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Hi! I'm Riley! I loooooove volleyball and cross country! Feel free to ask me anything- dont be embarassed! If you need anything just drop one in my box :) -RiLeY
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I have a friend and she bosses me around. Sometimes she talks to me in a mean way. Once she asked my why I was talking in a negative voice. I hate that because she acts like she is my mom. I not sure if I even want to be her friend any more. Right now she is one of my best friends. I need a wasy to tell her with out actualy hurting her feeling or making her mad at me. How should I tell her?
Signed,
Angry but sad
Angry but sad,
Just explain to her how you feel. Tell her that you do not like the way she talks to you.
If things don't get better, then tell her that she is really putting you down and you feel you don't need her in your life anymore. I don't really think there is a way to tell your friend to buzz off with out making her sad or mad. Sorry!
k I hope i helped and Good LucK! if you ever need anything just drop one in my box -RiLeY
My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)
Just ignore her. Tell the other friends that she will do this if you are certain she will.
I know how you feel!
Just remember that if you ruin her life she will just get you back if that is the true person she is. Good luck! -RiLeY
i have to do a oral presentation tomorrow and i am NOT good at this at all. when i start talking i usually forget and i dont know what to say next so i bascially stumble, so i need GOOD tips on how to focus and i do have notecards butt i cant use them alot so PLEASEE help me !!!
Why can't you use notecards alot?
Anyways, it sounds stupid but helped me... lol just picture everyone in their underwear. Yeah, told you it was stupid but hey...
Try to find a spot on the back wall to look at so it looks like you are looking up. Take deep breaths at the beggining and focus on something other then your presentation. Good Luck and i hope i helped! -RiLeY
ok, im 15/f and i think i like one of my really good guy friends. he flirts with me all the time in math or atleast it seems like he does..one of my really good friends cant believe i like him..what do i do cause i dont know if i can talk myself out of liking him like i do a lot. please help!!
Don't worry about what your friends think! And don't talk yourself out of liking him.
Ask him out or something.
just remember: When you really love somebody, you won't care what others think!!
Good luck and I hope everything works out!
-RiLeY
I have a problem with boys, none of them like me. If one of my friend's tells a boy I like them they pretend to gag and stuff. Well I was at a dance and there was this really hot boy and my friend asked him to dance with me and he said no so my other friend asked him and he said I have a girlfriend as an excuse to not make me feel upset. What can I do to get boys to like me?
Just be yourself! Be nice to them, try flirting with them. Don't annoy boys or make fun of them.
Let the guys come to you... be sure not to ignore anyone, you could look past somebody that really likes you!
Maybe next time ask the boy yourself if they want to dance. Maybe they think you're too shy for them or something.
Hope I helped and good luck! Hope things work out. -RiLeY
i can talk to guys fine in person i just sound so stupid on the phone i need some pointers on how to like start in depht conversations oh im 13 female
I am exactly the same way!
Try and talk about what he likes. I find this very helpful. Don't talk about yourself because this can make him bored... just don't stress over it! Hope i helped and good luck! -RiLeY
I am a thirteen year old girl and I have a close male friend. We usually get on quite well and we are always talking and hugging. We used to be attracted to each other and he on/off still is to me but I don't feel that way about him. Everyone says we act like we're a couple and that we should get together but I honestly don't want to. We are very close but are we too close? I admit I hug him more than my other friends but I don't have any feelings for him. So is it wrong to be this close to him if we're not in a relationship?
