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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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Ok itsme again aha we'll just call this the Rsituation so you know if I ever bother you again aha btw I'm 15 f and he is 16 m just in case u didn't know! But anyways I still keep thinking about him and when I do an effort not to I still do and now I feel weird or creepy bc when I go on fb on occasion I allways check his profile like I don't know why it's a habit! My bff never talks to me anymore bc of her stupid boyfriend that I hate so I never see her by herself just me and her and I allways try to talk about this with her but I just feel awkward and she allways says the same thing it'll be ok. And no you shouldn't tell him. Well I don't think I should to bc I regret tons of stuff it's just what I do! But like I can't help but wonder about him he's allways on my mind. But I can't really do anything about it I don't think I'll see him for a while. And you know what's sad is I wait it doesn't make shear but I wait for him to text me I check my phone to see if he texted me it's a habit to! I'm not obsessed like I'm not gonna track him down haha but it's just like I'm stuck and I can't get out. Also at school there's a couples guys that I would go for but either I find out something bad bout them or there out of my league or the guy I like is taking over my mind ahhha
well i don't really know what to tell you. I mean, its your choice. You sound pretty obsessed with that one guy who you are always checking his facebook page and checking to see if he texted you. if you don't think you'll see him for a while, maybe just try to be friends with the guy? as for the other guys in your school, give them a shot. even if you think they are out of your league, just give them a chance. who knows? maybe one of them will turn out to be mr. perfect.
whatever you do.. don't live life in fear. go out there and take risks. thats what life is all about. without taking risks, you'll never learn from your mistakes and you'll never learn new experiences.
I dint know if you remember but you answered a question about me not wanting to ruin a friendship with a guy I like. I'm so confused, I feel lost. I feel like he's the same with every girl he so nice overall and girls fall for him but he never goes out with anyone. We were texting and he said"I know right, I'm going to miss you and everyone else next year" he walks with me to my classes but I feel like he does it just to be nice or as friends. I'm so frustrated I can't tell him anything because I will ruin such a great friendship that we have. I know about the whole just try and see what happens it better to just tell him and stuff but this friendship is too good to let it go. I can trust him with anything he's like a dream bestfriend:/
ok well let me say this right off the bat.. first of all, this is your problem. the only way to get out of it is if YOU fix it. Everyone (including me) can give you as much advice as you want or need, but ultimately you're the one who has to make the decision.
If you say this friendship is too good to let it go, then follow your heart. My advice would still be just tell him. who knows? maybe he feels the same way and then your friendship would be even more powerful and you guys would connect even more. But like I said, you're the one who has to decide what to do. If you do not wish to take my advice, then go ahead. It really doesn't matter to me. I'm giving you options but you're the one who has to decide what to do. If you honestly feel like he is your dream best friend and you don't want to mess it up, then just stay quiet and be friends with him. Its your decision.
just remember.. its better to live life taking risks, learn from your mistakes, and gain new experiences.. rather than to live life in fear of making mistakes/making the wrong decisions.
How does a developing friendship online compare with a developing friendship face-to-face?
online is less trustworthy than face to face.
When you develop a friendship online, you can't see their face. meaning.. you don't really know what their expressions are, how they are feeling, what they are doing. Its also very very hard to trust someone through online. You never know if they are lying or telling the truth.
Let me ask you this, is it easier for you to lie if you're typing something to someone? or is it easier for you to lie if the person is right in front of you staring at you?
get my point? When you're face to face, you develop a more trustworthy friendship. you can feel the emotions. If they smile, you know they are expressing happiness. If they aren't looking at you during a conversation, they are uninterested. If they lie, you have a better chance of knowing it in person rather than online, because you can look at their facial expressions and body language.
Also, face to face conversations allow you to get closer. literally. you can get as close as you want. if its a more intimate relationship, you can touch them to show how you feel. but if its online, you can't literally do that.
