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Q: ok im looking for adivice. my girlfriend doesnt seem into me! im looking for answer that tells what i should do help as soon as possible. thxn alots bye ima male and 16 helpsssss plssssss

You need to take the time and explain the situation why do you feel as if your girlfriend is not into you anymore? Does she seem to be getting bored with you? Buy her a teddy bear with some flowers. Add a card with a little love note explaining your feelings towards her. Ask her out on a date just the two of you with you paying. Plan a romantic afternoon in a park. You make the lunch, buy her a flower. Send her a cute text message randomly

Q: Okay so, not the easiest topic to approach, but I figured I'd give it a shot.

I've been having sex with my now-boyfriend (who's 26) for two, going on roughly three months. He's never initiated anything to begin with, and I've always felt so awkward doing it myself. I'm pretty submissive in the bedroom, so this is a new behavior to me.

However, this isn't the core issue. What I feel that is, is a lack of communication/understanding, or just plain out carelessness, in general. Lately our sex life has taken a halt, and when we are intimate it's not much of a session, or any quality/effort coming from his end, to be crass. He has issues with lasting (five minutes is pretty typical - and he asks if I cum quite often, in which I say no, honestly) I've asked him if he feels as if things have changed (I meant emotionally between us, and he took it as me asking if my anatomy changed -- and responds with, "you're not as tight as when we first had sex, no." Uhm, what?

Needless to say, it left me speechless and then dumbfounded by the utter stupidity. I've been with several people before him, one of which I had sex with nearly every day, for two years, and nothing changed. And at 19 years old, I'm doubting much CAN change unless I feel like giving birth sometime soon.

Anyway. He went onto say that I'm still "tight" and we have "good sex" just things aren't the "same" as the first time down there. I'm not sure how to even take these comments, or how to get it through his head that the vagina is a muscle that doesn't alter every time you have sex or place an object in it. Has anyone else ever dealt with this/and how DO you deal with it?

I would just find different ways to spice up your sex life. It happens. Honestly i can say 97 precent of the time my sex life with my husband sucks. you just have to turn your self on sometimes or make him do what you want. or play around a little while before having sex.

Q: Ok, by at church don't think that we NEVER got to talk. lol,
like; it's a SMALL country church, and my grandma is bessstt friends with the pastor and his mom was too, so we alwayys stayed after church and we hung out at mcdonalds, of course that sucked. and we hung out allone alot at church and went to the movies once.
it's nto really like i have no idea who he is.

I am not saying you don't know whom he is hun. I am saying people are someone totally different than they are when you really really get to know them. He may have hide stuff, he may be very emotional, etc. I am saying i new my husband for over a year before we decided to get married and he isnt the man I thought he was. The guy I dated before I meet my husband was amazing to me and we moved in together and became abusive and cheated on me. Your right he may be the same guy he is now later on. You just can never know until it happens.

Q: Okay, so I'm 15. So i expect to get alot of answers about how I don't know what love is and blah blah blah. Please, just skip that. I believe that love is different for everyone, everyone has their own version and their own feeling of love. So please don't tell me I don't know what love is. For me, Love is when you can't go a minute without thinking about him, knowing all about him, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. Love is when you can't picture yourself with ANYBODY else, and you're willing to forgive them for anything, because you really want things to work. Anyhow;
I have this boyfriend, we've been dating for a little more than 5 months, and we waited a year before dating. We live about 45 minutes away. And his mom is completely over protective and untrusting and definitely doesn't let him come see me or even go on dates with me until he turns 16. (July) So we only saw each other once every two weeks at church. (He goes to my grandma's church and that's how we saw each other =/ ) Well almost two months ago, his mom got mad at him and didn't like the idea of him having a girlfriend, so she switched churches so he couldn't see me anymore.. So we talk on the phone for about an hour every night, and we text. He's been having issues at home with his parents, as have I. And we just haven't been getting along with each other, we've been fighting like crrrazyy. Last night, i broke up with him. and I told him i still like him and if he still really wants to be with me then we can talk about it in a month or two, because really just really need a break. But then this guy from my school, who's reeeally cute. started texting me and I got to know him (a little before me and my boyfriend broke up) and he seems really cool, and he likes me.. andd yeah.
But my (ex) boyfriend he makes me feel like nooo other guy has. He's super sweet and he promises he'll stay with me through anything he was talking to his youth leader from his wednesday night church about us, and his youth leader said that he thinks I'm his first love. And he always tells me that he would do anything for me, and i think i would do anything for him. And I want to be with him, and I can see myself with him. ANd I couldnt see myself with annyyyoone else.. until we started having trouble and this other guy came along. So what do I do? Is it possible to love someone and start to have feelings for another guy? Are my feelings for another guy just.. like, fake? oor..?