Don't mind what other people say. Follow your heart, if you want to be with him, you will, and if you don't, that's your own choice. Don't let other's opinions affect what you do. Hope I helped and good luck! -RiLeY
ok well theres this kid who confessed his love for me and well i dont feel the same and so i figured its better to tell him the truth and not lead him on but he dosent seem to get the hint he follows me around hes like my fucking stolker and i dont want to be his close friend b/c i cant trust him and well i see how he is and i dont kno how to make it clearer w/out hurting him normally i wouldnt care but since i ko how it feels to love somebody and not be loved in return so help pleaze he dosnt get the freaking clue
Tell him that he is a very nice boy. Tell him that you like your relationship wayy better as just friends. If you don't want to make him feel THAT BAd then maybe invite him out with a bunch of other friends and not just you. Whatever you do, get the message across that you do NOT like him and that you just want to be friends. Inviting him out with lots of other people will help, or get a boyfriend and make sure he finds out then he will know you don't like him. HOpe i helped and Good luck! -RiLeY
i have a boyfriend and he nevers calls or any thing with his old girlfriend he would call every day but when i call hes never home and we never hang out with his old girl friend thay would always hang out but his friends say he really likes me but then one only ONE of his friends say he doseint like me wut should i do dose he like me?:(
Hard to say... If he has treated every girlfriend like that and not you, then I would say no, he doesn't like you. Or, maybe he is just nervous. Try to make him feel comfortable around you so he is not so shy. ((if he is...))
Maybe you should try calling him first. Ask him to go somewhere with you. I know it's weird for the girl to make the moves, but in your case, I think you might have to! Hope things work out! Best of luck, RiLeY
I need to know what to do about my husband and daughter. My 5yr old daughter dont talk and avoids my husband.. My husband tells me he loves her but thinks she is a brat. He told me i should think bout puttin her in counciling. I told him he should go with her..because the problem is both of them..My husband refuses to make the 1st move, like talking 1st or asking her to come sit with him.. He says he aint letting a 5yr old run his life.. he tells her more when she does something wrong then praise her. She has her moments of not listening..she gets punished.. he says shes too far up my butt..however i am a very affectionate mother..both of my girls are always over me..this is affecting our marriage. he says he dont know whats going to happen if she dont change.. she is my world as my other daughter is..the only difference is ..she isnt biologically his..she comes from my previous marriage..but her real father took off after she was 3. he is always holding, loving on and playing with my 1 1/2 yr old, and looks right by her.. what should i do? am i going to have to make a choice between her and my husband? how can i fix this? Please help..
Sounds like your husband needs to grow up... he needs to be a man and come to her first!!! I am only 13 and I am the same way with my stepdad... gosh he gets mad at me for everything! my gosh sometimes i just cant stand him!
Maybe try and figure out what your daughter has a problem with, and what your husband doesn't like about her and talk to them both about it and try and get them to change it. My mom has tried this many times, but we still fight constantly. Some things can't be forced and there wll probably always be tension between the two but eventually they will stop and love eachother. :P hope i helped! BEst of luck, RiLeY
my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do??
Deaths of loved ones can be hard. Try and remember the good stuff with you and that person. Don't focus on the bad. God has called your friend to be with him, and he is in a better place now. :) Hope you get to feeling better! RiLeY
hi i am 13 and i am a girl.my very best friend talked about me bhinde my back and she keeps telling everyone i am a liar and i am not i feel like i have lost everthing i think i want to die please help fast
That just happened to me. We weren't quite best friends ((long story)) and we have constantly been seeking revenge for each other. She made me lose a friend that I was about to dump my boyfriend for. Anyways, enough about me... My best advice is to NOT do anything back. This will only make things worse for the both of you. It may seem so hard not to get back at her but DONT DO IT! The best thing to do is talk to her about it. Ask her what made her do this and why she is doing this. Tell her that it made you feel really bad and that you feel that you have lost everything. If she still doesn't stop, still, don't do anything. Just quit talking to her and maybe you shouldn't be friends. I hope I helped! Good luck! RiLeY
well i just became a vegatarian 2 weeks ago and all my friend does is joke about it she even made up a song up about eating meat and this pisses me off and gives me stomache aches and makes me want to burst out and she knoes but i still feel like its rude of her and i hate that feeling .. what can i do ?? .. thnx ... Love, MauraAnN
well thats... rude
Talk to her about it!!!! Tell her that you are serious about being a vegatarian... maybe she thinks you're kidding! If she still doesn't stop, maybe you should reconsider your friendship. Best of luck and I hope I helpeD! RiLeY
Hey I was wondering how do you make a collage(on the computer)? Like with all your pics and stuff. Do I do it on paint? Can anyone give me step by step instructions on how to do it?
yah paint will work! just copy and paste the pictures onto it and put them together like a collage. good luck! Riley
My sister at a young age died of luekemia. I dont really uderstand where she got it from. But lately I've been finding random bruises on my boyd and i know my sister had random bruises and ashe was always tired and im always tired. Is there a possiblity that i could have it too?