Face to face conversations are the best kinds of friendship if you're looking for a trustworthy, loyal friendship. however if you're looking for just a casual "hey hows it going" friendship, then online might be for you.
oh and face to face conversations allow the people to hang out more and be comfortable with each other. for example, if you decide to hang out with them frequently, then you should consider face to face conversations because its a closer bond rather than online
ok so why do we need movie ratings if parents let kids go see them any way or let them watch them at home alread
movie ratings aren't just for parents to control their kids. It just extra information about the movie.
Its the same thing as saying "why are there summaries for movies?"
Its just information about the movie. same thing as the director, movie time, the producer etc. It just helps you understand the movie better and helps you get the feel of what to expect.
okay, i like this boy and my friends tell me he like me two. and everytime we get around each other we be smiling and flirting, and i be shy to tell him how i really feel about him because i meant not like what i say to him,so how do i tell him how i feel without laughing or something?
well first of all, take a proper english class because your grammar is not good.
just look him in the eye and take a deep breathe and say it. It helps if you think of something serious. Or even something that makes you sad or mad.
My friend also suggest that you could pretend like you're acting for a movie. If she is trying to change her emotions in front of people, she pretends she is acting for a movie and if she does it successfully she imagines that she gets really rich and famous.
Or you could persuade yourself. Like tell yourself "If I do this correctly without laughing, I am going to reward myself by buying myself a new outfit" or any other kind of reward you'll like.
I'm 18 years old and only been with one person that I am still with. When I enter a finger into my vagina, it comes to a stop with my finger half way in, but if I move my finger back towards the anus it goes farther back. This place also hurts during sex because the penis pushes aginst it. I don't feel like it is normal. What should I do?
its normal. a vagina isn't straight up and down like a pencil standing up on the eraser. A vagina is angled. If you use tampons, read the info sheet that comes inside the box. It tells you that when you insert a tampon, you angle it backwards. Thats because thats the angle your vagina is. When i was younger I thought the same way. I tried to use a tampon and it wouldn't go further until halfway and it really hurt. Until my friend told me that you're supposed to tilt it back towards your lower back. Don't worry nothing is wrong with you :) its like that for every woman. As for sex, when he's starting to put his penis in, just tell him to put it in at an angle and then it should just slide right in :)
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
what does it mean when i sleep a lot. its always at a certain time i dont understand why this has been happening everyday for about a week now at around 2 as soon as i get home from school til about 5 or 6 in the after noon is that normal? and then when i go to bed at night i usually go to bed around 10 or 11 and wake up at 5:30 -6 depends how tired i am but i dnt know whats wrong with me why im so tired it wasnt like that before
it could be a bunch of things. It could mean that you're ill and your body is just taking care of itself. sleeping a lot helps your immune system. Thats why when you're sick, doctors tell you to rest and sleep a lot. It could just be overexhaustion. Maybe last week you had a very busy week (compared to normal weeks) and your body is just telling you that you need to rest. or it could be that you have a certain type of sickness. Maybe Mononucleosis? I had that. Its commonly known as the "Kissing Disease". Its when your spleen and lymph nodes become enlarged. A common symptom of this is being fatigued a lot, sleeping a lot, feeling sore, and the lymph nodes are swollen, white, or fuzzy. If you think you have it, go to the doctor to get it checked out.
Recently I posted a question asking opinions about a story. What I got pretty much said it's stupid and makes no sense, rather than constructive criticism. I only put the basics of the plot, but it's supposed to be stupid.
What happens is a zombie goes on an epic journey to find his lost cookie. He goes through a cave of snakes, a river of piranhas and fire, and a dragon's lair and survives, then he falls off a cliff after getting the cookie and dies (again). Is it really so stupid I shouldn't bother?
I'm not trying to sound like a whiny lady-dog!
well it depends on who this story is for..
if its for little children- then yes i think its good. It has a fantasy theme with some humor
if its for more mature adults- then no. i think its way too boring for adults to read. Same thing for juniors/teens. Most older people are not interested in a zombie finding a cookie haha.
