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Q: i think i have herpes...i dont know what to do...

Go to a doctor asap!

Q: Ok i am 15/f and i just found out i am pregnant a few days ago, and my boyfriend (the baby's father) knows. now we have talked about me possibly getting pregnant before and we were fine with it....but now i am and we are keeping the baby because we both want to. but we havent told our parents yet....but we are this weekend. but the thing is we already know hes mom is going to be abssolutely furious, and we were wondering about if he would ever be able to see the baby. because my parent will be fine with it, like they will support me and all, but his mom we dont know, so does anyone know if there is a law that says if he wants to that he has to see the baby? and this is in michigan, and i have not been able to find anything after long hours of researching on the internet...now please if you answer this dont tell me how much of a bad person i am and that i am only 15..i will have enough of that just please answer my question...

I don't know about any laws or anything but I think ya'll should explain that it will be both your kid and he should be able to see it. If I was you have everyone you want to tell in one room at the same time so that your parents and his mom can come up to an agreement which I'm sure they will say you are too young to decide. Hope you have a safe healthy baby and I know everything will work out!

Q: Whenever i go shopping with my mom we always stumble across these REALLY cute jeans that I want her to try on. When she eventually does, she automatically says NO because they are too "trendy". My mom usually wear straight leg jeans which if you didn't know have absolutely no flare. My mom has a really big butt, so she looks ridiculous!! I told her nicely that these kinds of pants don't compliment her, but she just got mad at me. She's 41 and she thinks shes too old to look good in jeans. Can you give me some tips to convince my mom that she doesn't have to be young to look great?! Shes SOOO stubborn and sensitivE!!!!!

Lol get ur mom's size or a pair of her jean n for her b-dai or mother's day buy it for her! She has to accept it n wen she feels confident in em she'll be sassy enuff

Q: I'm currently expecting my first child and my due date is fast approaching. I recently told my husband that I'm hurt that no one has offered to throw a baby shower even though everyone around us (family, friends, coworkers, church members) knows that we are expecting. He said that I should throw a baby shower for myself. I'm afraid that it would be a breach of etiquette and come across as greedy. With our current financial situation, the gifts would be helpful, but I want the shower more for the companionship and celebration that comes with it.
1) Would you consider it greedy if someone were to invite you to a baby shower they were throwing for themself?
2) What would you do in this situation?

I don't think it's greedy! It's your first kid and of course you want it to be remembered by everyone. Don't feel hurt maybe everyone just is scared you get relly surprised or something so it could be many reasons! I think if I were you send the invitations and have it! Or if you feel it'll make you feel greedy ask your mum or sister to do the invitations and stuff for you!

Q: Does anyone know what programs are out there to cut up videoes to make them smaller so you can post them online? I didnt know what to look for. even if you could tell me what to put into google to look...thinks and sorry if it was confusing.

When you say cut up do you mean like shorten in the way of cutting out scenes? Well try Windows Movie Maker it's on windows XP I think so yah know!

Q: i've been feeling sad for a couple of months now because i felt that my bestfriends are drifting away. then yesterday, i was with my friends at a school basketball game and my bestfriend got mad at me out of nowhere. then i started thinking like always, but i started crying. i pulled one of my friends to the bathroom with me and stayed in there. then my friends and my bestfriend started coming in and they told me to come out. i came out, but my bestfriend started ignoring me. we went back to the game, but i couldn't stop crying. my bestfriend hasn't talked to me ever since and i think that she thinks it's her fault. i slept for 13 hours but i still feel tired and i've been crying for no reason. i have no energy to eat. what's up with me? what should i say to my bestfriend?

I think every girl has a little problem with friends and I don't quite understand your problem but maybe you should invite her to lunch or go out the movies or something and talk about it! I mean it's not going to her if she stops tlkin to you and you keep crying and stuff ..trust me right now I'm going through that. I have been crying a sometimes I can't eat but after a while I know it's unhealthy for me and I think that's y i'm gettin those pounds! So If i was you tlk to ur friend or a consellor and sort it out b4 you get sick!

