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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
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anybody know of any other perfumes that smell like japanese cherry blossom? or that smell kinda like a clothing store. not too sweet, but yeah...like japanese cherry blossom haha. thanks
I would check at bath and body works. I'm almost positive they have that type of perfume there. If not, here are some web sites:
http://www.nextag.com/cherry-blossom-perfume/search-html
http://www.fortune3.com/chemstore/Fragrance_Oils-Japanese_Cherry_Blossom.html
http://www.hey-dollface.com/2008/02/the-body-shop-l.html
what is the next book?
and also, did it say that the two younger (edmund and lucy) ones were coming back to narnia?
and im so glad susan kissed caspian in the end, but whats the point if shes never coming back??
i absolutely loved that movie.
Yes the movie was great!
The next book there will be a movie on is called "The Dawn Treader" and it's pretty much the most exciting book in all of the Narnia chronicles!
Susan and Peter will not return to Narnia because Aslan told them they were getting too old. But Edmund, Lucy, and a new character will be in the third and final movie.
In the actual book about Prince Caspian, Susan never kisses Caspian. Hollywood made the movie WAY more dramatic than the book. And that's exactly why she kisses him: drama. :) Not to mention that in the book, Caspian is like 10 years old.
I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more
Just tell him you slept with someone else. That tends to make boyfriends want to break up. :-P (Yes I'm kidding.)
Tell him straight up that it's over. Ignore his phone calls, emails, everything until he leaves you alone. It might also get him to leave you alone if you start dating other guys.
I'm glad you realize this guy is a piece of dirt.
15/f
okay so you've probably heard this before but i need some advice. my boyfriend wants to "go further" as he put it. we've been dating 7 months and i'm open to that, but all i've ever done is makeout. like i have no idea what i'm doing and i don't really know how far he wants to go but i'm guessing like bj's and stuff. i don't really know what to do you know and i don't want to be like super nervous so ha is there any like websites that give advice on this? only reason i ask that is you're not allowed to get in detail about this stuff on here.
and please don't tell me i'm too young, i'm not not not goiing to have sex, i know i'm not ready for that. thanks in advance =]
The most important thing before going further in any relationship is talking about it. It's crucial for many things: safety, happiness, and being comfortable. If you cannot talk openly and comfortably about these things with your boyfriend, it's definitely not a good idea to take anything to the next level. You need that communication to establish boundaries and get a feel with what your partner actually wants. That takes care of the guesswork.
Sit your boyfriend down and ask questions. Allow him to do the same. Ask what he expects from you, ask what he is comfortable with at this point in the relationship, etc. If he acts shy or nervous about the conversation, he's not mature enough for this stage of your relationship yet. If he does talk with you comfortably about it, you'll know what he wants, he'll know what you want, and there won't be any "accidents."
So anyway, way it comes to actually doing the stuff, I thought this web site had some good tips for blow jobs.
http://www.holisticwisdom.com/blow-job.htm
Basically, it's all about the attitude when you do get a little more physical with your boyfriend. Experiment with it and I'm sure you'll understand what I mean.
well i heard that if you have sex to much your vagina gets loose.how does that happen?
I believe the person below me is mistaken.
Your vagina will stretch more when you have sex to adjust to having a penis in there. But unless you have sex with like 1349202 guys, your vagina won't become grossly loose. It probably won't even be noticeable (other than the fact that sex won't hurt anymore).
Don't worry about it. Just know that your vagina will stretch a little bit until it gets fully used to sex.
my nails have ridges and bumps on them.. is that indicative of a health disease? (i dont get my nails caught on anything so i didnt physically do anything to them)
My doctor told me that those ridges are due to a lack of vitamins. Try to start taking daily vitamins so your body can get the nutrients it needs.
If you are already taking vitamins, I would definitely talk to your doctor to see what's up.
As far as I know, it is not something serious like a disease.
my friend is starting to get really obsessed with this one guy and quite frankly i don't think he is going to like her in that way. she is nice and all but i don't think he wants a girlfriend. and plus he doesn't really know she exists. so how do i make her like him less, i don't want her to get hurt =[.
