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Im 13 Female, And Im the 7th grade. Im moving soon, really soon. Im finshing off the 7th grade in the current state that i live in then moving out of it to one thats only 2 hours away. Around here Middle school is 6-8 and see once i move I'll be an 8th grader to a new school, with new people. Im really scared, And Im afraid to face the fact that im leaving everything behind for the better (Where i live now is drug filled and trashed what you'd consider the brighter side og the ghetto since its not that bad as a ghetto) Im scared to move, my mom is pressuring me to start packing my room and I dont want to. I dont want to move, I dont want to leave everything thats always been my comfort. I know moving is for the better, but how can i convice myself that it really truely be a better place for me? or atleast not be so scared. I RATE! (link)
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I've been down that road before and it's not fun. It might be easy for you or it might be hard for you to adjust. When I was about 11 I moved from one end of the country to the other. I was just going into 6th grade and it was really scary but also kind of excited. It's normal to be scared but don't shut yourself up when school starts. You have to be social and put yourself out there for people to meet. This sounds like a really good opportunity for you. A place that is trashed and drugfilled is not a good place to grow up. Something new is not always a bad thing. You should be excited. New places, new people, exciting stuff.
and you're only two hours away from where you used to live! You could go up for a long weekend every so often and visit your old friends.
Don't worry, everything will work out for you.
Maybe you should try joing a school club of something you're interested in when you move. Thats a great way to meet people.
Don't make this any harder for yourself. Either way, you're going to move. If you take on a positive attitude then, I think, this will be easier for you.
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly two months. The magic is completely gone and I don't look forward to seeing him. He always does the nicest things for me, but I used to see them as cute and now I find them to be ordinary. He also doesn't get physical with me, and c'mon, every girl has her sexual needs. I have a little thing for two other boys and both of them like me. However, I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I know I'll regret it later on. But right now, it's not satisfying for me to be in this relationship. I'm not giving him my all, so I shouldn't give him anything. I'm totally clueless.. help? (link)
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You need to decide what you want. If it's to stay in this relationship you need to talk to him. Communication is an important part of every relationship. Tell him how you feel. For all you know, he might think you're really happy with the way things are going right now and that you are not the physical type or he was just trying to be respectful. you could also make the first move if he is not comfortable in doing so or just doesn't pick up on the fact that that's what you want (Guys are totally clueless when it comes to hints).
If you're not going to talk to him you really need to break up with him. It's not fair to him that you are leading him on like this if you really dont feel anyhting or him or you're just bored with this relationship. You say you'd regret this decision but if you are not willing to fix what's wrong then there is no point in being in this relationship. If he's not the right guy for you, then you will meet the guy who is someday.
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I really really liked this guy; however he told me that he didn't see me as the girlfriend type for him cause were to close of friends. But I can't keep my mind off of him, everything I think about him. What should I do? I seriously still like him but he doesn't feel the same! (link)
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If he doesn't feel the same way about you then just move on. What's the point of liking someone who doesn't like you back? Just let it be. If you are really close friends with him then keep it that way. Sometimes it comes in handy to have a really close guy friend. You can't force him to like you. Being upset about a guy not liking you is understandable but don't let it consume you. Maybe you need to distance yourself from him for a little while to allow yourself time to heal. You'll find the right guy for you someday, just wait.
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okay to start off, my boyfriend is my younger brothers best friend
and he's a grade younger then me
but hes still quite 'mature' and expects a lot out of the relationship
anyway, we got to second base, aka, he felt me up
and I asked him not to tell anyone, ecspecially my brother
that was a week ago, and i found out that he told everyone about it today
im quite bothered by that, obviously
i dont want to dump him though...im gonna have to have a chat with him, but i dont know what to say...any suggestions that will get the point across without making it sound like I want to end the relationship? (link)
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I think you are mistaken about his maturity level. A guy who feels a girl up and then brags to everyone about it is not my idea of a mature guy. I think you should just break up with him but if you really want to keep this going tell him you want him to respect your feelings and your body. If you don't want anyone to know, then no one should know. It's not right for him to go around telling people because it's really not anyone elses business but you're own. What goes on between you and him is not public knowledge and you need to get that point through to him.
If talking to him doesn't work and he continues telling people about what you guys do, then you need to get away from him.