If your aim is for mature adults, try reading some sci-fi adult books. They have tons of great ideas. If you need help finding a good book, go to any library or book store and ask for a science fiction adult book and they will be helpful to you. Here are some popular ones- Eragon, Harry Potter, Twilight, True Blood. Try making it suspenseful too. Adults love mystery. It keeps them on their toes and keeps them wanting to read more. Maybe perhaps add some romance too? :) like have the zombie meet a human and they fall in love and he has to rescue her from the dragon or something
and 1 more thing.. i highly recommend you change the cookie part.. It just seems.. awkward. I mean, how many times do you hear the word cookie and zombie used in the same sentence? they don't really work together. just like dinosaur and rollercoaster don't really go together. do you see what i mean? they should belong in the same topic/subgroup. so for example, zombie would go well with a scientist. maybe in your story, the zombie should be on a journey to find the scientist who created him? think about it
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Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl.
My parents never listen to me, I always get in trouble by them because I'm not "Perfect Enough". I'm not pretty, I'm not smart, I'm not athletic. I don't write neatly, my room looks like a whore house, I can't take responsibility, I always want more, I get what I want, I'm not popular, This is what they tell me. Really, do they need to say that?
I'm never allowed to lock my room or close my door, my mother constantly barges in no matter what, searching my room for anything illegal. I don't do anything illegal, hell, I'm not even allowed to drive yet or go for walks, so how am I supposed to GET the stuff?
I can't do this anymore, I try talking to them, but it always ends up in them telling me how unperfect I am. What should I do?
talk back. you're 15.. its about time you stand up for yourself. I'm 18 and you're talking to a girl whose taken so much shit from my parents too. Thats just the way they are unfortunately. When I was 15 and 16 I was such a shy little innocent girl and if I made a mistake they would yell at me and i'd just cry and let them get to me. But now i'm 18 and i've learned how to stand up for myself. Yeah its true that its not right to talk back to your parents. Thats only true when they're right. But if they aren't right about the things they say, then they have no right to put you down like that.. They are parents. Parents are supposed to make their children feel safe, secure, happy, and strong. However there are some parents out there who do the exact opposite. They put their children down, calling them names and saying rude things to make them feel worse. Welcome to my world. I accidentally dropped his glasses and my dad flips out on me. I didn't put my shoes in the right spot and he flips out.
Anyways haha, you just gotta stand up for yourself. yell at them if you have to. But just remember- only do it if the things they yell at you for, is not true. If they say you don't write neatly, but you know you do, then yell at them for it. show them that they can't boss you around like that and put you down. Everytime my parents and I fight I always say "you're supposed to make me feel better and teach me how to become a better person.. not to put me down and feel worse about myself like a bully"
If you've tried talking to them about it, try shouting to get your point across. tell them to stop talking and LISTEN because you're 15. Thats the age when you start acting more mature and that means you really need to learn how to stand up for yourself.
There's no "right" way to stand up for yourself. You just gotta take a deep breath and get the courage to say whats on your mind. If you need to vent or go on a rant, then do it. If you need to cry in front of them, then do it. It shows more emotion and they will understand better on how you feel. MAKE THEM REALIZE HOW YOU'RE FEELING. you can't make them realize just by talking. you need to SHOW them how you're feeling. express emotions and show them how its affecting you negatively.
but just some more advice, don't go overboard ok? One time I got in a big fight with my dad and I went way overboard and said things I definitely regret. Make sure you think about what you say first, that way you wont be tempted to say things you dont mean. Also, if you do decide to yell at them and stand up for yourself, you need to realize when the fight gets elevated. for example, if you're yelling and then they yell back and it gets really crazy and dangerous.. then you need to stop. like i said earlier, 15 is an age where you have to be more mature. Knowing when enough is enough is a part of maturity. So if you do yell, you MUST know when to stop. Don't go overboard ok? Make your point and then stop.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any questions
how can i concentrate in studies
we've all been there done that. classes that you're uninterested in mean it is so hard to pay attention. The reason why you can't concentrate is because lack of interest. So maybe try going in depth about the topic, like doing some research outside of class and try to find something you like about it. Try to get interested in it, even if you have to fake it.