Let your friend like who she wants. She can live and learn and make mistakes and get over them in time. All you can do is be a good friend by letting her make the choices she wants and be there for her if she does get hurt in the end.
That's how life is. I'm sure you would want her to do the same for you in that situation.
:)
i play sand volleyball and im thinking about getting my belly button pierced. I see a ton of people with theirs pierced who play, but since sand is starting up i feel like if i get it right now itll hurt bad if i dive on it/get sand in it, or will it be okay? thanks
If and when you get it pierced, ask whoever does it if there is a special bandage you could wear while you are playing the sport.
Perhaps some gauze and a large band-aid would work. That way, sand won't get in the piercing and cause infection. If you do wear the piercing during the sport, you should try to wear a small stud instead of those dangling ones. There will be less chance of it getting caught on anything.
Sometimes my parents are telling me that I'm really really fat. It hurts my feelings, even though they say it in a joky way (but I know they mean it)
So I'm about 160cm..give or take.
And I weight 60kg...
And I'm 15.
So am I really that fat??
No, I do not believe you are dangerously overweight at all. Just do your best to stay active, do the things you love, and try to make some healthy lifestyle choices. That's all you can do.
If you are comfortable with yourself, try not to worry about what others say. Have a serious talk with your parents and let them know how much that bothers you. Whether they were joking or not, that is a horrible thing to say to someone.
Can you get pregnant from giving a guy a blow job?
No you can not get pregnant from a blow job. The only way that is possible is if some sperm got on your lips/hands and then your touched yourself, or, of course, if the penis actually entered the vagina.
21/f
I am getting married soon, but there are still some issues bugging me that I thought my fiance and I had resolved.
- He smokes
I know this is a personal choice for him but it does affect me. If I really don't like it, shouldn't he at least try not to smoke in front of me? He only started doing this recently, before this he used to hide the fact that he smoked (cause he knows I hate it) and lie to my face when I would ask.
- He brings home his friends porn
He swears up and down that it's not his. Fine, but if you know I don't like it then don't bring it into our home. If it is your friends property then let your friend keep it, no?
- He has MOOD SWINGS like you would not believe. One minute he is all sweet and cuddly and the next he's scowling with a nasty attitude.
- He doesn't like to think about the future, aka he has no idea what he wants as a career (although he has a good job for the time being) and he doesn't even put thought into it.
I don't know what to do. These are things that seriously bother me. I've brought these issues to his attention and nothing changes, or it changes for a week or two then we're back to square one.
There is also stuff from the past and I try to let it go but then he shows me that he doesn't have the will to change.
I'm supposed to be getting married in 3 months! HELP.
Wanting to change your significant other before marrying them is a bad sign. If things like this are seriously bothering you, you should reconsider your marriage. I know that isn't something you want to hear, but it's the truth. Compromises need to be made and if he isn't willing to make an effort on his end, maybe marriage isn't such a good idea right now.
Smoking- Don't make him feel like he has to lie about it. If he lights up in front of you, just walk away. Don't make any comments that it bothers you; simply leave the room. If he wants to make the decision to smoke, then he is not allowed to spend time with you when he does.
Porn- All guys like porn. This is a fact of life. I deal with it with my boyfriend. It will never change and women like us need to learn to deal with it. I would give your guy a simple warning: what you don't know won't hurt you. If he wants to watch it, that's none of your business, but you shouldn't have to find out about it or have it lying around the house. As long as he keeps those private things to himself, let it be. Give him space to keep what he wants in the house. If it's inappropriate, just make sure to have him keep it out of sight.
Mood swings- When he starts getting an attitude, keep a smile on your face. Don't let him spoil your good moods. If he wants to be pouty, go do something fun. I'm sure that this is a stressful time in his life (with the marriage and not knowing what he wants to do), so that could contribute to those mood swings. All you can do is stay calm and be sweet to him. If he wants to be in a bad mood then it's his loss.
