Although I am only 18 I have been through more than most adults have. If you have any questions about drugs, suicide, or family problems then I can help you out a lot. I've had to deal with all of that and I want to try and help people before they get as involved in it as I was. I will try to understand your situation the best that I can and give the best advice that I can. So ask me anything and I will answer you.
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ok so, my moms phone is broken and my dad said if i can convince her to take my phone, i can have a better one. I was wondering how i could convince her.. (link)
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Try stressing how important it is for her to have a cell phone. Say things like what happens if your car breaks down and you need a ride? and What happens if you're on your way home from work and I need to contact you about something? or What if there's an emergency and we need to contact you? These things should convince her to take your phone. Can she know that your dad will get you a better phone? If so then tell her what your dad told you. If not and she's concerned about you not having a phone tell her that you can use a friends phone if you need to contact someone of need to be contacted.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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;;well for starters.. i think i might like my best guy friend. We get along so well &&__ could honestly talk for hours on end. He's always there when i need a laugh or just a hug. However___ he does drugs.. & drinks. but not all the time, but to the point where it gets out of hand at times.. :-( i really am stuck. All my friends think he likes me. but he always babbles on about this girl from arrowhead, but his friends say he does that just to make me jealous.. {i would really love your opinions..}
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Ok the fact that you can talk to him about anything and he'll always be there for you is a very good thing not everyone has someone like that in their lives. Have you talked to him about his drug and drinking problems? I think that you should it sounds like you really care about him and that is very dangerous stuff believe me I know what it can do to a person. If he continues doing those things he could turn into a completely different person someone that you don't even know. If you can talk to him for hours it means that he enjoys talking to you. Nobody likes to talk to someone that they don't like for hours. From your description it sounds like he likes you but he could also like the other girl. You should talk to him and see how he feels. It can't hurt to talk and be honest with him.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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Me and this girl Katie hung out all weekend. She wanted me to come over, but I had to wait till 3:30 (its wus 11:30 at the time) another girl Jessica called me and Katie to go to the pool, but Katie couldn't go b/c her parents couldnt drive hur to Jessica's house. So me and Jessica went to the pool and I feel bad for blowing off Katie, what should I do? (link)
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Well you shouldn't have blown her off like that but you can't change that now so is Katie mad at you for blowing her off? If she is then you need to apologize tell her that you are very sorry and then hang out with her(if she wants to hang out with you) and don't blow her off again. Tell her how you feel bad about it and that you are very sorry that you blew her off. It will work out once she realizes that you are sorry and that you feel bad about what you did.
Good luck and I hope it works out
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ok my best friends (who is also my boyfriend)dad just recently passed away.i no its been hard for him but hes taken it so well, way better than i thought he would. i told him i was always there if he needed to talk to anyone about anything and he said he appreciated it.im kind of hesitant about talking to him about his dad or bringing it up but it seems like he sometimes wants to talk about it.he'll bring him up in our regular conversations and he'll write about him. the thing is, im not sure if he actually wants to DISCUSS about it or not.should i let him do the talking on this topic or talk about it w/him?because maybe he wants me to ask about it and maybe he enjoys talking aobut his dad but im not sure.... wut should i do? (link)
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He probably wants to talk about it but he doesn't want to start the convo. He probably doesn't know how It's hard to talk about someone that you've lost and it's a lot easier when someone enitiates the convo. The next time he mentions his dad try asking him how he's doing with that. For example say your talking about shoes or something and he says oh my dad used to like those shoes or my dad was going to get me those shoes just say how are you doing with that? Ask him if he's ok and if he needs to talk. He might say no and if he does then don't push it let him come out on his own. If he really wants to talk he will when you ask. Try going through this process a couple times but not everyday so that you don't seem pushy. This is a tough situation. Just make sure that he knows that you care and that you are there when he needs you.