Motivation always works. What I do when I can't do homework is this- I'll sit at my desk and put everything away. cell phone, music, tv all of that should be away. just close your eyes for 2 minutes and rub your head/temples and even hum a little if you need to. then look at the paper/homework/notes whatever and read the topic slowly and then pause and interpret what you just read and try to study off that. It really helps if you go slowly. If you try to rush, you won't learn anything and your concentration will be about finishing the task, rather than learning it.
Reward yourself! If you feel like you learned something, then reward yourself by taking a break, watching your favorite show, eating chocolate, hanging out with friends. whatever you like to do.
then after 20 minutes, go back and study some more. its better to study with a few breaks in between rather than cramming everything and getting stressed out from it.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
okay so I'm in love with two guys !!!!
I'm 17/ female.
I went out with this guy named James last year and me and him mess around a little bit .. after we broke up i met this amazing guy named Daniel
you said you and james hooked up while he had a girlfriend??
ok listen very carefully.. if james was willing to hook up with you while he was still dating that other girl, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you, if you and james were in a relationship??
in other words- if you and james were in a relationship, he could cheat on you.. just like he cheated on his girlfriend with you.
do you really want to be with a guy who already has a history of cheating? plus there's always the chance he could cheat on you..
in my opinion, i'd pick daniel. because nothing ever really went wrong with you 2. besides him moving.. but did you ever think that maybe he HAD to move? maybe he didnt want to, but was forced to by family or work or anything else.
if i were you here's what i would do. first of all, forget james. yeah he was your first boyfriend but he's a cheater. why would you want to be with a guy who could cheat on you? forget him. he's not a good guy and will most likely end up breaking your heart in the end. second of all, i would try to get in touch with daniel again. i'm not sure how much you have contact with him (phone number? email? facebook?) but try to get in contact with him and talk to him more. let him know how you feel. if its possible, maybe try long distance relationship if you're up to it? Lastly, If there is no possible way to reconnect with daniel.. then i say leave james and daniel alone and forget both of them. be single and just have fun. dont stress out over silly boy drama. let love come to you. dont go looking for love.
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older dog peeing in house at 3
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take him to the vet
or buy doggie diapers. they actually make them. my friend's dog has one because it cant control its bladder.
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After watching some really creepy stuff on YouTube I'm really creeped out and can't get it out of my head. I feel paranoid especially at night. I can't take it anymore, what do I do!? Thank you
it really helps if you transform the creepy things into hilarious things. for example- if its a ghost that you're scared of.. picture the ghost playing with a barbie doll in an indian accent hahaha. or if you're scared of a person bleeding, imagine the person squirting ketchup everywhere and hamburgers around them and they are trying to cook while they are blindfolded and making a mess everywhere. haha i'm not really sure if those specific ideas will help but you get the idea :) instead of picturing it scary, picture it hilarious.
PS: studies show that it helps even more if you actually laugh out loud. HAHAHAHAHAH
I have this friend. We've known each other since I was in second grade, and she was in kindergarten. Anyway, we've been best friends for about ten years. We're the kind of friends where we can not see each other for a long time and still remain friends. We have a good friendship, and we caught up about what's going on in our lives, etc.