Future- As long as he has a decent job and is bringing in money for support, I wouldn't worry about it. Let him make his own decisions and learn from his mistakes. I know it bothers you just because you want the best for him, but pushing him about it will only make things more miserable between you.
You can't stress over the things you can't change. You can either embrace them or get rid of the cause.
Hi, I have horizontal white stretch marks on my hips. i think it is because I grew taller quickly. Do you know what white stretch marks mean. Did i loos or gain weight. Did I grow taller quickly like I think? Also I REALLY want to get rid of them. i have been using BIO OIL for about a week now. What do you recommend I use? Have you used BIO OIL? If so what did you think? Thank you!
Stretch marks could be caused from a number of things; getting taller is one of them. No matter what the cause though, I know they are a pain. I've actually never heard of BIO OIL, but if that doesn't work out for you, I can recommend some products that will.
Mederma is a great scar cream. It takes a couple weeks to start seeing results, but it works wonders as long as you stick to it. The newer the scar is, the faster it works. You can get it at places like CVS or Walgreens.
Cocoa Butter lotion(s) are good for getting rid of / preventing stretch marks as well. There are many different kinds of cocoa butter out there, so it shouldn't be hard to find.
Just to start out that no the first letter is not long: Steve had to tell the CEO everything. He had to lay the cards on the table. You have to realize if Steve just mentioned what happened to him then he would have looked and sounded like a disgruntled employee. But by Steve telling the CEO what the ex-boss did to him as well as his ex-coworkers then it sounds more plausible. And the second one is a follow-up. The first time Steve sent the first letter to the office and then two months later to the CEO‘s home, but the second letter just went to the CEO’s home.. When the first letter went to the CEO’s home Yvette had a review and was put on warning. She changed for awhile and now she Is starting in again at times. So Steve decided to write the second letter (his ex-coworkers begged him to)
SECOND LETTER
April 15, 2008
Dear CEO
First I want to say that I am not saying I want any one fired. However, my ex-coworkers asked me to write another letter to you. My ex-coworkers would like Yvette transferred due to the fact Yvette is still harassing both staff as well as the clientele.
A few of my ex-coworkers told me that the Bank Branch wishes to hire another teller. However, each applicant that comes into the branch refuses to accept the position as soon as they learn they will be working for Yvette. To quote what the applicants say: “Oh no not Yvette. I refuse to work with or for Yvette. Yvette has made so much trouble in the other branches she has worked in I don’t need the stress of working for or with Yvette” And my ex-coworkers are telling me that she is not putting in her 40 hour week, that Yvette is still leaving the branch but not for business reasons pertaining to the Bank.
I am not saying terminate Yvette. But what I am asking for is to transfer Yvette to a Non-Supervisory position where Yvette is doing just paper work as well as being supervised on a day-to-day basis. Yvette is the type of employee that needs day-to-day supervision. From what I read in magazines and on the Internet XYZ is one of the top 100 companies to work for. Yvette is souring XYZ’s reputation of being one of the best companies to work for due to the fact she is making all of my ex-coworkers work life dismal.
Please look into this situation. THIS GENUINELY IS A CRITICAL ISSUE. XYZ One doesn’t need an employee who is going to harass staff.
Thank you
Steve
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FIRST LETTER
December 22, 2007
RE: Yvette - Branch Manager
Dear Mr. CEO (New Company):
First I want to say I was looking forward to being part of the New Company. But due to the fact that Yvette was trying (and succeeded in getting me) fired I will not be able to be a part of the New Company family. AND NO I AM NOT A DISGRUNTLED EMPLOYEE. Yvette has a way of twisting and turning the truth and deceiving the higher ups (Old company higher ups*). Also Yvette is supposed to come in early and stay until closing. Yvette comes into work at 9AM and leaves every day at 3PM or 4PM to go home - Eastern Standard Time.. Yvette never does any work, Yvette passes the buck to everyone else in the branch but takes all the credit.
