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Q: okay so me and this guy are "together" he said... people have been asking me if were dating, but i have no clue... like whats the difference from being together, dating, going out and being boyfriend/girlfriend?? he told me theyre all technically the same, so what does he think we are then?!?! (are we bf/gf??)... but im clueless... please help...
Ah yes. The together phase. Not quite dating, not quite single. It is the farthest I have ever been in the love game.
Being together is like dating, just with less restrictions. For instance, both of you are allowed to talk with other Men/Women. You are also not committed to following each other's schedules, and are not committed to care about the other. Yet, you have a few restriction. You cannot flirt with other people, and you cannot go out with other people. And you are still supposed to show some sort of affection.
These were the conditions set during my stint. But, it may be different for you. It varies.

Q: ok i went for a checkup at the doctors.. like i have to go yearly because of school.... and like.. they did the urine sample like where i have to pee in a cup. so i did. they said i had protein i it. so i have to go back and pee in a cup again. like they said i had little protein in it. so i looked it up and it could deal with the kidneys.. now i am really scared of needles and i have like really sensitive skin.. so like.. im so confused and really worried.. is this going to be that serious.. cuz like if i had to put it in percentage i would say i have 5% of protein in me.. but yet i don't know because i have to go tomorrow just to make sure. so like i am really scared. what happens if i do have it. can i die? please help me. i am only 13.

Rissa
I was first found positive on the protein test when I was 12. I'm 16, and in perfectly good health. AKA, you're not going to die. I am positive on that.
In fact, I don't think they really do much at all. The only thing I ever had to do was pee in the cup. I think they did take a sample of blood, but it was nothing major. Needles are nothing to be afraid of. Ask them to apply pressure around where it goes in, I find that helps with me.
All the thing that means with the kidneys is that your kidneys have difficulty seperating the proteins from the waste. Same here. I have it. And I have never had any dangerous kidney problems, growth problems, or other problems related to that.
Don't worry. It's a minor thing. The only time it ever worries anybody is every time that they take a urine sample at the doctor's. Then my doctor tells the nurses "He always does that." and they just get on with their business.
Hope I helped!
-Steven

(PS: You know, thinking of it, it may have been when I was 10 when I was first diagnosed... It's come up positive at least 5 time, and I'm 16, and I think I skipped 2 years. So maybe even 9... I don't know, I was young.)

Q: Does anybody know some really good songs that they like? Im trying to make a list of really good songs But i cant really think of any. If you have any songs, doesnt matter what type or anything like that! Thank you!
Well, this is classical from the Classical Geek...
Festive Overture-Shostakovich
Cloudburst-Grofe
Jupiter-Holst
Hobbits-De Meij
Hope this helped!

Q: ok i just started algebra in school yesterday, since it was my first day and in middle school i only did pre-algebra so i dont really know algebra.... I need some help on questions

one of them is 1 7/8 + 3/4... any idea??

5 3/4 * 1/3.......... 2 1/5 divided 4/5

2/5- 1/10


IF ANYONE COULD HELP ME out with how too do these... i only did 1 of each kind so i can learn it but i need help on how to do each one...

Also in the directions it says Perform the indicated skill... (i get that in other words it means do the question)... and simplify your answer if possible (does that mean make it the smallest it can be??... im pretty sure) BUT IF U HELP me i will RATE YOU A FIVE!!!!!
With the first one, take the denominator (The 8), and multiple it time the whole number (The 1). Add this to the 7, and put it over the Denominator you originally had. 3/4=6/8, right? You just multiply top and bottom by the same factor, and you get 6/8. You want this to be the sameas the number you are adding/subtracting. So, the 8*1 is 8, added to 7 is 15, so 15/8. Add the 6/8 you get from the 3/4, and your finaly answer is 21/8. Rules say that the numerator cannot be larger than the denominator, so from the numerator, subtact in 8s. You can do that twice, right? So, it is 2+5/8. If it was 6/8, you'd have to simplify it to 3/4.
Multiplication to me is easier. Let's use your example.
5+3/4 is the same a 23/4, so you're somewhere.
Multiply by 1/3. Multiple both numerators (23 and 1), and both denominators (3*4). That gets you 23/12. Simplify to 1 + 11/12
To divide, you take the last number and reciprical it. Like if it is 3/4, make it 4/3. Then, follow the same procedure as multiplying.
To subtract, go about in making a common denominator, and ust subtract the 2 upper numbers.
Hope I helped! I am in Pre-Calc, so if you need any help, feel free to drop one in my inbox.
-Steven

Q: what are some good ways for a thirteen year old to get money.

dont bother saying do chores around the house.my moms a bitch about that, it's like signing a deal with the devil
Go around town, and do matinence work for cheap. Like go door to door and ask "Would you like me to mow your lawn?" and charge something like $5 for it. Go to the older people when you do it. They really appreciate it. In the fall, it's raking leaves, in the winter, it's shovelling snow, and in the spring, it's the same as summer.
Hope this helped!
-Steven

Q: ok i dont wanan sound like a nerd but i want to find a cool multiplayer game thats free not like pool or chees or those fag games like an action game thats free and stuff. any recomendations?
I saw the runescape answer, which I was going to suggest, but the other highly popular MMORPG (I think that's what that are called) is known as Maplestory. I don't have the link, because I never played it, but if you looked it up online, you will be able to find it.

Q: is it possible to get pregenant even though ur hymen isn't destroy can sperm still swim an reacj the eggcell?

does it bleeds when the penis enter gently into a intact hymen?
Yes and Yes. The hymen is not a complete covering of the area, and sperm can still get in. I also think it is permeable, meaning things can get in or out.
And it usually does bleed, yes, because it is breaking part of the body, and that always causes bleeding.

