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Lost my best friend
15/F
Ok so over the summer, me and one of my guy friends were acting like we were dating but we wouldn't officially go out cuz our other best friend liked him too. Well towards the end of the summer, we stopped. But a week later, I find out that the guy & my best friend are dating. That hurt me sooo much. But now, for other reasons, I really can't and don't want to talk to the guy. And me & my best friend just recently made up.We've benn friends for 10 years. But I still hardly ever get to hang out with her cuz of her boyfriend. She's literally always with him. And the only time I can hang out with her is if they get into a fight. I don't want them to fight but I want to hang out with my best friend. What should I do?
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I think that you should talk to her about it, tell her that her boyfriend is okay and everything, but you just want time alone to spend with your best friend. Then make a definet date, time, and location. Try to plan before hand so that it isnt last minute and she doesnt already have plans. GoOd LuCk!!!!
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The best sure way to be able to hang out with your friend is to actually call her in advance, and plan a time to meet up with her. Might seem annoying if the other hang-outs you've had in the past with her have all been sortof hang out right after school types, but if she is now with her boyfriend during these times, that's going to be distracting for her.
You may also want to call her up, just to chat, if you really miss her. Or contact her online, that sort of thing. When you do reach her, it can't hurt to tell her how you feel. Not in a being upset about this guy kind of way, but just in a way that focuses more on how you feel than on her actions. You may wish to say something like " I miss hanging out with you, because I feel like we don't really see each other much anymore" and see how she responds.
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First of all, I don't know what official is in charge of deciding whether a couple is dating or not. If you were acting like you were dating like all summer, then you were DATING. Period. Maybe it was a relationship kept secret from this friends, but it was still dating. This guy is a jerk if he wants to date you for the summer, then, while you guys still like each other, go out with your friend. Unless he didn't like you anymore. In that case, then, your friend has just as good a shot at him as you do. Tell her that you want to spend more time with her and that you haven't hung out recently, so invite her to a movie, shopping, etc. You also shouldn't be mad at your friend for going out with the guy, since she supposedly never knew you guys dated. Hope I helped!
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