Here are some things she has done to customers and my coworkers (including me) :
(1) I was safe deposit attendant. Even though my background is managerial. One customer (male) came into the branch to go into his box. I signed him in and he and I retrieved his box from the vault. When he went into the coupon room he realized that his cousin (male) was waiting on the banking floor. He asked me if I could watch his box while he would go and get his cousin. I told him that I could not do this but I could go and get his cousin, which I did. As his cousin was walking to the coupon room Yvette ran after him. And as the coupon door closed, Yvette knocked on the door and asked the cousin if he was on the signature card for the safe deposit box. The cousin said no he wasn’t so Yvette kicked him out of the room. Of course the cousin and my customer was upset. I decided on my own to check with Retail Operations and they told me that only the person who is on the signature card can retrieve the box but that person can bring in as many people as they want into the coupon room.
(2) And one couple came in with their five year old daughter to go into their safe deposit box. The daughter held my hand the entire time she was at our branch and walked with me wherever I went. Yvette said to me in a nasty tone of voice: "You are not allowed to walk with her" The couple was upset because every time they came into our branch and I gave their daughter my undivided attention she came out of her shell and made many friends at school.
(3) Yvette told one of my coworkers when Yvette and the coworker had a disagreement that this coworker needs to go to THE Behavioral health. And Yvette printed out and handed to my coworker two pages off the Internet from the THE Behavioral Health website on who to contact at Cigna Behavioral Health.
(4) About three weeks ago Susan (one of our Assistant Branch Managers) was at the branch managing alone, Yvette left early to go home. And our coffee machine was broken so I told one of my coworkers I was going next door on my break to get coffee. Susana was looking for me . I came back about 10 to 15 minutes later and Susana comes running over and tells me I need permission to go out. We snapped at one another. Susana told Yvette what happened and instead of Yvette ignoring it or saying why don’t you and Steve work it out or the three of us could sit down and talk she called me in to her office with Susan and wrote me up and threatened me. When I said to her how come you are not writing up Susana and telling her the same thing.. Yvette said oh I am dealing with her. I said to her well if you wrote her up and are dealing with her the same way you are dealing with me then let me see the document that Susana has to sign concerning this incident and she said “Don’t worry I am dealing with her” I don’t think there was a document. How come I was singled out and Susan got off scott free.
(5) Then this past Monday because I did not stand across the street to watch my coworker open the branch because it was bitterly cold outside that is when Yvette wrote me up and terminated me. She twisted and turned the incident to the Old Company higher ups and my side was never asked. AND THE ONLY REASON I WAS THERE THAT EARLY IS BECAUSE OUR BRANCH HAS A WEEKLY MONDAY MORNING MEETING OTHERWISE I WOULD BE THERE AT 8:30AM. AND NO ONE IN MY BRANCH WANTS THIS MEETING EXCEPT Yvette.
(6) About two weeks ago in the morning I asked Yvette if her scotch tape dispenser needs scotch tape and she replied: I am a grown woman I don't need any one asking me if I need scotch tape. Let me tell you on a professional level I am here just to work.
(7) My coworkers are so afraid to have conversations with one another because they are so afraid that Yvette is going to say something or write them up.
(8) CUSTOMERS ARE CLOSING THEIR ACCOUNTS LEFT AND RIGHT AND OPENING THEM UP IN OTHER BANKS (I.E. HSBC, CITIBANK, ETC) IN OUR AREA. And the reason is because they do not like the way Yvette treats them.
(9) Last year the our Branch was closing at 3PM due to the fact the computers were being upgraded. Due to the fact that I did not know we had to stay a little later I told my mom that I would pick her up at 3:30PM. Yvette told me around 2 to 3PM I could not leave early I had to wait until everyone left. I told her I made arrangements to pick my mom up at a bus stop and there wasn’t any way I could get in touch with my mom. Yet that day Yvette left at 3:15PM. My mother at the time was 80 years old. Priscilla (our other Assistant Manager) was kind enough to let me leave to go get my mom. Priscilla said to me and (and told Yvette the next day) “Steves mother is 80 How can Steve leave his 80 year old mother on the street corner.”