Q: how do i improve my looks and updo the things im lacking in?

-weight
-way too light eyebrows
ect.

Everyone is prettie in their own way! Use some mascara or somethign to do with the eyebrows and start a diet for the weight. I know girls don't like to hear this but me being 13...maybe you need to make your wardrobe a lil more spicy. Not sexy spicy...NEW spicy! Yah don't have to be rich to do this although I prefer expensive clothes people who are on a budget can go to summer sales, garage sales or triff stores where you get relly cheap prettie stuff! And since just now is spring get some relly cute skrits and dresses and relly prettie eyerings and necklaces!

Q: 15/f
what do you get for a guy that you have been only going out with for about week? lame, huh? i really like him though. we have liked eachother for sometime too...
thanks. ill rate, no need to ask.
=]

Well I realised people buy gifts by the amt of time they were married or dating and actually i think that's lame! I mean you don't go buy a iPod or ring but something you would buy for ne one else who u were dating loonger like 2 mnths and stuff! I guess a card with some chocolates or a rell cute bear n a mug or something!

Q: What is the best way to help make them fade and is their any kind of special cover up that blends better with your skin. I am so pale, I scar horribly and it looks really bad.

Well I guess Nerdurma or something like that is really good! I'm fair 2 and they stay relly long so i use this thing called camoflauge from this site : www.sachacosmetics.com
It's really good and hides it amazingly well!!

Q: Im not really fat, like huge. But Im 13, 5'oft and I weight about 127. Im very un happy my weight, and honestly would love to loose to 10 pounds. I asked a question once on here and some guy told me it was a bad idea to split up my workouts in too, like exercizing in the morning, and then in evening a little.. And anybody else have any tips to help me loose weight? im deterimed, but clueless.
thank you I RATE!

I'm that same height age but I'm 176 lbs right now and I'm verrrry unhappy! Right now I lost 4 lbs in 2 days and it's because I eat as normal, exercise more and drink chocolate soy milk as a snack. Today I had a peach smoothie with whipped cream and I'm still the same size as I had lost (170)! My advice to you is either ride the stationary bije for 30 mins a day or 1 hr a day spilted in two, or run/walk on a tredmill for at least 1 mile a day! IT really tones up the body!

Q: theres this girl i really like alot, her name is kelsey, and i donno if she feels the same way about me, i need a girls help on this one. Her and her b/f broek up about 2 weeks ago and ever since then shes been like "i'm glad you came to school today" and has been talking to me a lot more, i donno if maybe she just likes talking to me cause she needs someone to talk to, or if shes into me, any help would be great.

Maybe she's into you like a friend and maybe a boyfriend. If you were best bussies b4 /i think she wants to stay that way or if not and you all barely tlked she's so into u!!!

Q: what do you guys think of sweatpants?? in er out?? i have these maroon ones that say basketball on the butt & idk if i should wear em with like a white hollister hoodie.

any ideas?? i'm tired of wearing jeans

Well sweat pants are 'in'-ish but I rather wear them home or just to the supermarket! Sweat pants loook really cute with the juicey and stuff on the back! Go for it but since it's almost spring/...buy yah spring dresses!

Q: I read that if you eat breakfast everyday you will lose weight, is this true? If so, then how can I start eating breakfast without gaining weight because I have not been eating breakfast for a few years? This is so confusing! Please explain and help. Thank you so much.

That iss sooo NOT tru! I actually miss breakfast sometimes but I make up for it during lunch which i know is bad. I get stomach aches and headaches but if you miss lunch or dinner and drink some milk or juice I guess it's better than breakfast. I try to eat at least a fruit and a light sandwich or salad with a cup of milk or juice! I haven't really been losing the weight I wanted to..buh I guess it's all good!

Q: How can I get over a breakup? D:
It's been about three weeks and I'm still sad.