You should research the symptoms of luekemia more. Ask a parent or doctor, and get tested for it immediatley.
So sorry about your sister... Do something about this quick or you could die too
Good luck and I hope you don't have lukemia!
RiLeY
Okay Me and my botfriend just started going out, and i have ALOT of feelings for him. He is moving in April though and I dont want to break up with, but i dont want to get hurt. He told me that he would come back every weekend and wednesday, and he is finishing out the year. What was so convient is that he lived right down the street. I need some good advice for this one.
much love yal!
Long distant relationships can be hard! They most of the time don't work out. Just tell him that you think you guys should break up because of him moving.
He will eventually get lonely enough that he will get another girlfriend and not be broken up with you or the same thing can happen to you. Good luck and I hope things work out! RiLeY
There's this kid, Sam* and he was dumped by my best friend, Katie* in February.. Sam is the nicest kid you will ever meet..and Katie I think is just boy crazy. Well anyway, Sam and Katie went out for over 2 years on and off. Sam lives about 2 hours away though. Well this real jerk starting going out with Katie and she doesnt like him and is actually kind of attached to Sam still..but Katie wants him to dump her, because she doesnt have the heart to dump him..so my job is to try to make him break up with her..and its all confusing..but any suggestions?
Sorry Its long
Just break up with him for her. it is hard to dump people and it helps to have your friend do it for you! :) best of luck, hope things work out! RiLeY
ok in my english class I have to write a paper on a assigned topic. My topic is abortions. I need opinions and any information that is good and bad about abortions. Please I need help on this. I have my own opinion but I need more than just what I think.
God puts each and every person on this planet for a reason... to take away the lives of innocent unborn babies is wrong... i am totally against abortion...
I recently found out that my boyfriend drinks. Every fiber of my bones is completely and utterly against drinking and alcohol. I hate it like you would not believe. My dad was an alcoholic and my best friend died from drinking and driving a few years ago.
I love him. I really do. I care about him and beg him not to drink. But he tells me he knows his limits. He says he doesnt get drunk just "tipsy". The other night he went out with a few of his friends and they played drinking games. He didnt tell me about it but his friend did.
I feel lied to. I feel betrayed. I know it's his life and he can do as he pleases. I dont want him to think Im trying to control him. But I dont want him to die either.
Help me. Should I leave? Should I stay? How can I look past his drinking habits?
It sounds like you are reallly against drinking. This can be very dangerous. You never know what could happen... you could totally trust him and get in a car with him and he could crash from being drunk. If he didn't tell you about the drinking games he played, he is not going to tell you aout any other drinks he's had. My advice is to stay away. It might be hard to break up with him for this, and you might fell heartbroken with out him. He is not worth your life. Lying about drinking is bad and you could lose your life just getting in a car with him. Stay away from him, he can be dangerous. But you can choose... your life, or him...
Hey guys, I've been single for a really long time now and I really want a boyfriend. I'm 14/f, and I feel like I'll never get a boyfriend again. I still feel really bad from my last relationship. I have no guys to talk to or anything. When I go places, I hate seeing people with their boyfriend or girlfriend and having a good time, or even Valentines Day and Sweetest Day. How do i meet guys? I used to always go to the mall and the movies, and I liked people there but I'm really shy. It's hard to just go up to people and say something. How can I get some guy friends atleast, so I have someone to talk to? Thank you so much to anyone who answers! I'm so sorry this was long.
It may be hard to get over your shyness, but if you don't try, you won't get over it. I am really shy too. The best thing I find to do is go to the mall with my best friend and bring my boyfriend and hers. This makes it sooo much easier for me. Or, you could have your friend bring her boyfriend and another guy, and maybe if your lucky you two will get along great and end up liking each other. Talk to guys at school. Get your friends to help you know what to say. It may sound confusing or like it won't help, but hey, that's what friends are for, and they will help you find a guy if you really want to.