Good luck and I hope things get better for your friend
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MY friend is nice, but everyone talks shit about her, it's so aggreivating to listen to people talk about her in study hall. It's awful. I've said stuff to them before, but that jsut makes them talk about her more. I want to tell her, because she has a right to know, and last time I mentioned someone said something she kind of wanted to know what they said. When I did tell her, she started crying and was upset. People who make my friends cry.....they make me get all....dSFHSZXFNDFN. What should I do? Tell her when people talk about her, or keep quiet and tell her no one is? (link)
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I think that she deserves to know but I can understand why you wouldn't want her too. If it were me I would want to know that people were talking about me but I wouldn't get upset about it so there's a difference. I think that you should keep sticking up for her she's your friend and that's the best thing to do but I think that you should only tell her if she asks. If she says was someone talking about me then say yes don't lie to your friend but tell her that you stuck up for her and then be there for her if she needs someone to cry on. If she doesn't ask then don't just say hey someone was talking shit about you today that will make the situation worse. Keep doing what you're doing by sticking up for her you are a good friend and she's lucky to have a friend like you.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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well my friend to,d me the other day that she tried cutting and she showed me the scar. i told her it was bad and everything..i was like yelling at her not to do it again and what it could do to a person. she told me she would never do it again and so far she hasnt i made her let me see her wrists..and i know there are other places that she could cut too like her stomach and stuff..but im not going ot do a full body search on her everyday and im really worried about her. she made me promise not to tell anyone else..but i told my other really good friend i know she won't tell because i know she would be worried about her too. i really dont want to do and i dont know if shes lying and is still cutting..and i don't want to tell anyone because it was just one time and if she really stopped i would feel bad she would be really mad if i told on her. she would never tell me anything else again and im scared i will loose her friendship. im really worried about her please help me i rate high**
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Ok I used to cut and if she did it most likely means that something stressful is going on in her life and she doesn't know how to deal with it. If she said she just tried it then she's not addicted to it so you don't have to worry about that yet. You should talk to her if there wasn't anything stressful going on then she might have just done it for attention and then you have nothing to worry about because she probably isn't cutting deep and it was just a one time thing. If there is something stressful going on that caused her to cut then you should talk to her about it. Tell her that there are other, healthier ways to deal with pain besides cutting and that you are there for her if she ever needs to talk. I wouldn't worry about it as long as she knows she can trust you then she will tell you if she cuts again and then you can talk to her. Making her promise you she won't will probably help that's what I did with my friend and it helped for a whil because I didn't want to break my promise. Just talk to your friend make sure she knows that you care about her and that she's worried and it will work out.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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There's this guy named Jeff and sometimes, he is soo nice and funny to me..but other times, he always tells me that I'm ugly..he says it in a "just kidding" voice but idk if he is being serious or if he really is just kidding. It hurts my feelings. What can I do? (link)
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Talk to him. He's probably just doing it to try and show off and be funny. A lot of people make fun of other people just to get a few laughs. That is probably the case here. Tell him that he's being an ass and that you don't like the way he acts sometimes. If he really cares and if your friend if he doesn't then you don't need him. You don't need someone to walk all over you and treat you like that. Talk to him and see what happens.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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ok well, theres this girl that like hates me and i didnt do anything to her! can anyone think of a reason why she hates me so much? shes really annoying, like shes pissed off at me because my best friend((whos a guy)) like loves me and he calls her a bitch all the time. Also another reason why i think she hates me is because me and her best friend have become really close, and shes mad. what can i do so i dont KILL her?
and also, i feel really bad because the best friend i was talking about earlier, he is sooooo good to me, he always sticks up for me and no matter how mad i think im making him he never gets mad at me, and when i told him i liked him a little while ago he still wanted to be around me. how can i get over it? (link)
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She's a bitch. She's probably jealous of you because you have two really good friends who obviously really care about you. The fact that you and her share the same friend causes some problems for you though. If your guy friend doesn't care that you two hate each other then I wouldn't worry about just try to keep out of the middle of things because that could ruin your friendship. You need to just try and avoid her the less you see and talk to her the less of a chance there is that you two will argue or fight or kill each other. I konw that that is easier said than done but you really need to try. It seems like you have good relationships with your friends and when they see that you are trying to avoid confrontation and a fight they will realize how childish she is acting and they stay by your side.