(10) A few months ago Yvette yelled at one my coworkers in front of a customer. This coworker is a teller and she had a customer at her window. And then not to long ago Yvette told this coworker of mine that this coworker is very unprofessional. Please keep in mind this coworker is the most professional person I know and she is quieter than a church mouse trying to avoid a cat.
You have to understand something I have tried (in the past) to talk to the higher ups at Old Company, even Old Company Human Resources but they always take her side. Telling me to mind my own business. And the kicker is after this happened I was told by the Old Company higher ups I should have come to the Old Company higher ups and my coworkers should have gone to them as well. In the past my coworkers were going to talk to the Old Company higher ups but didn’t because nothing would have been done. The Old Company higher ups think Yvette is right and we are wrong. Yvette has made trouble in the other branches she used to work at. One person that worked with her at another branch said “Thank God she is no longer at our branch”.
I really think I was fired unjustly when my side was not even asked. Yvette plays judge and jury and hands down a verdict and deceives the Old Company higher ups into thinking she is right and the staff is wrong and are dim-witted.
The reason Old Company (not New Company) said that I was terminated was because this past Monday when the branch was to be opened I said that I would not be the lookout because it was cold outside. I think this is unfair to fire me because of this. I was told that I put my life and the person opening the branch at risk.. And this was reviewed by Old Company HR Counsel, and Old Company HR Counsel decided to terminate me without even speaking to me. Instead of being fired the individuals who know how to open a branch should have said “Steve lets sit down and go over the procedure for the future. First of all I really do not know branch opening and closing procedures. KEEP IN MIND HR WOULD NOT HAVE KNOW ABOUT THIS IF Yvette WOULD HAVE JUST SAT DOWN WITH ME AND GONE OVER THE PROCEDURES WITH ME.
ALSO I SINGLE HANDLEY ORGANIZED THE ENTIRE BRANCH. I ALPHABETIZED ALL THE SIGNATURE CARDS (SAFE DEPOSIT SIGNATURE CARDS AS WELL AS THE SIGNATURE CARDS BEHIND THE TELLER AREA) ; I ORGANIZED THE BUSINESS FILES IN THE FILE CABINETS, I ORGANIZED THE STORAGE ROOM.
Thanks for reading and please HAVE A REPRESENTATIVE FROM NEW COMPANY MEET WITH EVERY EMPLOYEE IN THE BRANCH. DO NOT GO BY THE OLD COMPANY HIGHER UPS AND Yvette THEY WILL ONLY TWIST AND TURN HOW SHE TREATS THE STAFF.
Sincerely,
Steve
Ok I read through everything, but there appears to be no question. What exactly did you need help with?
Ok, i am going to sign up for a facbook but i dont want everyone to see my full name on there. I set my profile to private but i think everyone can still see your name even if it is set to private. What do i do?
A lot of my friends set their name to only their first and middle names, or their first names and last initials.
Your friends will still be able to find you and you won't be revealing your last name to strangers.
imagine this fun happy spirited girl who runs around and doesn't give a flip =] she likes meeting people and can make conversation with people easily. but then when she finds out a guy likes her, its like she gets all nervous. she pretty much loses all of her spunk that probably attracted the guy in the first place. but she finds it hard to trust the guy in a way, and his intentions. either shes afraid or she just hasn't had enough experience with guys. but she wishes she could show him who she really is. because he told her friend that he liked this girl and they've been hanging out together once a week for the last few weeks. they even kissed once =]. but she needs help letting loose. she needs to get her groove back hahaha. i bet you all love how this question is all hypothetical. thanx =]]]
Wow, this girl sounds like this one girl I know... hypothetically speaking of course. ;)
Eventually, I convinced this girl to relax and be herself. I told her not to be afraid to speak her mind. As Dr. Seuss once said, "Always say what's on your mind. The one's that mind don't matter and the one's that matter don't mind."
