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Q: i had a blackhead and squeezed it out. there was a hole in place.. later i think i got another blackhead in there. i dunno what i should have done to the hole so that it would not fill up again?
The pore was still open to bacteria. You'd have to clean it, then apply ice or a pore-minimizing cream to close it back up, then clean it again.

Q: Okay so ill give u sum background.. me and this guy we'll say his name is tyler dated for 5 months. I fell so in love with him at the beginning of the relationship then he was different later on in the relationship and all we ever did was fight and argue and he was insecure so he was really protective and would freak out if another guy talked or texted me. So then we finally broke up. We broke up almost a week ago. Well, we still talk and he wants to be with me but thinks he messed up too bad. most of the time when we talk he acts like im still his girlfriend or like im his property and goes around threating people. He irritates me soo much but I cant seem to get over him and when he mentions his chick friends it drives me crazy and makes me sort of jealous. When other guys ask me out and things i feel like im cheating. How do I get over him? So i can move on with my life??
Tyler is abusive. The way he acts is violent, even though there may not be any physical hurting. The way he acts is jealousy gone out of control, and he is possessive. You guys did not have a healthy relationship, and you won't in the future. So don't think about it. Just realize that you'll never be happy in this violence cycle. i suggest to go to a guidance counselor, recommend to them that Tyler should visit them too, and get out there and find some people who won't abuse you. I would give you more information for an organization called the Katie Brown Organization which is founded by the family of a girl killed by domestic violence, but they don't have a website. Good Luck!

Q: okay i live in cleveland ohio and im really sick of not having a job so i saw a freakin mcdonalds sign and it said they were hiring so i just want to work there i guess money is money? i was just wondering how old you have to be and what stuff you need to work there? im 15 right now.
It really depends on the state; sometimes it's 16, other times it's 15, always either one of those. I THINK Ohio is 15, but I'm not sure, you can ask someone or something and I'm sure they'll know. As for other info, go to the following link:
http://www.mcdonalds.com/content/usa/work.html

Q: TO ANYONE THAT WATCHES GOSSIP GIRL !!
The very last song that was played
do you know the name of it ?! i really want to listen to it.
The last episode, "The Handmaiden's Tale"? I think so. I watched it on Wednesday, but I forget which song was played at the ending! Here's the list of songs played in the entire episode though, maybe you can figure it out, I can't:
Guess Who- Nekta
Happy Ending- Mika
Kiss, Kiss- Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Timebomb- Beck

If you need the music from any other episode, movie or show, go to the following link:
http://www.tunefind.com/

Q: Im captain of my JV cheer squad and me and the co-captains were going to get our team together to do something nice for the varisty girls, because they are competing in a few weeks. We were thinking like some little chocolates with a message attached to them..but we wanted something really creative..like a candy bar that could kind of compare with like good luck or something sweet. Any ideas? Thanks! :]
I know just the thing. You can send in to the M&M company and say what you want to be written on your M&Ms. I think you can do more than one message. Then they send you a big bag of M&Ms with your message(s) written on them. I don't think it costs too much, but I think they have the details on their website.

Q: my little sister's b-day party is on October 28th 2007 what games can we play in the gym we only have 1hour but I need these kids to have a good time or I dont get paid!!!
http://www.party411.com/gameguide.html#Kids'%20Parties
http://www.kidsource.com/kidsource/content5/birthday.party.html
http://www.expressbirthdayplanning.com/party_arts.html

Hope these help you survive this party! Good luck, and hope these work!

Q: i ve been masterburting for 3yrs now does it ve any effect on my life, and what is the best way to stop ??
Masturbation is just a way to curve sexual appetites. I wouldn't think that it would have much effect on your life. There's no reason to be ashamed of it, some people prefer not to, and some people prefer to. It's totally natural, a healthy alternative to sex. I don't see any reason why you would want to stop besides that you're ashamed of it. True, it's not something to do or announce your practice of in public, but neither is sex, so... yeah. Hope I helped.

Q: hi this is for itunes,
do you know of any sites/good programs to upload my dvds to to convert the files to itunes,
also sites that can download youtube videos?
thanks!
Well, I don't know, but you can go onto LimeWire (free downloads for free) and download DVD movies on the mp4 format, so that you can make it iTunes-worthy. Then just import it and it will usually work. I know this wasn't an answer to your asked question, but I hope you find this helpful.

Q: 15/F
Ok so over the summer, me and one of my guy friends were acting like we were dating but we wouldn't officially go out cuz our other best friend liked him too. Well towards the end of the summer, we stopped. But a week later, I find out that the guy & my best friend are dating. That hurt me sooo much. But now, for other reasons, I really can't and don't want to talk to the guy. And me & my best friend just recently made up.We've benn friends for 10 years. But I still hardly ever get to hang out with her cuz of her boyfriend. She's literally always with him. And the only time I can hang out with her is if they get into a fight. I don't want them to fight but I want to hang out with my best friend. What should I do?
First of all, I don't know what official is in charge of deciding whether a couple is dating or not. If you were acting like you were dating like all summer, then you were DATING. Period. Maybe it was a relationship kept secret from this friends, but it was still dating. This guy is a jerk if he wants to date you for the summer, then, while you guys still like each other, go out with your friend. Unless he didn't like you anymore. In that case, then, your friend has just as good a shot at him as you do. Tell her that you want to spend more time with her and that you haven't hung out recently, so invite her to a movie, shopping, etc. You also shouldn't be mad at your friend for going out with the guy, since she supposedly never knew you guys dated. Hope I helped!

