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ok well im 13 about to turn 14 and im scared. i cant watch any scary movies and i get scared just watching things that arent even scary for normal people. i cant sleep at night by myself if i see something thats even just a little scary and i cant sleep at night by myself if someone else isn't on the same floor as me even if i didn't see a scary movie or anything..... i also cant take a shower unless someone's in the next room with the door open and even then i can't close my eyes while i take a shower... ive had this problem all my life... does anyone else have this same problem?? and do you think it'll go away?!?!?!?!?! pleaseee help me!!! how do i stop being scared?? and what if i stay this way even when i'm an adult and have to live by myself?!?!?!
You have to calm down. Nothing is going to happen to you. As long as your windows and doors are locked at night, which I'm sure your parents do before they go to bed, there is no way anyone is going to harm you. And if your house wins the lottery of the ones that get broken into, as long as you have a security system in place (or a dog, lol) the police will be there before anything bad can happen to anyone or anything. As for scary movies, you need to keep in mind that they are not real. If they really frighten you that much, DON'T WATCH THEM. When you take a shower, it is always good to crack the door open and have someone in the other room for safety reasons, but you shouldn't be bothered by it. I mean, think about it: say your fears come true and a creepy stalker comes into your house to watch you shower and then abudt you. If someone is home, like they should be, how would they get into your house without them noticing and furthermore get into the bathroom or hallway? As long as someone is in your house, not even on your floor, and your window is closed (locked, if first floor), blinds closed, you will be fine.
You obviously have a high stress level. Ask your parents for calming strategies. Try not to worry so much; stay a kid and leave the worrying to the adults. =)
i dont know what you would call it.. i guess discharge..? im 14/f and the white matter that comes out of my vajj is mostly whitebut it is like glue.. i dont kno how to explain it.. its not runny but like the snot.. is this right? and i get alot of it inbetween my periods.. its so unconfortable.. i always fel wet. it has never been like this before.. and it stinks.. is that normal??
If it really reeks, you may want to see a doctor. It may be a yeast infection. But if its not, I'd still want something to stop the smell, lol.
I didn't know what category to put this in, so that's why it's here.
I'm a part of a secret santa and I got one of my friends. I'm not allowed to spend a lot of money but I would like to get her something nice that she'll enjoy. Any cute ideas? Thanks!
Bath & Body Works has a bunch of cute little things for all girls. If your friend is kind of stressed (Aren't we all??) a great gift idea at B&B are these massagers shaped like curved X's with balls on the tips that you rub onto your back. Its SOO relaxing! (Yes, I've tried it myself.) I don't think they have a name. They come in a bunch of different colors, and they're only $4. You can see them here: http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2507692&cp=2484528.2209249&parentPage=family . They have a bunch of other inexpensive things there, too. Good luck, and happy shopping =)
15/F - Me
15/M - Dan
** - Note - The question is the last paragraph so you may not need to read the entire bulk of writing, however skimming through it will tell you what has previously happened and why I am asking the question. **
My school has a soccer academy program, the guys in the program take their own bus afterschool.
A few weeks ago myself and a friend were standing waiting for a ride when one of the soccer guys (who I know likes me) came up and said Dan liked me a lot. I said I didn't know who he was, although at that time I had seen Dan around once or twice. A few minutes later the soccer guys began yelling from their bus for me to come over and talk to Dan but I didn't.
For the next few days after the soccer guys kept talking about me as I walked past them in the hall (we have lockers in the same hall at opposite ends). However, I still didn't talk to Dan.
Ever since then I have noticed Dan's friends hit him (to make him notice) every single time when I walk by and Dan always pretends like his friends didn't do anything.
On Tuesday one of Dan's best friends told me he was 'like in love with me and always talks about me' but I have never actually talked to Dan in my life. We don't have any classes together.
I would really like to talk to Dan, or get him to talk to me. If we don't have any classes together and I previously acted like I didn't know who he was, what can I do?
Is there anyway to flirt with him from afar?
Thanks so much
Of course-- Actions speak more than words. Making eye contact and genuine smiles are the first step. Once he starts to reciprocate, try *slightly* tiliting your head batting your eyelashes *once*. Doing it multiple times makes you look kind of stupid. After three eyelash-batting occassions (lol), if he doesn't have the courage to ask you out, and he still likes you, you may want to approch him on your own. Just a simple "Hi, how's your day?" can give him a boost of confidence to ask you out on a date. Good luck =)
hey im 14/m, i just like asked this girl i love out, weve been friends for a while and i think i do love her, either that or i like her beyond belief,i got the impression that she liked me to, which just built up false hope, well anyway i asked her out, and she rejected me, told me she only saw me as a friend
i was heartbroken, still am, my feelings for her havent changed, well heres my question, is there any way to make her see me as somthing else, like get her to see me in "that way"? please i love her.
