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Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me?

nothing is wrong with you at all. its the way of school--people just need someone to pick on. prove to them that it shouldnt be you. if you know you're not a dork and that they really shouldnt be making fun of you, try talking to them for real and do things to let them know that yes, you are human and you can be accepted as one of the group. it would be one thing if you were always mean to them, but it sounds like they're just doing it to you for no reason. so try letting them see that you're a normal person and that you dont deserve to be treated the way that you're being treated. good luck

okay i have an account on xanga and like theres people who have like really cool fonts and like they set it up really cool with like boxes and borders around it and eveything - heres an example of one .. http://xanga.com/xsundaysworstx
- like yu see how like he has boxes around his entries and like the kinda font hes using and like how it says the date in like a diff. font.. how can i do that?? PLEASE HELP i rate only 5's

go to the look & feel section on the top left of the site and then you should be able to choose everything

Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

you're probably just jealous because theres another main girl in his life and you arent getting as much attention. that shouldnt be a problem though because he should have time for both of you. its normal to be jealous but eventually you'll get used to it. good luck

I'm a student that needs the time to figure school work out... and take my time on stuff... but between HorseBack Ridin, School Work, My Babysitting Jobs, and an Athletic Trainer after school.. well I just don't know how to balance it.. any advice?

" Ask Lia "

i would say to make a schedule. depending on how frequently you do these other activities, make a schedule after school to desagnate time for homework, studying, and any other thing for school. this way you know in advance that you will have time for school and all your other things that you do. make sure you keep up with it though. good luck

I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ]

find out what his interests are. if he has some of the same ones that you do, then it shouldn't be nerve-racking to carry on a conversation with him talking about something that interests you as well as him. just make sure that you're confident when you do this, and try not to mumble. make it so he never would have guessed that you were nervous.

ok.. my grandma is really depressed but when she is like this all she does is drink wut do i do to tell her that by her drinkin its ruining our family... i just wanna be a family again HELP!!

help your grandma out. talk to her and ask her why she feels depressed. if that doesnt work, tell her that her drinking is ruining your family, and that you want to be a family again like you just told me. if you bring this up in a sincere way then most likely your grandma will stop drinking and being depressed if she realizes that it is affecting the entire family. good luck

ok this is wicked embarassing but im a 14 year old boy and im not alot like my friends. i get scared wicked easily. i hate it! i hav panick attax wen im outside in the dark.after i saw the movie The Village(which sucked) i couldnt get those creatures out of my head and ive had a hard time sleeping ever since. wen me and my friend saw it i kept grabbing the arms on the seat(not his arms of course} and he kept asking me if i was feeling ok and he sed that my face was all white and harfly ever blinked. i just wanna no how i can stop being afraid so that wen i c a scary movie w/ a girl im not the one huddled up againstt her

i hate scary movies too. i saw the village a few weeks ago and i thought it was gonna scare the crap out of me. it wasnt that bad but i still huddled up next to the girl i was sitting next to. but anyways i hate scary movies so i gotta remember that duh someone hadtove made it. like a producton crew and that its not real. its not like its a true story. if it was then how would someone just coincidentally be able to tape it? thats at least what i think. if youre still freaked out about the village creatures then remember that even the movie said that they werent real. and plus even that one time that someone did dress up as the red thing (if you've seen angels in the outfield) the person dressing up was danny hemmerling the utility infielder (from angels in the outfield). when i couldnt go to sleep i just remembered that even though i was scared as hell that the person in the red costume was psyco and had a bloody mouth that it was only danny hemmerling. its weird but it works

I have this friends and I really like her like more than a friend. A couple of months after we became friends I asked her out but she thought that it would be better if we stayed friends. After that was said, we became much closer and im kinda getting signals. what should I do, I really like her?

you should ask her out again if shes sending you signals. the best that could happen is that you two go out, and the worst that could happen is that she just says that you should stay friends like last time. so either way you cant lose if she reacts the same way as last time.

