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I have been struggling with skipping breakfast, lunch and trying to eat as small of a dinner as possible for almost two years. I lost 20 pounds got praise and felt great but now people have realized how I've done it and are concerned they want me to eat but i'm afraid I'll gain back the weight that made me chubby again and I have no idea what to do! (link)
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First of all the skipping meal, and eating small servings for dinner is not healthy for your organs. When you skip breakfast, not only are you getting the energy you need for the day, you're messing up your metabolism as well. Since your eating habits haven't been great. Skinny doesn't always mean healthy, chubby doesn't always mean unhealthy. As long as you're eating right. Three meals a day, eating plenty of vegetables, and fruits, getting all your vitamins, proteins, etc. Not only do you have to have a balanced meal, you also need to exercise daily, at least 30 minutes a day. Lastly drink enough water, and get enough sleep.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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I recently got swimmers ear, and the pain is unbearable! I can barely sleep, and it's very painful to chew. I tried to ask my mom about it, but she just said to wait it out. I don't know how much more pain I can take, are there any home remedies that can help swimmers ear?
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I've had five swimmer's ear in the past, it's painful, but I've never had it to the extent where I couldn't chew my food. I think you should definitely go check it out with the doctor, and they'll give you some antibiotics. You could take some pain killers to temporarily get rid of the pain, but it won't get rid of swimmer's ear completely, only the pain.
Since you want home remedies...here they are:
One way you could try to get rid of it is by using 50% rubbing alcohol and 50% white vinegar. Using an eyedropper, drop a few drops into the infected ear. Leave it in there for 3 seconds and then drain it out. The alcohol drys the water in your ear, while the vinegar has antibacterial properties that will help the infection.
However you seem like you have it bad, so a better solution for you is to use essential oils. For this you'll need basil, melaleuca, and helichrysum essential oils, and put a few drops of each onto a cotton ball. Place the cotton ball into the ear's opening, (SAFTEY NOTE: DO NOT PRESS IT INTO THE EAR CANAL!!)
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old and I want to give my bf a hand job. I've never did anything like that before, and I'm scared I might have a panic/asthma attack if I do because I have never done anything before. He says when I'm ready, but we both know he wants me to. Any suggestions? Oh, a bit of background: I'm 14, he is 13, but I'm only 3 months older than him and we have had phone sex and have been making out and we have been together for over 3 months now. Also, I have like rubbed the front of his pants and boxers and he has came from that but he wants skin to skin contact. From Europe. (link)
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I don't think you should be doing this "stuff" at your age. You're still really young, and you shouldn't be worrying, or getting caught up with this. You should be going out with friends, or doing other important things! If all he wants from you is sex than he's not worth it at all. I know some people that are your age, and were pregnant, because they were irrasponsible about it.
I'm not sure if this will change your mind, but I really do hope it does!
-Swimmer133
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Omg I can't believe I'm writing this but help would be appreciated. I am 14, and I hate my body. My breasts are tiny, my thighs are fat, and I have started to develop spots on my you know... Area. I wash my body at least twice a day and bathe every day. It's quite painful and I'm worried my bf will react bad if he sees. I don't want to go to the doctors because I'm so insecure about my body, and my crippling social anxiety that surrounds my body means that I hate PE at school and I can't go swimming without being self conscious. A lot of help is needed. Thanks. (link)
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I understand how you feel, because I used to be insecure when I was younger. Usually when girls hit puberty, their self esteem plummets, because of the changes that's happening to your body. So between the ages of thirteen and fifteen is when girls are self conscious, again like I said, because of the changes that's happening to your body. I strongly believe that girls shouldn't have to be afraid of their own body, because society said that girls should look like models. You're a girl going through some changes in your body right now, so people shouldn't have to right to criticize the way you look. Another thing I want to add is you're still really young, so don't worry about what your boyfriend thinks about you, actually don't worry about what other people think of you! I think you're being blinded by all the negative "stuff" about yourself, you're not concentrating on the positive "stuff." I actually used to ave peach fuzz when I was younger, and it made me super insecure. I thought everyone was able to notice, and they thought bad about me. I mentioned it to my friend one day and she was like "I didn't even know you had peach fuzz, until now!" So what I'm trying to get across is we usually see things that people don't really mind, or they don't even notice it. From now on whenever you look into the mirror I want you to point out the positive traits you have, and not the negative.