We were supposed to hang out yesterday, but she ditched me for a friend she sees everyday. Today we were going to hang out, but she ditched me again. I didn't think much of it but now I feel so hurt. She never keeps her word and always ditches me. I don't see her very often since we are always busy, and even though we live about three mins away, she's always with other people and stuff. She's popular. But I feel like a loser when she ditches me for all the popular people, even though she's in 8th grade and I am a sophomore. I need some advice. What should I do?
sit her down and explain to her your feelings. let her know she hurt you and that you miss her and want to see her more. if she refuses to talk, maybe you should try taking a step further and make plans with her and overexaggerate like mark it in her calendar and send an email and text and voicemail so she KNOWS you guys have plans. then later, if she does ditch you can prove to her that you gave her enough notices and she should have known.
if she is still acting like a brat, then ignore her for a few days or even weeks and see if she comes around. that's what i did between me and my friend. she was always looking for competition between us. who wore the best clothes, who looked the best, who had a better boyfriend etc. finally i just got fed up with it and stopped talking to her and i've never been happier. then after a few weeks she talked to me and said she missed me. so sometimes you just need to back off and let her come to you. if she is a true friend, she will come running after you.
if she's not a true friend, seriously forget about her. you will find much better friends out there who will treat you with respect :)
inbox me if you have any questions :)
Hi ok it's me from the getting over the guy and like I understand it takes time but me and this guy never went out like we were in the talking stage in the summer and like we hung out with each other in the group and like we hugged a lot and yeah aha and it just made me feel wanted I've never been in a relationship and he just made me feel diffrebt and I think it's bc he's the closest I've ever gotten with a guy that I've built stuff up in my mind I can't get over him bc I wanna do things over again and we were so close to kissing but someone we both knew came around the corner anyways it's just that I want him back but I can't and I have dreams about him and I allways wake up happy but then realize it wasn't real so like I can't just say it to him bc I don't have the guts o asked him to a dance but that's wen he was just switching schools and he told me he loved to but bc of the school situation. And I went with someone else and all I did was think bout him:( my one friend thinks I should tell him and my other closer friend thinks I shouldn't and but my closer friend we haven't really been talking bc she has a boyfriend and he's allways with her and I don't like him ok well idk anymore advice??
I still really think you should tell him your true feelings, regardless if he lives somewhere else.
Don't hold back girl! life is all about taking risks. you gotta risk it to get the biscuit :) You'll never know the truth unless you try and ask. trust me it might be worth it :) i once was so scared to talk to this guy i really liked and i kept thinking about him but was so scared to say anything and finally one day i just got the nerve and said "hey do you want to get coffee after school or just hang out?" and he said yes! and we hung out which was an amazing day.
but if he isn't interested.. there's nothing you can really do about that. you can't actually change his mind. so the only thing you can do is to forget about him. don't get frustrated if there's no improvement after a few weeks.. it does take time. it took me over a year to get over a guy but hey, it was worth it. want to know why? because if i hadn't gotten over it, i wouldn't be as strong as i am right now. there's a lot of ways to forget about him, the key thing is to NOT think about him. so keep yourself busy. hang out with your girl friends a lot. just be happy :) don't let this silly little issue get in the way of your life and your happiness :) there are a lot bigger issues out there in the world to worry about and in my opinion, boys are the least of it :)
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ok so my mom is always yelling or telling me im a b**** or a little f*** and i'm getting so upset and tired of it. she tells me and my sister to shut up and go the f*** away whenever we try to talk to her about anything cuz she is always on stupid facebook on her phone whenever she isnt screaming at a member of my family. and i hate wen she yells so much because she yells much louder than my neighbors who were actually in the military (no lie). and sometimes she squeezes my face and screams in my face for some dumb reason (she has done this many times in the past but not too recently.) and other times, she says "i brought u into this world and i can take you out" and she says that she will kick me to the ground, help me up then kick me down again. and she says that she will smash me and my sister's heads 2gether. anyway, is this normal and ok for her to do? oh and fyi, she has never beat me before. she has just grabbed me with her nails and they went into my skin a little bit a few times and she has grabbed my face but nothing horrible. . .
um. no. its not normal. any mother or guardian who calls their offspring a b**** or little f*** is definitely not normal.
call 911 or talk to a professional like counselor and get help.
you could possibly even try to sue her if you wanted to because that is actually considered abuse. there's 2 types of abuse- physical and emotional. so considering she has physically hurt you and emotionally hurt you, you could file an assult against her and she would go to court and you could press charges against her.
if i were you, teach her a lesson. she's a bad influence on you and everyone around you.
