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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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Female. 17. My boyfriend and I were having sex today and as he thrust back in his penis hit my clit and made a cracking noise. He said there was only a half second of pain and he maintained an erection and we kept going. Later, i looked it up and it said penis cracking is very serious, but it also said that the penis would turn extremely dark from bruising and immediately lose an erection, neither of which happened. Is it really something to look into? (If it isn't REALLY something, don't tell me to go get it checked out please.. he's Muslim and his parents will kill him, no joke, so we are trying to avoid doctors.)
As long as he's not having pain & it's not really bruised, it's all gooood.
So, don't worry. :D
(Female/14)
In grade six A,D,T, and me we're best buds but unfort. A moved away so it was just me D and T.
In grade seven, T started hanging out with L and Z and it wasn't until the end of the year that i joined her and well we drifted away from D so it was then me T and L and Z.
Grade eight it was us all the way but we had so many fights that in june last week of school L and Z went there way and well me and T were once together again.(At this point we wished we hadn't left D )
Now in grade nine i missed first two weeks of school and once I come bacl, T is friends with D and M( m was friends with d after gr.6) L and Z arent friends anymore so i started hanging out with L and her shadow whos so fking annoying and I dont really feel like i belong anywhere :"(
I don't feel like they are my real friends and everythings jst so strange idk what to do :"(
And please dont tell me do find new friends because this is the group of circle of friends(ltters lol) i know best and well everyone else is jst like...mehhhh
Plz help me out I dont want to end my last yr in middle school without good friends
Holy shit that's way too many letters dude.
But yeah, middle school sucks. Girls just ditch each other & they're so shallow to each other. It gets a bit better as highschool goes on, despite what everyone'll try & tell you about how horrible it is. Most cliques & lame stuff like that just disappear.
I know the feeling though, believe me. Do you have any classes with any of em? Lunch? Lockers by each other? Just start talking to them & catch up. Try telling them how you feel, but don't sound clingly.
T sounds like she's been the one you've been friends with the longest, so start with her first. Ask her to hang out or spend the night this weekend.
And I hate to say it, but finding new friends is really the best thing for you to do if you don't feel like they're your real friends. Just start up random conversations with whoever you sit by in classes. Just be nice & cheerful & stuff; It'll make people wanna talk to you or be around you. It's really easy to make friends once you get the hang of it. :D
Good luck girlll!
can having you period for 2 weeks be a sign of pregnency?
No.
Don't worry. :D
ok this is what happening
my parents are out with family friends, and they'll be back any minute so I need your help
heres some background
i volunteer on my cousins softball team (im 17, the girls are 15)
and whatever yea i met this girl, her name is Allison, and we're going out for a while. We have a lot in common, sometimes i help her with her homework. I helped her on an english essay and she still got a C. This is because her teacher is a prick... anywayz
So she came over like an hour ago, and i really want to lose my virginity, so I ask her to have sex
"no i cant its not right" she said but i told her "dont worry i know what im doing, ill be done in like 10 seconds, plus ill give you 2 n64 games if you say yes"
So I gave her diddy kong racing and ken griffey jr baseball, and then she goes to my room. shes a bit confused and scared.
Then i think to myself - yo I need lube right? Cuz I hear you guys on TW saying you need to lube up her clit otherwise it wont fit in properly.
Ok so I have no lube, but i really want to lose my virginity - so i grab some butter from the fridge, but its cold, it wont melt - so i microwaved it for 8 minutes, and then i put it in a glass and poured it on her cooter, now shes saying i burned it.
I don't know what to do, my parents are going to be back any minute and shes crying in the bathroom plz help you guys are really smrat and please help me.
Any idea how to shut her up? Should i give her another n64 game?
Alright. Go take a stick of butter, microwave it for 8 minutes, & then pour it on yourself. See how you feel.
What you did was selfish and stupid. YOU DO NOT BRIBE GIRLS FOR SEX. Why she even agreed to that is beyond me. I mean, at least make it a GOOD deal anyway, not 2 video games.
