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Hey, I'm 16 and cute and give excellent advice. I rate pretty high and Have been through almost anything you can throw my way. Just ask it and I'll answer the best way I can and I will always tell you straight up how it is. If you don't believe then just ask. P.S. It doesn't hurt to have me as your favorite columnist- that way I can share my wisdom with you when you ask me directly instead of chancing that I'll come across it. :-)
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im 14 and a male. im incredibbly shy when it comes to girls. i will say the bare mininimum when they talk to me and will never start a converstaion with one mysyself. this is getting in the way because i have never had a gf. im not ugly coz girls have told me that . im just sooo shy. any tips on making it eiseir to talk to girls?
If you are too shy to talk to girls then try asking other guys. Ask them what they do and talk with. And when the girls come to talk to you, talk back. Even if you're just saying yes and no (shaking your head is irritating sometimes). And when they ask you something or try to talk to you about something get involved, say what your thinking. Try to be funny, share what's in your head. Being shy is cute but other times it's annoying when a girl is trying to make you fit in and trying to talk to you and you don't say anything. Find that girl you especially wanna impress and then start by trying to talk to her. I hope this helps!
if your are really athletic, are you less likely to get you period? or is it the exact opposite?
It depends on how much you work out. Girls who train really hard and who have a low amount of fat on their body are more likely to not get their period. I think your weight is key to when you get it and if you are to low under normal weight then you probably won't get it. Hope I helped!
My legs are slim, Its just ma stomach stickes out any way i could slim it down and tone it?
You could diet or walk. Going to a track and walking a mile or 2 whenever you can will help you lose weight and might add muscle to your legs so they don't look so slim, makingyou look more proportioned. Or you could do some sit-uos to target mainly your stomach. Hope this helps
I'm 14 yrs, and I am clueless to what I should do. I have had a crush on this one girl for maybe, a year now, and it's been hard for me to tell her. I just had the guts to tell her, and since then she's been uncomfortable around me. She has a boyrfriend now, and I feel like a big dope. I try to support her, but I still have feelings for her. DO you think I have a chance with her? And if I do, what do I do about it?
If you and this girl were friends before you told her how you felt then you should just pretend like your crush is over. Tell her your sorry you came on to her and that you don't know what you were thinking then ask if you can still be friends. Then you think about which you would prefer, her to be happy with this guy and you never be a thought to her and you'd never get to enjoy her happiness or you pretending to be all for her happiness and then when her and this guy part ways you are here for her making her think of how great you were and her potentially liking you afterwards. I hope this helps
16/f
I'm extremely shy, and I've never had a boyfriend, or a kiss. I want a boyfriend.. should I continue to be shy, do guys think it's cute? Or should I push myself to be more outgoing.. but idk how? I try to be myself, but I get so insecure, I always think people are judging me. I've had a few boys ask me out and everything.. but they were all losers, not to be mean or anything. So it's not like i've never had a chance of having a boyfriend. How do I get a decent guy to notice me?
To get a decent guy to notice you, you need to notice them. Start a conversation with them, notice things about him and then when you see them alone or in a line or something start a little conversation. If you really want a good guy then you need to flirt a little too. Just get eye contact, but don't look so hard he'll think your creepy, and never stare until he loks, just glance over and then when you're both looking at each other you smile a little smile (not a big smile with all your teeth just a half smile) and look away. Then you change the way your standing( if you're in a group of friends or you're on the dance floor) and you turn so you're facing the guy and look like you're having a great time. I hope you get your guy.
13/f
I don't get along with my dad. He has been gone all my life until last year. We totally clash. He's not happy about me having a relationship with a boy. My boyfriend, Warren, is scared to be around my dad. I invited him to my church but he doesn't want to go because my dad will be there. How can I convince Warren to be around my dad if I can't even stand my dad? Please help!
Thanks,
Macie
You and your dad need to take it slow. He missed about 12 years of your life and now your getting used toc being around each other. You should have your boyfriend over someday and have dinner or hang out in the house watching a movie. Let your dad see he isn't a bad guy and let your boyfriend see that your dad isn't a bad guy, he just isn't used to being that father that you need or the person he would expect him to be. Good Luck!
I have this friend that died and I thought it was partly my fault and then her mom came to my house and told me that it was her other friend's fault. Lets just call her Mary Jane. Now Kylie(Dead Friend) had been hanging around with Mary Jane a lot and nobody knew about it. I used to feel sorry for Kylie and her family, and sometimes myself. But now I'm mad at her. It's starting to scare me bercause, how can I be SO angry and a 13 year old girl who died in a car crash?