Q: does anyone know the exact price of dolce & gabbana cologne at belks?

what are the best dolce & gabbana colognes?


what are the best colognes?
I like the BY cologne which you can find at
http://www.fragrancenet.com/f/net/mf_items.html?cat=00375&cur_letter=B&gs_gen=M

The prices are listed on the link.

Q: http://partycity.com/cgi-bin/parties/costumes.cgi?name=Fashion%20Flapper&parties=Halloween&productstype=Women&products=86300&zoom=1&start=&originaltype= im thinking of wearing this for halloween since my dumb mom wont let me order from online.. like we're going to party city to get it and HOPEFULLY it will still be in stock. im a 13 year old girl and I really want a cute costume that not many people would pick. my mom thinks its weird how i dont like wearing clothes other people do.. it makes me feel more confident since i get more complements than what happened in 6th grade and like 20 girls were bumble bees. dayum and it was all by accident and it better not happen again with this costume. ps. do you think that it would be innapropiate to carry that cigarette thing around? i mean i dont smoke (duh im in 8th grade) or anything but IMO it kinda completes the outfit and reminds me of one of my fave movies "breakfast at tiffany's" thanks. =]
Sort of. Try less makeup, daintier shoes, and a thicker boa. The rest of it is nice. But as long as the hair that the lady has isn't a wig that comes with it, 'cause her hair is totally ugly.

Q: So I work at this small store where there is the cashier(me) and my boss. (obv. there are other workers who take over the register after my shift, but when its your shift its just you and the boss) Well anyways..I am only 16 and I feel that my boss is acting inappropriatly towards me to an extent that I am seriously thinking about quitting my job. He has two sides to him, a major jerk and a sketchball. Every single day he also goes on about how I cant remember a price, that i "day dream", how something wasent properly stocked (even if I never touched that particular side of the store that day) or how i didn't do something just because I wasent told to. Apparently he expects me to "think ahead" and read his mind on exactly what needs to be done. Now his other side is creepy. He will call me babydoll, massage my shoulders when i walk by him, tell me im pretty or look nice today, or stare at me in a sick way almost. He even brought me homemade foods. I feel really uncomfortable about his pet names and his touching. It scares me and I feel like I can't stand up to him..i'm that scared. So, my question is...am I over reacting..or should I quit?
Creepy side is sexual harrassment, if you consider it as that. Remember, it is only sexual harrassment if you think of it as that. If you are uncomfortable, politely tell him to stop, and if he doesn't you have the okay to inform higher authority. Other side is mere pain-in-the-ass-ness, which is not a federal crime like sexual harrassment, but is fairly annoying. Just do as he says, and leave it alone. But if you are really bothered, get another job with a better boss.

Hey, I saw your feedback. I would say yes, this is the right thing to do, and if he ever touched you inappropriately (butt smacking, stroking, etc.) you can even file a suit. You don't have to go in on Monday and Tuesday, unless he already paid you for this month, where I would suggest you just work for those two days (check your contract to see if you really need to give 2-week notice)

Q: i don't know how to read notes, but want to be on broadway some day. how can i learn inexpensivly?

14/f
http://www.soundfeelings.com/products/music_instruction/music_reading_tool.htm]

That is a link to a product for learning notes that cost a mere $4.95.

Q: so i am not really into guys right now, unless they are celebrities or whatever. i know a guy likes me, but i really don't like him back. I am in a play and there is this guy who I sort of like, but everyone says he's gay. what should i do?
You can't have a crush on a boy and not be into guys right now. Unless this crush is some male celebrity who happens to be in your play. Do you really have a crush on him? To find out if you do, and don't actually just want to be friends with him, make friends, and if you still are crushing on him, then go for it. As for the gay thing, it is probably a joke or rumor. Decide for yourself whether or not he is gay. And the guy who likes you, but you don't like him, just ignore it until he openly asks you out, where you flatly refuse.