okay well i've knownone of my friends sence the 6th grade and she was so sweet before and in the 7th she beganacting a little kinda slutty but now in the 8th she doesn't even much talk to me when she's around her group of friends that don't like me y don't they like me i dunno i never did anything to them but thats a PI (personal issue)so i wont get into that but ya she doesnt even talk to me no more and meand her were so close but now its like she will let boiz touch up on her and she just turned 13 and her bf is 22 or 21 i think.I don't like that at all i told her and she is like okay wutever and im trying to watch her back but she's just a LITTLE gurl and that guy is in his 20's he expects things and im trying to get her to understand but apperntly im the only one that cares cause her friends that don't like me agree with the relationship and i dunno wut do 4get about our friendship or keep on nagging her about it cause i do get tired trying to watch her back but i dont wannasee her suffer .so i dunno wut i can do and i wish that the old her came out but everytime i bring that up she gets offended and assumes that im just JELOUS (im not i dunno where she gets that idea from?!?!?!)plz help me!!!

13-year-old going out with a 20-year-old... hmm...i wonder if thats true love. probably not. i dont know what this guy is trying to accomplish by going out with an eighth-grader but it cant be good. if her new friends are really her friends, they should tell her that going out with a twenty-year-old isnt cool. it seems like you have your head on straight more than they do. even if she thinks youre jealous, gets offended, and is even annoyed of you, don't stop telling her that shes doing the wrong thing. one person can make a difference, and trust me, she'll thank you in the long run. good luck

All right, so, I'm 14/f, and this is basically about my guy friend, Jarrod. He really likes one of my best friends, Cora. He has liked her a really long time, and I was the first person he told after almost a year of liking her. He knows he can trust me not to tell anyone because I am an excellent secret-keeper, and so far I have told no one.
Although I did tell him that he should just tell her. Because I had to do that with this guy I liked, and everything turned out fine. But Jarrod and I both know that Cora doesn't really like him that way, although she really cherishes their friendship, I can tell. I told him that if he didn't do it by the end of this school year, I would tell her. (It's also sort of hard to keep this kind of thing from a best friend of yours for this long, even if Jarrod is a good friend too.)
And now, almost completely out of the blue, Jarrod told me that he's not sure why he told me in the first place, that there are other people he should have told before me, and that he doesn't want me privy to his love life anymore, and that I can't, under ANY circumstances, tell Cora. He also said that there is a personal reason that he doesn't want to tell Cora, and that he could not and WOULD not tell me.
What do I do? Why has Jarrod all of a sudden turned on me? Should I tell Cora and risk Jarrod's trust? HELP!!

Sorry about the long question...I rate!

i wouldnt tell cora yet. if you wait until the end of the school year, maybe jarrod won't like cora anymore, or maybe jarrod will have already asked her out. if there's a possibility that something could change, i would wait for a while. i dont think jarrod has turned on you, but its probably just that he thinks he cant trust you. if you keep this secret then youll gain back his trust and plus like i said before, who knows whatll happen from now until later. the personal reason is probably the biggest reason he cant tell cora. no problem about the long question, but for right now id just say wait and see what happens before you tell cora. good luck

Alright, in Microsoft word, how do you change one word (lets say the word "red") to another word ("blue") with out going through the whole thing and retyping ever single word? When you add something to you dictionarly, can it be deleted?

for the red to blue question, click the mouse on the left side and highlight the word. then you can write the new word two ways: 1) if you backspace, it will clear the old word so you can just type the new one and 2) when you highlight the old word, start typing the new word over the highlighted old one and the old one will erase and the new one will be there. if you mess up and somehow erase a lot, click redo. if you dont know how to redo, theres should be an icon on the top with an arrow, and if you dont have the icon, just press "ctrl" and the letter "z" on the keyboard on the same time, and whatever you erased will come back up. im not 100% if you can take words out of your added dictionary, but im pretty sure that you can't.

what does bipolar mean?

