maybe some sit ups? not to sound mean at all!!!! i mean not if you have a little flub but if you have like a big big belly, it might look better if you got it down just a little bit.
xo

Q: this morning i got my period. for the first time ever. i noticed i was bleeding in the shower, and then i put a tampon in and only two hours later it was completely covered in blood. but the second tampon had only a tiny bit, and i kept it in there for 4 hours. now its 9 and i did not get any blood. is this normal period behavior? are they usually heavy in the morning, or are they supposed to be even throughout the day?

lol congrats!!! yeah that seems about right dont worry. it is 100% normal period behavior. mine is always heavier in the morning and i always assumed it was because it dosent get so heavy at night, so it builds up. that is only a theoryy but ut seems logical. alyways it sounds, yes, 100%

Q: my hair pokes through my panties? is this weird? or does everyone have this? what can i do?

dont worry everyone gets that. just trim it so that its not so long and wont poke through. ox

Q: i am 14/f and a Christian.

i am so scared right now. i believe in god and i love going to church and it makes me want to be a much better person, but when i hear people talk about their doubts of god, i get scared. i mean, what if they are right? i cry when i think what if he doesnt exist because i am just so unsure, but i love god and i want to believe that he cares about us all. i am so so scared and i could never be an atheist or whatever.. can someone please give me advice?

i believe in god too. im jewish, but basically we have the same belifs in most stuff........
anyways look at the world. the flowers, the trees, the sky. how the sun and the moon switch. how the seasons change. do you think all of this happens on its own? no way! god is controlling all of it. not having faith is understandable because we cant see or touch god. but we can feel His prescence. When you go to churchdont you feel a different atmosphere? i know, i always have a slight feeling that what if were doing all of this for nothing. those people have their belifs, but we have the right one. if you ever wanna talk email me at THinkPink434@tmail.com but tell my your from advicenators in the subject line because i get so much junk mail i delete it all. Please dont worry. God is real. you are doing the right think in believing

Q: Ive had my period for almost a year now and basically im sick of pads. They are soo annoying and I dont think they work very well. The problem is im afraid of tampons. Do they hurt? This is really embarrassing but Im afraid ill hurt myself and I dont know how to put them in. I looked at the instructions but they seem soo confusing. How do you without hurting yourself and I was wonderring which is better tampons or pads?

tampons are way more comfotrble and you feel so much more clean! i just started useing them about two monthes ago. they seem so hard at first but once you get the hang of it, its really easy. im gonna tell you how i got it the first time andthen you can use as much of it as youd like.
first lie down on the floor. its easier.
take some deep breaths and calmdown.
get some lubricant from a drugstore and put it er...there
then slide the tampon in and try pushing it in at different angles until it dosent hurt. it will probably be around pointing twords your butt bone.
yeah then its in good job
the aplicator thing and the tampon are all flushable

Q: My clothes are pretty plain. I wear jeans pretty much all the time, and usually a single colored shirt or a henley type shirt with a different colored cami underneath. I don't really have any accessories so I don't bother with that. I mean I'm sure I don't look like a fashion disaster or anything but nothing I wear is really special or exciting.

I am getting bored at how plain my clothes are. I don't like to stand out too much so I guess that's why they are so plain. I don't even know where to begin with accessories, and I've heard plenty of times they make the outfit but I'm clueless.

Where should I shop to find clothes not so boring but not to stand out too much, and that isn't over-the-top expenisive? What kind of accessories should I look for and where? Should I shop for entire outfits or just find tops, bottoms, and accessories here and there and put them together?

