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Why won't my mum let me get my ears pierced? I'm 12 and all my friends have them done. I've been asking her for ages, but she won't let me. Me and my best friend started asking our parents at the same time and shehas them done, but I dont ! What should I do and\or how to persuade her? Thank you x
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Some possible approaches for a reasoned argument? You'll have it done properly by a reputable and well-known service. You'll take onboard everything they say about after-care and do it to avoid infection. She can talk to your friend's mum about the issue if she wants to. It's not irreversible (like a tattoo), if you go off the idea and don't use sleepers or rings the pierced tissue will grow over. You're not planning to have loads of them, just one in each lobe. (Lots of piercings all over your ear can be problematic, and painful to have done. Plus your mum won't like you having tons of metalwork pinned all over your ears!). All the pretty earrings you like are for pierced ears only. I should say the reasons your parents are against it are the same as they have always been (when your mum was 12, and before that). It seems a bit 'adult' and they aren't completely comfortable about their daughter 'growing-up' just yet? That's a bit difficult to argue with rationally. Your friend's mum would be a good person to put a good word in with with YOUR mum about pierced ears. So try to get her on-side. The only definite DO NOTS are, don't try and do it yourself or get a friend to do it. And don't visit a shady establishment who don't as too many questions about age and permission from parents. DIY jobs are prone to going 'nasty' and becoming infected. Even if it doesn't your mum will notice and there will be a right row.
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Trying to convince your mom to let you have your ears pierced at this time is a lost cause. Mom has made up her mind and she is not going to change it no matter how much you try to change her mind. In fact the more you beg the more resolved she will be. You don't need to understand that as it is a parent thing we do.
I would avoid saying that your friends mom has let her get her ears pierced for if you mom is anything like my mom was. Her answer is going to be if your friends jumps off the Brooklyn bridge does than mean you have to as well. I never understood that one either but one day heard those exact words come out of my mouth when my son asked for something his friend had gotten.
My suggestion is you cool it for know. In a few months, maybe before school opens when your shopping for school close you bring it up again while looking at ear rings. You might find a nice pear and maybe she agrees. Then oh darn there for pierced ears. Maybe she changes her mind and at the store she allows them to pierce your ears.
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I think a few reasons why she may not let you have your ears pierced are because she thinks you might not be old, or responsible enough, it's too expensive, or your ears might get infected. Try talking it out with her. Usually, persuading won't do much, because it's practically begging. I have a nose piercing, cartilage piercing, and then double piercings. Honestly, it really is a lot of responsibility, even with just one piercing. I got my first piercing when I was around your age and I was also on the swim team, so I had to take them out every time I was in the pool, put them back on, then take them out again before going to bed, and then putting them back on in the morning. It was this cycle, and there were times when I got really lazy and did not put them in. I lost a few pairs of earrings before (this was only when I had my very first piercing). There was also times when I would forget to put them back in and then the hole would slowly close over time, and I'd spend forever trying to jam my earrings back into my ear. After one of my birthdays I got another piercing, and then I just kept getting more. Anyways my point is you should really think about it before you decide to get your ears pierced. I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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