--in Need of Help ):
thanks..(:

I believe if you love someone than you shouldnt be having feelings for someone else. i also believe you may not know if you love this first guy because you really havent go a chance to know this person in person other than church. you havent been able to be alone with him and get to know the real him a lot of people change once you really get know who they are. I think you could be crushing on guy number 2 and i think you should get to know him. you are single.

Q: I'm in 9th grade and I have this really cool guy friend. We share a lot of similar interests and I can't tell if I like him or LIKE him (you know what I mean). He's really nice and cute, and I could see us together, but at the same time I don't know much about love (I've been single my whole life don't laugh) and I can't tell if I like like him. I don't feel shy around him and we'll talk all lunch period about random nonsense. Am I falling in love with him?

If you picture your self with him sometimes than yes i could say you like him. with the common interests, not being shy with him you could also just be really goo friends you have to follow your heart. Do you feel like you like him more than a other guy friend.

Q: my ex and I have been talking on and off for awhile, and it seems like when we don't talk he stalks me, what I don't understand is that he has my number, why can't he just call or text me instead of showing up unannounced where ever I am... it's becoming really strange and it's not a coincidence because it has happened more than 3 times... what I don't get is that he is the one who stops talking to me or says that it's not working out right now, but then he shows up where I am, can somebody please give me a good explanation as to why you think he does this?

He is keeping you his rebound girl. He is going to make sure you are not dating, talking, or hanging out with someone else. I would get him out of you life completely he seems to be very controling.

Q: My parents have been married for 31 years. My Dad is a jerk, cheated on my mom several times early in the marriage, was an alcoholic & is now just plain mean to my mom. He treates her like a slave. My dad has been going outside on the patio, smoking cigars & playing online poker/games for over 2 years now. Just recently my sister & I were sitting on the sofa watching TV. She turned around & saw that my dad had a small window up with porn on it. My mom is a Christian & they both go to church. I KNOW she wont be okay with this especially because she meets all of his "physical needs" when every he wants. I have been very convicted about this & think I should tell her. Please give me your advice. Thanks.

Tell your mom if that is what you feel is best but remember what could happen she may shrug it off, she may become upset and finally decide to leave your father there are many outcomes that could occur.

Q: my bangs always get greasy really quick, is there anything I can put on them so they don't get so greasy easily?

it is more from sweat and stuff. i would pin them up on top of you head. thats how i wear mine i bump it up.

Q: Hey so me and my best friend are doing a figure skating pairs routine. were both girls. its like a duet . we just have fun and stuff and its a fun routine that we get to make up and skate to. but we need help deciding music! we cant decide on music to skaate to. we are teenage girls. and we want the music to be up beat and fun and something that we can have really cool glitz outfits to when we compete and perform it :) any music ideas would be GREATLY appreciated. but asap answer please we have to make the routine soon.

My cousin used to do that she did michael jackson thriller. and she even had a car pull a little bit onto the ice.

Q: We'll I had a bad childhood an I've seen alot of stuff a kid shouldn't. See and I have really bad flash backs of things and it seems to make me very paranoid what do I do PLEASE help i also have anexiety

it is post dramtic stress i have the same thing and the best way to get through it is to see a counsler and talk to them. they help you solve the situation.