Good luck and I hope it works out
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ok there is this kid rick at my school that is touching me inappropriately and i've told him several times to stop it. well the other day he was definitely touching and i told him to stop me friend keith was near by so i yelled to him so he could tell rick to get off me. i yelled his name and he just turned around and said bye. keith claims that rick is just kidding around be he is not. i question if keith is my friend or not cause a friend wouldn't just leave you like that. i need help ASAP!!!! (link)
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Ok first what rick is doing is completely wrong and he has no right to violate you like that. You need to tell the school right away. That it sexual harrassment and he needs to be punished for it. As for keith you should talk to him. Tell him that you nkow that rick wasn't kidding around and that you really needed his help. Tell him that a real friend would have helped you and that you don't appreciate that at all. If he's really your friend thatn he will apologize and try to explain what he was thinking. Talk to him and if he acts like it wasn't a big deal and like you are overreacting then he's not really your friend and you don't need him.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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ok i have this friend...she was 12 when she got raped by her younger cousin who was 10. she never told anyone until now...and no1 else knows but me...i dont know what to do. should i tell someone b/c she still sees her cousin that raped her. she was smaller than him when she got raped and now shes bigger n he knows if he comes newhere near her shell kick his ass. i dont know whether to break her trust and tell someone or keep it to myself and let her tell someone. plz help (link)
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This is a really serious situataion. I know what she must have went through. I was raped and it took me a long time before I could talk about it. She must really trust you if she told you this. I wouldn't tell anyone. I dont' know how she is but I'm guessing that it was a few years ago because you said that she is bigger than him now. Here's what you should do. Talk to her about it. Let her know that you are there if she ever needs to talk (which it seems like she already knows) and that you think she should tell someone. If you tell someone she may feel betrayed and won't want to tell you things anymore. The best thing you can do is try and convince her to tell someone about it. You should also see how she's doing with all of this. Being raped is a horrible experience and it's traumatic. Some people handle thing differently though. YOu should see if she's comfortable now I mean with guys. Is she nervous about getting close to guys or being around them? If she is then she may need some counseling. I would recommend it even if she doesn't feel that way it's a good way for her to let her feelings out and not have worry about people finding out. If she doesn't want counseling then make sure she knows that she can always talk to you about these things. Please try and convince her to tell someone. If she doesn't he may try it again to another innnocent girl he shouldn't be allowed to get away with this. But it's her decision. Stress how important it is for her to tell someone even if it's just her mom or dad. Someone needs to know about this behavior.
Good luck and I hope that I helped
If you have any other questions or need any more advice you know where to find me. I hope things work out for you and your friend.
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okay so im best friends with this girl. we always get into really stupid fights and stuff and she ALWAYS talks about me behind my back, or even when im looking straight at her. tons of people in the school hate her and always ask me why im best friends with her. she also treats me like crap, uses me, and walks all over me...everybody tells me that. except for some reason i keep making plans with her. ive never really said anything bad about her, except when we got in this huge fight last week. i was talking with her on the phone with her boy-toy (this guy who shes obsessed with whos just usuing her) and then i say brb and i set down the phone and when i come back i hear her saying to him "omg shes so annoying she acts like 2 different people like when shes with me shes like omg i love you bff and then when shes around the popular people shes like eww i hate you" (and ive never done that...and its not like theyre the popular people we're really good friends) and then i confronted her about it the next day and she denied it, then i told one of my good friends (who hates her) the whole story, so she bitched her out for me...then she comes like storming into our class and tries to bitch ME out...and we made this huge scene so then we didnt talk for 2 days and everyones like to me good job she treated u like shit dont make up with her (even tho when we get in fights like we make up the next day) so then she called me like the night after our fight (it lasted a few days) and she was sobbing and like asking for forgiveness so im like ill think about it...then she was talking shit about me more the next day and i was just watching her and she knew i was watching so it pissed me off..so we kinda made up but we dont talk anymore..should i just forget her completely or start hanging with her again? (link)
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Just forget about her. You need someone to treat you like that. You obviously have friends who don't talk shit about you and are actually your friends you don't need her. Nobody needs friends like that. Obviously people know that because it sounds like a lot of people hate her. Honestly if I had a friend like that I would just tell her that I don't need someone to be a complete bitche to me and talk shit behind my back when they're supposed to be my friend. If she calls and does that apology crap again just be like no I don't want to hear it. You have tried you have stayed friends with and put up with her shit long enough it's time to move on and let her find someone new to treat like shit. You don't need someone like that in your life just remember that.
Good luck and I hope it all works out
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I went out with a guy Sept-Dec, and it ended very badly. I got really disinterested halfway through, but kept convincing myself I liked him, so I wouldn't have to deal with it. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore, and I basically started ignoring him. Not intentionally, it was just hard to pretend to be excited to see him. He only took about a week of this before he broke up with me. Even though I had wanted out, I was really sad, especially when I heard he was dating someone else. I got comepletely over it very quickly though.
A couple weeks into x-mas break, he called me and told me he'd screwed up really badly, and he asked me back out. I was totally disinterested by that point, so I flat-out said no. When school was back in, he wrote me a note about how he owed me an explanation and how he knew I said no the second time because he'd hurt me, and other similar bullshit. His ego just shined through so well. I wrote him a nasty letter explaining that I had said no because I didn't like him and for that reason only. I told him about how I actually lost interest halfway into the relationship. It was a pretty scary letter. We haven't spoken since.
