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I'm almost 19 years old and everytime I have sex it still hurts. Not to sound weird but its like the first 4 inches dont hurt but as it goes in more it does. I've had it about 20+ times and tried different positions. Has this ever happened to anyone else or does anyone know why this still hurts?
well, personally no, i've never had sex so obviously i've never had that problem. i know this won't be the best answer you get, but you haven't gotten any yet, so i will offer what information i have. Infection, inflamation and allergies can all cause painful insertion. however, your situation seems more constant than any of these, but that also depends on how recently you started having sex (is this 20+ times over the course of 4 years or 2 months?...if it has all been within a short period of time, then the above may still be possibilities). another possibility is that if you are a small person, you are simple not big enough to accommodate a large penis. this is more likely if you have had only one or few partners, who are well endowed. On the first site i listed, it states that most vaginas are only 4 inches long...which may in fact be your issue. If you care to search to find more specifically what sounds like your situation, i've listed a few web sites, or you can try your own luck at google.
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_faqs13.htm
http://www.ivenus.com/relationships/healing/SR-sexualhealing-wk35.asp
http://www.pdrhealth.com/content/women_health/chapters/fgwh09.shtml
hope i helped
OK I am a little young but please take this seriously! My best guy friend, he's 13, his dad died today. He has a heart attack =( well I know he probably doesn't want to talk to me yet but how can I comfort him. I really don't know how to appraoch him. I might write hima letter tellign him how much he means to me and how special hsi dad was... is that a good start? Any ideas.... I want to make this as easy as I can for him. Thanks for your time.
my dad had a heart attack when i was 12, and for me, when i wasn't ready to talk about things, was when i needed a friend the most. now, your friend might be different so i can't promise you that he's thinking the same things i did...but i think you're letter is a really good idea. personally, just because i didn't want to talk about it, didn't mean i was trying to push people away. there's a huge difference in talking out your feelings, and being comforted by someone who loves you, and that's probably what he needs right now more than anything. don't smother him, or bring up things you think will make him cry, but instead try to treat him as the best friend you know and care about, and try to make him smile by just being yourself around him and not pitying him, or bringing up his dad, but still being sensitive to all the pain he's going through. also, remember that time heals everything and he may be exactly right, that he isn't ready to talk about it yet, and just needs some alone time to pull through this on his own. he's you're best friend, if you give him the letter and just start trying to be his friend like you always have been, you should know him well enough to read his body language and decide what helps him the most. i hope i helped, leave me one in my inbox if you have any more questions
Me and this girl Katie hung out all weekend. She wanted me to come over, but I had to wait till 3:30 (its wus 11:30 at the time) another girl Jessica called me and Katie to go to the pool, but Katie couldn't go b/c her parents couldnt drive hur to Jessica's house. So me and Jessica went to the pool and I feel bad for blowing off Katie, what should I do?
well, you probably shouldn't have blown katie off since she invited you first. you could have either given katie a ride, or asked katie if jessica could come over and the 3 of you could have hung out at katie's house. if that wasn't alright, and katie could only have you come over, you would need to politely tell jessica that you can't go with her to the pool. however, if its too late for any of that, and you already blew katie off, there's nothing left to do but apologize to her and try to make it up to her and hope that she forgives you and isn't mad.
ok im 13 and im sort of dating this 16 year old for a while we have been close and like his friend is going out with my frie so we go places with each other. well i get out of school on the 24 and we were all going to walk to there house and hang out there but ive never been to his house b for do you think i should go remember he's 16 and im 13.?
honestly, you don't sound like you're comfortable with going. you're asking complete strangers for advice on the situation, and reminding us of the age difference...sounds to me like something in you is telling you its a bad idea. from knowing nothing more about either of you than your ages, and nothing at all about your personalities, or your past relationships, and other determining factors, it is very difficult to guess whether or not you're about to put yourself in a dangerous situation or not. Just because he is 3 years older than you doesn't necessarily mean he's not going to respect you and force you into doing things you don't want to be doing. there are most definitely a good number of trustworthy 16 year olds in the world...but at the same time, there are plenty of guys eager to take advantage of girls who they believe are vulnerable. you need to ask yourself if this is a good idea, and what your parents opinions are (or what their opinions would be, if you're sneaking behind their backs...which should be a red flag in itself) and make this judgement based on your relationship with these guys, and how well you can take care of yourself if things do go wrong. hope i helped
Alrighty... well I'm 14 and I weigh 90lbs and I'm about 5'2"! Well I can find some pants that fit me in my thighs.. I usually go for 0s but I have to find the ones with really skinny legs so they will fit tight on me! I wish my thighs were bigger.. and if I like try to eat fatty foods I'm sure that it won't all go to my thighs, so.. I wanted to make them more muscular so they can fit tightly in all my pants! What are some exersizes I could do to make my thighs bigger? It's almost summer break and I was thinking I'd want to go into 10th grade and have more muscular legs..so I could work on it! Any ideas? Thanks in advance
first of all, maybe you're just way luckier than i am, but i'm 15, 90 lbs, about 5'2" and i'd love to have smaller thighs...among other things. Having small thighs is definitely not something i think i would want to get rid of, but since you seem so set on it, i would suggest not eating fatty foods so often, but instead working out and eating more carbs and proteins which help to build muscles. going for a run, and following it with a protein shake or even just a burger (meat has protein, bread has carbs) would do a lot more than sitting in front of the tv eating fatty foods. hope i helped
ok so people keep thinking im in like 10th/11th grade when im only in 7th(im 13) and its really weird and it just started happening like a month ago...and these older guys will try to pick me up..and when they ask my age and i say 13 they go...ur kidding right? i know this should be like a good thing but its kinda creeping me out
well...i can't say i know how you feel because i'm almost 16 and i'm still constantly offered kid's menu's at restaurants. but, i can tell you this, if you're with friends who all look like your real age...you probably won't be mistaken for being much older, and if you're with your family you most likely won't be hit on...so just go with power in numbers and it should happen a lot less. other than that, maybe less makeup, if that's affecting how old you look. if all else fails, just tell off all the pervs that hit on you, and remember that eventually you'll be as old as you look, and then it'll only be a good thing that everyone wants you!
