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So there are these two guys....
I am 14 and I have been dating this guy who was one of my best friends beforehand for about a month now. However, for the last week or so, my boyfriend has been really serious about us, and I don't like it. I much preferred being good friends with him or going out with our friends. All in all, I don't like him that much anymore. But he's just the opposite: I think he likes me even more than before.
I don't want to hurt his feeling, but I really want to break up with him; I like someone else. He is the typical popular person, and though I am not really in his crowd, we are still friends. We both play hockey and he is so much fun to talk to. I really enjoy spending time with the popular person, but I always feel guilty because I really like him and I don't think he likes me any more than a friend.
Should I break up with my boyfriend and ask out the popular person? Or should I keep everything the way it is?
Thanks,
Cat
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Hi, it sounds as though this is quite tricky for you. It would be a shame to break up with him, when really you could go back to being friends. If he likes you that much as a person, then he will respect your feelings and take things a little more slowly. If he cant do that then really it isnt much use bothering with him. Although I can understand were hes coming from.
Try and keep things as they are for now, remaining friends. Feel free to ask more advice from me. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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If you don't like the guy you're dating, dump him. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings but you guys aren't going to be together forever. One of you eventually will break up with the other. So again, if you don't like him dump him. About this other guy, popularity doesn't really matter. It matters if you both like eachother. If he only likes you as a friend, show him your affectionate side. Show him and tell him that you like him and you really want to be with him. Let's hope he'll see that he wants to be with you as well. Hope this helps!
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Well, you made the decision in the first place .. to date your best friend. He's probably being serious, because relationships are ment to be serious. But then again you are 14, but a lot of 14 year olds I know are freshman, and some of them do indeed have serious meaningful relationships. Now maybe you do really like him, but the fact that hes taking it so seriuosly your scared? Because commitment tends to freak people out.
But if not, and you really do want to break up with him, then do it, because the longer you keep him, the harder it will be for him, especially if he likes you alot. But let me say,you cant expect him to want to be your friend, after you guys break up. I wouldnt want to be friends with my boyfriend after we broke up, unless it was a mutal break up. But yours isnt, just leave him alone after you break up with him. Because just like us, boys need space.
I dont reccomend breaking up with your boyfriend though, especially to ask a "popular person" out, becuase what if he says no? Then your relationship with that guy ,will be weird too, beacuse you asked him out but he rejected you.
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