I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Why do girls care about eyebrows so much? If I like a girl, then I ain't gonna judge her by her eyebrows (unless she has a unibrow or unless she has "trendy" recent ones that look like they've been drawn on their face). Why do think that when they have eyebrows that look like they've been drawn on, that people will find them more attractive? It's like they're trying to avoid their eyebrows looking like they're made out of hair. I don't know 1 guy who'd care about their eyebrows. Girls also feel the need to colour them in. It's worse when they have,say,ginger hair, so obviously they're eyebrows should be ginger but when you see them they're black. And when they get their eyebrows done they're all like "Ooh, look at my natural look!" It doesn't look natural at all! Why do they feel the need to change their eyebrows? I used to never notice eyebrows but due to all the trends recently they're hard to miss. (link)
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Okay, so I'm a girl that wears makeup and reading this makes me pissed, because we don't wear makeup to impress people, or guys, we wear it to impress ourselves. We don't really care if people think it's bad or not, as long as we're happy with it then that's really all that matters. So why don't you stop shaming girls that wear makeup?
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I'm 12 in the 6th grade going to 7th. And I kinda already know what to be in the future. I have 2 options I chose.
1. Be an actor on Nickelodeon
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2. Be in a band and play guitar
I'm already in a band right now and doing a cover with my friends so that's starting the musical career. But I'm going out to find places to audition with my mom. So that's sorta starting the acting career.
Which one should I choose? Thanks 💘 (link)
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I don't want to be a dream/goal killer, but your goals might change overtime once you find a new interest. I was just like you, except I was into swimming. I trained for hours everyday, and my dream was to be an olympian, as I got older it changed to becoming a photographer. I started taking portraits for weddings, events, seniors etc.. (I was a freshman in high school when I wanted to become a photographer). Then about halfway through the year I wanted to be a forensic scientist, but then that changed back to photography. I'm not trying to say you shouldn't become any of those, because you're actually on a really great path right now! I'm just trying to say think it through, and maybe wait a little more, because you could change your mind as you get older. At the same time there are a lot of young artists, and actors.
Anyways to answer your question, you should choose music over acting. I feel like with acting you're forced into doing things you probably don't want to do for a role in a movie or show.
Best wishes!
-Swimmer133
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I am 12 almost 13 and I have had my period since I was 10 my mom told me everything before I got my period and she also told my that she hates tampon because they took her virginity I know that is not possible and so a few months ago at a gymnastics meet I used one of my friends tampons well now I have a swim team tryout and I need some tampons and no I cannot buy them myself because I have no store of shop to go to right away help please (link)
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Let's get this straight, a tampon DOES NOT take your virginity away. Putting a tampon up your vagina is not a sexual intercourse, in that case it DOES NOT, and WILL NOT take your virginity away (that's just a myth), but it actually can be dangerous if you forget you have it in. However I do believe that tampons are better when you're doing sports, because it doesn't stick to you, and it's great especially when you're swimming. There's really no specific age to when you're allowed to use a tampon. I think the best way to confront her about it is to do it directly, and give her reasons why you want to use tampons instead of pads. You could even do research on it, and print out papers to show her (that might be a little too extra, but it could work). Just be responsible about using it.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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I'm turning 16 soon and I like a 17 year old exchange student who will be here until March 2017.
We speak most nights on Facebook (I've almost always been the first to talk) and his English is quite good but there is some mistranslations here and there. I have never actually spoken to him in real life, I tend to avoid eye contact with him, but we have smiled at eachother and he brought it up as a Conversation starter.
Last night was Prom night and I didn't end up going because I'm a year below. He asked if I was going to go next year and I said I think I would and he replied with "I hope you'll go with your boyfriend haha" (RIP)
But at the after party he had gotten quite drunk and befriended my brother and they hung out most of the night. So my brother and best friend were telling me how he would add in random Japanese words into his sentences due to how drunk he was. I had mentioned it to him and he denied the fact and said he didn't even drink much (if he is lying, why would he?). And My brother told me how a girl had approached him and tried to hook up but he quickly pushed her away by her shoulders.
