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Is it ok andnormal for mothers to do and say what mine does? ( see details)
ok so my mom is always yelling or telling me im a b**** or a little f*** and i'm getting so upset and tired of it. she tells me and my sister to shut up and go the f*** away whenever we try to talk to her about anything cuz she is always on stupid facebook on her phone whenever she isnt screaming at a member of my family. and i hate wen she yells so much because she yells much louder than my neighbors who were actually in the military (no lie). and sometimes she squeezes my face and screams in my face for some dumb reason (she has done this many times in the past but not too recently.) and other times, she says "i brought u into this world and i can take you out" and she says that she will kick me to the ground, help me up then kick me down again. and she says that she will smash me and my sister's heads 2gether. anyway, is this normal and ok for her to do? oh and fyi, she has never beat me before. she has just grabbed me with her nails and they went into my skin a little bit a few times and she has grabbed my face but nothing horrible. . .
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um. no. its not normal. any mother or guardian who calls their offspring a b**** or little f*** is definitely not normal.
call 911 or talk to a professional like counselor and get help.
you could possibly even try to sue her if you wanted to because that is actually considered abuse. there's 2 types of abuse- physical and emotional. so considering she has physically hurt you and emotionally hurt you, you could file an assult against her and she would go to court and you could press charges against her.
if i were you, teach her a lesson. she's a bad influence on you and everyone around you.
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful to you.
For a mom to yell at her children is normal, to yell so loud that she can be heard on the next block is not normal. TO harm you around your face and head is abuse as is digging her nails into your skin.
You do not say where your father is in all this and why he has done nothing to stop this or if he is even aware that his is going on. If dad is not aware of what is going on and is someplace you can contact him then he is the first one to contact. If for some reason you cannot contact your father then contact you grandparents, Aunts or Uncles for help.
Something is wrong with mom and she needs help. Once you go outside the family for that help, and you may have too, there is less control over the situation. Should you be unable to get any family members to help then you have no choice but to go to a teacher or school principal or guidance councilor. By law they have to take certain actions on your behalf if they feel you and or your sister are in danger.
Should something happen when you are not able to get to school call 911 for help. If you cannot use the phone take your sister and go to the nearest fire station. Fire station are safe havens for children. The firefighters will care for you while calling for the proper help.
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What's going on is neither OK nor is it normal. It is abuse, both emotional and physical.
Kicking you to the ground IS "beating". So is smashing your head against your sister's. It is very cruel of her to do these things to you, and you should not have to live this way.
I urge you to inform a school counselor of the situation as soon as possible. They are required by law to do something about it; you will not be ignored. Do not worry about getting your mother in trouble - she needs help and the only way she will get it is if someone calls attention to the situation. If you still find yourself hesitating, remember that you are not the only one suffering; your sister is also taking abuse.
This is a very serious situation. Your mother has threatened your life. The phrase, "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out" is a death threat, not a joke.
If the abuse continues, a neighbor someone may end up calling the police. It's better that this is handled in a more controlled manner. The best thing for EVERYONE, including your mother, is for you to inform an adult at school.
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My mom freaks out like that too. She's rather intimidating and violent and brings me down like your mom does. In my opinion, it is not okay. Children shouldn't be treated like that. But I'm just following my morals. She's your mother, and she obviously needs adjustment.
My advice: grow from it. Learn from it. Although it's hurtful to see your mother as such, you really can't do much because she's an adult and she is older. Accept that fact firstly. Don't try to fight it. All you can do is learn to adjust to it, or try your best to act better and avoid it. I'm not sure the cause of the way your mother acts, but try suggesting counseling or talking to a school counselor. Talking always helps. My mom and I used to go to counseling and it helped get out awkward feelings and past pain. Also, try talking to your mom. Tell her it hurts when she calls you negative names. Tell her you want to be friends and not have so much yelling and drama. Try to spend some quality time with her to lighten weights off your shoulders, like going out to eat or getting pedicures... I hope I helped!
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