how do you get sunburn to go away really really fast please dont say aloe b/c i pur that on and its not helping that well and i have a really bad sunburn and i have a dance on saturday and i dont need to peel either!!!
sorry to tell you, but aloe really does work wonders. but the trick is to wash it off with a shower each day and gently with a wash rag in the afternoon before you re-apply it because if you let the aloe build up in layers it actually works against you and traps the heat. The aloe will be best for reducing peeling as well, so keep doing what you're doing and your sunburn will heal as fast as possible. sorry but sunburns are severe and damaging burns, there's no magical cream to get rid of them overnight. hope i helped
ok, after everytime i masterbate, i feel really, really guilty...i wounder what my girlfriend would say if she had found out, i feel like it is a complete sin, and after everytime i do that, i feel that God punishes me, but he doesnt seem to punish other people i know do it... what should i think? is it ok, or should i try to stop?? HELP!!
i know you've already gotten nearly 30 responses so i'm sure anything by now seems overwhelmingly redundant, but i felt i had something to add. A vast majority (though not all) of the postings you received gave you generalizations about how "everyone does it". who cares whether everyone does or if you're all alone? if you feel guilty, then don't do it. But there are medical benefits from masturbating, and your girlfriend would probably notice through your moods and behavior if you ever stopped, even if she didn't know what caused the change. Not having ever masturbated, or been a guy, i can't tell you whether or not you should stop, and what the effects will be of either decision. but i can tell you this, my boyfriend told me he masturbates a few months ago, and it didn't really bother me. i'd rather him do that than be an angry uptight jerk all the time because of sexual tension or...whatever. but if your girlfriend is helping to relieve some of that tension, and she doesn't feel like you need to masturbate because of what she's doing to help that situation, then not stopping is somewhat of a slap in the face saying "yeah...you're ok, but my hand's better." so, consider your individual situation...ignore whichever advice doesn't make you happy, including mine if that's the case...and do whatever you think is best.
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well, i recently broke up with my boyfriend. before we broke up, we told each other that even if we did brake up, we still wanted to be friends. it has been almost a week since we broke up and the jerk won't even talk to me. i have tried talking to him, being as nice as i possibly can under the circumstances. what is up with this? is he taking time and wasting away what we could have or does he not want anything to do with me? thanks in advance.
signed
confused & ready to kill the dude
it hasn't even been a week, give the guy some time to heal. it looks like you're not entirely ready to be his friend yet either, considering you referred to him as "the jerk" and you said you were ready to kill him. if you keep forcing your frienship on him while he's still hurting, it will drive him away forever. but if you wait a month, or two months, or however long it takes for both of you to truely get over what you had and move on, then try to calmly rebuild your friendship. even then, you may not be able to be friends just because of your past relationship, but your best bet is to give him some room to breathe and try again later. time heals all! hope i helped
How bad is it that I hate my husband's parents and they hate me? Will this ruin my marriage?
ever seen everybody loves raymond? that's just about exactly the same situation, unless you're husband's father is also against you. but reguardless, it is not very bad, and no it won't ruin your marriage unless you let it. if you handle the situation maturely and try to accept the fact that they're your family now and you're going to have to tolerate them. if you're in love you can most definitely overcome your problems with the in-laws. and if not, you can always opt for a sitcom. hope i helped! (sans the sarcasm)
my friend is goin out with the guy i like and my other best friend likes him. how can i win him over the other 2?i rate high.
p.s. the other 2 girls are mad at me for certain reasons
your friend is going out with him, she already won. you can wait your turn and hope that he likes you next, and maybe try to date him then, but you lost round 1, he's not going to be impressed by you trying to sabotage their relationship, and if he is impressed he probably isn't someone worth you guys fighting over. my friend always says "bros before hoes" when trying to get my boyfriend to hang out with him...it goes the other way too. you need friends first, try to patch things up with them, not steal her boyfriend.
ok my mom like dosent trust me 1 bit at all and i really need to ask a questio on here but.. my mom puts like these tracker things on my computer she can read everything i do on here anything i type and stuff like that anywhere i go on the computer.. so .. i want to ask everyone a question on here but if i asked my mom would read it and i would get in sooo much trouble i really need an answer thought but i still dont want to get in trouble
then can't she read this?...and know you have a question she won't want you to be asking?...and if so, she's either mad at you by now...or doesn't really check up on you, and you should go ahead and ask your question. right?
