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ok, well my g/f and i have been dating off and on for about a year, and we have been together for like a total of probubly 8 months (it will be about a year in september). im a freshman and she is an 8th grader and we both love each other alot. she feels like we need to take our relationship a step farther. we both feel like we r meant to be together and we both feel like we should lose our virginity to each other. im all in for the idea, except the fact that idk wut she will do if we end up braking up. i have at least 2 weeks to make up my mind. plz help me im soo confused about wut to do. (link)
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Hi there, for starters who said that you may break up? Thats up to the pair of you. She obviously likes you. Ask yourself, do I want to loose my virginity? And if so, is this the person I want to loose my virginity to? If you answered yes to them questions, (baring in mind that you've thought about it!) Then just do it. Im confused about this situation, because you both feel as though your not meant to be together, but yet you both feel as though you should loose your virginity to each other. Get back to me about this one. Daniel.
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months now. I know, its not a long time at all but he and I are already in love with eachother. We had this connection right off the bat and we just clicked and have been pretty much inseperable ever since then.
The only issue is he is 6 years older than I am. I'm still 16. So that makes him 22 (if you were too lazy to do the math). I'm sure by now you are all thinking that he's in it just for the sex, but really he's not after that. And I'm sure you are all going to say "Well you don't know that" but I do.
And I'm going to say he's not like your typical 22 year old at all, he is totally different. But I'm sure you will say "All girls say that", but trust me, I'm not them. I've "been" with older guys before and I can tell if they are fake or not. I've been around ones that wanted sex and told me that they weren't interested in it. So, I know that he's not in it just for the sex. If he wanted that, he could get it anywhere else, I'm not saying this just because he's my boyfriend - But he's freakin' hot. Trust me, he's got plenty of girls that would be willing to be lined up to get a chance with him.
I have sort of told my parents about him. But not the whole story. My mom knows that he is 22, but not that I am dating him nor that I am in love with him. And my dad knows that I am in love with him, but doesn't know that he is 22 or that I am dating him. I believe he suspects that I am, but doesn't know for a fact. **My parents have never met him***
I was talking to my dad and he said that he would be willing to meet him. He had shared a story with me about when he met my grandmother (my mom's mom) and she didn't like my dad because he's Puerto Rican and he only wanted to get in my mom's pants, take her money then divorce her. But my dad told her otherwise. My dad told me that if he can stick up for what he believes in, then he would have respect for him. And that's true, that is how my dad is but I'm still scared as to how he would react when he finds out he is 22. I know that he (my boyfriend) would tell my dad that he loves me and that his intensions are good, but my dad can be a hypocrite sometimes.
So I guess my question is, how do I tell my parents that he and I are dating?
Should I even tell them that we are or should I make my boyfriend ask my parents their permission to date me?
I don't want to end our relationship. Trust me, we have an amazing relationship. When I think about us, our age difference is the last thing on my mind. Love doesn't see age. (link)
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Hi, your right about the bottom part "love doesnt see age" but it is better to mix with people around your own age. However your both relitavely young and have alot going for you. 3 months isnt along time to decide wether your properly in love with this guy, but Im taking your word for it. The practical way of telling your parents is to both go round for tea at your house. I know that meeting the parents could be a nervouse time but can also be satisfying. Then after the meal or shall we say "chat up" ask your parents what they think about the situation. Remember that your old enough to know what you want, and go for it. Daniel.
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5 yrs ago I dated a guy for 4 months and he dumped me out of the blue. Last year we started dating again and it's been absolutely perfect for 14 months! he's been a bachelor forever (he's 43) and i'm sure this is the longest he's ever been with someone. we got a puppy and have both fallen in love with him and are training and raising him together. I spend most nights at his place, but still own my own place too. Does anybody think this will work out for the long term? not necessarily marriage, but a committed relationship? and How do I get him to say it??? Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi, It sounds like you have a good thing going here. How do you get him to say it? Will thats his choice really. It is quite possible that he might say the magic two words "I Do" but its also possible for him to dissapoint you. You both know each other very well. I have no reason to suggest that this relationship wont work out. But just bare in mind that "only time will tell".
Daniel.
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I am 14 and I have been dating this guy who was one of my best friends beforehand for about a month now. However, for the last week or so, my boyfriend has been really serious about us, and I don't like it. I much preferred being good friends with him or going out with our friends. All in all, I don't like him that much anymore. But he's just the opposite: I think he likes me even more than before.
I don't want to hurt his feeling, but I really want to break up with him; I like someone else. He is the typical popular person, and though I am not really in his crowd, we are still friends. We both play hockey and he is so much fun to talk to. I really enjoy spending time with the popular person, but I always feel guilty because I really like him and I don't think he likes me any more than a friend.
Should I break up with my boyfriend and ask out the popular person? Or should I keep everything the way it is?
Thanks,
Cat
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Hi, it sounds as though this is quite tricky for you. It would be a shame to break up with him, when really you could go back to being friends. If he likes you that much as a person, then he will respect your feelings and take things a little more slowly. If he cant do that then really it isnt much use bothering with him. Although I can understand were hes coming from.