I'm friends with the person now because I really care about them... but then there's the constant reminders that person doesn't like me in the way I want anymore. And that they seem very happy that I'm not around.

What should I do?

I've tried distracting myself.. like drawing and playing games but it doesn't work very well.

I've also tried to not sign on AIM and stop talking to them for a while, but I always end up signing on later..

The first real guy I have even fallen in love And had a relationship with was the same thing wen we mashed it up. It was more different views on life esp. the fact that he lives soo far away. Anyway I got over him by just remembering he's alwaaays going to be my friend and I just have to accept that it happened and thankful we still have a friendship. It's not the fact he seems more happy...maybe he just wants you to feel he's happy by faking a smile or just laughin to make you feel he's happy...wen maybe he's not. I'm not saying get back to him but maybe try going aroung other guys and communicating. Spending more time with your family and even talking to him. Jokin around with him and talking will really bring your bond closer and you'll feel more as a friend to him...than an "EX"!

Q: is it bad to charge your battery every day??

thanks

That's a good question...but I think you can. I mean what if the person is busy n the life finishes quick...well yeah i think it is! Although some dude in the phone place told me it's not a good idea to charge my v300 phone for the whole night but I do it...and everything's good with it!

Q: I know that 13-year-olds shouldn't be wearing a lot of makeup. Is colored lip gloss ok? (mine is dark purple)

Hey luccky me I'm an indian 2! I kinda think lipgloss is maybe the only onnnnly thing I'm allowed to use right now. Although I've been experimenting with eyeliner and mascara it looks devastatingly awweful! lool. Any way I think that would be really normal I mean we are almost (winks) adults! haha not relly but a little lipgloss is no biggie!

Q: hey everyone! my friend has proactive mosturizing solution w. tint or something, and its AMAZING. does anyone know where i can buy this product or other proactive products? i tried the website and they dont sell it on their site, and i looked in sephora also. thank you! =]

u know u mite want to try amazon or something? or wen u see the proactive ad. call them up n order some

Q: I really like this guy.
But ehre's the prob.
I'm in 8th grade, he's kinda in 6th.
He's also my best friend's cousin!
She dosen't care, but the age differece is kinda a lot.
He's not a little loseror anything, he's like mature and i like him.
What should I do?
rates 5's
thanks if you help!

I can imagine how weird you feel! 'I have about 20 guy friends who are 3 months-2 yrs younger than me, on msn. Of course I've fallen in 'like' with them and then I think about the age but you know how many people have younger boyfriends? IT's not really that bad. Look at Ashton and Demi, of course alot of people think it's sooo wrong and 'rocking the cradle' blaaah blaah blaaaaah but if you're in love with someone and obiviously doesn't mind...why should you? So my advice..you like him but he's yoounger: go for it! After all you might get someone older and you marry him and hate him and then you have him who is younger and you love him (match made in heaven)!

Q: My room has a color scheme of blue and lime green. I have a duvet that has blue and lime green stripes.

I was looking for some inexpensive ideas for nicknacks. Where can you get inexpensive (but cute) grabge cans, picture frames, and other things to put on shlves and my dresser?I want lime green and blue stuff!!!! If you've seen stuff or can direct me to a website. That'd be great!!

I think trift stores and walmart are so great for those articlles. Also I looove garage sales esp. wen the peeps have a nice cordinated house! And I think the bessst thing in the world is making your own stuff to put in your room! Like wen u go to shops you can buy those pebbles that are clear and colored and make a little color puzzle or something with shells! Really cheap...n sooo fetch!

Q: I have green eyes, pale skin, brown hair, and freckles. Does anyone have any good make up ideas? I have heard that brown eye shadow is good, but anything else? I don't like to wear bronzer because it makes me look fake.
Thanks it advance.

I so know what you mean esp. with the self tanner! Ne whooo...I think dark-ish colors would totallly bring out your eyes and mascara and eyeliner esp if you like to wear dark clothes.