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2 girls taking over
ok so im a 14 year old girl. and i know i have a lot of time to get a boyfriend but here it goes..
there are these two really obnoxious girls in my grade and the guys always swarm over them. i really dont even understand why. they are really fake and agressive like always touching them and stuff and they wear so much make up and like brand name clothes and stuff like that. they are also both really concieted so i dont understand why the guys would like them. like im friends with the guys too but thats just it im FRIENDS with them so none of them would even see me as being their girlfriends. i cant help it i dont know why i keep being in the position as the "friend" never the "girlfriend". i mean im kind of shy and im not the kind of girl who will just throw myself at the guys. thats not who i am and i dont want to be a fake person.
also when these two girls are talking to the guys i dont know what to do. i mean i dont want to just go over there because it would be akward and like the girls would give me looks but like these girls are with the guys liek 24/7 and the guys are always together as one group so i dont want to like shut myself out from talking to them either because then nothing will every happpen. ill never have a boyfriend!!
ugh. please help =(
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Trust me, you do not want to date any of the guys who are attracted to those types of girls.
Being friends with guys is a great position to be in. Guys are great to have as buddies. You're only 14, what's the rush into a relationship? You'll get your chance with a guy someday. You'll meet a great guy whom you don't have to 'fake' around and who knows? One of the guys you are friends with now may be the guy you are going to date next year.
Just ignore those girls, they have nothing on you and their 'fakeness' will only get them so far.
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ok. im obnoxious, fake, agressive, beauty queen, bitch. hah im not going to lie. im very popular. yeah but i dont care about those shy girls. if they arent mean to you then theres nothing to worry about. try to be more funny and ditzy love, you WILL get noticed. i sware.
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There's a girl like this at my work. Loud, obnoxious, pretty, wears loads of make-up, bitchy, bleached blonde. When we all sit together at lunch the guys fawn all over her. But you know what? Not many of them actually like her. You have the upper-hand honey. It shows that guys like your personality - and that's FAR better than being someone you're not. Plus, you just don't know that these guys don't like you...have you ever asked one of them out? Don't worry about what these girls think of you - as a female you're automatically the enemy to them but that shouldn't stop you from hanging out with your friends.
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Everyone knows someone like the girls you are describing.
While most girls can see through their fake-ness and narcissism, some guys can't. Or they simple don't want to. Sadly, a lot of guys judge girls by their chest size, hair color, size of their waist, etc.
Do not fret. Boys like these aren't even worth liking or dating. You want a guy who will care about you no matter what you look like.
As to your comment about talking to boys, it's only a big deal if you make it out to be. Just go over and strike up a conversation, and if those two prima-madonnas are there, so what? That just gives you more of a reason to be confident and daring. I'm sure that the boys in your class will notice you stepping up to the plate and will give you more attention if you make it clear that you want it.
Hope this helps,
Katie
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Since you are friends with some of these guys, you might want to talk to them sometime and tell them that you feel like you never get a chance to hang out with them since these 2 girls are all over them. While doing this you might want to hint at the fact that you liike them. Maybe they will tell you that they like you back! If not it's okay to still be friends you will get a boyfriends sometime. You are doing the right thing in not throwing yourself all over the guys. You don't want to come off as a slut and you are doing the right thing to avoid that. The guys probably take notice of that, and admire that in you!
Good Luck! I hope this helps!
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If the guys only see you as a friend then try to show yourself in another light. I think that you should try to flirt a little with your guy friends dont over do it just playful. Im not a very flirtacious person myself but flirting with guyfriends could be like practice. Once you feel comfortable flirting a little then going up to the guys at school will be easier. Try to get to the guys first, before the other 2 girls, that way they'll be the intimidated ones not you. Good Luck, and having a boyfriend in middle school isnt a big deal, the guys tend to be immature, once you go to high school it changes and you'll find yourself with more options too!
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