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I've liked this girl for awhile now, and I've been thinking about asking her out, but how can I figure out if she likes me? (link)
solightninlove is right. I'm a girl and we are confusing as hell. It's just in our nature. But you really should just ask her out...the worst she can do is say no...and if she does then you'll know that she is not interested and that you should move your interests to someone else. you could try flirting with her a bit to see what her response is...but she may not pick up on it...so I think that being straight forward and asking her would be the best way...and even if she says no she will not only be extremely flattered anyway, but commend you for your bravery. It takes a lot of balls to do that.


how much does it cost to get your belly botton peirced?plus do you have to have certain weight to get it done? thank you (link)
you don't have to be a certain weight to get the piercing. Depending upon where you go to get it done and the jewelry you pick it will probably start around 50-70 dollars. It may be cheaper in some places and more expensive in others...I would suggest shopping around before deciding on a place...just make sure it's sanitary.


Iam going to the gynocologist tomorrow for the first time and iam scared i might have something what am i suppose to do if i have an std? (link)
If you find out that you have an STD you should ask your gynecologist for some educational materials about the disease. Ask any questions you may have. Talk to your gynecologist about possible treatments or ways to cope. If it's not treatable ask if he knows about any local support groups (they really do help..I know from experience..and no one will know you are in one unless you tell them). Any concerns you have or anything should be brought up with your gynecologist. He or she will have the best answers for most, if not all of your questions because they deal with this specifically.


that says that you hurt me, after i loved you so much i feel torn apart now, and how i dont feel good enough. like you want more than me & what i have to offer.

preferably rock/alternative
but im open to anything really

thanks. (link)
ok well All Around Me is about Jesus and how much they love him...but you might want to check out:

Torn by: Natalie Imbruglia
Again I Go Unnoticed by: Dashboard Confessional
You Oughta Know by: Alanis Morisette

I can name more...but try these for now...just message me.


I love the show, The Search for the Next Elle Woods, but why is Laura Bell Bundy stopping being Elle? (link)
In broadway, just like television shows the actors work on a contract. Her contract is up. Some broadway actors have the chance to renew their contract, but many of them do not because they want to bring new people in or the original actors have new projects they are working on. Laura Bell Bundy is leaving broadway to move to nashville to work on her second solo country album. This and contract reasons are why she is not continuing her role.


hey.

well, i hear it's really bad to skip meals. i'm not anorexic or anything, i love to eat, but i skip meals... it's how i lost so much weight in the span of a few weeks (unfortunately i gained it all back. DELISHH.) so i want to lose like, 10 lbs again. omfg, i can't believe i gained it all back. well not ALL of it, but a good chunk. i have to get in a bikini on tuesday [ haha ] and i kinda want to have a flat stomach. can i skip lunch [ well not SKIP but not eat a huge ass meal ] for today & tomorrow and not have a belly? this weekend, i had two slices of pizza, a coke, bbq stuff like ribs & chicken wings. i have a huge stomach right now...

& i can't "eat healthy" cause there really isn't healthy food in my house. i find it a lot more effective to just.. eat really lightly (like lunch water & a snack).

also - i sometimes feel sick if i don't eat for a long period of time, and eat an orange. but acidity builds up in my stomach and i feel superr gross. when acid is really high in my stomach, what should i eat? like, soup?