Q: I am in a tough thing right now I am going to have to pick where i wanna go to school next year and for kindergarden i went to a public school then i switched to a catholic school and was there for ALOT of years. Now next year for high school i have to decide where i want to go. Do I want to go back to public or go to another catholic school?? everyone from my catholic school wants me to stay at a catholic school and ppl and public skools want me to go back to public. What should I do???
Go to catholic, it looks better on college applications. You have more friends at your school going to catholic, and the ones in public you have not seen or been friendly with for a few years.

Q: are there any other sites like this one..wherepeple ask advice and others give it to them?
www.teenhelp.org. Yet, I advise not going there, as it is by far the most corrupt site I have ever seen. They ban people because of their issues, like they banned me because I have DID. :o. But, I have not found another, as I was looking for one after my removal from staff there.
-Steven

Q: 13/m Ever since I tried to show my crush how much I loved her, she's had something to do whenever I try to talk to her. Like just now. We were both on AIM, but she had her Away Message on. After a while, she turns off her Away Message, and so I say hi, and all of a sudden her little brother wants to go ride bikes. This has happened about two or three times. Is she ignoring me? Is she trying to give me the slip? I really need advice here...
Definately not. She just has a very active life. The less active you life is, the more you are on AIM. She probably is very rarely on, she just likes putting on away messages in case anything important hits.
She is not ignoring you, because if she was to do that, she'd be ignoring all of her other friends as well. It's just a matter of activity in life.

Q: whats your favorite song??

this question is so we can all learn new and different songs just for the fun of it.
Festive Overture- Shostakovich

Q: How do u french kiss?
It's kissing with an open mouth. It's using the tongue in kissing. You put it in the others mouth.

Q: Is it weird for a girl to practice french kissing on another girl or does that make them lesbian?
Nothing makes a girl a lesbian unless they love the girl in question. But yes, if you french kiss a friend, it would seem a bit odd.
-Steven

Q: iv'e been staying up super late all summer. but now that school is coming colser and closer. i need to go back to my regular scedule. but when i tryed stuff like staying up super late or waking up super early, i just end up falling asleep. how can i go back to my regulere schudle.

please respond fast

i'll rate a 5 no matter what
You're going too fast. Go an hour earlier each day until school starts, and an hour later if neccassary. Trying to go back to your normal time immediately is unhealthy and won't work.
-Steven

Q: how do i get a fancy backround for my advice column and not the orginal one that advicenators gave me on here. Thanks
I went to www.google.com, clicked on images, and typed in "Background Snowflakes", just becuase I wanted snowflakes in the background to remind me of my favorite season... replace snowflakes with whatever you want, and you should get some pretty neat ones.

Q: i'm in this thing called PYO and it's an extra orchestra thing i can do. there is a lower level called PYS that i was in last spring. the new conductor makes it seem like he took two 8th graders(me and my friend) (it's really hard to get in PYO) b/c he needed people not b/c he thought we were good enough. i don't feel like i'm good enough to be in it b/c everyone else owns like at least 1-2 instruments of their own and i still have a rental. (b/c i can't find own that i like to buy) and they all can read tenor clef and i have no idea how to play it. and we have to do 3 octave G scales all the way in to the stratsphere... i'm so confused half of the time! what should i do?

p.s. i'm gonna get extra help w/the music from my teacher at school but i wont have a lot of time to do that b/c of other activities
I can see where you're coming from. I play trombone, and for some reason audition very well and get put into all these groups I don't feel like I deserve to be in.
First off, you do deserve to be in that group. You are seeing that the groups reputation is what decided who should and should not be in it. The groups reputation is decided by who is in it. Therefore, you are supposed to be in it. Besides, you are the next best person after the person ahead of you, no doubt.
It is fine to still have a Rental. I had one until I was in High School. Besides, they are almost as good as one that you own. Heck, maybe even better, and your damages son't matter to your money.
And If you can't read tenor clef, just learn the distance of the notes in your clef from the tenor, and write them in. It takes two second. It is fine to not know the clef. I'm the 1st chair trombonist, and trombonists are supposed to know tenor clef, but I don't. It's fine.
And with scales, I just suggest practice. Practice always works.
-Steven

Q: anyone know some good practical jokes that i could play on my dad? see we started some kind of practical joke war, like celephane on the toilet seats and offering rotten egg flavored jelly beans.

i rate high!!!
Double sided tape on the telephone, or the chair. We did this in Comm. Graph last year...
-Steven

Q: why is my mom such a bitch
Because being a mother, she believes that she has power over you. She refuses to just let go and realise that you are old enough to take care of yourself, and she refuses to admit your independence. She still thinks of you as "Her little baby" and still thinks that whatever you do is her fault.
Just tell her that you are old enough to handle yourself, and just let you go. Tell her that what you do is none of her business, and she should let you take the blame for whatever happens, you are old enough.
-Steven
(Wow, I almost mispelled my own name. :( )

Q: i met this girl i talked to at the dover fair i relized we had alot in common my friend interduced us because of that reason we live in two diffrent towns and there side by side im confused help
Ask her for her AIM. Just call her up and ask for it, and you can talk to her online.
I'm sorry I couldn't help you any more, I am not really sure what you are asking.
-Steven

Q: how do you delete a rating?
Unfortunately, you can't. Though I wish you could. I got a 1 from some person because when they asked for an opinion on people asking for the best advice on this site, I disagreed saying that there are other sites for advice, they don't have to ask here. So, that dropped my rating from a 4.93 to a 4.78.
But if you gave the rating, you can change it by going to the question you asked and clicking on a different number.
I have to experiment some more, there may be a way.

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sbloemeke
THE PENGUIN RULES ALL! AHAHAHAHAHAHA! *Cough*
Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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