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Death
OK I am a little young but please take this seriously! My best guy friend, he's 13, his dad died today. He has a heart attack =( well I know he probably doesn't want to talk to me yet but how can I comfort him. I really don't know how to appraoch him. I might write hima letter tellign him how much he means to me and how special hsi dad was... is that a good start? Any ideas.... I want to make this as easy as I can for him. Thanks for your time.
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my dad died when i was 13, so i know how he feels... yes, it is a sensitie subject to talk to him about, but in time he will want to talk about it more, i promise... but to send him a card or a note and say how much he means to you and that you are thinking about him means alot, although you may not know what to say, just a simple way of letting him know that he is in your thoughts and prayers can say so much... *hope i helped*
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I think the letter thing is an excellent idea. A couple of weeks ago I had a friend commit suicide.So I wrote a letter to his little sister and his older brother. In the letter I basically showed my undying love for them as well as my contiuous presence. Just let him know you'll always be there. Constantly by his side, day or night, even at 3 in the morning( trust me it may get to that)It will mean bunches to him. GOOD LUCK!!!
Lauren
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well when i was lil my dad died and i was really close to him... i didn't want to talk to anyone all i did was sit in my room and cry.. it just dependes though... you can sit him down and tell him how you really feel and i know it's hard bc i had to do that with one of my best friends when her sister died... i know it's goin to be hard for him but the best thing is to let him know that you are there for him no matter what.. if thats how you feel.. i hope i helped!
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my dad had a heart attack when i was 12, and for me, when i wasn't ready to talk about things, was when i needed a friend the most. now, your friend might be different so i can't promise you that he's thinking the same things i did...but i think you're letter is a really good idea. personally, just because i didn't want to talk about it, didn't mean i was trying to push people away. there's a huge difference in talking out your feelings, and being comforted by someone who loves you, and that's probably what he needs right now more than anything. don't smother him, or bring up things you think will make him cry, but instead try to treat him as the best friend you know and care about, and try to make him smile by just being yourself around him and not pitying him, or bringing up his dad, but still being sensitive to all the pain he's going through. also, remember that time heals everything and he may be exactly right, that he isn't ready to talk about it yet, and just needs some alone time to pull through this on his own. he's you're best friend, if you give him the letter and just start trying to be his friend like you always have been, you should know him well enough to read his body language and decide what helps him the most. i hope i helped, leave me one in my inbox if you have any more questions <3
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I had a friend of mine's mom pass away a few weeks ago. And my choir teacher told me that no matter what you have to try not to cry. Because he needs your shoulder to cry on, not you to cry on his. And what you thought was an awesome idea! I would so write him a letter about how much he means to you. Most of all though, let him know you care. Let him know that you're always going to be there for him no matter what the problem is. He'll thank you for that.
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Try giving him a hug, that usually helps. Don't say anything, just give him a long warm hug.
hope i helped!
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thats good to show that you care! atleast he is your best guy friend and he will understand if it doesnt come out right! just tell him how you honestly feel and he will understand!!
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First I think that writing him a letter would be a GREAT start.. he will appreciate it so much! You can also make him a card.. or if you have any pictures of him and his dad you can give them too him too.. it might make him sad.. but its important for him to remember how awesome of a dad he had. Just make sure your there for him and that he knows that your there for him.. But trust me.. he will love the letter just because he knows you care.
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