**(((Mandy)))**
It's okay to be angry, but I think you are talking her smoking a lot. If that's the case then be angry, your friend was young and didn't need to be smokin or doing anything wrong. But you couldn't have known. It's better to be angry then to feel nothing. Your young and you'll learn to come to terms with how she died and who's at fault. Until then keep feelings things, b/c it's better to feel something bad and angry then to feel nothing at all.
Does anyone know a good website where I can find key people in ROE VS WADE?
The site I used for a paper was RoevWade.org or a site called http://womensissues.about.com/cs/abortionlaw/a/aaroevwade.htm. Hope it helps
I am a 14 y/o guy who is about 115 lbs and 5'6". By far I am one of the smaller guys in our class. I have been working out for a month or so. However just like everyone else knows, working out isn't the only thing that's gunna get you in shape. What other things (food,activities, etc)can I do to help my body a little bit.
I REFUSE TO USE STEROIDS OR ANY OTHER MEDICAL WAY, I AM GOING TO DO THIS NATURALLY.
You can suggest eating mre carbs, it helps the athletes gain muscle, and don't be shy with food.
my best friend has been ahving a lot of probelems wit her aunt and she has a problem wit her bf he really doesnt love her . i have tryed tellin her but she dont listen he look her in the eyes today and told her he doesnt want to break up wit her and was smiling the whole time.he reall doesnt he ahs told everyone and we try telling her but doesnt want to believe it even though he has been giving her signs like leavin her all alone and ignoring her. they have been togetehr 4 a month and eh wont break up wit her bc he doesnt have the guts. what should i do i cant just stand here and watch my friend suffer like this!! plz help!
Your friend needs to see that first her bf doesn't want her, if it takes having to do some divious things then so be it. You could call him on 3 way and have her be real silent (he won't know she's on the phone) but the call to him must come from your phone. And then you ask him if he still likes her and if he wants to break up with her. Then once she does know how he feels you need to let her know that it isn't okay for him to do that stuff and tell her she needs to do something, stand up to him. I hope this helps, Good Luck!
where can i find slightly fitted band or vintage T's i cant seam to find them anywhere, if you could a website would be nice our the store name thanks -XXOO
I think the store Hot Topic sells stuff like that, but I'm not sure, hope this helps
My friend Alexa and I wer'e haveing a fight over two Actors on TV and we shared our opinions. but Alexa took mine too seriously and now she won't talk to me. So i said our friendship's over, and she won't WONT reply to me!!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do?
This just means you need to be the bigger person and call her. You tell her that it was just your opinion and then it should all be ookay, but if not then you two don't need to be friends, because well friends should not stop talking because of an opion of an actor. Good Luck!
sometimes someone will be asking me something really simple and i have no idea what they're saying. its not that i can't hear them, i can hear, im just not processing it, and im like whaattt??? its so weird. i get spaced out all the time, but i bounce back if someone askes me something. today it happened in math and my teacher was asking me something ive known sice what 4th or 5th grade? (im in 9th grade math). and i was so out of it and couldnt get what she was saying.. and now the class thinks im retarded haha i dont care about that tho. why do you think this happens?
thanks
I have the same problem, it's like when your bored you space out and start day dreaming and then when you hear someone talking to you, all you can really remember is that they were talking but you don't know what the question was or what they were saying exactly. It's perfectly normal, it's just a lot on your mind and you don't deal with it well. If you let some things go and try to concentrate it may help. I hope this helps, Good Luck!
I'm 14/f~
I still dont have a 8th grade graduation dress and I dont know any good stores to go to I live in WI in the Milwaukee area and I dont know where to go!! does anyone have any good suggestions!??! HELP PLEASE!! I rate high! thx~
I don't knwo if you have any of these stores but here are a few,
Burlington Coat Factory,
Macy's,
Strawbridges's,
Group USA,
J.C. Penny.
You could always go online also and order a dress, if you don't like what's in stores, most of these stores are just the name of the store .com.
Every day in Phys Ed, we go to my school's weight room and I always work on my legs and my stomach because I want to tone my stomach. I've been getting alot of remarks about me trying to tone my stomach. I'm happy with the weight that I'm at, I don't think I'm fat but I want to tone my stomach more so that my love handles aren't hanging out over my pants (it's really not that bad though). I'm just trying to tone up and make my stomach stronger before I have to start practicing for fencing during the summer. Many people have been starting to spread rumors that I'm anorexic because they never see me eat lunch and I'm always working on my stomach in phys ed. First of all, I am in no way anorexic. I love food and I could never give it up, the only reason why I don't eat in school is because I'm never hungry but when I get home I stuff myself with food. I don't know what to do, the rumors are eventually going to get around to teachers and my school is very small and I'm sure someone will eventually report me! I don't know what to do! How can I get these awful rumors to stop?