I realise I'm probably nothing more than a friend or more appropriately an acquaintance, but is it useless having this crush on him?
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I think when he said that, it could've just been a joke. As for the drinking, he could've had a little too much to drink, and can't remember much about what happened. You should try to talk to him in person, and make eye contact too. If you keep avoiding him, he probably thinks you don't have any interest in him. You could even try to get his number over fb too. Try asking him to hang out with you (just as friends first and then maybe progress from there).
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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I get hating the terrorists but the terrorists are a very small minority. Islam is a huge religion. I am not a Muslim and I'm a lesbian too, but I don't blame all Muslims for Orlando, 9/11, Brussels, Paris, San Bernardino, etc. In fact I will never forget the time when I was younger (at the time I was 12), with my sister (who was 5) and my mother who was struggling to pay for stuff at the grocery store. While all the people in the line were looking around to see where they can buy their food quicker, a Hijabi Muslim woman not only gave us enough money afford it, but paid for the entire thing. And she went out of her way to do it too. So why do people hate all Muslims? (link)
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A lot of people think that all muslims are terrorists/bad people, which is not true! Terrorist groups are NOT a religion. Some people are very closed minded about it, because when they think of a terrorist group, they automatically think muslims. When you said "I don't blame all muslims for Orlando, 9/11" the muslims didn't do it, the terrorists did it. There's a huge difference between muslims and terrorists, which a lot of people don't see. Anyways I hope this kind of gives you a small idea of why some people dislike muslims.
-Swimmer133
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I'm so tired of this. No matter what I do my step daughter goes and complains to my husband. I was cleaning some cupboards and my step daughter had 10 + water bottles cluttering up this cabinet. I removed them and put them in her room with a note asking her to go through them. She goes and complains....my feelings are hurt....I don't feel like she wants me here.....then my husband is down on me saying YOU act like you don't want "us" here! I've asked her that if she has a problem with things that I say or do to come and talk to me. She never does. She goes to "daddy" and it's not like she's a kid....she's 19 for Pete's sake. I've had it. What can I do to deal with thud. It's destroyed my marriage. (link)
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It's usually really hard for kids when their parents are split up, because they feel as if it's their fault (even if they don't show it), this can actually lead to some pretty serious depression in the future (I have a few friends who's parents are divorced). It can sometimes be even harder once their biological parent finds a new person to remarry. I think the reason why she turns to him is because she trusts him more (considering the fact that you just came into her life, and her dad has always been there for her). I'm going to be honest with you I don't think she sees you as a 'mom' figure. You have to show them your love, and your trust.
Hope this helps
-Swimmer133
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I went on a school trip to the cinema but i think no-one was allowed to stay during the credits because the whole class began walking out as soon as the credits started rolling, and i found it very disrespectful, because the movie's not technically over until the credits have rolled (link)
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Technically once the movie's over no one really wants to stay to read the credits. I usually only stay behind to look for the actors during the credits, and then I leave. Usually a lot of people leave during that time as well. I don't really mind when people leave, or talk at this time.
-Swimmer133
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I want to go to Disney in a few months for my birthday, and I live roughly 20 hours away from it (I would take a plane). Is it worth going alone? Probably not right? I've wanted to go to Disney for my birthday for as long as I can remember, and it's a pretty special birthday to me. If anyone knows what I should do (I've asked my friends already, and they don't know if they can). Disney can just be so expensive but I've been working my butt of for this because I want it very badly. I would appreciate it very much if someone can give me some advice on what to do. Thanks! (link)
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I think you should totally, but I do think it would be a lot more fun with one or two friends. You said you saved up some money for the trip. Maybe if your friends can't go that specific day, you should plan out a day when you all can you go, so you're pretty much celebrating your birthday on a different day :) Or if you really want to go on your birthday, but your friends can't make it, go with your family!
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Hi I'm Kendra I am a girl who is bisexual I've been talking to this girl and we got in a fight we never fought before I was really depressed and I got mad for no reason and said things I shouldn't have and now she won't text me back what do I do (link)
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I think you should try to call her instead of just texting, or ask her to meet you somewhere, and apologize for your actions, and then talk it out between one another. I mean that's really all I have for advice, but I hope it helps!