American Eagle
or www.AE.com
the best ever! it is exactly what you said, not plain but dosent stand out to much. its also not ultra expensive.
try FOREVER 21 for excesories(sp?)
lok for long neclaces in like Black, White, gold, silver, and colors you wear a lot. they will help the most!!!
then you can wrap them around once or twice and pullat them so one is short and one is long. if you dont understand this ill send you a picture let me know.
xo

Q: im a virgin and i have been fingered 2 times and ate out 2 times will the doctor be able to see that?

no, unless you got a desies or somthing the doctor can 100% not tell what youve done unless you tell them. even if you have sex and your cherry pops, Hymens can be brocken so many other ways that they can never really know. so please dont stress

Q: In ninth grade one day a student called me while we were taking a test and i looked back and for a while becasue I coldn'r make out what they were saying so she says Don't make me Give you a zero Bey so cool but then another girl says you'd give her a zero and she sayd i sure would give her a zero is she supposed to be special or something. then one day I was class Pres. so I asked her if i could go get started on something and instead of just saying no she says "During my class time you can forget that you can go over there and get started on my test that is what you can get started on." Was she as hateful as I thought she was there are more incidents but I don't want it to be too long.

probably people are saying you get special treatment because your class prez, so she needs to prove that your not her favorite. she sounds like a jerk. like she needs to prove things to her students. I would talk to her. tell her it seems like you have hostile feelings twords me and i waswondering why. if shes a good teacher shell give you a good answer.

Q: ok so i thought i just had a cold but today i woke up and i could barely talk!! it hasn't gotten any better because i dont know what to do to make it get better...does anyone have any good idea? by the way i can't go to the doctor until sunday so i need ideas that can get me through the weekend! thanks!

poor baby. stay in bed. try eating cold things. or drink hot cocoa. anything hot or cold will help. suck on lots of cough drops and get a lot of rest. just turn out the lights and sleep it out. dont talk loud. if you need to get out, wakeup, wash your face and drink a cup of coffe. try to get awake. put a mini spray bottle ice cold water in your bag and if you gget sleepy, spray it on your face to wake you up. feel btr!

Q: i need a website for dresses. besides delias and forever21. i neeed the dress to get here before thursday and forever21's shipping is 18.95 for express so i need a website that has pretty cheap dresses from the $20's-30's range. PLEASE HELP ASAP!

could you specify what type of dress?
im assuming the type you find at forever 21

some of these are a little more but some are in your price range
http://search.victoriassecret.com/?all=u3&i=1&q=Dress&s=Days&searchsubmit.x=0&searchsubmit.y=0&t1=Clothing&u1=q&u2=t1&u3=s

you could try the forever 21 stores! but if you dont have time try

http://www.rampage.com/page/depts.deptid.16

on this sight, everything is $15! i dont know how they do it. because its like brand nmes that would be $200! and to get that to $15 is pretty cool

http://15dollarstore.com/c/dresses/1627334102?show_all

or try

http://shopshop.com/Adsearch.asp?id=cmbrate&value=2&CID=5062

but there are not a lot of them on shopshop.com
if you are willing to pay a little more theres

http://shopshop.com/Adsearch.asp?id=cmbrate&value=3&CID=5062

wich has more of a veriety

try
http://womens-apparel.smartbargains.com/search.aspx?s=&sdr=True&sfsf=False&dk=<ype=0&edeptid=0&t=cat.dept-9.cat-1408.filter.100&ecatid=0&deptid=9&catid=1408&fd=true&k=Dresses+%26+Evening+Wear&an=Type&av=Dresses&ev=0&evn=&sp=All+Products%2f%2f%2f%2fWomen%27s+Apparel+Bargains%7c%7c%7c%7c%7c%2f%2f%2f%2fDresses+%26+Evening+Wear%2f%2f%2f%2f

try
http://loehmanns.com/home-noflash.cfm

this site is really cheap
its all from $20 through $50

http://www.dillards.com/endeca/EndecaStartServlet?view=80&N=1000930+8

you really need to flip through these sights to find somthing you like. also, try expensive stores's sights and look at their clearence. sorry this is probably very annoying to scroll down but im giving you options!! i hope you find the dress you are looking for!!

Q: how can i get my boobs to get bigger or grow faster. any ideas? ? thanks!

try a push-up bra or a padded bra
thats all i can tell you
dont try to lose weight because when you lose weight, you lose it in al places including your chest

Q: how can you talk to guys with out getting all shy and embarresed. especailly if he is popular

first do your hair/makeup so you have self confidence. bring a friend. take deep breaths. please dont giggle. then walk by and say "hi". a few days later walk over and stand next to him and say "heyy whats up?" and then after he answers have your friend call you from across the room so you need to go so it dosent get to awkward. just get more cmforble with him. good luck!