I assumed he was over me by now. But the other day, I was talking to his good friend who told me that my exboyfriend still thinks he's in love with me. He says he thinks he screwed it up really bad, and he knows I hate him now. (not really true)
He's moving pretty far away right after school ends. I'd really like to talk to him face to face before then, but I don't know what to say, if anything. I'd like to apologize, and I'd like to clear the air. I don't know if it would do more harm than good, though. Suggestions? (link)
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I think you should deffinately talk to him. Tell him that you didnt' mean to be so nasty in the letters but you were being honest. Tell him that you weren't trying to mean or anything you just weren't interested. Try to stress that you are sorry for the way things turned out and for the way you acted. Just let all your feelings out and be honest. Even it doesn't work out it will make you feel better to know that you at least tried.
Good luck and I hope it all works out
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ok well i have like 3 questions
1) I wanna go to the movies with my best guy friend and see a scary movie with just the 2 of us so i can get closer to him, but how do i go about asking him but not making it sound like im interested in him?
2) When my mom takes me to the movie, shes gonna be bugging me about who im going with. Should i lie and tell her im going to see a happy movie with a bunch of girls and him so she doesnt hassal me?
3) This ones not related, its for my friend lycia. Well she really likes this boy donnie, but he likes her best friend and her best friend is starting to like him even though she has a boyfriend. She wants to tell him she likes him but she doesnt want it to get back to her best friend and she knows he'll tell her, she asked me to help her but i have no idea how.. any pointers? (link)
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Ok for your first question just say hey I want to go to a movie but I don't want to go with a bunch of people because it gets annoying. And you were wondering if he wanted to go with you. You could also say that there are a bunch of people going and then like the day before the movie tell him that a bunch of people aren't going and it's just going to be you two.
Well if you tell her that you are going with a friend that's a guy will she flip out and not let you go? If the answers yes then you should just say I'm going to a movie with my friends try not to get too specific so that it's not really like you're lying.
As for your friend I really don't know what to do in that situation...maybe she could just talk to him and ask him not to tell her.
Good luck and I'm sorry that I couldn't be more help
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my friend (let's call him Fred) told me that my other friend (let's call him jake) was pissed at me because i did something. so i said "okay?!" i asked jake if he was mad at me and he wasn't. so i think my friend is tryin to start a fight anc cause drama. what should i do?? i already told fred that he needs to knock off the drama with jake and me. i also told him that i think he's jealous of me hanging out with jake.
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It sounds to me like you've already done the right thing. You just need to make sure that fred got the point. You need to let him know that you don't want any drama and that if he's going to keep trying to cause problems between you and jake then you're going to be pissed. You don't want to have drama between you and either of your friends but do you really want to stay friends with someone who is trying to start shit? You need to let him know how you feel and tell him that if it needs to stop.
Good luck and I hope it works out
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my best friend has a girlfriend and i'm not use to him having a girlfriend .I keep geting pissed off i try not to show it but ,my friend cobly can tell when i look away or don't speak to any one . She (joc) asked me if i would get mad if they went out and i said no i was lying it does ,and we went to the movies the other day he begged me to go becasue his girlfriend couldn't go unless i did. So i went and his brother went his brother is about 16 almost 17. And we well we just started making out and tyler got mad ..and i don't know why i didn't say anything when him and his girlfriend kiss or hug or do that kinda stuff ..i don't know what to do know and oppitons ? (link)
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It seems like you both like each other as more than just friends. You get angry when he asks out other girls and has a girlfriend and he gets angry when you make out with another guy. I think you and him need to talk. You need to tell him that you noticed that he got mad about you and his brother and that it kind of made you mad when he got together with his girlfriend. Maybe if you let each other know how you feel and where you stand it will make things easier. He's your best friend and if you talk to him about this it should make things better. You need to tell him that you are going to see other guys and that you know he's going to see other girls. You need to let each other know what doesn't bother you and what makes you jealous. That will probably solve a big part of the problem. You never know you might found out that your feelings for each other are stronger than you thought.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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ok yeah...i asked about a guy being 18 and me being 15. can i still hug him, kiss him, just anything except have sex with him?? thanx :o) (link)
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Yes, hugging and kissing him won't get him into any trouble. Some people may not like it but it is not illegal the only way that he can get into trouble is if you have sex with him. That will be considered rape and if anyone finds out he could be in a lot of trouble even if you both wanted it.