also, what (sooooo sorry (link)
it is never okay to skip a meal. my cousin is a nutritionist and I've had this stuff hammered into my head for years...Eat 5-6 small meals a day ever 3 hours or so instead of 3 larger meals...you will eat smaller portioned meals and it will keep you full and healthy. Try to eat each meal at the same time every day. Your body will get used to being fed at certain times and you won't feel hungry anymore. Even if you aren't hungry make sure that you eat at that time so your body doesn't get upset with you. Try having some water while your making your meal...it will fill you up a bit before you eat and then you won't feel the need to over eat. Fruits and veggies are great to fill up on and make a great snack...try having celery and carrots with some light ranch dip...it makes a great mid afternoon snack and it's low in calories. Try fruits for a mid morning snack.
your meals should work as follows
breakfast (maybe a bowl of whole grain cereal or an egg and some toast)
mid morning snack (fruit is really good for this)
lunch (I prefer soup and a sandwich...but it's whatever you like...a grilled chicken sandwich is also a great lunch)
mid afternoon snack (veggies with some ranch dip or maybe some triscuit crackers with some sliced cheese on top...whatever you like that's sort of snacky and filling)
dinner (feel free to eat a little bigger on this one...it's important so you don't get hungry during the night and wake up for snacks...anything is really acceptable just try to incorporate the food groups you haven't gotten in already)
evening snack (don't eat right before you go to sleep...maybe a jello cup or a fat free pudding cup...or a couple of cookies...these are great ways to finish the day)
you don't have to eat what i put down...just some suggestions.
any other questions just message me.


Okay, I have this friend and she's driving me nuts. Well actually, first I should probably tell you she's an Internet friend of mine. But we're really close, we've known each other for years and we've talked on the phone and such. (And I love her like a friend I know IRL.)

Well anyway, back to the problem. She found this online guy who she's decided to start 'going out' with. She's *TOTALLY* serious about him and completely infatuated. The thing is that he's 17 and she's 14. Not only that, but he is SO creepy. He calls me a bitch a lot, even when I haven't done anything. Like once I was talking to him on YIM and I stopped for a second because something else caught my attention, and he was REALLY mad, he cussed me out and everything for 'ignoring him'.

I've tried to tell my friend that she's being stupid and everything, but she won't listen and tells me I'm the one being stupid instead. So basically she's chosen him, some creepy-ass guy she met over her friend who she's known a lot longer.

What do I do? They're even talking about meeting in real life! I'm scared for her!! EVERYTHING could go wrong... I mean, I've heard the stories of girls getting like raped and murdered by guys they meet online. Scares the crap out of me and I don't want that to happen to her at all. But no matter what I tell her she just yells at me! (link)
I have a friend who met this guy over the internet...at first he wasn't too nice but she was crazy about him and they talked on the phone a lot. She couldn't stop talking about him and I've never seen her happier (I've known her since I was 4). She wanted to go meet this guy (he lives a few hours away) so my friend and I decided to go with her to make sure that nothing happened. We care about her and didn't want her to be in serious trouble so we went to check him out and once he met some of her friends and everything he really turned around and we all really like him now. Maybe you should suggest that she get some of her friends to go with her and that they meet in a public place. It's safe and she'll get to see him and still have her friends there for support in case he turns out to be a complete ass.


Whats a good store to get band tshirts? I heard Hot Topic had those. But what kind of bands are they? I'm looking for bands like Nirvana, Hendrix, the Beatles, you know, older bands, not modern ones. What stores would have those? Thanks! (link)
Hot Topic sells some of those too. Also check out Razz Ma Tazz and a local music store if you have one (most chains don't carry them) but if you don't have too much luck you can always get them online...the sizing charts are usually pretty acurate.


I am going to a summer band camp by myself. What can I do to make new friends and not act antisocial? (link)
The great thing about a themed camp like band camp is that everyone there shares a common interest so you automatically have something to talk about. Get involved in camp activities that interest you and you'll meet others there that share the same interest...start talking to them about said hobby, their instrument, what school they're from stuff like that. Getting the conversation started is always the hardest part...keeping it going comes naturally once it's rolling...chances are others will approach you too, but don't wait for it to happen...talk to others too. Camp will be a blast.