Uh. You can give her another game if your little heart desires, but you should be APOLOGIZING to her. She didn't do anything wrong, and you're annoyed at her crying because you were too stupid to realize you don't pour practically BOILING butter on someone?! Get over yourself.
I'm done with lectures now.
Obviously clean it up and get her to a doctor.
Nice one.
my bf and i just started going out. his so cuute and sweet buut not really a good kisser like he opens his mouth too much and too wide and pretty much sticks his whole tounge in my mouth. what should i doooo? oohhh and i want to ask him to the christmas dance...its a turn around dance. i want it to be really cuute. any ideas?? thanks. :] 17/f
Well, there's nothin' you can do about the kissing thing unless you just flat out tell him. I really doubt you'd wanna do that though.
As for asking him out, I had a friend(it was a guy asking a girl, but still) who did this & it was SO cute:
Hopefully he has a car or this is gonna be no help whatsoever. But go out and buy a TON of hershey's kisses and leave a trail going from his door to his car. Get one of those window markers & write "Now that I've kissed the ground you walk on, will you go to the dance with me?" on his car window. OR spend a ton of time spelling it out in hersheys. Then get a friend or call him yourself & tell him to look out his front door & follow the trail.
If your scared of him coming outside & seeing you, just get some friends to go to his house & distract him for you. That's what the person I know did & it worked out so good.
Haha, good luck!
18/m
If my girlfriend and I are kissing and she is in my lap straddling me with a leg on either side and my pants are undone and she is wearing a dress and has it kind of pulled up so her feminine parts are "grinding" so to speak (like a skateboard on a rail) on my masculine parts but we are both still wearing our underwears (her=panties, me=boxers)... is there a possibility of pregnancy? Yes, I would be leaking semens cause thats what Mr. Johnson likes to do when things start to get hot n' heavy but not quite hot n' heavy enough to make him want to give it all he's got... you know what I mean ;).
Seriously though I need to know cause my love asked me to ask you fellows... or somebody she didn't specify who but seeing as all these little 14-year-old girls are having similar problems (although my issue involves common sense and lacks alcohol) I thought this would be the place to go.
WHAT SAY YOU?!?!?!?!
thanks! =]
oh and I don't do condoms and she don't do birth control... and definitely not plan-B.
"no because yu didnt put ur thingy in her thingy so there is no pregnancy"
Man, you came to the right place obviously.
Anyway. You were both wearing underwear so there's like a 1% chance of that happening.
If your girlfriend's gonna stress herself out over it despite what you/we say, just tell her to go get a pregnancy test.
my mom left for an hour so i smoked alone in my room.
i didnt realized it smelled until 30 mins later when i got up to go to the bathroom. i sprayed deodarent and went into bed. just as i was shuttign my light off my mom came home. she came in my room and i was fake sleeping. she asked my why it smelled so i told her i sprayed deodarent bc i didnt shower. (bc i just got a haircut) and she didtn believe me. shes like i know it smells like marijuana.
i denied it and kicked her out. she left and i havnt left my room since. it is 11:30 am and i am so scared to leave my room and face her. what do i do? i already denied it and i dont want to come clean to her because this is the fourth time she caught me!!!! yes i know im an idiot and stupid so spare me the repremanding comments. please just help me out or tell me what to do! my mom thinks weed is like heroin. im scared to even look at her because shell say somehting to me.
Sucks for you.
The people who think weed is like heroin are the people who've never tried it. I'm not saying it's good or anything, but it's not too bad either. Anyway, I agree with the others. Tell her that you were smoking. Then tell her you're sorry and you're done with it for good. Now all you gotta do is manage not to get caught. Obviously.
Don't smoke at home.
If you HAVE to, wait till she's gone and go upstairs and smoke by the window & turn all the fans on. Blow the smoke outside & lock your door. Don't ever spray it with some super strong smell to cover it up. If you have a bathroom in your room, leave the door open, turn on the vent, and take a shower. That'll give the smell some time to go away if you leave the window open plus whatever stuff you use in the shower should make your room smell like that & not the weed.