So that girl I know was never able to date anyone because she just felt so nervous and uncomfortable around any guy that got close to her. But one day, this boy came along. He was hurt by one of her friends and she nursed his broken heart. Eventually, that girl grew to like that boy. She waited and waited for that nervous feeling to come, but it never did. Something was different about him. They are still together today. :)
Back to the girl you know...
Like you said, that guy probably likes the girl because of how awesome she is. And if she tries so hard but no matter what she cannot open up around that guy, then he is probably not the one for her. If she really wants it to work, she will find a way to make it happen in time. Before then, she should be friends with the guy and get to know him better. Once she knows the guy better, I am sure she can open up around him a lot more.
19/f
My boyfriend always thinks I'm cheating on him. In reality, I haven't even spoken to a male in about a year (besides my dad).
He has his reasons because I cheated on around a year ago, but I guess he doesn't understand that I've changed. He is severely paranoid. If I don't answer my phone but call back less than ten minutes afterwards, he assumes I was with a guy. He always asks where I am, who I'm with, and I have to tell him where I'm going all the time (that is, IF I ever go anywhere).
The thing is, it's like he won't let me break up with him. When we first started going out, we would break up all the time and get back together. He thinks it's always going to be this way. It seems like the only way this will end is if one of us dies (that may sound like I'm going to kill him but I assure you that's not what I'm saying!)
The only other way I see this is if I were to cheat on him, because he would never cheat on me. After all these years, I'm surprised he hasn't. But I don't want to cheat on him! I love him so much, but I'm so tired of being in a relationship. Just looking a guy makes me sick. I can't do this anymore.
Well, yesterday he was upset with me as usual, so I just shut my phone off all day. He assumed that I was cheating on him.
I know this isn't the right way to go, but it seems like the only way out. BUT I don't want him to believe a lie, thinking that I cheated on him.
Then again, I don't want to go through all the effort of trying to convince him. I'm just sick and tired of it. In my heart, I want to be with him, but I know he won't change. I can't live like this anymore (no, I'm not suicidal).
Maybe we'll have a chance together in the future, but we probably won't be the same people as we used to be. Plus, I'm a jealous person by nature, and I will go crazy if he is with other people.
So, how do I go about this? Or what would you do if you were me in this situation?
Thanks in advance.
I'm glad you are deciding to end this relationship. Once that trust is gone, the relationship could never last. Your guy thinks he has legitimate reasons to worry, so he's going to keep worrying no matter what you tell him.
Sit him down and tell him everything you told us. Tell him you're tired of having to prove yourself after having done nothing wrong. Tell him he is smothering you with his constant neediness and insecurities. Like you said, he'll assume that you are cheating on him, but you don't have to prove yourself. Tell him you're done whether he wants to believe you or not.
I know that this break up will make things better for BOTH of you. You don't have to deal with all the phone calls, you can actually go out and have fun, and you can talk to another guy without him freaking out. Meanwhile, he doesn't have to constantly check up on everything you're doing.
Stay strong. If he tries to get back together like you said, tell him your mind has been made and that's that.
Good luck and I really hope every thing turns out all right.
My period hasn't be regular for more then two months at a time.
But this is my second regular month since I actually started having my period. Well that I can remember.
But my period is really dark this time.
I'm pretty positive it isn't healthy.
And mostly all week during it I have extremely painfull cramps.
I'm only on my second day this month tho, and I haven't had that bad of cramps, and It's pretty lite.
Anything would help.
Your period can be all sorts of colors. Anything from orangeish to black. Cramps are normal, as I'm sure you know. Try taking some aleve and use a heating pad. It really helps. I recommend getting those flat, sticky heating pads so you can wear one all day.
I'm assuming you're pretty young, and you have to face the fact that you're going to have irregular periods for awhile until your body is done growing.