-Swimmer133
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Okay so today I got my period and its my 2nd day of vacation. Its very hot out and I'd like to go swimming but I got my period this morning. I've only ever worn pads and I'm deathly afraid of tampons. I get really anxious at the thought of them and I don't know what to do. I've heard of cups and other things but I don't have anything else and don't know where around here I could find them because the nearest store is really far away. I just don't know what to do because I can't just not swim for the rest of vacation especially when my whole family goes swimming daily. (link)
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TBH I'm scared of tampons too, and I'm a swimmer...how ironic. Anyways, apparently when you're on your period and you go into the water, your period will stop (don't ask me how it works, cuz idk how), but I'm not sure if it's a myth, or if it's real. Another TBH this might be disturbing, but I actually don't use anything when I'm on my period and I'm swimming, and I actually don't bleed in the water. I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone, but yeah... Anyways hope this helps?
-Swimmer133
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Last year I tried out for the field hockey team with my friend. I ended up making the team but she didn't. I enjoyed the season, but I still don't really have any friends on the team. Tryouts for this season start next month and I've been going to conditioning but I'm starting to think I don't want to play anymore. 1.) I don't have any friends on the team 2.) the other goalie is rude 3.) I'm very out of shape and I don't want to hold everyone back. I could quit but I don't know if I should plus I have the schools equipment so I would have to give it back and tell them I quit and I'm also scared people on the team with give me dirty looks in the hall once school starts. What should I do? (link)
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You shouldn't quit the team just because you don't have any friends on the team. When I first started the high school's swim team I didn't have any friends either, but as the season progressed I found myself getting along with everyone on the swim team and eventually becoming really close friends. All you really have to do is introduce yourself to new people. Don't mind the goalie, that shouldn't be a reason to quit the team. When I first started swimming for high school, I was supposed to be put into varsity, but since I took a one year break I was put into JV instead. On my first day of practice I found out I was faster than everyone, and there was a girl who swam in the same lane as me, and I could tell right away she didn't like me. She was mean to me, and always sent me dirty looks. At first I tried my best to avoid her at the pool, and around school. After a while of hiding I started talking to her even though I didn't want to. At first she seemed kind of stand-offish, over time we actually became friends, and we talked at school all the time whenever we saw each other. As for your last and final reason You shouldn't be afraid of being out of shape. I was really out of shape when I started swimming again after a year of being lazy :) I almost drowned the first day I started. Over time I got back to where I was supposed to be. I even trained on my own. What I'm trying to say is if you're feeling like you're out of shape, you can always train on your own time outside of school.
If you really like field hokey, you should continue doing it!
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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What is your fastest hair growth routine?
My hair is a really short pixie cut and I need to grow it at least a tiny bit below my chin. (link)
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Make sure your hair is healthy first. Hair won't grow, or grow as fast if you have a lot of split ends/if you have damaged hair. If your hair is damaged try using coconut oil in your hair. I find it really helpful for fixing damaged hair. Get your hair trimmed every so often (depends on how damaged your hair is). Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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I've been dating my new boyfriend for a little over three weeks, although we've known each other for about two months (through an old job).
He's really sweet and I think he's a great person, but I have a few hang ups about him that I'm not sure I can get over.
One: He has a house he's mortgaging that has his ex-girlfriends name on it...he also shares her insurance and cell phone plan. I also found many of her things still in his house (entire wardrobe of clothes, shoes, nail polish, girls razor still in the shower, ect). I think this is kind of strange and I worry that he's not over her even if he says he is and wonder why he still has all of her stuff (which I found on accident so I can't really bring up).
Two: I got intimate with him for the first time this past weekend (before I found the ex girlfriends things) and didn't enjoy it at all. He's much smaller than I'm used to and I had to do all the work for him to get off twice, and me not at all. His mannerisms in bed kind of remind me of a flopping fish which is a turn off. He's also not very fluent in any other kind of sexual activity and this is a problem for me because being intimate is something I really enjoy.
Three: When I first started dating him I noticed that he had a lot of scars, but didn't know what they were from so I shrugged them off as something he couldn't control. Now I've found out that they're mostly from him scratching bug bites until they're open sores and in general, picking at his skin. This of course is really gross and also a huge turn off.