Q: Well as of last week I was Invites to my bestfriends birthday party/sleepover and we all were going to practice for cheerleading at her party because we all wanted to try out. I Hurt my leg really bad and my mom said I wasn't aloud to do any of that at Her party, so I told my friend about it and it was fine with her. Well as of yesterday afternoon she texted me and said hey you know how you said you couldn't do gymnastics at my party, and I said yes well she said we did a lot of gymnastics last year and we will probaly be doing more this year. So I said ok why? Lol then she said well I don't want you comming and just sitting on the couch! And not do anything. By then I was getting upset, so I said I'll be with friends I can watch and not everyone wants to be a cheerleader so they won't want to do that If you don't want me to come fine. Them she text back and said I want u to come I just didn't want you to leave. Well after that I said why would I leave and she said well I just talke to my mom and she said I am only aloud to have 10 people and you were the 11th and I sai so I can't come? And she said yeah sorry bye. Ok well by then I felt so upset that she had did that because she told me at school o was invited and her mom said she could have 12. So I knew she was lying. I was so excited about the party I thought she was my bestfriend. Also she is the only friend I have and scared to go back to school this Morning we didn't have school though because it snowed and I get upset and worry a lot and I got depressed my m was worried about me. I'm really upset I need advice - thanks. 13/f

I think what she was trying to say is she didnt want you to come to her birthday party and become bored of watching or feel left out and decide you wanted to go home. Even that I dont think it was right to univite you. I think you should tell her that you would have fun watched everyone else and that you could to a little bit practicing the arm cheers moving your arms the right way. You can always make new friends. Just talk. I was shy when I was your age to but i learned now if i would have just started talking than i could of made more firends.

Q: 22/f
i need advice. i've been with my boyfriend for about 7 years now and hes great and we're really in love and we have plans to marry eventually. the problem is when he gets angry or upset even if its a stupid fight that could have been over with one word, he gets too angry and just opens this whole portal of really hurtful words. i know he doesnt mean it cuz hes angry but at the point it really hurts and it makes want to leave him which i dont want to at all. so how can i get him to stop being mean when hes angry? thanks.

Telling him how you feel is only going to let him know how you feel it will not change a thing. I think you should ask him if he would be interested in anger managment classes and that you feel it would help your relationship alot when you do fight. he will learn to walk away when you fight to control his anger to think about the situation and come back with a differen attitude and be able to talk it out.

Q: i want to know do you take a few pills at a time or should you take the whole bottle i dont want to puke up i want it to stay down and do the job

You need to speak with a parent or friend. You need to seek profesional help and counslers. Suicide is not that answer no matter how bad the situation is. I am 19 years old and married. I have two children and a step son ages 7,4,and almost 1. I live with my father and work at Mcdonalds and i recieve food stamps. I live in a state were the only family i have is my father and i miss my mom. My mom is dating a Ace who beats on her and she says she loves him whom has also beat me up. My mom did not show up for my wedding or the birth of my daughter. Life sucks and you know no matter how hard it is no matter how much id like to drive my car off a cliff because im constantly having flat tires probably would not make it to a cliff I hold my head high put on a smile sometimes fake sometimes real and life day by day. Dont sink your self to suicide. Its a sad feeling I dont know whats bothering you but if you would like to talk email me. ashaboo77@yahoo.com

Q: My husband has been texting a co-worker of his and admitted to flirting with her. When I confronted him the first time he said he would stop. I found out he deletes all of her messages because I looked at the phone records. He was really upset when I confronted him the second time. This has been going on for over a year. I also just found out he has been receiving and texting porn to his friends. He's suddenly going to the gym and into his appearance. I have major self esteem issues right now and really need his support. I was diagnosed with leukemia and getting ready for a bone marrow transplant. I have lost my hair due to chemo. I realize I can't do much with my appearance right now because of the radiation and chemo. I do try to make my makeup look nice and wear pretty scarves to cover my head.I'm afraid to bring up the texting because each time I did in the past he got really upset because of the lack of trust. I know he won't cheat on me but I do worry about the emotional connection with this co-worker and this sudden interest in porn. He doesn't tell me I'm unattractive, he's only said I look okay and to not worry about it. My question is, should I confront my husband and if so how do I do that without upsetting him with the snooping? Is it okay for him to flirt with other women and send porn to his friends since it's not actually cheating?

Honestly I do not think it is okay and I think you deserve better. I understand you are in a very emotional postion right now. He could be afrid of losing you but texting and sending and recieving porn is no reason to be treating you that way. I would sugest to him that you know about the texting and porn and would like to see a marriage counsler let him know how much you are hurt say it then say think about it and get back to me look him straight in the eyes turn and walk away.