You have to let people know what's going on. If you are in the weight room, ask someone to spot you and start up a little conversation about how you wanna tone up your stomach because when you get hme you eat a lot. Maybe one day you could buy like a bag of chips so it appears you're eating. You shouldn't care what people think but I understand your fear of getting reported. You should just make sure that you aren't overdoing it and if they do talk let them know how untrue it is. Good Luck!
What can you do when your butt hurts? I know that sounds really stupid, but is there like any "butt exercises"?
Thanks in advance!
Sometimes your butt hurts because you were walking a lot or you were doing something that was working the butt muscles. I would suggest sitting on pillows or laying on your stomach. If you are looking for a excercise to work your butt you can go on demand (if you have comcast digital cable) and they have a fitness section with free workouts and some of them are targeted directly for the butt. Hope this helps, Good Luck!
ok well i have this friend aaron and we're really close he's always there for me and he's always watching out for me. Well my boyfriend and me just broke up 3 days ago and we got backtogether the day after we broke up because he told me he would change blah blah blah...and like aaron was gonna call me at 2:30 in the morning just to wae me up and make me mad and i didnt think he would so i put up an away message on AIM and said "trying to stay up till 2:30 to see if fag will call me" well my boyfriend saw it and called me at 3 wanting to know who it was and i told him and he sounded cool well then he called me at 4 and goes you like aaron and i was like no and he goes wel since u can stay up and talk to him and not me im gonna go and hung up
but i feel really bad about what happend...
can anybody give me any advice..
sry for the length
ill rate all 5 to anything thats not mean!
THANKS!
seems like Arron is your best friend and like a big brother to you. You should let your bf know that and explain that you didn't plan on having a conversation with arron he was just going to call to make you mad. But whatever you do, don't let arron go because if you and this guy broke up before then it could happen again. Good Luck!
okay.. i was talking to my friend yesterday and she told me she thinks she might be pregnant.. At first i thought she was kidding but she was being serious. She said she doesn't want to tell anybody and would be too scared to get a pregnancy test or anything. She thinks she should be on birth control too. She's only 14! what can i do?.. Oh her boyfriend doesnt know she might be pregnant either :/
You need to be a good friend, which means being there for her and no matter what the esult is not ditching her to do this by herself. She may find out she's not pregnant after getting attcahed to the idea of having a baby and she'll need your shoulder, adn if she is pregnant then you need to be there to help her through having to tell her boyfriend (guys can have some good or bad reactions to this type of situation, especially at 14). If she is too scared to get the test then you should get it for her. You have nothing to fear because well you aren't pregnant and you won't feel like everyone is watching you, like she probably would.If neither of you wanna get the test then she could make a doctors appointment and the doc isn't required to tell her mother. And if she won't so that then she will just need to wait and see if she misses her period (after missing 3 though it's almost definite, especially if she goets sick and such). The best thing you could do thoug for her is get that test, the sooner she knows the better. Good Luck!
OK, well there is this guy who i really really like and he has a gf. I really like him and i want him and his recent gf to break up really bad. Should i tell him i like him or just wait to see what happens?
Wait to see what happens. This boy probably still has feelings for his gf since well they still go together but later along the line he may not want her anymore and then you make your move. This way it saves you the drama of the gf finding out you like her man and it still leaves that chance that when they break up you have a shot. Good Luck!
I'm 14f and in eighth grade, and my i know this girl who is bagging. ((for all of yall who dont know bagging is a type of inhalance)) FWI she is NOT my friend. I've heard her saying things and mumbling to herself about things like "I'd burn this place up if they'd let me." and "Car Pe Duim." Now I know that's latin for seize the day and I'm really not sure that I want to to be the one to seize it. I htink it might be the fumes from the spray paint she's been huffing that are making her think this way. I'm worried about her and her parents, because there was this fourteen year old kid at my school who was bagging and he got himself killed. I'm not saying I like the girl or anything, but I don't think our little town or anybody else can handle another bagger death. We have had people come to school and talk to us about sex and drugs and this girl does it all. I need to talk to her or her parents somehow, but I'm afraid to go near her. If I don't do something she get her, and the entire town killed with her. HELP!! ((sorry if this was so long))
I think you need to talk to her parents or someone in the school (guidance counselor) because you're right she could get killed. It may be better to talk to the counselor if you don't wanna go near her. adn don't worry about getting her in trouble, it's better then letting her slowly kill herself. I think even if you don't like this girl it shows your human and care about people enough to get them help, Hopefully this girl realizes one day that you may save her life. Good Luck!