Q: My friend told me my bgf (who she used to date) is a bad kisser and i have kissed him but it was a small kiss and i want to know what I should do about it. He likes to kiss (duh haha) and i am more comfortable with kissing then her(meaning i do it more cause i like it) and its not like planned they are more spur of the moment but i guess talking would kind of work but thats just kind of weird. We talk about a lot of things but i dont know about that. Maybe if we start doing it more. Anyway thanx so much and i will rate all those who help me!
Okay, so you've kissed him once, a quick, small kiss, and your friend tells you he's a bad kisser so beware. My intial reaction is that he's not a bad kisser at all, and that your friend is jealous or something that he's dating you and not her anymore. I suggest you decide for yourself whether or not he is a "bad kisser" or not. If he is, deal with it. There is no polite, courteous way to say "I want you to be a better kisser because it bothers me that you're so bad". If you are really determined to get a good kiss, then I would suggest that you tell him you want to try out new kissing techniques, which you can find at the following link:
http://www.askheartbeat.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=7&Itemid=27

Q: how do you indirectly measure an object? like a tall flagpole?
I used a tangent, where we had a piece of paper with an angle thing on it, like a p... oh I can't think of it, that thing that has all those angles on it, and a straw across the top of the paper, where you look through the straw up at the top of the pole or whatever. There's a triangle at the end of a string attached to the straw, and the angle that the triangle goes to give you an angle where you use this formula with the person's height and stuff. Sorry if this isn't specific, but I'm sure you can tell your teacher or someone the description and get the actual name. Hope I helped a little bit. : )

Q: well someone left a really mean message on my myspace (on a little notepad thing, so I don't know who it's from). it said "you're an ugly stupid hoe. jk girl i love you! or at least, i have to pretend i do!"

well, i'm definitely not stupid or a hoe, and i don't think i'm ugly. so i know i shouldnt let this bother me, but i've felt like crying ever since i saw it. and i cant stop wondering who wrote it. one of my "friends?" someone i don't really know? and why would they write that? i'm not mean or stuck up... i'm always really nice to everyone! my mom says someone is just jealous of me, but that doesn't make me feel any better. it just really hurts to know that someone secretly hates me. how can i stop feeling so bad about this?
You shouldn't feel bad about it. As long as you know that you're not ugly, stupid or a ho, it doesn't matter. GET OVER IT. Why would someone who is so mean matter anyway? Just delete the comment or something and forget about it. Sorry if this isn't the answer you want to hear, but you really do need to get over it. My friends poke at each other all the time. (ex. Katie, why are you so ugly? I saw a 6-year-old cry when she looked at you yesterday.) It doesn't mean anything.

Q: I want to get my belly pierced but i'm scared that it'll hurt =[,does it hurt ?
Of course it's going to hurt. You're piercing your self. With a needle. Making a hole through your skin. It IS going to hurt. But I don't know how much it'll hurt. It could be like a finger prick, or maybe it'll feel like a bullet. I wouldn't know. But my advice: go for it. Fear shouldn't stop you from doing things you really want to do.

Q: ok well school is gonna be pretty far from my house pretty soon. im gonna go to a different school next year and its about 10 miles from my house and the school i currently go to is 7 miles away in the opposite direction. next semester my brother is going to be at the same school im in now and ill be going to the new school. my parents cant drive me to school. the closest metro bus stop is 2 miles away and a school bus stop is about 3 miles away. im only 14 and i need to know how i can convince my parents to let me go to this school because its such a great school and all my friends go there. any suggestions?
You can
1. Have you brother take you to school (if he's old enough)
2. Have an older friend pick you up and drive you in.
3. Get a concierge.
4. Take bike.
5. Have your mom or dad drive you in.
6. Go boarding. (if your new school boards.)
7. Get up early and walk or skateboard to the bus stop.

That's all I can think of. Hope I helped!

Q: i really want a typewriter.
i would love a nice, old, vintage (but working) one but all the ones on ebay don't work.
is there a company that makes new ones that look like the old ones?
what are some good name brands of typewriters?
and how does a ribbon work?
Go to Wikipedia for info on typewriters. I have a Universal brand typewriter that I got at a local antique shop, and I am sure that you will be able to find a nice one somewhere in a local shop in your area. Just browse around and maybe you can look in your grandmother's attic or something. Hope I helped!

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Happy 2008! My name is Dana for those of you who don't know, and I obviously love to give advice, because if I didn't, I wouldn't be here. I will pick at anyone who doesn't bother to capitalize their "I"'s or the beginnings of sentences. Proper grammar and spelling is very important to me. bcuz it Just loooks soooo sloppie when u type lyke this. So a word to the wise, and for the majority of you that it doesn't apply to, think about it, and watch yourself. Second of all, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever write something that is not true. So therefore I am always right. So stand down and accept it. (Note: that also means that my "opinions" are actual facts. At least the ones I bother to write.)

Never ask me anything about how fat you are or love life. Cliched, I know, but I am heartless when it comes to the truth. If you don't know what to do with your cheating boyfriend that you still love, go ask someone else since I could not care less. Seriously.

Have a nice day!
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Favorite artist so far: Bob Marley
Favorite movie ever: "Breakfast at Tiffany's"
Favorite actress: Grace Kelly (as you can tell)
Favorite brand: Vineyard Vines (as you can tell)
Favorite song: "No Woman, No Cry"

WARNING:
My answers will be based on a preppy lifestyle. I am the clean, preppy sort, like the person who looks clean and classy and doesn't really notice anyone who isn't, regardless that some weirdos think that preppy people hate them. Also, if you wonder about the corrections on the answers I give, no worries; they're just simple corrections to those who don't know where to put a period, or that they have to capitalize the beginnings of sentences. Please don't be offended.

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