If you're real paranoid, just go to a friend's house whose parents are never home. I wouldn't suggest walking cause a neighbor could see you & tell, but go in the fucking woods if you have no where else to go. Hahaha, seriously, that's what one of my friends used to do. Now she just does the whole window thing though & she's NEVER been caught.
Yeah, good luck.
Hi im 18 and im a guy who just recently asked a girl out who i was told likes me, which turns out to be evident anyways. Shes younger than me (16) but all day at school she was making alot of contact and such, and at the end of the day i gave her a long hug and she seemed very much like she was leaning toward giving me a kiss. BUT me of course being not sure if that's what she really wanted, (especially in front of like all of the middle schoolers and our grades....) i sorta slowly backed away and said see you tomorrow...
If anyone has any insight on maybe what she would be thinking right now cause i cant really go back and change that but was that a mistake???
Aw, haha.
She probably just wanted to make sure you were okay with it & expected you to meet her halfway, ya know? You could just go for it & kiss her tomorrow. If she acts awkward, then just apologize. It should be perfectly fine anyway; ya'll are going out afterall.
Like you said, you can't go back and change it though. Good luck :D
I think I'm depressed. Almost a year ago I tried to kill myself and now the anniversary is coming up on October 29th. I'm scared, I'm taking risks like hitchhiking, going to raves,doing drugs and drinking, and having random hookups that make me feel disgusting the next day. I'm so young (I'm 14! People call me mature though)to be this fucked over. This morning my mom recommended that I drop out of school becasue I'm just not trying anymore. I used to be smart, and I barely had to put in any effort. Now I don't put in any. At all. I have a C in English, that used to be my best class. My relationships are falling apart, I'm confused about my sexuality... I am not talking to my Dad though I think he wants to help. I hate self hate but I'm finding it hard to stay positive. Any advice you have for me is loved and appreciated.
Aw, I'm sorry you're going through this:/
Your mom knows something up, right? Talk to her. Have her take you to see someone that you can talk to. This is the only way you can ever get completely normal. Depression's too hard to fight alone sometimes. It took me a while to give in & finally accept this, but if you do, you'll be your old self again sooner than you think. :)
Most likely they'll just give you an antidepressant unless you've got like a combination (like ADD & depression). If I didn't do what I just told you to do, I would still be in your place. Well, almost. I'd suggest Lexapro btw. If they suggest something else, tell them you would prefer Lexapro. If you're having problems with anxiety or sleep it's real good for that also. Trust me, it's the one you want, and probably the one they'll offer.
They'll probably give you a checklist when you go or just ask you a bunch of questions, but here's some background information you should know about depression, the symptoms, & the treatment before you go:
https://www.google.com/health/ref/Major+depression
http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=By_Illness&template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=7725
Anyway, it might take a while for the appt. to roll around, so just hang in there. I know it seems impossible, but things WILL get better. Stay strong.
& if you ever needa talk, I'm hereeee.
Good luck! :D
where is the best place to smoke weed in your house so it wont smell or linger on?? i need a place where i dont need to spray perfume.
Is your house more than one story? Go to the top floor or the basement. If you don't do it out the window, you're screwed. So ALWAYS smoke with the window(s) open and blow it out towards that direction. Make sure all the fans are on, doors are closed (and locked if you don't wanna be paranoid about people walking in), etc.
And if you can't go by a window, lock yourself in the bathroom. Hahaha, just close the door, turn on the vent, and pray no one smells it somehow.
Haha. Have fun.
16/f
ive dyed my hair a LOT. ive had it every color of the rainbow, and every shade of every color in the rainbow. but ive grown up, so now im stickin to the natural look. the problem is its damaged and frizzy.
i curl my hair by scrunchin it with gel because its the ONLY way to wear it without straightenin it (and i dont wanna do that because its already damaged duh). but when i used a normal amount of conditioner for my hair, it doesnt curl and it is just frizzy.
what can i do to help repair & de-frizz my hair without it bein a conditioner that ruins my hairstyle ? like a shampoo or a once a month cream thing. i tried the pantene mask thing and it hasnt worked.
