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Q: I have a feeling I could be pregnant to my ex boyfriend. He left me for his previous ex-girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. I don't know if I should tell him, and I don't know what to say if I did. I would want him to come back to me if I was pregnant and help me out with the baby and all since it would be his but I understand if he doesn't. I wouldn't want to put him in that situation.

I just don't know what to do and I don't know what his reaction would be.

Can someone help me out?
The first thing you should do is find out for sure if you really are. Once you know it will be a little easier on you. If your not, don't worry about it, go on with life like nothing ever happend. But if you are, you do need to tell him. And once you get together to talk to him, it will just come to you. Tell him how you feel about. Let him know you want him to be part of the babies' life and then make sure to listen to what he has to say about it. If he decides not to, there is nothing wrong with being a single mother. It will be a little more difficult if you don't have a guy around, but if you still have friends and family that are willing to help, you have nothing to worry about. ( I am still with my boyfriend that I have only been with for 9 months and I am going to be 7 months pregnant on January 5(my birthday) and it is difficult even with having him, but I have family to help support me... and it is going well, and I have much faith that everything will be great. Never forget that everything happens for a reason...) Good luck.

Q: okay so i'm going to this new school soon. but the grade you're going to in that school dependse on the age. (now i am going to a school were they don't have that arrangement) so i am 15 years old. in what grade am i going now?
my friend said maby 9th or 10th grade. i turned 15 in 8th grade and now i'm in 9th grade.
so in schools were it dependse on the age in what grade are you when you're 15? i am turning 16 in about 2 month so i'm almost 16. this is confusing me
sorry about my weird grammar =/ i don't now how to phrase this question right.
anyway please help
It will not depend only on your age, but also on your birth month. They may put you back in 9th grade but it all depends on the school. A good way to find out for sure is to have someone take you to the school, or get the number and call to ask them for sure what grade you will be in. If they do put you back in the same grade, it will suck because you already know a lot of what they are going to teach you, but it will also help you because since you already know it, you should do good. Either way, good luck, and I hope you like your new school. (It may be hard, but it will all work out. I went to 3 different schools in 3 different states between preschool and 5th grade. It was different, but I got used to it pretty quick.)

Q: I don't know what I am inside, or what to do. I believe in god and jesus and stuff, but I don't know if I'm scared to go to hell. I don't go to church and I don't know what waits for me at the end. I want to find out what I really believe in but I don't know how. This may sound strange, but I feel like I have a connection, not to god, but almost like being psychic. I need a way to find my spirituality.
You should try looking up information on different religions and see what you think best suits you. I went through the same thing when I was younger and I am now christian but I still think about other religions too... You just have to figure out what you want. It may take some time but eventually you will.

Q: ive heard there is a website that you can upload a pic of yourself and try different hairstlyes out so you can see what you look like before you get it cut. im scared i wont like the style i want. does anyone know the name of this website and the address or anything similar?

thankyou
I was watching the Tyra show the other day and she had a good idea for seeing what you will look like with different hair. She said to have someone take a picture of you wearing black with a black background, and you can use a black sharpie or black marker to cover up how much you want cut. It wasn't perfect but it did show pretty much how the girls hair would look.

Q: 15/f so I audition for a lot of plays but no matter how hard i try and no matter how much I want it I can never land a role. I don't know what to do I've tried everything. Please Help
I know how you feel. I used to do the same thing. Somthing that might belp, is when you don't make it, the person you auditioned for, why you didn't make it. Ask them what you did wrong so you know why you didn't make it, and you can know what practice on the most the next time you are getting ready to audition. Good luck

Q: For my driving test I need to be able to BACK into a parking spot. During a driving lesson my instructor showed me how to do it on both the left & the right but I can never remeber the steps! If anyone can give me clear directions on how to do it on either the left, right, or both sides, I would be grateful! I need to know where to position the car to begin, which way to turn the wheel, and when to but it in reverse/drive. Thank you so much! (any info would be fine, thanks!)
It really depends on the car. If you are using a larger car you will have to position it differently than if you have a smaller car. You should ask a parent to take you to an empty carlot and practice to see for sure where you should be positioned in the car you will be using to take the test. Good luck on the test, and remember if you don't make it the first time practice some more an you can always retake it. DONT GIVE UP!