Q: how can i make friends? i dont have a lot and my dad wants me to make more.. and so do i. so yeah thanksss =]

thats mean of your dad to say you need more friends. if you personally want to make more friends, go sit with some new people at lunch. do NOT go sit with the popular people because they will just be mean about it. go with some average people and give a compliment to one of the girls and then make conversation.
example: "heyy is anyone sitting here? o thanx well i am now. omg that neclace is so cute! where did you get it?"
and then just dont sit there being quiet
keep on adding in with their conversations. then sit with them again at lunch tthe next day. do that all week.
if the girls seem like they like you ask them if they want to hang out after school. then ask them if they want to go to the mall. that way they will like you and get to know you!

Q: alright so heres the thing,
1 of the girls i liked at 1 stage recently got dumped by her boyfriend, she keeps putting herself to blame for the reason she was dumped, and i think she is slightly depressed, she thinks nobody likes her, which isnt true cause shes one of the most poplular in year 8, and i think shes at the point where she is going to get hurt,
i dont want anything to happen to her cause shes one of by best girl friends(friendship) can somebody please help me if you could thanks in advance

im sorry but im guessing your a boy. if i got this wrong, please tell me.

i would go talk to her. hangout with her. maybe flirt a little bit? show her that she is loved. if you want to watch out for herm make her your girlfriend. then no other boy will hurt her.

good luck!

xo

Q: My name is Jessica and I am 15 years old. Theres this guy and we were best friends since like the middle of last year. Then, over the summer, someone told me he liked me and i liked him too so i decided to tell him...and he didnt exactly say it back but he practically hinted it and he gives me so many signs that he likes me. But this year, he leaves me to go mess with all these other girls,but even after he leaves me, no matter what happens or whatever girl he messes with...he comes back to me and only me, and sadly..i take him back. And he recently started going out with this other girl and he constantly rubs her in my face and talks about her infront of me now...i guess to make me jealous, and he hardly talks to me anymore but he occasionally sends me text messages asking about my love life
which is kinda strange considering we have such a vague friendship now. About 4 months ago, before he started going out with that girl, he asked me out...but i thought he was just kidding so i was joking around with him like "shutup stop playing with me"...although it appears as though he was serious because after that he got mad at me and didnt talk to me for a month. It seems he always tries to avoid me or let me go, i guess cause hes afraid of getting too attached to me, but we
have the same friends so we often end up hangin around eachother. His girlfriend has been trying to get extra close with me lately, which is a bit weird, and he gets mad whenever I'm around her. When he is not with his girlfriend, he is always trying to talk to me more than anyone else and he gets pretty touchy. I always catch him looking at me and he always tries to get my attention.
I still really like him and i don't know why...because i cant think of anything i like about him and hes not even my type, and i'm not his either. I guess opposites attract though. But anyhow, i kinda feel like its my fault we're like this now because I rejected him when he asked me out...even though i didnt know he was serious. He told me he was afraid of rejection so maybe that hurt him. Anyway, i know he's taken and all, but does he like me or not? its really bothering me.

this boy is playing with you emotions. he is just a player and he found that he can mess with you. you are to nice for this. he is only flirting because hes trying to get with you as another one of his girlfriends. i would stay far far away from this boy. even if hes hanging out with your group of friends dont talk to him. hees a player and a jerk and you deserve better!

Q: what are some good ways to flirt

smile. laugh. seem genuinely intrested in what the person is saying. "accidentally" touch their hand. tease them. kind of playfully make fun. just randomly go up to the person and sit next to them. be cute. say stuff like "you know you love me"
need more? lemme know!

Q: Is it ok to ask a guy out?.. ok I like this guy and we flirt all of the time.. but I want to get to know him more, besides at school. we are both busy with sports after school... and i just wanna hang out.. what should i do?? i really like him.
15/f

i dont see a problem with asking boys out. i do it all the time! but anyways if you dont want to ask him out on a date date, maybe ask him if he wants to come over your house to watch a movie. that way, you dont need to go according to movie times, and you can hang out, get comftorble, and get to know eachother.

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FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet

ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you