THANKS ! :)
Just my opinion, but pantene sucks. That Ice Shine's like the only thing that works and I used to love it, but now I can't use it.
If you wanna see the best results, go to a PROFESSIONAL hair stylists somewhere and ask them what products they suggest. I use Liquid Keratin shampoo & conditioner and it works REALLY good. Plus I use a deep conditioner a few times a week that's by Fekkai. Also try adding 5mg (or 5,000 mcg--same thing) of Biotin in everyday. It really helps your hair grow, keeps it healthy, & stops hair loss. Alsooo, you need a good leave in conditioner. I use Biosilk Silk Therapy before I dry my hair and after, and I love it; It makes your hair realllllly shiney too.
You'll always get really good results with professional products (minus the Biotin since that's just a vitamin), so be prepared to spend some money on this if you want your hair to get healthy again!
Believe me, I know where you're at! I decided to be a dumbass and get my hair permanently straightened. It worked okay, but now I have SUPER thin hair and I have to use the most delicate/repairing professional products and everything. It's not easy to do either.
Anyway, good luck! :D
is it bad to write my college essay on how i got caught with weed?
It depends on the teacher you're writing your essay for. If they're a SUPER strict teacher, then I'd go with a no.
If they're kinda laid back and easy going and you end up writing it, don't brag. Write it from the point of view like as if you learned something from it or how it changed you. I don't know what your paper's about, but yeah, those are probably the only 2 things you could really talk about and use it as a sort of appropriate topic.
I recently straightened my hair permanently. And now, I am getting hair loss and my hair is thinning! what should i do??? please dont say "go to a doctor" because i am not going to go to a doctor. any other advices??
I just had this happen to me! Haha, I freeeaked out, so I know how you're feelin'.
First of all, go to a nutrition store and get 5,000 mcg or 5mg (they're both equal) of Biotin. It helps stop hairloss and it helps your hair get thicker/healthier. Plus it helps it grow faster. It works really good if you take it once a day for a couple months, trust me.
Go to a place like Ulta or something and get Liquid Keratin Shampoo and the Liquid Keratin conditioner with it. It works really good. Since the straightening basically stripped your hair, these products work by adding keratin & other nutrients back into it. I love em:D This is what the bottle will look like btw: http://www.skinstore.com/p-12990-Liquid-Keratin-Infusing-Healthy-Hair-DeFrizz-Shampoo.aspx?affiliatecode=GAk216835
Avoid blow drying/straightening your hair for a while. If you MUST do either, get a bottle of Biosilk Silk Therapy and run it through your hair after you get out the shower and then again before you put any type of heat on it. Don't use alot though. The bottle will look like this: http://stylewithanna.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/a_biosilk.jpg
Do a deep conditioning treatment AT LEAST twice a week. I use the one by Fekkai: http://freshfragrancesandcosmetics.com/Photos/87600.jpg
It works really good for me as long as you leave it on for at least twenty minutes. I use it about three times a week.
Hope I helped! :D
okay well lately ive been sleeping ALOT and i mean ALOT. ive been super cold where ever i go. ive been like super bipolar lately too like i started crying and in the middle i jus snapped out of it. ive been having numb feelings in my feet and rarely my legs what could this be. my friend keep saying that im pregnant but im on the shot, i know that not 100% effective but idk what could it be ?????? please help! p.s can go to the doctor til next month plus ive been having blury vision sometimes!
Depression/anxiety.
If you were pregnant, you'd probably be feeling nauseous right about now.
If you're crying alot--defintely could be depression--then your eyes are gonna be red and puffy, which could lead to blurred vision. If you're sleeping alot, that's also a symptom of depression. Anxiety can cause cold hands and feet, which is probably why you're cold all the time. And worrying over a pregnancy isn't gonna be helping that anxiety any, so relaaaaax.
I was having a ton of symptoms, including these, and they ran all these tests making a big deal of nothing. It turned out being some pretty bad depression/anxiety that I'd try to shrug off for way too long. Sometimes the symptoms of depression show up more physically then emotionally in people.