He also has pretty bad indigestion that makes him gassy. I talked to him about taking medication for it, but he insists it's not that bad, when it really is. He burps frequently throughout the day, which of course makes his breath fowl and in turn makes kissing him unpleasant.
I'm not sure whether these are good enough reasons though to break things off with him. Otherwise he's been very kind to me, makes me laugh, has been generous, is attractive to me and I enjoy spending time in his company. We even went on a mini vacation out of town for the weekend which was a lot of fun for both of us.
However, I feel like the negatives are pretty big problems too and I'm not sure I can overlook them. I worry if I tolerate them for now that later on I'll become so annoyed with them that I'll just wind up leaving then and having wasted my time and his.
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Your first reason may be an acceptable reason to break up with him. If you think, or if he tells you he's still not over his ex you should take a break to give him some breathing space. The second reason sort of concerns me because it sounds like you're only dating guys to get into their pants (this could just be a misconception). Love/dating someone shouldn't be about how good they are in the bed. Your third reason is kind of "eh" Bug bites aren't something you can control it happens to everyone! It might not be a good idea to scratch them because it will make it worse, but people can't help it. I get a lot of bug bites over the summer, I always scratch them, pretty much until I bleed, but my boyfriend hasn't broken up with me yet. He actually cares and tries to help me stop scratching. I'm not even going to continue with burping. I think your motive is to find that perfect ideal guy, that (news flash) doesn't exist. No matter where you look even to the ends of this earth there is no guy in this world that is perfect. This might seem cheesy, but no one's perfect. Anyways I hope this helps in some way.
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Why won't my mum let me get my ears pierced? I'm 12 and all my friends have them done. I've been asking her for ages, but she won't let me. Me and my best friend started asking our parents at the same time and shehas them done, but I dont ! What should I do and\or how to persuade her? Thank you x
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I think a few reasons why she may not let you have your ears pierced are because she thinks you might not be old, or responsible enough, it's too expensive, or your ears might get infected. Try talking it out with her. Usually, persuading won't do much, because it's practically begging. I have a nose piercing, cartilage piercing, and then double piercings. Honestly, it really is a lot of responsibility, even with just one piercing. I got my first piercing when I was around your age and I was also on the swim team, so I had to take them out every time I was in the pool, put them back on, then take them out again before going to bed, and then putting them back on in the morning. It was this cycle, and there were times when I got really lazy and did not put them in. I lost a few pairs of earrings before (this was only when I had my very first piercing). There was also times when I would forget to put them back in and then the hole would slowly close over time, and I'd spend forever trying to jam my earrings back into my ear. After one of my birthdays I got another piercing, and then I just kept getting more. Anyways my point is you should really think about it before you decide to get your ears pierced. I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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my cousin is engaged to be married, well the bum she is marrying physically abuses her and sadly she had two kids by this bum...well the bridal shower was yesterday and I did go to that and gave a gift, the bum wasn't there, just the family.....and not his family....lmao.... I figure id go to something since I do not want to go to the wedding....I can't bear to witness an abuser marrying his foolish abusee ...what would you do? boycott the wedding and don't go.....or just go.... (link)
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If I were you I just wouldn't go to the wedding at all. In my opinion, I don't think it's right to boycott a wedding because it is supposed to be their special day. One reason why she is marrying this guy could be because she's scared of him. Another thing you should do is bring this to your family's attention that she's being abused, and that it is wrong. It's also wrong to be raising children in that type of environment, this man could easily start abusing his own kids. So bring this up to your family, and your cousin. If they ignore you then just don't go to the wedding at all. I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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Hi, I'm 14 (turn 15 this summer), which isn't quite old enough to get a job. But I am very expensive and I need a job because my parents aren't paying for my stuff all the time. Also, I can't do chores because they aren't paying me for them anyway. Also I don't really like children that much so it's not a great idea to babysit. So does anyone have some ideas on how I can make money. (link)
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One thing you can do is actually collect cans and bottles and then you can bring them to a recycling place for money. I believe they'll pay you by how many cans/bottles you have. You can start walking dogs around your neighborhood. There are a lot of job opportunities around your neighborhood. You just need to get creative and be more open-minded. Remember getting a job isn't always about the money. You need to have passion, love, and interest in the job. I'm referring to any job when I say that. I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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