To start, I'm sorry that this girl does not like you the same way you like her. I'm a girl, and I know the feeling. Although this probably isn't what you want to hear, there's not much you can do to get her to see you in "that way". If you change yourself, you would be changing the person that that girl became friends with, and that won't help the situation at all. The best thing for you to do is to chill out for a few days-- hang out with your guy friends, get your mind off things, take some time to think. In about 3-5 days, tell this girl that you can settle with being just friends for now and that you hope your friendship can be just as great as before. If you don't talk to her, things will be awkward between you two until someone has the courage to make small talk. You never know-- in a few years, positions may be switched. Don't say "yeah, right," because that really does happen. [From a girl's point of view, guys get much hotter as they age from young teens to older teens. Not to say that looks are everything, of course.] Take things one day at a time. Good luck with everything.
what would you do if you were doing pet related tasks for a neighbor and they promised to pay you but after 5 months of hardwork they still didn't pay you or even mention? would you ask them for the money and how would you do it? or would you just quit?
I would definitely mention it. The best way to do it is to be polite and to the point: "Excuse me, Mr./Mrs. ____, but could I please get some information on my payments for taking care of your dog/cat/etc.?" They may apologize and promise to give you the money, but if they beat around the bush or make an excuse not to give you any money, tell them right out that you cannot take care of their animal anymore if they do not pay you for it. As long as you are polite and (semi)understanding, you should be fine. Good luck =)
i'm not too happy with my body, and i think that shedding a few pounds would boost my self esteem and help me look better.
i'm just curious of whats the quickest, healthiest way to loose weight without having to pay money like jenny craig and weightwatchers, but things i could do at home or outside in my backyard to get fit.
thanks in advance,
xo
Truly, the best way is diet and exercise. Just look for quick and easy ways to change your lifestyle. Instead of taking your car to a store a block away, walk or jog. Park on the opposite side of the mall and take a long walk to the store you need to go to. Run (safely) or walk up and down stairs at home during your free time. Do sets of 20 crunches 3-4 times a day to take off the excess fat around your stomach. If you want, you could join a gym, although I know that costs money. Some guys have free trials that last 3-7 days that you may want to try. For food, decrease your intake of calories per day; that doesn't neccessarily mean decreasing your FOOD intake. Lay off TV dinners, even if they claim to be fat-free, because they have a ton of salt. Instead of buying fatty ice creams, buy 1 or 2-point Weight Watchers ice creams-- I eat them and I'm an average weight, I recommend the Chocolate Fudge Cups (2 points). Then just do the obvious things- go Skim or 1% milk instead of Whole, fat free or unbuttered popcorn, try unsalted pretzels. Doing these things, you should take off 5+ pounds in less than 2 weeks. If you set your mind to it, you can do it. Good luck =)
I am 15 years old and I am really looking forward to christmas and everything but I hate being single during the holidays!! There is this one guy that always teases and talks to me during class! I know most of the advice everyone is gunna tell me is to go to a movie with him but I mean we have never hung out outside of school so i dont know how I would bring it up. I am pretty positive he likes me because he doesn't act the way he acts around other girls so i am pretty sure he is flirting. Most of my friends and guy friends arent really friends with his group of friends so it isnt like i would just "run" into him at the movies. how do i show him that i like him besides flirting back? Thanks i really need this advice!!!!!!
If this guy does like you, dropping hints might go a long way. Making eye contact and genuine smiles when you greet him might give him a clue. Next time a test or project comes up in a class that you and him are both in, invite him to meet you at the library after school to work together. If you have a good time and feel a connection, he will probably invite you to do something else with him outside of school, but if he doesn't, drop a subtle hint, such as "I had a great time, we should do this again." I'm sure everything will work out great with this guy, just be confident and, most importantly, be yourself.
Good luck!
I need help to train for the gym fitness test that I will be taking early this year. I am not extremely out of shape, for most of the fitness test (pushups, situps, and sit and reach) however, I cant run for my life. Does anyone have any tips on how to train for the 1 mile run? I need to get a reasonable time (like 10 minutes and below) but I also have a breathing disorder that has to do with my vocal cords, making it harder to keep my breathing inline when I run. Please help me with a training guideline!
Just practice running around your neighborhood before the test. Start out with a quarter of a mile a day for a few days, then go a third, then half. Don't go through these "levels" too fast, though- you could strain yourself.