1 : having or marked by two mutually repellent forces or diametrically opposed natures or views
2 a : having or involving the use of two poles or polarities b : relating to, being, or using a transistor in which both electrons and holes are utilized as charge carriers
3 : relating to, associated with, or occurring in both polar regions
4 : characterized by the alternation of manic and depressive states
(from webster's dictionary)

A friend of mine has recently put on some extra weight, yet she continues to wear the same clothes that are obviously to small for her. While in her bathing suit she said she didn't understand why it was so small, and that it must have shrunk. I don't know if she realizes the truth or if she is in denial.

I am her good friend, should I tell her the truth of what I am thinking, and if so how do I do it without hurting her feelings?

i can't think of a way to tell her the news without making it seem like you're saying that she's fat, which you're not. i would say to just say to her "hey lets start a diet" or "lets start working out. itll be fun" that should work if she isnt aware about putting on the extra weight. hopefully after a few weeks or a month at least she'll be fitting into her old clothes and it'll be like nothing has changed at all.

i want to loose weight i know i need to and i want a boyfriend and ive never had one!!! ive tryed to do stuff to loose weight and ill be going strong and then ill like lash out and go food crazy!! but i weigh 235 and im only 16 and im 5'6 & 1/4 please help me i want a boyfriend soo bad i have lots of guyfriends but never a boyfriend!

first of all if you get a boyfriend dont let it be because youre overweight or not. all that should matter is personality. second, just start off with trying getting only a few pounds off. once you get the first few, the rest is no sweat. youll notice that your method is working and be encouraged to keep up with it because you like the results. make sure that once youre going strong you dont get food crazy again. its okay to have stuff you like, even if its not the most healthy thing. just make sure that you dont overload on it. the key is spreading out your portions so its not as consistant, and drink a lot of water too in replacement of whatever it is you like to eat. it fills you up pretty well. good luck with everything

ok me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a little over 2 months now and we are totally in love and everything i mean REALLY inlove! he told me that hes gona marry me and everything and were lik in a way planning out our future together! but just like 1 week ago he was on vacation and when he got back i told him i promise that i would nevr break up with HIM no matr what.. and then he told me that when he was on vacation some girl was hitting on him and

the rest of that sentence probably makes a huge difference. it seems to me that if he told you that hes gonna marry you and everything like that then he probably doesnt have any intentions of cheating on you. if some girl was hitting on him and not the other way around i dont think you have anything to worry about.

ok here is my problem. i have 2 bf's i know its wrong and i dont know what i was thinking when i hooked up with the other one. see i had been dating my bf of 2 years now we can call him mike when we both got invited to this party and it was supposed to be the party of the year! unfotunatly mike was gonna be on vacation with his family this weekend. i didnt wanna go without him but he ensured me that i would have a great time. so i went and i got really drunk. i didnt mean to but i hooked up with this guy .. lets call him pete and hes kinda a pyscho! i think that i am pregnant but i dont know whose baby it is. both of them know about it but mike doesnt know about pete and pete threatened to kill me if i didnt claim it was his baby and dump mike. idk what to do i am sooo confused and i am only 14 yrs old! (i hang out with a lot of older kids) PLEASE HELP ME!

alright...first of all DONT DRINK EVER AGAIN. wait till youre 21. as far as the baby goes, theres no way around letting your parents know. someone (them) has to drive you to the doctor to get the paternity test (i dont know if mike could since i dont know how old he is, and ill just tell you know dont ever come in contact with pete again), and your mom & dad are gonna start to notice when your stomach starts growing to hold the kid. its better to get it out of the way know so in 7/8/9 months from now its not like "okay mom and dad, im having a baby!" when its obvious. once you find out who the father is you gotta talk it over with him and his parents and explore all of your options. everyone involved needs to know. secondly, you need to tell someone about pete. if hes threatening to kill you, thats not good, and you need to tell the police immediately. things will be much worse if mike isnt the father and pete is. teen pregnancy isnt something rare, but you gotta use the right steps to make it work. until you talk to your parents and the police, dont talk to pete again. hopefully he doesnt know your adress or phone number. i hope everything goes well...

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