I really don't see any cause for concern, but that's always up to you to decide. Why not make a doctor's appointment just to be safe? Perhaps you can ask for some type of birth control so you can control your cramps and make your periods more regular.
ok im boyfriends 18 and im gonna be 16 nd lately ive been thinking hes like cheating on me or something cause he works out after school till 5 and we were suppose to hangout after sometime then and i asked him when were gonna hangout and he said ill let you know what time and im like ok and then like an hour passes and im like i bet you dont even wanna hangout with me and he got all pissy and hes like whateve if you think that then we wont hangout and im ok whatever and then i said sorry later caue i wanted to see him and he told me he would come pick me up after he ate and i guess he went out to eat but idk with who and im thinking its a girl.. but i just dont wanna assume things and then ruin our relationship and then he came and hungout with me at like 10 and im like um ok. and then today he asked me if i can hagout and i said maybe and he like kept telling me to make sure i let him know if we can. and im gguessing its cause he wants to do something else? and right now hes not talking to me and i know hes out.
and like the other night i saw like picture comments from gils saying oh i love you youre so sexy and stuff and i really didnt know waht to do
so i told him how i felt about that and hes no i love you and only want you fuck any other girl so im like ok i feel bette but lately i have this feeling and idk what to do
so help me pleaseeee.!
You need to stop and ask yourself if you really trust this guy. Has he ever done something like this before to you or any of his other girlfriends?
Next time he's at the gym, surprise him with a water bottle and a sandwich there. Tell him you were thinking of him and you just wanted to be sweet. Hopefully, he won't be there with another girl or anything.
When you talk to him each day, ask "So what are you doing today?" If he doesn't give you a straight answer, assume he isn't doing anything and invite him to do something. If he shoots you down without a clear reason, he's probably hiding something.
Since you already told him how you were feeling and he denied it, all you can do is sit back and keep trying to be a good girlfriend. Trust him and let things flow for awhile. As long as you are sweet to him, there's no reason why he shouldn't be the same for you. All guys need their privacy once in awhile.
After a couple weeks, if you still feel the same, you should talk to him again. Don't flat out accuse him of cheating, but tell him how you feel. Say, "I feel like you're never around anymore. You're always off doing other things and you never include me. I want to be a bigger part of your life. It upsets me not only that you don't include me, but you never even bother to tell me what you're up to."
And take things from there.
Good luck and I hope everything works out.
well ive been going out with this guy for 6 days.
But we like eachother and he met my parents, who think hes a really nice and great guy.
so we talk to eachother a lot. I hung out with him yesterday. And i really want for him to kiss me. Please dont say hes not a good boyfriend for not kissing me yet, i mean its only been 6 days.
So what are some ways i can either
1)flirt with him to make him understand.
2) Make him realize i want to kiss him/ have him kiss me.
3) Have him kiss me.
Thanks in advance.
-Arie(:
There are lots of ways to get a guy to kiss you.
Whenever you are alone with him, stand close to him. Be touchy feely (but not overly). Hold his hand, put your arm around his waist, lean into him, etc. Whatever you feel comfortable doing.
While talking to him, keep your face semi close to his. While he is talking, glance from his eyes to his lips back and forth a few times. This will send him lots of signals.
Be subtle, but cute. He won't be able to resist.
I've noticed that this month, i have been very tired. I sleep enough, i wake up. But, everytime I get to doing schoolwork, I feel sleepy. I'm getting distracted form my school work, too. It's so hard for me lately to study for tests (I go well). I want to be able to concentrate more so any tips?
Any tips to help me concentrate or focus would be great!
That sounds to me like stress. A little motivation might help. Try doing homework with a friend. When you have tests, quiz each other with note cards. If not, try making an organized schedule to balance schoolwork and time for yourself.
Do an hour of homework and then do something for yourself. Take a nap. Watch TV. Etc. Then go back and do homework for another hour.
If you feel yourself getting distracted or sleepy, don't fight it. Just go do something else for a little bit and then jump back into homework.