Good luck :)
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i have a great friend...(but i know never to start to like a freind)but its hard not too.I love him(not like that) .HE so nice and sweet and things have happened.....were not like friends that do things after school we do little things in school .i know i like him not that i know he likes me but im hapy around him and just today he asked me to sit with him and theres a lot of spaces on the bus i was really happy about it and he acted shy..?i dont know why i acted shy too and i knew i was. do i like him ????????????????i think i do (link)
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Aw, I think you do. It's common for people who become friends with the opposite sex to start to like them. Sounds like you have a great guy there and an awesome friend. It sounds like he might also like you back, so you definitely have boyfriend potential with this guy :). Just wait and see what happens between the two of you, if it was meant to be something may spark up soon.
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Ok if you really like someone, but they're going out with someone else but you know they like you, would it be stupid to wait for them? I really need to know what you guys think about that. Thank you so much!
XoXoJamie (link)
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If you do wait around for him, don't wait too long because if he really liked you he wouldn't be in the relationship he is now. But if you really think he's worth it and you would really like to date him then you can wait. The decision is ultimately yours, but I personally wouldnt spend too much of my life waiting for this guy.
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just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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If she was someone 'kinda' close you should really go the the funeral and pay your respects. All funerals are depressing but you should really show your support to the family. If you don't go you're just going to regret it later and feel guilty you didn't attend.
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I was going out with this guy cody for a while then we kind of drifted apart and didnt talk much so i told him i thought we should break up maybe and he said fine now he ignored me on yahoo wont answer my calls and avoids me at school then last night i stayed up for 1 1/2 hours begging him to take me back and he said he'll think about it but i couldnt believe how eaasy it was for him to just throw me aside like that but when we were together he was SO sweet he wrote me poems and always told me how much he loved me but then theres another guy ive kind of been telling about this and now i really want him too and we just click so fantastically you wouldnt even believe and hes so nice and so sweet but i just dont know who to choose i hate this cause i feel like im toying with them both but i do love them each i just dont know what to do if you can help id appreciate it thanx
-currently love sucks (link)
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I think it's pretty much over between Cody and you..if you really wanted him back then stop begging him and see if he comes back. Let him come to you since what you're doing now isnt working.
From the looks of things though, it seems as if Cody is moving on and you should be too.
Now for this other guy, if you want to date him then you should go after it! You said that you guys clicked fantastically...there is no reason why you shouldn't give him a chance. You'll be able to get over Cody in time and maybe having a new relationship would help it.
You can live without Cody, you may not think it right now, but trust me, I've been in a relationship before where I though I would die without the other person....well I'm here now aren't I? :)
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I just went to the bathroom and I found a little clump of clear stuff on my underwear. I had a lot of discharge on my underwear and It was very wet. Does this mean anything? What can I do? I haven't gotten my period yet. (link)
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It's perfectly normal, it just means you're going to get your period soon. Don't worry about it. If it's really starting to bother you wear a thin pad so it the discharge isn't as uncomfortable (as it can be sometimes). Also wearing a pad would prepare you for when you first get your period.
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I have a terrible friend who thinks shes cool and hates me and my friends. She always hangs out with us and then talks about us behind our backs to US! I got into a fight with her(because Im the only one who will stand up for myself) and I hate having people hate me so i appologized and she just forgave me like that! (She said "I forgive you, HUG!") It bothers me and now were back to her using me and my friends and she thinks shes popular. What should I do? (link)
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This person is obviously not your friend, my advice would be to get away from her as fast as you can. Don't talk to her, don't let her use you, don't assoicate with her. She should eventually get the hint. If she is talking bad about you behind your back then she is not a good friend, or even a friend at all. Don't make the problem worse than it is; don't add to the fire. Give her nothing to use against you, so you don't want to tell her off or anything. Just avoid her.
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does any body know the html used 4 when putting a link, but made so it opens in a new window? (link)
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that should work, just take out the stars :)
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im 14 female and theres this guy i have a crush on ive never said any thing to him thought i want to talk to him but he is really shy and he dosnt really talk to any one he dosnt know what should i do? i dont want to make it obvious either (link)
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Find something the two of you have in common and talk about it or try and get him to talk about it. My boyfriend was a very shy person but then I started talking to him and he found out we had similar interstes and got over his shyness. It's a great icebreaker when you know about something he likes. Maybe talking to him online would be less awkward and uncomforatble for him if he is a really shy person and that wouldn't make it obvious. Befriending him first may be a good idea so that he has a chance to really get to know you and become comfortable.