I'm 17/and female..and lately, I haven't had ANY crushes..in like 2 years! Is this normal??? Also, ever since 7th grade, I haven't felt anything when I masturbated..why is that?!!??!
don't worry about not having any crushes, there just hasn't been anyone you've run into lately that's "crush worthy"...about the masterbating thing...a lot of women can't orgasm until their very late teens, 20s or sometimes even 30s. do you still masterbate even though you don't feel anything? if so...you might wanna stop, because you're going to loosen yourself up a lot for no particular reason. also, one last note, in my personal experience/opinion...its a lot different when a guy does it instead of yourself...it'll probably be much more enjoyable when its the real deal. hope i helped.
does anyone know the Title and who sings this song?!?!? it goes something like
"so that's what you call a get away, what exactly did you get away with..bc i've seen more spine in a jellyfish, and more guts in an eleven yr old kid"
thankssss, i rate =)
seventy times 7 by brand new. for future reference, type a section of lyrics on this page http://www.lyricalcontent.com/phrase.php and you won't have to ask us.
Does anyone have any tips for swallowing pills? I have some pills from my doctor for a bronchidal infection, and they were huge, I had to cut them up into fourths, yet they still are tough to get down. Tips or tricks?
practice with m&ms...and the best drink for forcing down pills is a carbonated drink with a straw. put the pill on your tongue then take a big sip, sucking on the straw along with the bubbles in the drink will help the pill slide down your throat with no trouble at all.
I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?
hun, sounds like she's got a lot of issues. you shouldn't have gotten mixed up in that, but you did, and you need to get out. anyone who wants you to physically harm yourself is not anyone to consider having sex with. or having a relationship with. please get out now!
My friend told me that if you rub vegetable oil on your skin and then go outside and lay in the sun you'll get a really nice tan. Is this true? Has anyone ever tried it? Does it work?
your friend is right, you'll definitely find evidence of the sun on your skin if you lay out covered in vegetable oil, or baby oil, or any sort of oil. That's why they make tanning oil, but they add sunscreen because with the sun baking you while you're covered in oil, you'll probably get pretty burned. So yes, it will work, but i'd recommend tanning oil with a low spf rather than vegetable oil so that you don't end up looking like a tomato. hope i helped! ♥
When you are making out with a boy (yes I am a girl) where do you put your hands? Where does he put his. When making out what do you do with your hands? sorry i just want to know if you answer this with a good answer I will rate a 5
yeah...everyone who answered you is exactly right, it generally comes naturally. especially if its your first time to make out, you're so busy thinking about the new and AMAZING feeling going on with your mouths, that the hands end up going forgotten and they'll naturally end up where they're supposed to go...and when you start making out a little more heavily...you'll know instinctively what feels right. don't worry about the do's and don'ts of making out...just have fun. hope i helped! ♥
i was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend being mean to me all the time when a certain guy came to school, well he was so nice to me today and the day before ever since i talked to him he has been nice to me and actually tells me he loves me and holds my hand and kisses me in public.. he told my friend he wouldnt know what to do if he lost me.. does this mean he is chaging his ways
well...seeing as i'm having the exact same problem, and have been for the past two months...i'll be cynical and say you might wanna keep watching how he acts and see how long the change lasts. in my personal experience...it was about 4 days. I'm not saying he hasn't changed, maybe your boyfriend honestly changed that quickly and means every bit of it...pay attention to the things he doesn't conciously attempt to do (such as hand holding and kissing) instead watch the way he talks to you, or things he says to others, and his general attitude...if these things aren't any different...odds are he's just trying to make sure you stick around, and isn't trying to be a better person for you. hope i helped.
I have been going out with this one guy for a LONG TIME, but the problem is I've started liking somebody else. I like this other guy more than my boyfriend, but I'm not sure if this guy likes me. I don't want to just break up with my boyfriend for no reason, but I really like this other guy...Its so confusing me. What should I do?
breaking up with your boyfriend should be based upon your relationship with him. if that certain spark or whatever isn't there anymore, then you shouldn't go out with him for the sake of holding on to what you have, it'll only hurt you both later on. however, don't go dump your boyfriend tomorrow if you have a good relationship with him over a crush you developed a few days ago, only to realize in the end that your boyfriend meant a lot more to you. sorry that this isn't much help, but your final decision really has to come down to your evaluation of your personal relationships, none of us can do that for you. hope i helped!