I wouldn't count on a doctor's note. Gym teachers are tough. When I was in junior high I had to run 1/3 of a mile in under 4 min. during every gym class, which was every other school day, and I have asthma. My teacher never went easy on me, and he even overrid a doctor's note. The best you can do is try, because gym teachers have no mercy.
heyy. I'm 14/f.
Okayy. I know, that you just 'know' when you're inlove with someone. But, I feel like I know, that I'm inlove with this boyy. Like, wherever I go, the first kid I see, reminds me of him. Like does everyone do that? & like, I'm always thinking about him.. & like, I could go on forever. But anyways, I'm usually not this type of person. I'm usually the type of person.. thay says.."Oh, no you can't be inlove at 14. You know when you're older. You just really like them, or are obbessed with them." ..& I usually tell myself that too. But, this time.. I don't. I dated him awhile back, like last yearish. I've never gotten over him...
He broke up with me then. [I don't know if that would help why I like him so much in anyway?] We've had... moments. Hes said things to me, that could knock a girl off her feet, type thing. But, I don't have all the confidence, in the world in myself. So, sometimes.. I think he says it to everyone? Sometimes.. I feel like he really likes me too. & other times... I'm not sure. When you love someone, this is what I've also always thought & said.. when you love someone, it takes two people? One person can't love someone.. it's like peanut butter & jelly. But, of couse.. I don't know if he likes me. Theres things that have happened.. that I believe its fate. I really don't know.
I guess, what I really need advice on, is well.. helping me out & telling me, what you think of the situation. & if I should move on.. or not. & how to get over him. I'm not sure if I so much need advice.. or just someone to talk to me. & tell me what they think. Just pleasse answer. Thankyouuu.
I understand what you're going through. You can fall in love at any age. I know this sounds rediculous, but at age 11 (almost 12) I fell in love with this boy. We were both very mature for our age, we didn't play tag or anything, we had pretty intelligent conversations, and he could make me laugh. It took me a long time, but I got over him. I told one of my best friends that I thought I was in love with him, and she started to laugh. Again, I wasn't even 12. I understand how you're feeling. But, let me say this- 5 years later, I still haven't felt the same way about anyone else but him.
If you really feel this close to this person, tell him how you feel. Don't tell him everything at first, because frankly you might scare him, guys are weird like that, but tell him you really care for him and you're wondering if he feels the same way for you. And if he doesn't... its his loss.
If it turns out this guy doesn't share your feelings, you don't exactly have to move on, but you do have to be open to other people. Its good to remember, just don't dwell. It took me a long while, almost a year, but you will eventually move on.
Good luck to you. =]
I'm 13 years old and interested in getting braces. My teeth really aren't that bad and my mom doesn't wanna pay for the braces. But, I would still like to have the teeth on the top of my mouth nicely alined. How much would braces cost if you didn't need them too badly? And also, if the cost is too much, then can you/would it help to just have a retainer, or do you have to have braces first?
Braces cost the same amount if you need them badly or not. The price would only matter depending on how long you had them on for.
I'm pretty sure you could have a retainer without having to have braces, but of course you would have to talk to your dentist about it first. That would help to align your teeth.
Trust your mom on this- braces are waaay expensive. If you don't need it, a retainer would definitely be the way to go.
Where can you get funky iPod cases for less than $20?
I've searched everywhere. Even Google.
Please only answer this if you own a patterned iPod case, and you know exactly where to find one. "Maybes" are not helpful at this time.
Depends what kind of iPod you have. For the smaller ones, such as Shuffles, you can get cases at anyplace that sells regular iPod stuff, although I haven't seen any at the Wal-Marts. If that's your case, I would go to a electronics-type store, of course with other iPod products, such as Best Buy.
If you have a Nano or anything with a screen, you can get cool cases at Claire's and Icing (which is made by Claire's). As you probably know, that's a girls' store, and that's what I'm assuming you are, because you said "funky" and "patterned".
okay im 13/f and mi hair is really frizzy wat do i do?
You could straighten your hair. Hair straighteners generally go for $10-30, depending on what kind you get, and are sold in practically any retail store like Wal-Mart or Target.
If you still want your hair to maintain its shape, but just not be as frizzy, you could use John Frieda's Frizz Ease Style-Starting Shampoo and/or Conditioner, its much less expensive than straighteners and works well if you it every day.
Umm.......Can you please give me dress-up games websites!Thanx!I hope you give me some!