Try and keep things as they are for now, remaining friends. Feel free to ask more advice from me. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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OK. So my friend is pratically in love with this guy. Oh yeah--- and this really is my friend. Though her parents have this rule: no dating till shes 18.
"i dont no what i want to .....do with dave like...you know----i dont no if i want to go out---or jsut talk---or become strangers---or just ignore each other---i just dont no." AIM converstation.
She is so confused about everything, and it's messing her up. She keeps asking me what she should do, and i told her to get to know the guy better, but shes just too afraid of pushing him away. Can anyone help with this? I hate her like this and maybe if they can even just talk more, everything will be good.
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Hi there, I think her parents are being a bit strict on her dating this guy at 18. Although I can see what they are getting at. For starters what does she think about this Dave? Does he turn her on? Do you think he would make a good boyfriend to her? or just a friend?. Ask her those questions and help her make a decision. Some women feel as though they need to keep that close to a guy that they become addicted to them and do anything to keep him for themselves. This could lead in tears because the guy would know that hes got power over her and will flirt with her and make her jealous. Maybe she should just strike up a conversation with him, get to know him as an aquaintance. Then in a few months take it further. Only if HE wants to though. Hope that sums it all up. Daniel.
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Finals are this week. Whats a good way to study. Or at least for bio..Last time I studied six hours and I got a 76..um..there is obviously something wrong. Can anybody help? (link)
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Hi, the best place to study is your bedroom, or a Library. The only reason why you got a 76 is because you are working far to hard. Maybe do something like half an hours homework a night. Hope things go well. Daniel.
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I am 15 year old female. I am worried about my future. i go to a top private school. I dont really know what i want to do when i grow up and i dont really have any special talents. i take dance but i'm not especially good, and i'm not very smart (i usually get b's and a's). I feel like i wont get into college b/c there really isnt anything special about me. (link)
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Hi there, do you have a Career Advisor at your school? You could talk to him/her about it. You say you arent good at anything, but you sound as though you are a nice girl to talk to. Jobs that involve conversations are things like, Counselling or being a Therapist. Are you interested in helping others? You could work with Youth when your older. Dont put yourself down. I bet your a cool person and you might just yet get a friend. Daniel.
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Ok.I know that you have to be certain ages to get jobs.But what is the YOUNGEST age that you can get a job and what is the job?? Please help!Thank you! (link)
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Hi, Im not sure about your question because I dont know were you live. The yougest age would probaly be around 14-15. If your older it shouldnt be a problem. There are juobs such as working in a store, being a cashier and working in a fast food outlet. Do you go to school? If you do then check out if theres a Career Counsellor/Advisor that can help you. They could give you a list. Daniel.
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I'm a young, stay-at-home mom, with a 3 year old daughter, who's in day care, and I have another child on the way. I am dying to get some sort of job before this baby comes, but no one will hire me due to being inexperienced. Does anyone know any good work at home jobs or any good jobs, in which don't require any beforehand experience? (link)
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Hi, theres probaly quite a few jobs you could do without experience or qualifycations. Ill give you a small list of options:
1. Fast food e.g Cafe, McDonalds
2. Baby sitting (you could charge $20 an hour)
3. Mowing lawns for neighbours
4. Taking the neighbours dogs out
5. Work in a store
6. Cashier
The pay probaly isnt very good. It could be quite difficult. Get back to me if you need any more advice. Daniel.
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ok so i used to have really good abbs but not sence I quit gymnastics. I'm going on my class trip to Hersey Park in a week, I'll probley be in a bathing suit alot and NEED abbs quick. Anything I can do that will give me results in a week. Please help!! thanks a bunch!!! I WILL RATE VERY HIGH FOR GOOD ADVICE!!! (link)
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Hi there, Too be honest with you, theres probaly not alot you can do in a week. You might advertisements on TV. They could work but I wouldnt put your life on it. You would need a credit card for that and it all costs money. The best advice would to go and see a Physio. He/She could tell you ways on how to get fit. Just do the basic things like eat healthy, drink lots of water, sleep well, exercise, keep off fatty foods, maybe take some vitamins or zinc. But Im not sure you would get into tip top shape in just a week. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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Hi, I'm a really really shy guy, and so like asking people out (which I've only done once) takes like all my energy and like an hour, and I always worry about what if she says no, what if, what if, etc. Are there any good ways to overcome shyness? And saying to just face my fears doesn't exactly help... can someone tell me how to face them instead? Thanks all! (link)
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Hi there, There is only one way to do it sadly. Youve got to ask! I really do know were your coming from. You might find that if you ask and build the conversation you might build confidence. Its just getting over there and doing it thats our biggest fear. Think about it whats the worst that could happen? She says no. Then you might want to reply by saying maybe another time. You could always ask your Docter for some special tablets. Just keep saying to yourself "Do it" "Do it" thats all you can do. Hope that works. Daniel.
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so i like this guy from camp and he lives like 2 hrs away from me. like i want to call him and everything but im really shy and i wouldnt know what to say. can you help me think of topic to talk about or some way i can get over my shyness?
thanks
i rate! (link)
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Hi, First of all do you know this guy very well?
