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Q: Ok, so online when i'm talking to the guy i like, we get along really well and talk about aNyThInG, but in school we both like avoid eachother's eye contact and we only say "hi" once and a while in the halls. Any sudjestions?
as far as suggestions, well. that happens a lot.
to me, even.

i think its cus ... in person you have to make sure its not awkward .. .and you dont have to look the person in the eye or even see their facial expression... and online you dont see any of that and they dont see you blush. or cry. or laugh. or anything... so its generally easier.

i would say to slowly just start at least saying hi to him ... and making small talk to start.. .and gradually things will get better.

Q: i always get really bad cramps when i have my period. does anyone know good ways to dull the pain, either home remidies or medication? thanks.
midol.
or perscription. its NOT NORMAL to have killer cramps.. minor ones are but servere ones need to see the doctor....

also ... you know that part on your back where it turns into your hips and there are little dimple things?? .. rub & massage those .... it releases endorphines(sp?) ... and soothes some of the pain a little.

Q: Last year I dyed my hair black and i've kept it black since then. I am now trying to get my hair back to a more natural color: dark brown-light brown. I tried Herbal Essences Dye.. It was called Iced Bronze or something like that.
It just dyed my roots brown and make the black in my hair a really odd color.

If anyone knows a good brand and/or color of dye that will completely cover black, let me know!!
Thanks a BUNCH!
you need to bleach your hair to give it a clean slate ...
THEN put in the brown

Q: I'll be swimming everyday now for swim team. I was wondering, what shampoo's can I use to protect my already dry/damaged hair from clhorine? I've tried Garnier Fruites, Treseme, and Pantene and non of them work. I'll rate :)
matrix. its amazing
slightly more pricey... but worth it
--bright orange bottle

or paul mitchell

Q: ok so theres this guy and ive known him FOREVER. and well i really like him and i think he likes me (but im not sure) and i like always talk to him at school but now that school ends on thursday i wont see him as much, except he lives down my street and so i will prolly see him some. well any ways we talk on the phone a lil bit and do you think it seems like clingy or slutty or something if i call him in the summer?
no

Q: I have two best friends, one is more in the "popular range" and I love her to death and I have the best of times when I hang out with her and some of her other friends. My other best friend isn't popular, and doesnt realy like popular people. She always listens to depressing music and acts a little like a slut now. She makes me feel guilty when I hang out with my other best friend. I dont wanna be best friends with her anymore but I dont know how to tell her. Any tips?
slowly start spending less time with her .

id tell her that she was bringing me down and stuff and that unless change was in the forecast of her life... that you might have to be the cloud that rains on her parade cuz youre not into it

Q: Okay, On This latley i been hearing alot about "MYSPACE" What the heck is it???? Help im confused!!! Maybe teach me a easy way to do it too? THANKS!

-Xo-Thank-You!-oX-
Sry i didnt know what category to put this under..
myspaces is a crappy version of xanga.
i have a xanga and a myspace and I HATE myspace.

and dont even bother w/ myspace unless youre 16 cuz thats the youngest they allow

Q: 13/f

i feel kind of weird asking this but here is my problem/question:
i have to go to the doctors in a few days because i am going to another country and i need a physical before i leave. i will be swimming a lot were i am going and i want to shave my bikini area....first i want to know does your doctor say anything about shaving that area? and second i got bought nair and it says trim the hair before you use it. do i have to trim it with anything special?

please dont waste your time writing rude responses but if you really do help, then thanks!
eh its no prob. just use scissors.
the doctor wont care unless you ... hurt yourself or something .....

Q: What is the difference between being Punk and being Gothic? Is it a style or what? Please explain.
goth is like a religion.

punk was born in the eighties (bands like rancid, the sex pistols, the clash... etc)
it was a style of rebellion.