THANX ALOT!
www.i-dressup.com
Then there's also other sites where dressing up people/things are a part of the experience...
www.neopets.com
www.millsberry.com
www.the-n.com
www.habbo.com
www.webkinz.com
www.vmk.com
hi. I am a 13/f and i started my period about 6 months ago. I play soccer alot and do track in school. I have never used a tampon, only pads. My mom wont bring the subject up and i'm too nervous to ask her how to use it or if I can use them. PLEASE HELP!!!! my soccer tournament is in a few weeks and thats when my next period is supposed to come! any advice on how my mom can bring up the subject? or how i can get the nerve to talk to her about this?? should i just not tell her and just use one?? but i've never used one before and i'm nervous and dont know how to use one. PLEASE HELP!! thank you sooooo much
Tampons are very uncomfortable when you first put them in, and I would not recommend them unless you've had your period for at least 5 years or are an adult. Also, you could get TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome). They are very hard to put in, and it might take a while to do on your first time.
If I haven't dissuaded you already... if you REALLY want to use a tampon, just bring it up with your mom, its no big deal. Its not like she hasn't been through what you're going through right now. When you're alone, in the car or whatever, just say something like, "Hey, Mom, could you pick up a pack of tampons for me next time you go to the store?" I think she'll take the hint. Although if she says the same thing I did, don't try to go out and buy apack on your own. She knows best.
And just so you know... you can do sports with a pad. Just change it before your game starts.
Ok to start 14/f
Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin
So now my question is
do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
or just leave it alone and let them apologize.
I rate depending on the quality of the answer.
Thanks, DarkChocolate794
From what you've said, I don't see anything smart-alec-y about what you said to your family. Chill out for a bit, then later apologize for upsetting them, but dont go into specifics. Maybe they'll offer up an apology also.
Well, basically, my birthday is tomorrow. I know that there is obviously going to be some cat fights because I'm having five girls over stuck in a house while it's raining.
Any fun activities you can do inside on a birthday while it's raining? Or outside in the rain? Thankyou!
Oooh I have a perfect idea, but it might be a little short notice, since its tomorrow.
It would be a perfect setting for a horror party. Make popcorn, rent a scary movie or two, tell ghost stories, and use a Ouija (sp?) board. If you don't already have one and don't know anyone who has one that you can borrow then you can get one in a toy store that has an extensive Parker Brothers selection for under 20 bucks. If you can, get some tarrot cards, but you can also make some, you can look up instructions online. Try and tell futures by looking into "crystal balls"-- any spherical glass object, but a mirror will do.
Have a good birthday!!! =]
sorry if this is long but i reallt need advice.
ok i live with my dad, and i need to get bras. i need/ want a cupped bra to make my breasts look a lil' bit bigger....but
1. i dont know what size i am, and i dont know how to figure it out.
2. and i dont know which one would be right for me. i would like to have 1 regular sports bra, 1 regular cupped bra, and and 1 sports bra that is sorta cupped. how many bras do you think i should need? how do i get those with my dad? how do i resond when he says "a copped bra?!?" (kuz he's probably gonna say that) as much advice as possible!!!!!! plz help me!!! thx
Go to the mall with your friends. Ask him or another friends' parent to drop you off, you can all go shopping, and while you're there get a few bras, your friends will understand.
As for sizes... some places "measure" you for free/low cost. I know Playtex and Bali do. I'm assuming you're young, because you've never gone bra shopping before. If your breasts have just started growing, you're probably an A. Try different sizes on. Even ask your friends, they might be able to help.
You probably don't need more than 5 bras, because you don't have to wash them every single time you wear them, more like every 2 or 3, depending on perspiration, how long you've worn it, etc.
okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?
Alright this is a disaster waiting to happen. This could be a physco pervert stalker! But... you probably already know that, so I won't lecture you any more. Just *please* NEVER MEET IN PERSON! Even if you "go out" with him for years, its still very unsafe.
Are you seriously committed? Like, do you really think of him as your boyfriend? Let me just say that if you're taking yourself off of the dating market for some guy that is probably cheating on you in REAL life then its definitely not worth it. With this relationship, you will never be able to hold hands, kiss, hug, or do any of the intimate things that REAL couples do. So, to answer your question, I think you will last a few weeks, and then either you will realize its not worth it or he will.
Ok...so when im online i basically go on myspace and thats about it...i have nothing else to do what do you do when your online...like as far as what websites you go on?
Try getting a SN if you haven't already... you can talk to your friends that way... AIM is most popular, then probably Yahoo!...
I like to play games online... like www.addictinggames.com and other sites... I just search "online games" in a search engine and tons of results pop up...
I like virtual reality games myself... try Neopets, Millsberry, stuff like that. I like Millsberry the most. Don't be fooled, its not a kids' game, adults play it too. Then there's also The-N, Habbo, stuff like that.
If you're a girl... there are many websites out there that are cool for girls... like quizzes and stuff... there's Girls' Life, American Girl (kinda babyish but has cool games) and Teen People.