Hi ok so I've posted a couple questions about this before only it's gotten better! Anyways so I used to have a thing with this guy I really fell for him we had classes together but never seemed to talk a lot then when we became close ( not as close in summer) he told me that he was going to a diffrebt school ever since mid february I haven't seen him which really helped me to get over him better! But I miss him and we haven't talked or texted and it's alright but I thunk I still like him because he allways pops into my mind when I do certain stuff and it brings up memories and makes me cry to myself. And its not that easy to text him anymore bc it seems he drifted and I still in my head want him back and I'm sometimes not happy and still when people yell for some odd reason he comes into my mind and I want to cry (yell as in getting mad and stuff) anyways Im still confused and I'm kinda a medium shy medium open when it comes to guys so it's not easy:/
try texting him or even calling him (which means more than a silly text) and tell him how you feel. say you miss him and really wish he was here to comfort you.
if he seems disinterested, just move on. you said its getting better.. which means you're doing something right. just keep doing what you're doing and it will get better to the point where you dont even think about him.
time is all it takes. it took about 1 year for me to get over a really bad relationship. it took a lot of work but after that year, i felt new and improved :)
it really helps if you have a best friend or someone close who you can talk to about this. my best friend was there with me all the time and she really helped me get over him. try finding someone like that. if you dont have anyone like that, i'm always here to help! :)
I'm nineteen and I have met the man I want to marry. I know it sounds kinda crazy but we just really click. The only problem is he is addicted to unprescribed pain killers. We've had times where he'd relapse and we'd break up for like 3 days and he was good again. But this time I feel completely shut down and like I can't deal with him ignoring me this time. I'm so sad because he's living with a bad kid currently cause he got kicked out of home but his parents want him home again. We had a really good date night saturday night but then I brought up the him not calling me and letting me know what's going on[I can't call him cause his phones gone] I told him I was serious about the calling because it made me anxious. I live 7 hours away and I want to talk to him even if currently we aren't technically dating. He said he really wants to date and that he loves me so much and wants to marry me one day. He also said he would call me the next day which was yesterday, I never got a phone call or anything and haven't talked to him since. I'm severely depressed and just want him to man up. I'm constantly worried he is just gonna leave me and ill never see him again. Although everytime he has broken up, he's come back within a week. I know he loves me but I know he's addicted and prob can't make me happy till he is happy but I need just any insight or advice. I really love him and I want it to work, but if he's just lying about his feelings then I want to move on with my life as difficult as it might be, it'll be easier than this. Please help me :(
there's nothing you can personally really do to help his problem.
but you can get him some help by a professional. the next time you 2 have plans, tell him you are going to take him somewhere and then take him to a counseling service. they can help.
inbox if you need more help!
I left my homeland with our son to come to be with him in this new country. He promised me we would work together to make us work and build but it just got worse after 1 1/2year after asking him arent we moving forward he said half wants to be with the family the other half wants to be single. From there is got worse. We had an open relationship which did not involve sleeping with people but everything else. It made it worse then we cut it off and tried to focus on us but he got worse, putting me down about how i looked that no one would ever want me this carried on for 1 1/2. We tried counselling and i sought help then he finally snapped and said I'll marry you I'll do this and that but i was damaged and told him to do simple things to prove his love which he did not do, it was all talk and because i saw no action i pushed him away and we had closure. days later he sleeps with a girl and now they are seeing eachother i felt like a total dick cos after finding out I'm asking for him back. its been a hard relationship never 50/50 all i wanted was his time and love but now everything i love about him he's giving to this girl. its been 3 months we've slept together a few times as its not official with them.