You could start the conversation on something you think might interest him e.g soccer world cup. Hopefully you should find the more you talk to him the more comfortable youll feel. The hardest part about being shy really is just going up to him and saying something. Hope it works out.
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why is sex so big of a thing to people like 16 days from my 16th b-day i lost my virginity and so the people that ive talked to before i had sex said that it was a big thing and once i did it wasnt much to me so really why do people make such a big deal about sex? (link)
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Hi, I dont really know why its such a big deal to be honest. People get it off the TV and talk about it with friends. Maybe it could be because of a number of reasons:
a) They want to see each other naked
b) They can experience sexual pleasure
c) Because they feel as though everyone else is doing it and they need to do it.
People make a deal out of it because its apart of our life (sex-drive)
Hope that answers your question. Daniel.
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So, I have this boyfriend of 4 months. But now I want to break it off. But I just don't know what to say. I really don't want to hurt him, but.....idk. I'm also scared that he might do something stupid, because that's just the type of person he is. And he's toally obessed with me and clingy. It's annoying. I know that's mean but it's true. Anyone have anything I can say, because I suck at breaking up with guys, I just don't know what to say or how to say it. Sorry for the stupid question 5's for helpful answers. (link)
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Hi there, this is quite a tricky one. If you want to break it off with him just do it gently and calmly and be very gentle. Theres only one thing that you can do and thats to tell him upfront. The longer you leave it, the worst you will feel about telling him. Daniel.
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ok this is for guys. my boyfriend's birthday is in a month and he's turning 14. I just want to know what a good inexpensive present would be. Yet not TOO cheap looking. any ideas? =) (link)
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Hi, my first question would be how much are you willing to spend? Maybe buy him a decent watch if he hasnt got one. Is he into the soccer world cup? Maybe get him some supporter stuff for the team he likes. Ask yourself what are his interests and hobbies? Take him out to McDonalds or a cafe. My best advice would to just to observe what he does and ask him if he likes doing it. That could help. Daniel.
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What should you do if you have had a steady boyfriend for about 7 months and really like him, but this new guy came along and is interested in you and you kind of like him too? Should you break up with the one and go for the other and see how it goes? or what?
Age- 16
Gender- Female (link)
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Hi, basically youve got to ask yourself questions. Is this new guy more attractive and interests you more than your boyfriend? What happens if hes having you on? Theres a possibility that if you leave your boyfriend for this other guy, this newer guy could dump you and your boyfriend could break up with you because you might have hurt his feelings really bad. You could loose it all. My advice is to stick to what you know best. See how your relationship with your boyfriend goes, before having other thoughts. Its your decision. Daniel.
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How do swimsuit models get their stomachs so flat, like is that like having tight abs or is it just that they dont have any fat in that area. is it because they workout by running or crunches?
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Hi there, your onto it, they probaly might work out but they dont eat alot of fatty foods. They go on a diet. Because they eat things like salad and fruit, it doesnt contain any fat which means they arent really putting on any weight. They get paid for what they do, which means they buy fitness products and take different vitamins. It is quite easy when you think about it! Daniel
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14/F. Which energy drink makes people hyper the most? Have you had anything that works really well? I have tryed Rockstar, Monster and Sobe but I wanted to know if anything works better than those. (link)
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Hi, I know one drink that you might not have heard of. Its a Dutch drink called Hype. It says on the bottle that if you drink alot of it, it could lead you to talk "smack talk". But wether or not its true, will only you can find that out.
Daniel.
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I want:
Video game desighning
Nursing at nursing homes
cooking
photography
Which is the best? (link)
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Hi, There is no right or wrong answer. Getting a career in something has to be a)something you like doing and feel comfortable with (mainly your hobbies) b)something that has reasonable pay and c) something that you know you wont get bored with. The best paid job out of them four would probaly be video game designing. B
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hey people
i have this problem: everyone hates me!! i have no friends at all! my crush once loved me and now...i dont know i've been mean and he ignores me...and i always say things i dont really want to say. like today my room was a little messy and my dad calls me an asshole just because i had a book lieing on the floor. he sais i'm a retard and that he never wanted a daughter like me , and my mom just stands there and laughs. and my dad is like a monster for me he runs after me in the house screaming and with spit in his mouth. i just dont know what to do anymore. and just because i had one book on the floor he said he's gonna control my room every day now...and i feel so bad right now..theres no1 to talk to and i dont have friends here because we just moved here. i feel terible and i also appologized to my crush and everything but first he gives me high five like i thought everything is fine again and the next day he ignores me again. i'm really confused....i feel really alone
what should i do? (link)
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Hi there, yes it does seem and feel like people hate us sometimes. But with got to tell ourselves that its not true. Yes alot of people might not like you, their loss, but you will be amazed how many people do like you. Just keep being positive and if you want to make friends or go on a date just join a group that your interested in. Such as a scouts club or book club things that interest YOU. Start a conversation with people, start by saying hi and if its a girl your looking for just say something like, hi, and talk about her and her interests. Girls like the attention seeked on her. Remember your not alone. Daniel.
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