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if a guy is 18...and im 15...doesnt that mean im "underage" for him or something like that? how does all that work? how old do i have to be until im not "underage"? and how am i "underage"? please just tell me how all this works....thanx :o) (link)
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Yes you are underage. He is legally an adult and you are still legally a kid. You're going to be considered underage for him until you are 18. Because you are underage if you two do anything sexual it will be considered rape even if you agree to it and if your parents find out about it and want to press charges on him they could. It's not a good idea for you two to do anything you should wait a couple years. If your parents find out about it and decide to press charges it could cause a lot of problems for him. Once you are 18 they can't press charges because you are legally an adult. If you still don't understand drop a question in my inbox and I will try to explain it better.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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hey well i am having a problem. okay i dated this guy for four months and i really fell in love with him. at first it was great he was sweet but then we started having problemslike arguing and we would just fuss all the time well that was about last semester of school. this is our second semester anyways his name was andrew and i found out that he had some problems like mental. and i kept breaking up and going back with him on and off. well we broke up feb. 2 of this year and i then started dating this other guy for almost three months. i fell in love with him and he was the second person i ever loved, but andrew was the first. when andrew found out about me and jeremy he started making threats to him and saying all this stuff. well then i finally told andrew to stop and let me live my life. okay me and jeremy have been broke up for a month and a few days. i then have dated this guy michael whom i with now, well i dont care to much for him like everybody thinks. then today andrew's Best Friend who has grown up together came up to me and told me about andrew wanting me back i thought i was for sure over him but when he told me that all these feelings have come back and i am so confused on what to do. my friends say call him and see if he changed and the question is should i call him? and see if it is true? or should i write him well i am writing him now well plz help nikki (link)
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I think you should talk to him. See if he really still cares about and wants to get back together with you. If you really still have feelings for him then go for it. But you need to make a few things clear to him. It is not good for him to act the way he did and it is not healthy behavior. If you do end up getting back together with him then you need to talk to him about that. Tell him that it bothered you and that you don't want it to happen again. If he really cares about you then he won't do it again. You need to trust your feelings here. Only you know how you feel about him and when you come to terms with how you feel then you'll know what to do. If you care about him call him or write him a note or something like that. But if you dont' then you should tell him that you don't and make sure that he knows that.
Good luck and I hope it all works out
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I'm 16 and i can't be happier to be alive! I'm a lot more mature than most people my age, which is quite frustrating when i can't find someone to have an intelligent conversation with. I was raised to be fairly independant but I'm not afraid to ask for help when i need it. I'm 16 now, and well, horny. I first had sex at 14 1/2 in a sex-buddy/revenge situation. That was definately a mistake, but I'm as careful as posssible with my current boyfriend (the only other guy i've been intimate with and that was after being together for 9 months) who i've been together with for a little over a year. I'm really in touch with my body and my feelings and im proud of my sexuality but he makes me feel like a whore when i tend to check out more girls than he, being completely straight, does. I am bisexual and i want to get out and experience life and i don't want to feel guilty about it! Is this too much to ask for? (link)
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No, it's not to much you are 16 and you've been in a relationship for a year it's normal to want to get out and experience new things. Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? I think you should tell him that you want to take a break for a while. Tell him that you want to get out and experience some new things. Don't feel guilty about wanted to live your life more. This is perfectly normal. I went through it myself. I was in a relationship for 2 years and I just wanted to get out and experience life without being in a relationship. I talked to my boyfriend and we decided to take a break. It was a good decision and it ultimately made our relationship stronger. We both went out and did new things and met new people. Go for it and have some fun you only live once, so you might as well live your life to the fullest!
Good luck and I hope I helped
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I know that most of the people that ask a random weirdos question are being stalked by a random weirdo, but I really like this one girl, and well, I am a girl too. I know it's weird though, but every time she sleeps in my study hall I watch her and fantasize. She woke up one time and saw me and got freaked out...and called me a weirdo. I have a picture of her in my class when we were in kindergarten when she dressed up as a chicken and I look at it every morning when I wake up. This is the only girl I'm attracted to, usually I like other guys. Am I really a random weirdo lesbian or am I just a straight girl with a big strange crush? help!
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There is nothing wrong with you...I mean you're not a weirdo. This could be a couple of things. Because this is the only girl that you are attracted to and you like guys you are not a lesbian. You are probably just at that stage in your life when you're confused a lot of teens go through it. You probably aren't attracted to her at all you just admire her or want to be more like her. I think that is the most likely scenario for this situation. However you could also be bi-sexual. There is nothing wrong with that it's just the way you are. I don't really think that that is what is happening because this is the only girl that you are attracted to. I wouldn't be worried about it. You are probably just going through a phase and it will pass don't worry about it and you're not a weirdo.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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