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Have I been Friendzoned? Should I give up?
I'm turning 16 soon and I like a 17 year old exchange student who will be here until March 2017.
We speak most nights on Facebook (I've almost always been the first to talk) and his English is quite good but there is some mistranslations here and there. I have never actually spoken to him in real life, I tend to avoid eye contact with him, but we have smiled at eachother and he brought it up as a Conversation starter.
Last night was Prom night and I didn't end up going because I'm a year below. He asked if I was going to go next year and I said I think I would and he replied with "I hope you'll go with your boyfriend haha" (RIP)
But at the after party he had gotten quite drunk and befriended my brother and they hung out most of the night. So my brother and best friend were telling me how he would add in random Japanese words into his sentences due to how drunk he was. I had mentioned it to him and he denied the fact and said he didn't even drink much (if he is lying, why would he?). And My brother told me how a girl had approached him and tried to hook up but he quickly pushed her away by her shoulders.
I realise I'm probably nothing more than a friend or more appropriately an acquaintance, but is it useless having this crush on him?
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I think when he said that, it could've just been a joke. As for the drinking, he could've had a little too much to drink, and can't remember much about what happened. You should try to talk to him in person, and make eye contact too. If you keep avoiding him, he probably thinks you don't have any interest in him. You could even try to get his number over fb too. Try asking him to hang out with you (just as friends first and then maybe progress from there).
Hope this helps!
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I think you may be focusing on his statement of hoping you'll go to prom next year with your boyfriend. That is not how guys tend to act. They could care less what girl is goingn to prom unless this is a girl they are interested in, or its a girl his best bud is interested in taking to prom and he cares about his friend.
Yeah, there's always exceptions to the rule but in this case, I am positive he was wushing it could be him talking you. Since he's an exchange student, he probably won't be around to take you even if he wanted to. When he said "Your boyfriend", it may have been his way to find out if you have a boyfriend, or thought it might be good sublte way to let you know he's interested.
So if you aren't brav e enough to talk to him and find out if he is interested, you'll never know and this will only be a crush. So how to get to the point....just speak as if you are just starting to become interested so in case he isn't it doesnt feel as awkward for him to tell you he doesnt feel that way. Its way harder when someone says, I have a crush on you or I think I'm in love with you. So, hey I wanted to let you know that I am starting to have stronger feelings than just for a friend with you and wondering if you feel the same.
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It's gonna be useless unless you say something.
If he has no damn clue you might be into him (and he might not, if you won't speak to him in person or make eye contact) then you aren't 'friendzoned'. You are just silent.
You might need to speak up, if you want this to be more than just a secret crush.
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