Hang in there till you get in to the see the doctor.
Good luck! :D
So, i'm 15 and female. My boyfriend for two months who I'm really starting to develop strong feelings for asked me to give him oral the other night. See, now I'm not prude okay? It's true I've never done that before, but I think it's normal to be nervous about EVERYTHING the first time. Hell, I was nervous the first time i got fingered! I just really don't like the idea of putting a guys penis into my mouth. Like common, thats kind of gross...for all you girls out there thats done it, is it that bad? Also, I don't want to be used by this guy! Like, if I'm open to exploring new things because he wants to, I don't want it to be a situation where we do this stuff and hes bored & leaves, you know? Anyways, do you think I should give in and just try giving him a blow job? There's a first for everything...or shoould i like stand my ground bc its kinda disqusting? hahaha let me know, kthanks, much love
You're right; it's normal to be nervous about everything the first time. Your boyfriend should understand that.
Tell him what you just said. You don't want to be used. You don't want him to get bored and leave you. Tell him those exact words. Well, replace you with I, but you get what I mean. Don't overthink this or you'll back out, but don't do anything you KNOW you don't feel comfortable doing.
I know this might sound super gay, but everytime I'm doubting making some decision, I think of this quote:
"I’ve been thinking a lot lately about taking chances, and how it’s really just about overcoming your fears. Because the truth is, every time you take a big risk in your life, no matter how it ends up, you’re always glad you took it." -- Scrubs
Try it. What's the worst that can happen? Haha, I mean you can just stop if you realize you don't wanna do it. Relaaaax. :)
not sure if this is in the right category, but last year around this time me and my bro had been planning a huge party and my parents other 'vacant' house. we ended up inviting alot of people to the party. so the party was suppose to kick off a bit after our schools homecoming football game against our rivals. so everything had gone to plan and my friend drove me and my bro down to house. we had everythinf ready then police show up at our doors so were totally fucked, they make us call our parents and they talk to them and well i guess you can see what happened from ther on. luckily the booze hadnt arrived yet so we wer safe, but it was close. so now its almost a year later and i kind of want to hav a party again. but i want to hav this party with my friends from my old school (middle school)(im a junior now) i havnt rly talked to much to them which im not proud of because i had some great friends. so what im asking is how can plan this up to hav a successful party wher me and my friends just basically chill out and what not. my old house the last place i should go to have it but im not sure what to do. although my parents do go out of town for a few days. weekend of oct 16,17,18, gone for three days. now do i somehow get something going at my new house and run down to my old house. the thing about my old house tho is that its about 15-20 miles away.
Just wondering what you would do in this situation if you were throwing the party, even though i know not throwing one is an option. if things to work out it would only be 7-15 people or so. thanks
Damn that suuuuucks.
I don't get it though. Why did the police just suddenly show up? If you don't know.. either your parents suspected something, a neighbor did, or one of your friends are laaame.
I'd throw one! Not throwing one wouldn't even be an option for me. If you get caught, that sucks, but at least you had fun & got to see your old friends.
..This is why I would be a horrible parent.
Hahaha, anyway, so you're throwing the party when they go out of town, or is that part of the question? Wait till they're gone, as long as their not the type to call & check up on you every five minutes.
Throw it at your new house. If you try the old one again, you're pretty much guarenteed to have the same thing happen again. Cause what I'm guessing happened is your old neighbors saw all these cars and all those people, flipped out, and called the police.
So, stick with the new house. Try to find a way to make sure your parents didn't tell your neighbors to like watch your house while they're gone or somethin. Keep the music down if you're gonna be playing some. The amount of people you're inviting is good. I'd say anything over 15 is pushing the limit. Can everyone drive? If they can, tell them to carpool so you don't have so many cars in the driveway/in front of your house drawing attention to it.
Have fun. :D
Hope I helped.
EDIT:
Hell yeah I woulda shit my pants too. Hahahah.
So how to keep distractions down:
Basically, if your music's loud enough for you to FEEL it, turn it down.