Why did the age change for jobs? Most jobs you have to be 18 now. Even in grocery stores, fast food restaurants, etc. There's only ONE fast food place that hires at 16 and of course it's already full. What happened? Most 16 year olds have jobs already but every time I try to apply elsewhere.. they say I don't qualify because of my age (17) I just wanted to be bagger for a grocery store! I'm moving out next year and I don't know what to do! I know I'm getting kicked out so am I just supposed to live on the streets until I'm 18? (link)
well around here they can hire you, but you have to have a work permit until your 18. I would suggest getting one if you don't already and keep applying...places that really need the help will take it. Being 18 doesn't have it's advantages either...I'm 18 and I can't get hired either...no place is really hiring. Some places want specific experience...I know that Wal-Mart hires at 16 so if you have a nearby Wal-Mart, Meijer, Target, or K-mart I would check them out...most of them will hire young because they have constant need for help.


Is there going to be a 3rd season of Kyle XY? I know at the end of season 2 it said that new episodes would begin in 2008, but I've heard that there were issues, and there might not be a 3rd season? And if there is going to be one, is there anyway of knowing when it starts?? (link)
Well the last I heard was that there were some contract issues and that there probably will not be a third season. I love the show and I really hope that this changes and they get everything worked out. The only thing fans like us can do is watch ABC Family and hope that they start advertising for new episodes.


when you go to get your eyebrows waxed, are there like pictures of different eyebrow styles to choose from or do you have to just like describe to the person how you want your eyebrows done?

also, do the people who wax your eyebrows have good enough taste to know exactly what eyebrow shape would make you look best? because i can not decide which i style i should get done.

also, when you get your eyebrows done, does it cause a rash or a burn or bumps or anything??

and does it hurt really bad?? sorry this is kind of long. thanks! (link)
you need to know what you want done when you go in. You can ask for suggestions or what they like best, eyebrows aren't really made by face shape, just as long as they begin aligned with the inner corner of your eye and go out to slightly past the outer corner then your fine, how thin or thick you want them is totally up to you. They will do what they think will look best but if you don't give them guidelines and you hate it then you can't really say anything. It doesn't hurt real bad, unless you have a really low tolerance for pain. You might tear up a little bit, that's totally normal your eyes will water, but they see it all the time so it's nothing. Just have some idea of what you want and then if you want give them a little free reign. You will have redness and possibly bumps at the site for a couple of hours at least, but it will easily go away.


do i need a tetanus shot for a cut with a copper wire? (link)
i would talk to your doctor. You could especially if it's an older wire, but if its a newer one you may not but I would definitely check with your doctor and they will tell you if you need one or not, they might do one just out of safety, but there's no harm in it.


My vagina itches quite a bit, not a lot but most of the time, what are some reasons why it could? I'm not sexually active at all. (link)
it's probably just a yeast infection, it's nothing to worry about. Just go to your doctor and they will give you an anti biotic and tell you to use monistat. You don't have to be sexually active to get them and they are really common.


I am 17 years old. I was 16 when this happened, i went to Andover, Ohio with a friend to get her computer fixed. (an hour and half away) My father new, who i was with, where i was at, and had a number to get a hold me at. He called the cops on me because i didnt get home until late it took for ever to fix her computer. He told the cops he didnt know were i was he didnt have a number to reach me. ( it was in his cell phone and written on the board at my house.) basically claimed i was missing. when i returned home i got out of a car in my parking lot and walked to my door and a cop pulled up who had been sitting in the parking lot waiting. well now i have to go to court on monday. (link)
I wish I could tell you that there is something you can do, but because were a minor then, and still are, your father can react in any way that he chooses as far as you are concerned because he is the legal guardian. Your state might have a law stating differently, but in my state it's totally legal with what your father did. If you live in Ohio look at your state laws (you can find them online), if you live out of state then look at that states laws, but you might also have to look up town or county laws if your area has a specific curfew or laws if you are a repeat offender. Every place is different. I'm not sure if I answered your question(you never really asked one, just said what was happening)


can you use hair removal cream for legs and stuff on your vagina as long as you don't get it like inside or around it? i hate shaving that space because it gets stubbly and really uncomfortable. i'm not really a fan of waxing either, any suggestions?

thanks =] (link)
there are hair removal creams made specifically for the bikini area. I would suggest using one of them. You probably could use the stuff for your legs, but I would think that the one for that area would be gentler.