Q: how long after you have sex should you start to get symptoms that your pregnant? Like how long after you've concieved should you get sore breasts, and how long after should you start feeling sick? how about other symptoms, and how long will they take?

thanks very much.
Not everyone gets symptoms. I am 7 months pregnant and the only reason I knew to get a test was because I missed a period. I was 2 months before i even missed my period, and even now at 7 months, the only "symptoms" of pregnancy I have had other than my weight gain, is that I got a hemmroid(but people get those when there not pregnant too.) My breasts however were a little sore my 3rd and 4th month, but not sore enough to REALLY notice, and at 5 or 6 months, my breasts started leaking colostrum. Just to be sure, if you think you might be pregnant, you should get a test, whether it be from the store or at a med clinic. I hope this helped. Let me know if you need any thing else...

Q: i have a pimple in my ear and it really hurts. i know gross. i really want it to go away and i cant pop it or anything. has anyone ever had this problem and how can you make it go away?
EWW!! I hate those. They hurt bad, I know. I usually do pop them, with my fingernail i just run my fingernail over it til it pops(it will hurt to pop it) but once it is popped it, will go away in a few days and it won't hurt much anymore once it is popped.

Q: i want to try out for the cheerleading team next year, but i've never been pn cheerleading..what do i do?
PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE! You don't have to be the best dancer or cheerleader to make the squad but you have to have rythym. If you don't know how to dance or you don't have rythym, find a friend or family member that does, and ask them to help you. And another thing... Be VERY CONFIDENT! If you go to try out, and you are not confident, you won't do well. You have to show them that you KNOW you can do it. GOOD LUCK!!

Q: okay im an athlete, but i haven't exercised in a long time because i have a chronic ankle sprain. i weighed myself today and i lost about 8-10 lbs. im guessing im losing muscle, but does that muscle turn to fat?? or does it just get smaller. any ideas or things i can do??

thnaks!!
See a doctor. Most likeley you are losing muscle, and if you are not exercising you may be gaining fat. But if you start to lose to much weight it may not be healthy for you.

Q: I started cutting when i was in 6th grade but i didnt like it. but now i am and i have huge cuts on my hips and i burn my self with really hot water or something really hot like metal. I know i shouldn't. i wear a razor on my neck at school and people look at me and interrogate me and say...''DO YOU CUT!'' the only people that know that i do this are my two friends who help me out a lot... an especially one... she helps me to convince people that i don't cut. i just wished i could stop but im so caught up inside.
It is great that you know this is bad for you and especially that you have friends that help you with it. I used to cut too, and it wasn't until I realized how bad it was for me and I had a friend to help me out that I stopped. It was very difficult for me and unfortunatly I didn't know why I was doing it until way after I stopped. The reasoning behind my cutting was depression. It is not uncommon for people to get depression. The smallest changes in a persons life can bring it on. If you think this may be the case with you, you may want to see a doctor to be sure, and see if there is anything they can do to help you with it. And it may be hard but you may want to talk to your parents about it, because they can help too.

Q: I got my period for the first time in May. Since then I've only gotten it 3 times, and I'm still irregular. But whenever I get my period, I become sort of...disgusted with myself. The thought of blood coming out of my body disgusts me, and sometimes I see the little things of blood and I actually throw up. What should I do to become more comfortable with my body during this time?
One thing you can do is talk to your mom and other female family members that have had there period(especially people who have had there period a long time.) They can help you with the transaction. It is very difficult to get used to, but you will eventually. Another thing you can do is have your mom take you to the doctor and ask them a few questions. It always helps to know exactly what is going on with your body when you are expierencing new things like this.

Q: I'm going on my first cruise. We're going to the carribean. The problem is on other boats I get really seasick. Many people have said that you won't get seasick on a cruise because the boat is so big, and you can't feel it rocking back and forth, or something like that. any feedbak from people who have been on a cruise and get seasick from other ships. did you get seasick on the cruise? thanks!!
I have been on 2 crusises in the past 4 years, and the first cruise I went on was one of the smaller cruise ships. I was only on it for 2 days and unfortunatly (since I don't get seasick on smaller boats) I didn't think I would get sick and I didn't prepare. I got a bad headache the second night I was there and missed out on a lot. The second cruise I went on, I went after finding out I was 2 months pregnant and I am not sure if I got seasick or not because I was sick from the baby :-D. But my sister gets sick on smaller boats and they do have special patches at the store that you wear behind your ear when you are on boats to help you keep from getting seasick. (And trust me when I say, you will not be the only one wearing them) A lot of people on cruise ships wear the patches and they worked so good on my sister she used them on the second cruise too.

Q: do you have any suggestings that might help me loose wieght fast i tryed a lot of different thing like do you have any good diets or exerxise programs
That's a GREAT QUESTION! I am going to have to start losing weight myself pretty soon here(I am pregnant and due in February.) One thing I would not reccomend is diet pills! Medications for diets are ususally not very healthy for you. If you have the money I would recommend starting at a gym. They usually have a specialist that can help you start your workout to help you lose the weight. But eating very healthy, NON FATTY foods and walking or working out at home(lifting weights or just excersizing) should help. It may take a few weeks but it is very healthy and it works. Good luck.