We have two kids together and I us more than ever to work. Was it wrong for me to not give him the chance to finally prove himself? Its' been 10 years almost. I gave him everything and left my home for him and we are in a country surrounded by no real family of my own but his.
Do I keep trying? Do I give up? He still has feelings for me and our family but this new girl he really likes and even told her he wants to marry her. they are not even official. I cant help but ask if he wants to be serious with her. He told me we were the most importnat thing in his life but he just talked about what he wanted to do, didnt do it! I just took it that he wouldnt change if I took him back I asked for simple things from him.
I didnt expect him to move on so soon
What do I do? I feel lost.
oh honey.. just give up on him.
i had a migrane reading that story.. only god knows how you can possibly feel right now.
life is about being happy and fulfilling your dreams.
is this your idea of being happy?? are you achieving your dreams by being with this guy? is this guy making you happy?? if the answer is no, you REALLY need to move on.
he's only making your life worse.. why bother put yourself through that situation? don't you WANT to be happy?
i know its hard but you really should consider moving on from him. if he's thinking this way right now (about marrying another woman) who knows how he will be thinking in a few years from now.. in my opinion, if you hang on to him right now, things will just keep getting worse and your life will be miserable.
also 1 big piece of advice i have for you is this. If you do decide to leave him.. you will find out the honest truth about everything. If the honest truth is that he loves you, he will run after you and follow you so he can be with you. But if the honest truth is that he loves the other woman.. then he wont try to run after you.
either way.. life is a giant risk. life is all about taking risks. if i were you, i'd take this risk to find out the truth, rather than waiting and hiding in fear.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
Hi..I'm a 23 y/o female. I've come here to explain my story and hope.. i can find some sort of closure to what's on my mind. I..about..4 weeks ago have been seeing this guy, hes 27. No kids, and his last relationship was a while ago (4-5)years. He's a good guy, picks me up, takes me out. He won't let me pay for anything. We strictly only hang out on the weekends because he works during the week.. early. My schedule is all over the place so it doesn't matter for me, but i wait for those weekends to hang out with him. We've gone out 5 times..and i know it seems weird to take advice so soon, its just, im trying to protect myself from being hurt (once again). See thats my thing, i'm USED to being hurt, falling to fast, questioning everything. I guess you could say now that im a bit paranoid.. and it sucks. So anyway, this last date we had, we went for dinner about almost an hour away, and drove back into town. We then got a room somewhere and you know the story..the next day we went our seperate ways and hung out later that night to the see a movie. I want to know if he wants to make this exclusive. I don't know if i should wait for him to ask me.. orrr if i should be the one to ask about it? I'm not the type to sleep around. I'm pretty sure he likes me but.. we all know sex can change things drastically sometimes. It can make it.. or break it. I wasn't putting me ALL into it, for the mear fact that my neck is sprained lol.. but..I'm not sure how he really feels. It the day after the movies and i text him.. but nothing back. I'm just afraid that's all he wanted??.. and that scares me the most. I like him a lot.. but i feel that my wall needs to rebuild itself all over again if that's all it's going to be. could this be another heartbreak? or is it something to try to pursue? I shouldn't feel afraid to ask.. i mean life's to short anyway right?... but why am i?..
its normal for your to be scared to find out the truth. especially since you've been emotionally hurt a lot. but honestly, isn't it better to find out the truth and then become stronger from that and move on? than to hide in fear and risk another heartbreak?
you always want to find out his true feelings sooner rather than later.
confront him about it and just be abrupt and say "hey we hooked up and i just want to know what your thoughts are? are we an item? whats our label? what are we exactly?"
its normal to ask questions and be curious, especially after the 5th date.
my advice- don't wait too long because its a bigger risk to a heartbreak.