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I'm a little lost.
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months now. I know, its not a long time at all but he and I are already in love with eachother. We had this connection right off the bat and we just clicked and have been pretty much inseperable ever since then.
The only issue is he is 6 years older than I am. I'm still 16. So that makes him 22 (if you were too lazy to do the math). I'm sure by now you are all thinking that he's in it just for the sex, but really he's not after that. And I'm sure you are all going to say "Well you don't know that" but I do.
And I'm going to say he's not like your typical 22 year old at all, he is totally different. But I'm sure you will say "All girls say that", but trust me, I'm not them. I've "been" with older guys before and I can tell if they are fake or not. I've been around ones that wanted sex and told me that they weren't interested in it. So, I know that he's not in it just for the sex. If he wanted that, he could get it anywhere else, I'm not saying this just because he's my boyfriend - But he's freakin' hot. Trust me, he's got plenty of girls that would be willing to be lined up to get a chance with him.
I have sort of told my parents about him. But not the whole story. My mom knows that he is 22, but not that I am dating him nor that I am in love with him. And my dad knows that I am in love with him, but doesn't know that he is 22 or that I am dating him. I believe he suspects that I am, but doesn't know for a fact. **My parents have never met him***
I was talking to my dad and he said that he would be willing to meet him. He had shared a story with me about when he met my grandmother (my mom's mom) and she didn't like my dad because he's Puerto Rican and he only wanted to get in my mom's pants, take her money then divorce her. But my dad told her otherwise. My dad told me that if he can stick up for what he believes in, then he would have respect for him. And that's true, that is how my dad is but I'm still scared as to how he would react when he finds out he is 22. I know that he (my boyfriend) would tell my dad that he loves me and that his intensions are good, but my dad can be a hypocrite sometimes.
So I guess my question is, how do I tell my parents that he and I are dating?
Should I even tell them that we are or should I make my boyfriend ask my parents their permission to date me?
I don't want to end our relationship. Trust me, we have an amazing relationship. When I think about us, our age difference is the last thing on my mind. Love doesn't see age.
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Hi, your right about the bottom part "love doesnt see age" but it is better to mix with people around your own age. However your both relitavely young and have alot going for you. 3 months isnt along time to decide wether your properly in love with this guy, but Im taking your word for it. The practical way of telling your parents is to both go round for tea at your house. I know that meeting the parents could be a nervouse time but can also be satisfying. Then after the meal or shall we say "chat up" ask your parents what they think about the situation. Remember that your old enough to know what you want, and go for it. Daniel.
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"Mum, Dad, this is <insert boyfriend's name>" would probably be the best way. You don't have to say any more than that. They will react the same however much you try to sugar coat it. They might be fine; they might go mental. Just get it over with and deal with whatever happens when it happens.
Not much help, I know, but true.
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My boyfriend is 7 years older than me. (he is 20) So I know where you are coming from.
Anyways, on to your question;
-The easiest way to tell your parents is just come and and say "-His Name- and I are dating." But jazz it up a bit.
-Sure you should tell your parents, they should understand.
You are so true about the Love doesn't see age. I wish other people would understand that also.
Anyways, Good Luck with telling your parents, let me know how it goes!
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well, this is kinda tough. ive been with a guy 16 years older than me- but things never got to the point where he met my parents. in fact, none of my boyfriends did. so, i might not be of great help to you- but id sayhave him ask your parents to be able to date, tell him to make ure he tells them how much he feels for you, and how you really think you can make things work. im sure if yuor parents see how much hes wanting to be with their daughter- they cant help but give you guys a chance. good luck hon, and i hope i helped!
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i have a friend who is in the same sitution your lucky cause her parents involved the FBI so i think you have to tell your parents because it would be worse if they found out when they met and that would just be a bad start. You will have to tell you Boyfriend to be honest as possible because all parents like honesty. And it sound like your boyfriend is really nice and dosn't do anything yo harm you so i really think you have nothing to worry about because if you like him i think your parents should see that and have to trust ther daughter even at first it may be scary for them so just say he is more than willing to meet you and do anything to prove that he is good man for me. and they will see he is good. i don't think it will be that bad but if it is blown out of poportion then i will help you throught the next step.
Good luck!!
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You guys are cute. I'll give you my advice but before I do that - just be aware that this can be sketchy and is illegal if caught. But from what I hear, this guy is a good guy and it's true - love doesn't see age. As years go by 6 years difference is nothing. Just be cautious. Okay, sorry about that little warning. Here's my advice: Have you and your man come to your house. Introduce him to your family. Tell your family your feelings for him and have him do the same about you. Tell them your dating but ask for their blessing. It sounds like if you are upfront and organized about this situation, your family will be accepting, from what I hear from you parent's dating experiences. But I believe you should definately tell your parents. If you love the guy, why wouldn't you? Your parents would be happy for you and if not, they will eventually if you and your man's love is true. All that matters is that you have eachother. But I would still try and tell your parents, let them know everything etc etc as I said before. Good luck! I hope I helped and let me know how it goes! -GC07
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awe thats cute
lol hes accually wanting to meet your parents?
DONT LISTEN TO THE IDIOT BELOW ME
your right
if your in love with someone it doesnt matter the age.
my mom dated someone 12 years younger
haha
but yeah anyways
you should ask your boyfreind to ask your parents for permission
so then they will know hes responsible and cares
but if you asked then they would be all like.
you cant date him hes too old!
all he wants is blablabla
but you know its not true
so have him ask for permission
and if they say no
just keep dating him secretly
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[EDIT: Hey, I'm not debating this with you, you know what I think so take it and get over it.]
I'm going to be upfront by telling you that you won't like my answer, it's not what you want to hear.
But when it comes to age, it really does matter. Not just because the older person may be in it just for the sex, there's an even bigger reason than that.
Being 16 is young. You are young. You are just now figuring out what you want in life or whether you plan on going to college or not. As for being 22, he's in a party phase, and possibly thinking about marriage and if not, it will be soon when you aren't ready. Both of you will start wanting completely different things.
You aren't in love. 3 months is nothing, nothing at all. What you are feeling is just a huge feeling of overwhelmed butterflies and exciting feelings you get when you are first with someone.
I just wanted to let you know that there is more to this than what you are seeing. And truthfully, you aren't seeing enough to understand.
-TheTeenGirl
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