Q: I have this habbit. Its like i start to like a guy and then he starts to like me back..and i dont really like him anymore. its like playing tag..its fun to chase them but once they stop running the fun is over. does anyone have any ideas on how to break this habbit??!?!

i rate high on good ideas*
thanks!
ha no im the same. sorry

Q: Every night when I go sleep, I notice tears welling up at the edge of my eyelids for no reason. Its just totally random, I'm not even thinking of anything... Is it possible ,y eyes are just irritated after I've taken my contacts out from wearing them all day? Or is it just another body regulation thing like tapping your leg repeatedly?

my eyes do that too .. .. i think i just have overactive tear ducts

Q: K today this guy i like , came up to me and hugged me. He held me for atleast 5 minutes. Then when we got of the buss after school, he kept huggin me, and he asked me if he could hold my hand , and i said yes. So he did, then he asked if he could kiss me , and i didnt know what to say. So i kept quiet. Then my friends walked me home from their house, and he followed us. My friends are saying he likes me, but I dont think he does. What should i do?!?!?!?! i rate high. Please help. oo and hes 15/m and im 14/f
ummmmmmmmm ?? no dip he likes you!!! omg !!!!


you so shoulda kissed him
i cant beleive you ignored him



go date him!!!!!!!!

Q: is it weird if someone ((a guy)) rights a song for you ((he likes me ALOT)) and sings it to you on the phone? it seems weird to me
that is so effing sweet. dont complain

Q: my face is breaking out!! okay i have 2 ? any way one is anyideas on how to reduce these pimples?? and is it true if you put toothpaste on them they get better?? i know it sounds weird but thats what i heard!
thanks

XO0X*
listerine ssseeerrriiioouuusslllyyy works



no joke

Q: One of my old friends' never talked about guys. Like, we would be on the fone, and i would be talking about the guy i liked, and shed kinda just, "push away" the subject. She always said she never likes anyone, and she dosent think that anyone is "cute" or "Hot". I think thats kind of weird. Then one day, we were talking online, and she told me she was a lesbian. It was really awkward, and i really started to believe her, and then when i saw her the next day at school, she was like "omg that was hilarous last night! i was joking!"....I dont know but this kind of looks strange to me..Any ideas on why she might not like to talk about guys? oh by the way..i dont want to talk or ask her about this. thanks!
shes a lezzy

Q: I'm doing an english project on Walt Disney and the impact he made on America. Anyways, I need to connect it to music. Is there any song out there that is about just Disney? Not any movie songs but it's just about the Disney Company.
"iiiiiits a smallll world aaaaaaafter allll"

Q: Ok heres the problem. When im out with my friends i tend to sweat a lot more than i do when i'm just sitting at my house. Is this because im nervous? I obviously use deodorant so i dont have to care about the smell but the problem is it always leaves sweat marks like you know it goes through your shirt and you can see it. I tried putting tissues under my shirt to stop it from being noticable but it did nothing! Please help!!!!!!
tissues? wow.
no, get perscription deodorant, kid.

Q: ok can some one please help me here
my gf keeps getting her ass smacked by dudes and its realy getting me pissed off anyway should i beat the liveing shit out of the guys who are doing it? or just tell them to stop?
slap theirs. haha

Q: Dudes

How can I get my mom to let me get my ears pierced? She says I have to wait until I'm fsxking 16! I just turned 15 two days ago!!! She says people would say I look like a sissy. Ok. Well, only the shallow asshats would actually say that out loud, and even then I don't care. They can bite me. But she says I have to wait until the age even SHE got them! 1) I am not a woman 2) I am not my mother.

M/15. I'm just /curious/ as to how I would look in them! If I dont like them I could just let it cover up. I seriously don't see her logic in this other than the usual parent crap 'I want you to be just like me and grow up the same way.'
get small gages.
you wouldnt look like a sissy
and i think its pretty hott

Q: This guy and I are friends, and we have gone out twice before. I am entering eighth grade soon, same with him. His name is Kyle. He seems like a great guy to start a 'serious' realtionship with. He is EVERYTHING I have been looking for. I wrote him a note maybe two weeks ago. He didn't write back or anything. It said like I really like you.. etc. you know the drill. I mean seriously I am like totally in love with him. I don't know what to do. Talk to him, go along with everything[which he really hasn't said a word to me]. Likr I need help. What do I say to him. Summer is coming and I don't really plan on having a boyfriend for summer. But like during school, maybe two weeks before school. I am just so confused on what to do. Please Help, and don't pass this question up.
if he's what you want, see if he likes you. if he does;go for it.
if not; live & let live.

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