Good luck :)
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Well, there's this guy at my camp, and all my friends used to say how much he liked me, but nothing happened. Then the next year, (this summer), he told me he liked me, and i liked him, but we haven't talked since summer, cuz he didn't have a sn or an email. Well, now i sorta like this other guy, and all my friends think he likes me, but if he does, i don't know what to do because i still like the guy from camp, but i only see him for like a month out of the year, and i haven't talked to him for months, so by the time i go back to camp, he might not like me anymore, or he might have a girlfriend.
~ So confused! (link)
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Go for the new guy. Why try and date someone you dont talk to or see at all during the year except for one month? You like this other guy and this other guy may like you. Your best bet is to go with him. If nothing is happening with the campm guy then just let it be..long distance relationships are impossible to maintain. Get to know the guy you 'sorta' like. Move on off this camp guy, he's just a summer crush.
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ok so im a 14 year old girl. and i know i have a lot of time to get a boyfriend but here it goes..
there are these two really obnoxious girls in my grade and the guys always swarm over them. i really dont even understand why. they are really fake and agressive like always touching them and stuff and they wear so much make up and like brand name clothes and stuff like that. they are also both really concieted so i dont understand why the guys would like them. like im friends with the guys too but thats just it im FRIENDS with them so none of them would even see me as being their girlfriends. i cant help it i dont know why i keep being in the position as the "friend" never the "girlfriend". i mean im kind of shy and im not the kind of girl who will just throw myself at the guys. thats not who i am and i dont want to be a fake person.
also when these two girls are talking to the guys i dont know what to do. i mean i dont want to just go over there because it would be akward and like the girls would give me looks but like these girls are with the guys liek 24/7 and the guys are always together as one group so i dont want to like shut myself out from talking to them either because then nothing will every happpen. ill never have a boyfriend!!
ugh. please help =(
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Trust me, you do not want to date any of the guys who are attracted to those types of girls.
Being friends with guys is a great position to be in. Guys are great to have as buddies. You're only 14, what's the rush into a relationship? You'll get your chance with a guy someday. You'll meet a great guy whom you don't have to 'fake' around and who knows? One of the guys you are friends with now may be the guy you are going to date next year.
Just ignore those girls, they have nothing on you and their 'fakeness' will only get them so far.
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How can you tell if a guy really loves you or is just interested in sex? I rate high! (link)
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A guy who is just interested in sex woould be all over you or try and pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Then when you don't do it, get mad and/or leave you. He'd treat you more like an object then someone he loved or cared about, possibly even ignore you unless you were making out or something.
you can tell if a guy loves you if he is willing to go only as far as you want to. From the way he looks at you, smiles at you, and touches you. If he does a lot of nice things for you..i.e write poetry, buy you things etc. He tells you I love you and is not afraid to let you or anyone else hear it.
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ok i am going out with this kid, i really like him alot. He likes me to but i also think he like my best friend. The first week we were going out my best friend kissed him but i forgave him because that is how much i like him. But do you think that i should ask him to stop flirting with her or dump me?
please help me :'(
confussed luv (link)
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you should first try talking to him and telling you how you feel about all of this. Let him know your side and let him be aware that you don't like it and this could end your relationship with him. If he really likes you then he will stop this behavior.
if he doesnt...you deserve so much better. You will find other people with all his good qualities minus the flirting.
you should also try talking to your best friend and find out what's going on between the two fo them. if my best friend was going aroudn kissing my boyfriend's i'd be pretty upset.
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One of my best friends is dating the guy that I like. And this is the 2nd time they're going out. The thing is I still like him and I can't stand being around them when they're together. And I'm good friends with both. One other thing is she tells me almost everything and she doesn't really like him that much. Is there anything I can do about this? (link)
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You should tell her how you feel if it's hurting you or making you feel uncomfortable to be around them. If she's your best friend she will understand and do what is necessary. When they hang out, you don't have to be there, and she would understand why you couldnt be there. Maybe try hanging out with them in separate groups.
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