What do you think about the children who come to this site, at the ages of 12-14 asking sexual questions? Questions that aren't educational, yet nasty, disrespectful, and questions which tell their age? Are you comfortable as adults answering them or would you rather them not be able to ask those type of questions on this site?

The morals of our youth today really concern me. For the most part, it's not 100% about the question, it's about the words they chose to use while asking it. This is why there are so many STD's, AIDS, teen pregnancies today. It saddens me that some of the questions deal with anal sex, oral sex, size of penises, except they use the D word and P word. I had no idea of what some of these things even meant to begin asking when I was 13? What are some of your opinions and feelings on this subject? seriously & are you as older teens, and adults OK with answering those type of questions from these children that think they are grown and have no idea of what it's like to be grown in the real world? (link)
It's not that I'm comfortable answering them, but I feel like if I can educate them more on the subject they might make a different decision. I know that I can't say that "You're too young to have sex" saying it wont change their mind, I was their age once (not too long ago actually) and I know what they're thinking. I do however try to tell them what the risks are and that it needs to be a well thought out decision and all of the precautions that they need to take and everything that can happen even if they do take them. I remind them that the only way to completely avoid STDs and pregnancy is to stay abstinent, and that condoms break and birth control has to be taken at the same time every day for effectiveness. I always mention that I feel that they are too young to be having sex and making that decision, but it's still their choice, no matter how foolish it may be. The way I view the question is that if I have helped one boy or girl realize that they don't want to do this then I've done my job, or if I tell them enough that I've stopped one pregnancy or one possible abortion then I've done what I'm supposed to do.
As for the words that they use, yes they are inappropriate, I usually answer those questions by using the correct terms, although I can't change what they hear, they won't change what they say anyway. I cannot butcher them for their decisions, I don't know them, I'm not their mother, and while their morals aren't mine, they will make their own decision regardless so I just make sure that they have enough accurate information as possible.


for school next year I want to be the thinest I can be..I weight like 165 now and Im 5'3
I want to lose like 30 pounds this summer alone are there anytips out there I can use
i really want to like
eat a little bit I know it isnt healthy but all my friends that say oh I just stopped eatting alot lost alot of weight so do you think that can help and whats a good way to make my waste smaller
thanks...and I would also like you help on how to get a flatter stomach...thanks (link)
contrary to popular belief, not eating carbs is one of the worst ways to try to lose weight. Eat 5-6 smaller meals a day instead of 3 bigger ones, it will help even out your metabolism but make sure you get all of you're food groups in. Following the food pyramid is very important and exercise for 1-2 hours 3-4 days a week. Carbs keep you full longer and boost energy...you need them, don't avoid them, but eating little at all is the worst thing you can do. You are doing so much harm to your body and you don't even realize it. It can cause eating disorders like anorexia nervosa and you will eventually bloat and look heavier. Also when you begin eating larger meals you will gain the weight back and then some, but stopping now will get you on the right track to healthy weight loss. just eat a smaller meal every 3-4 hours instead of the 3 larger meals every 6 hours or so and do the exercise 3-4 days a week and you will be on your way.


theres a commercial and it has a song like mmm m m m mm mm m m and at the end it said who knew something could taste so good or something. whats the commercial or the song? thanks! (link)
well somebody already told you the commercial, but I'll tell you the song....it's called little bitty pretty one...it has several different artists so just try to find the one you like best.


I was just wondering, if someone 18 or older kissed someone under 18 is that illegal?

Nothing sexual, and never will be because I know that is, just kissing. (link)
it depends upon your states particular rulings. Many have certain age ranges and stipulations...it can be considered illegal in some states, but I would suggest looking for your states laws. You can easily find them online, just google them.




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