Q: Okay, well I found out today by my teacher that we have new Zodiac signs, and my boyfriend is upset because his birthday is July, 30th which he was a Leo, and he doesn't want to be a Cancer like me.(July, 22) haha So, is all this true? I believe in the zodiac completly, but I've dated a cancer and he cheated on me and he wasn't a good boyfriend. :/ Well, and leo's and cancers are a perfect match because I study this stuff..so will anything change because I don't want my boyfriend to change. Will these new signs change there personality?

No this is not true. Even if it was true they are saying its only if you were born after november 2009. They are saying that the Zodiac change is due to the sun. well Zodiacs were created under the moon.

Q: where can i go to find out my high school g.p.a?

It is located on your report card?

Q: keeps me up all night when i have to wake up for work at 4:00 in the moring

Its terrible to go to sleep before making up with wife maybe counsling will help the two of you if you two really want to work on your marriage you cant keep being miserable and going with out sleep. My husband and I fight a lot as well and we are working as hard as we can to work our marriage out with out seeking professional help which he does not want. i think it would be best in your situation.

Q: one day i was just browsing the internet and i found this cool toolbar kind of thing and i thought it was something different but when i downloaded it on my computer, i realized its not what i wanted. so i uninstalled it. but now whenever I go on the internet, there's a pop up saying "you tried uninstalling this toolbar. would you like to successfully remove this toolbar?" and i click yes but then nothing happens. the pop up box just leaves and then if i exit out of internet and go back on it, the pop up box comes up again. i dont know whats wrong! I dont think its a virus because nothing unusual is happing to my computer.. its acting the same as it did before i installed it.

can someone please help me?

i'd rather not tell my parents or go get professional help because i dont want them to think i download crap off the internet all the time.. which i dont. its not like i download stuff every week and get like a lot of viruses. this is the only thing ive downloaded off the web for a long time and i'm kind of freaking out because i dont know how to get it off!

someone please help!

To get rid of a tool bar you need to go to your control panal and go to install/ uninstall programs and search for the one that you are trying to deleted good luck

Q: Ive had millions of gfs. More than most and know more about girls than just about everyone. I have millions of friends come to me about of advice on how to get a girl and my advice always works, but im with this one girl and i cant seem to figure her out. Shes so quite. i mean like ive had plenty of shy gfs before and ive been a talker and im funny so its always been easy to open them up and get them talking but this girl is impossible. We kiss and make-out but Even i (btw im an actor so i have to know how to talk well and come up with stuff on the spot) am having trouble on finding things to talk about. She only shakes her head and shrugs. I think shes afraid she might say something stupid or immature cause im older and shes not used to dating older guys. I'm not used to dating younger girls although shes not that much younger. Im 15 and shes 13. She sure don't look 13 though. She beautiful beyond words. Ive dated chicks that were scared cause they don't think there good enough for me cause they know ive dated around a lot and think my previous gfs are better than them but this is beyond that. She has no interests and is very shy even though shes says shes not. ive never asked for advice on this kind of matter before and in a way feel embarrassed of asking for it now cause ive always given this kind of advice, never received. If anyone has any ideas please share or email me. My adress is
actor.ajthedford@gmail.com. Thank's

I think you need to just talk to her about how shy she is. I have dated shy guys who just do not talk and it didnt work for me because i was hyper and very active and social. Talk to her about it tell her there isnt any reason to be shy or any reason to think youll say something stupid tell her how beautiful you think she is and make her feel very comfortable.

Q: Okay well i live in the lake county , cook county area and i have been searching for a dentist thats in my budget for almost a year. Im a teen and i have NO medical insurance but i need atleast three of my teeth pulled or worked on because they are extremely in horrible condition. What do i do? Please help this is serious!

If I were you i would call and ask about 1 tooth at a time dont do it all at once because when they tell you the price your suprised correct I think my cousin had her tooth pulled for 60 dollars. I live in a small town so I think you can find something around that price. I know itss hard not having insurance i dont have dental insurance hang in there.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.