Q: I am growing some herbs and peppers in a pot, the kind that come with the seeds and dirt therefore you just add water. I followed the directions that came with the pots but mold, the white fuzzy kind, it steadily growing over the dirt and plants in the pot. What did I do wrong? How can I fix it? Thanks
I suggest you go to a plant store, and ask them what type of sprays or other things you can use to get rid of teh mold. You didn't necessarily do anything wrong...Sometimes plants just get mold and sometimes bugs.

Q: I'm going to be getting my braces off soon and I was wonder which one should I do first, should I get a cleaning first or get my teeth bleached? How much does a cleaning and teeth bleaching cost? What do they do when I get a cleaning and bleaching?
If your orthodontist doesn't suggest a bleaching you don't neccisarily need one. But you should definitly get a cleaning after you get them off. I'm not sure how much it costs, but once you get the cleaning, just make sure to brush your teeth real good everyday! And it should help. (it helped me)

Q: i know how to babysit but i don't kbow how to tell people about my interset and that if they need a babysitter im available...help
Start with family and friends. If your family and friends have kids, let them know you would like to start babysitting. Once they know, they will be able to help you find other people that need a baby sitter.

Q: My mommy told me that she used cocoa butter (palmers) wen having me and my bro and that it didn't leave any visible stretch marks and yeah she doesn't have any 4 real.
So I'm FAAT...harsh but tru. So I have these stretch marks on my breast and my stomach. I'm losing the weight...SLOWLY. So I bought the cocoa butter and I used it jus now so I was wondering..do they fade the marks or make them disappear? And how long will it take?
I am 7 months pregnant. Before I got pregnant I was underweight for my age. I have gained 30 pounds since I got pregnant and I began to get stretch marks all over my butt and my thighs. It really bothered me, and I felt like my legs were too ugly to show off to anyone because of the stretch marks. So I asked my mom what she did and she told me to use Vitamin E lotion. I started using it not too long ago and the stretch marks have started fading. They are not gone, but my boyfriend is bigger and used to have stretch marks. As he gains and loses weight they come and go, and right now he doesn't have any. I hope this helps

Q: ok so i jsut redid my room last year. and its all right. it would be alot prettier if i had a different bed. but i jsut bought my bed like a year or two ago i dont know how long ago it was. but i would feel bad if i sk to redo it. so if i did redo it i would pay for it. but where could i get the money? i would need about like 500 to 1000 dollars. what kind of fun and easy jobs could i get at 14 years old that wouldnt be my whole life?
One thing you can do around your area if you are willing to, is ask people if they need someone to rake leaves (or if you live somewhere it snows a lot you can shovel snow for people.) A lot of people, especially older people, are ususally willing to pay people to do things like that if they can't, or if they just don't feel like it. You could also have a yard sale and take anything you don't want and sell it. You can also ask your parents if they have anything they would let you sell. It might take a little while, but you will get your bed eventually. And if you tell your parents why you want to make the money, I am sure they would help you find ways to get the money. Good luck.

Q: So my bestfriend has recently gotten jealous over me and my boyfriend dating. Shes been single for over a year and a half now and I really want to set her up with someone. Latly she's had alot of guys that have hinted they want to hookup with her, but I'm not sure if they would go out with her. Anyhow, I want to set her up with one of them but I'm not really friends with any of them, how do I go about doing this? She won't get mad if I set her up with someone. Thanks, btw I'm 14/f
If you are going to set her up with someone that you want her to stay with for a while, you want to make sure he is someone she will like, and someone that will like her. Don't just pick any guy that says he will date her because it won't last that long if they have ABSOLUTLY NOTHING in common. I know everyone says opposites attract, and that is somewhat true. People that have too much in common get bored with eachother very easily, but people that are too different from eachother, tend to argue about things A LOT. So you should pick someone that likes some of the same things as your friend but not TOO much in common. And don't set her up on a blind date...Let her meet him before you set them up on a date. (I have learned from much expierence that blind dates don't work to well.)

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I have always wanted to have my own advice column because many of my friends and family have come to me for advice, (especially my younger sisters and thier friends), and I always have something to tell them. I thought it would be nice to give advice to other people that need it as well. One good quality about me when it comes to my advice is that I have expierience both in the teen world and the adult world. I am also a soon to be mother and have some good advice for mothers and soon to be mothers. I have been through a lot for my age and I am more than willing to help ANYONE who needs it, and I hope I can do so.

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