Make sure you're not inviting two people who like hate each other. Fights could definitely cause a repeat of last time. Do you have a pool? Tell people to bring swimsuits if you do. Put anything breakable or valuable away where it won't be touched. Lock your parents bedroom. Get good food that everyone would like. Pizza & chips are always safe. Play music the majority of people will actually like; Try to have a good mix of genres. And if you really wanna, put a movie on just for the hell of it rather anyone'll watch it or not. You could try playing "I Have Never"--google it if you've got no idea what that is.
Beer pong is a must. If you don't have that, you fail. Hahah, so get enough plastic cups and beer and shit.
After everyone leaves, make sure they didn't leave anything behind. Clean the entire house.
I'm almost 25 years old, I'm a guy, and I like the Goo Goo Dolls. Is there something wrong with me? I know that they're pretty much "get laid" music, which means they get laid after a show, but I just enjoy the music they make. Am I a homo?
I'm lovin' how you worded this. Hahahahahahaha.
There's nothing wrong with you. You might get nagged by your friends for liking it, but we can't help our taste in music. All it means is you like a certain band, a certain type of music.
I mean, I know a guy who's jam is that Disturbia song by Rihanna that pisses me off like a mofo, but he couldn't be farther from being gay. Even though I think it's a bit odd that he seriously listens to that song.
Unless you're thinkin about getting with a guy anytime soon, you're as straight as can be.
When a guy fingers you, are you supposed to shave your "triangle?" What about your actual vagina?
Guys are lame and would PREFER it if you do. So yeah, I guess you'd shave/wax both as well as you can.
Yipee, more work for you. Sucks being a girl.
I have a nine month old daughter and i'm 19. I am married to the father of my baby. When we got married 11 months ago i told him that i wouldn't marry him unless he stopped smoking weed. since then, he has stopped and has done many good things, such as get his GED and be a great dad and show a desire to go to school. recently however he told me that he didn't see a problem with it, and that it wouldn't hurt anything if he smoked weed 4 times a month. I told him that it would hurt me, and he said well if you don't love me enough to let me do it then i guess we can't be together. I need to know if I am being too strict and i just need to deal with it, or if I do need to leave him. Please help me.
Uh, people don't get violent from smoking weed. That just doesn't happen. I mean, unless they've got some pre-existing mental issue or mixed another drug with it, weed doesn't even make you CLOSE to violent. It makes you chill.
People CAN be addicted physcologically and become irritable if they DON'T have it though. If he has a bad craving for it and if he's denied it, he will either go behind your back or get very angry. It sounds like the latter happened considering he said that you wouldn't be able to stay together.
Personally, I don't think it's a very good environment for a child to be raised in. I hardly consider weed to be a drug, but it's classified as one, and I wouldn't want to raise a daughter in an environment around drugs.
Then again, I don't believe it's harmful if he does it far from your child where she couldn't possibly be around the smoke or see what he's doing. I mean, she's 9 months old, so she wouldn't even understand it, but still.
Make a compromise. Allow at least once a month, but under YOUR conditions.
didnt know what category to put this under but whatever.
what are some cool things i can sketch or look good with water color paint? i like drawing werid stuff, and i like blending colors i like abstract stuff i often draw eyes, mushrooms, hands and i dunno just random things. if you have any cool ideas for me let me know pleasee!
Aw, you're so lucky. I wish I could sketch or paint.
Anyway,
A rainbow, A bouqet of flowers, sunset/sunrise, ocean or lake, sit by a mirror & draw you drawing, mountains along with a sunrise/sunset, one of those old fashioned cars, a bird (a peacock would look cooool), old churches, boats, fruits, butterflies, etc.
http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&source=hp&fkt=437&fsdt=3850&q=beautiful+places+in+france&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi
Those first few would be reallllllly pretty landscape paintings.
You could try going to a tattoo site & looking at the deisngs. Some of them are really cool.
You could try drawing movement. Like an ocean wave, a tree in a storm, etc.
And the obvious: Any type of animal or nature.
Hope I helped! :D